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SSRI's and orgasms.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, I know this is a weird time to post, but when you can't sleep and you've not had sex in a while the mind wanders.

I know this topic has been covered fairly recently, but I'm visually impaired so I don't really want to go back through pages of forum threads to look for the one I'm after.

I've never had an orgasm. This includes making myself orgasm, and I'll usually get closer with others if someone knows what they're doing.

I was a very late starter sexually, and in all the time I've been sexually active I have been on SSRI's.

In the past I've probably gotten as close as you can to orgasm without actually getting over the edge, so I don't think it's a case of being relaxed as most say. That said when I know I'm getting very close I probably put pressure on myself to orgasm and therefore am less relaxed.

What I'm wondering is why I've never made myself orgasm. When I was young and first starting to play I probably got q lot closer, even though at that age I wouldn't have known anything about orgasms. As am adult I've found that although I can get turned on I don't really feel like I get close enough to cumming as I used to growing up.

Even before taking SSRI's I had never cum so there may be more to it, but I wanted to know if anyone else is having the same problem, even gettimg themselves to orgasm?

If you're someone who has orgasmed before, have your orgasmed since taking SSRI's?

I also suffer with autonomic neuropathy, which sadly can cause problems with orgasms.

It's a long shot but if anyone does suffer with or knows someone who suffers with AN and has the same issues it would be great to know.

Sex is about the experience, and not just the end result, but I worry I put people off because it can take me a while just to get close.

I am considering bringing this up with a female GP and asking if I should stop taking the medication I'm on. Even if I do, I'll still have AN, and the only way I can change that is to improve my health which is a long work in progress.

It would be just nice to have some advice and insight, and feel I'm not alone.

Sorry for the can't sleep ramble!

EB

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bumping this up. By the way sorry for any typos, but I really can't see very well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have AN so I’m not sure how useful my response is but I found SSRIs stopped me cumming, I could get horny, stay hard and go for hours but literally couldn’t cum. It was immensely frustrating.

If your lover/meet is put off by how long it takes you then they aren’t attentive enough and shouldn’t be fucking you in my opinion. You need to find someone who is patient with you.

Alternatively you could discuss this with your GP and ask to go on a different SSRI but don’t expect immediate results.

Good luck on your hunt, it must be so frustrating.

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By *elshman1974Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"I don’t have AN so I’m not sure how useful my response is but I found SSRIs stopped me cumming, I could get horny, stay hard and go for hours but literally couldn’t cum. It was immensely frustrating.

If your lover/meet is put off by how long it takes you then they aren’t attentive enough and shouldn’t be fucking you in my opinion. You need to find someone who is patient with you.

Alternatively you could discuss this with your GP and ask to go on a different SSRI but don’t expect immediate results.

Good luck on your hunt, it must be so frustrating. "

Hi EB

SSRI’s definitely making hard or impossible to orgasm. Or you can orgasm but it’s barely pleasurable. Unfortunately for some people this effect can persist even once they have stopped the medication.

Mirtazapine (Zispin) is an antidepressant that doesn’t affect orgasms. You could ask to be switched to that too. Also note withdraw from your SSRI slowly. Your doctor should supervise it.

There is an antidepressant called reboxetine (SNRI) that I’m some lucky people makes orgasms more intense. However it’s a very poor antidepressant

Good luck, really hope you find resolution to this problem

Andrew x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a partner who took SSRIs and had to try a few different types before she was able to orgasm the same as she could before taking them. For what it is worth, as others have said, go back to your GP and look at other versions.

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By *aveed74Man
over a year ago

a round and a bout Midlands


"I don’t have AN so I’m not sure how useful my response is but I found SSRIs stopped me cumming, I could get horny, stay hard and go for hours but literally couldn’t cum. It was immensely frustrating.

If your lover/meet is put off by how long it takes you then they aren’t attentive enough and shouldn’t be fucking you in my opinion. You need to find someone who is patient with you.

Alternatively you could discuss this with your GP and ask to go on a different SSRI but don’t expect immediate results.

Good luck on your hunt, it must be so frustrating. "

Yes, this was my experience exactly. Thankfully only needed those meds for a brief time, but my new lover thought I had incredible staying power! I also had to fake a few ons

Having some knowledge of tantric massage and sexual practices I could point you to a practitioner I know who has achieved a great deal of acclaim with women and such issues as you describe.

I wish you the very best of luck!

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I can’t comment on the use of SSRI’s and how those impact you, I have no experience of them, but it’s interesting that you say that you hadn’t been able to orgasm before starting taking them.

It might be worth reading ‘Come as you are’ by Emily Nagoski. It might not help, but it’s an interesting book anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on sertraline for years and couldn’t cum on them. It’s frustrating and I did a lot of faking during that time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I know this is a weird time to post, but when you can't sleep and you've not had sex in a while the mind wanders.

I know this topic has been covered fairly recently, but I'm visually impaired so I don't really want to go back through pages of forum threads to look for the one I'm after.

I've never had an orgasm. This includes making myself orgasm, and I'll usually get closer with others if someone knows what they're doing.

I was a very late starter sexually, and in all the time I've been sexually active I have been on SSRI's.

In the past I've probably gotten as close as you can to orgasm without actually getting over the edge, so I don't think it's a case of being relaxed as most say. That said when I know I'm getting very close I probably put pressure on myself to orgasm and therefore am less relaxed.

What I'm wondering is why I've never made myself orgasm. When I was young and first starting to play I probably got q lot closer, even though at that age I wouldn't have known anything about orgasms. As am adult I've found that although I can get turned on I don't really feel like I get close enough to cumming as I used to growing up.

Even before taking SSRI's I had never cum so there may be more to it, but I wanted to know if anyone else is having the same problem, even gettimg themselves to orgasm?

If you're someone who has orgasmed before, have your orgasmed since taking SSRI's?

I also suffer with autonomic neuropathy, which sadly can cause problems with orgasms.

It's a long shot but if anyone does suffer with or knows someone who suffers with AN and has the same issues it would be great to know.

Sex is about the experience, and not just the end result, but I worry I put people off because it can take me a while just to get close.

I am considering bringing this up with a female GP and asking if I should stop taking the medication I'm on. Even if I do, I'll still have AN, and the only way I can change that is to improve my health which is a long work in progress.

It would be just nice to have some advice and insight, and feel I'm not alone.

Sorry for the can't sleep ramble!

EB "

Sertraline really puts a dampener on things for me - I feel like my mind needs to be stimulated a million times more to just get ‘there’

Was on gabapentin and that just was even worse!!

I wonder if the time of the day might change things? It can affect sleep patterns so I wouldn’t if it has similar effect.

As for orgasm - I think the comfort levels in general and being relaxed and comfortable with your ‘partner’ (or yourself and not worried about someone disturbing etc) has been the biggest factor I’ve found in the past

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By *ettieAndIrvingMan
over a year ago

Derby

I'm on Venlafaxine 75mg and it's virtually impossible to cum through regular sex. Masturbation is easier but not always. I get super horny still and can maintain an erection for hours but have kinda resigned myself to acknowledging that my orgasm may not happen in any given situation.

It has been frustrating as my last partner really wanted me to cum inside her during 'regular' sex but I simply couldn't.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

They definitely dull the senses, I was on them and completely lost interest in sex.

The only way I would come is by using a vibrator, with clitoral stimulation. I would suggest you just practice on your own, when you're most relaxed. I hope you find something that works for you.

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