FabSwingers.com forum: What’s your policy on kissing during a meet?

By *yesbeenopened2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

To the couples out there, we wondered what your policy was on kissing when playing with others.

Personally, we love it and feel it enhances the experience but we’ve come across other couples where they have a strict ‘no kissing’ policy.

This is not a judgemental post at all - we respect everybody’s personal choice. We’re just curious.

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By *hewaterMan
over a year ago

Leamington spa

personally i really like it. i know some couples dont like it, so im respectful and always make sure that everyone is happy first. but if everyone is then i find it helps the meet.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing plays such an important part in the build up to some good sex, feeling the passion flowing as your lips touch and tongues explore each other's mouths.

I'd struggle to not kiss during a sexual encounter, it would feel so unnatural and cold.

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By *anPsurreycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

All depending on what sort of meet we are having to be honest.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Kissing is just one part of sex.. same as those that dont want anal, or any other part of sex.

I rarely kiss on a meet. Its never caused me any issues.. and never been called cold, clinical or without passion. I can tease without having to kiss.. I can build the moment up without having to.

Yes I do on occasion but it's rare i do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh "

To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

No problem with anyone's rules or limits

But if we knew up front that kissing was a no , then we probably wouldn't meet

But if we were in a situation in a couples room , then we wouldn't walk away

Kissing is very important to us both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh

To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful. "

There are reasons why people choose to Kia or not and I agree they should be respected and not made to feel they are being laughed at because of their choices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh

To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.

There are reasons why people choose to Kia or not and I agree they should be respected and not made to feel they are being laughed at because of their choices "

Exactly. I totally get that some couples like to reserve kissing between themselves only. They see it as something intimate between them only. Anyone finding that laughable isn't really understanding swinging from a couple's perspective.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh

To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful. "

Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh

To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.

Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful

Surely you talk about boundaries beforehand? Meeting a couple without doing that is just asking for misunderstanding and totally naive.

we can all roll our eyes.

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

We personally would not want to play with anyone who didn’t want to kiss, for us it’s all part of the warm up

But as has been said each to there own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing adds to the fun or it just becomes mechanical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh

To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.

Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful

Surely you talk about boundaries beforehand? Meeting a couple without doing that is just asking for misunderstanding and totally naive.

we can all roll our eyes."

And I didn't mean to refer to just couples. I meant anyone.

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By *olfess400Couple
over a year ago

Scarborough & Worksop

We love it... Its a must really for us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it but you have to respect people's boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh

To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.

There are reasons why people choose to Kia or not and I agree they should be respected and not made to feel they are being laughed at because of their choices

Agreed.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh

To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.

Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful

Surely you talk about boundaries beforehand? Meeting a couple without doing that is just asking for misunderstanding and totally naive.

we can all roll our eyes."

Oh I agree as soon as someone said that I would think how disrespectful is that. Your just treating a person like a marital aid / sex toy. I’m staggered to know people think like that never mind actually request it.

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

Really all depends on the meet. We like a kiss, but also happy without. All goes with the flow of a meet and who we're playing with

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By *eepgliderMan
over a year ago

Chacewater

I met this with couples - no kissing - and starting as a couple we (friend and I) had that rule. Not my inclination, but never said that. When we found a couple we really liked, we broke through that barrier and treated it as passionate. With kissing. This can be something about your entire outlook on the world and how passionately you go about everything?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first meet was with a couple were the lady wouldn't kiss. Have to say it just didn't work and we wouldn't do it again as it was sprung on us at the last minute. Literally when we were all in the bed and she said no kissing. But to each their own,just definitely not for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like it but you have to respect people's boundaries "

Same. Kissing comes so naturally to me, but being the one who is going into a meet with another couple, it's one of the questions I always ask beforehand to establish if it's one of their rules or boundaries. I've been pretty lucky so far though that any couple I've met have been into it and ok with it. But I do respect those who choose not to do it.

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By *areToShareCouple
over a year ago

Bingham

We find it odd that there are people who say 'no kissing...that's just for own partners/spouses'.

It's fine to suck a cock, lick a vag, have anal sex, lick each others arseholes, piss on someone, have bareback sex with strangers, swallow bodily fluids...but then get sketchy about kissing!?

If it's down to 'intimacy', which seems to be the main reason given for no kissing others rule, then there's certainly some bizarre interpretations of intimacy..lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.

Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.

Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out

I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

nice when it happens, if it don't, it don't.

Too much gets kind of annoying mind lol

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Just wouldn’t want to meet if there were not to be kissing. It’s an essential intimate exciting part of every sexual encounter for me.

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Wow she's gorgeous bet you can't wait to get back home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure if I could meet anyone who didn't want to kiss, for me it's a huge part of the build up.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.

Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out

I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone. "

Then we're both happy

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"I'm not sure if I could meet anyone who didn't want to kiss, for me it's a huge part of the build up.

Mrs"

Same here

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

If you didn’t kiss I wouldn’t meet you

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Heathrow

Just to throw a spanner in the works, everything my wife allows or doesn’t is entirely at her discretion. She is the one doing it after all. She is more than happy to be kissed all over from her feet to her cheeks and everywhere in between, but so far has not felt comfortable with the lips (on her face!). She says it is a bit personal, like someone is “making love” with her which is not what we as a couple are looking for.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

No kissing no meet x

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Not a biggy but does add to the chemistry as they say a bad kiss can kil the experience but a great one leaving weak at the knees

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By *ussylick84Woman
over a year ago

great barr

Dont kiss men but i do with women xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go any further without kissing

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Just to throw a spanner in the works, everything my wife allows or doesn’t is entirely at her discretion. She is the one doing it after all. She is more than happy to be kissed all over from her feet to her cheeks and everywhere in between, but so far has not felt comfortable with the lips (on her face!). She says it is a bit personal, like someone is “making love” with her which is not what we as a couple are looking for. "

Looks like you have loads of horny fun too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldnt meet without kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to do it. I love kissing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I have some now, please?!?

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By *achiatoMan
over a year ago

Fife

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By *ornyandachingCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Kissing is fine, it adds to the occasion and makes it more intense xx

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Zero lip action will result in zero hip action!

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

No way would we meet couples who don't kiss. It's probably the most sensual start to swapping with another partner. There wouldn't be a connection without kissing which would just make sex perfunctory...... Not sexy at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love kissing a hot woman

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We kiss…

It’s a big part of meeting others for us.

With our regular good friends we kiss all the time, even on socials.

When playing in a club, sometimes we’ll impose a ‘no kiss’ rule on the other if they’re on their own at the club.

Kissing is important to us. It’s a big part of the passion.

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By *rsandBooMan
over a year ago

Reading

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh

To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful. "

What Scarlet said

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By *edonisticHandfulWoman
over a year ago

Mansfield

I wouldn't absolutely rule out kissing but I am not a huge fan of it. Even with hubby. I don't like stuff in my face, including other people. I don't think it's cold or clinical.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

I prefer meets with kissing involved but always respect the preferences of the couples I am with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We kiss on meets.. builds up the intensity, especially in foreplay

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By *ewcambsguyplusMan
over a year ago

Near Huntingdon

"I'm happy to do it. I love kissing xx"

I’m not sure there is anything I wouldn’t do with you! Amazing body and beautiful face xx

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By *ew_to_it_2018Couple
over a year ago

wigan atea

Definitely kissing on a meet!!

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Kissing just comes naturally with the naughty fun, would find it hard not to if someone was against it, so might get a telling off

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Personally I enjoy kissing, just intensify my hunger and lust for my meet! Locking lips, my hands groping that ass

pulling them in closer, till I can feeling those hard nipples on my chest & throbbing cock on her clit

But do get kissing is not for everyone so am chilled about it

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I wouldn’t be happy not kissing on a meet. It would make it clinical for me.

However, people are entitled to their boundaries. The only time it’s disrespectful is if it’s landed on you last minute and hidden/lied about during conversations.

I chatted to a couple for quite a few weeks. We all chatted on the phone and the likes. Kissing came up often and nothing was said. They only chucked in the “btw we don’t kiss on meets” just before we met. Then they labelled me the time waster when I cancelled.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"I wouldn’t be happy not kissing on a meet. It would make it clinical for me.

However, people are entitled to their boundaries. The only time it’s disrespectful is if it’s landed on you last minute and hidden/lied about during conversations.

Shocking !!! Just goes to show they were just using you like you would a sex toy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the couples out there, we wondered what your policy was on kissing when playing with others.

Personally, we love it and feel it enhances the experience but we’ve come across other couples where they have a strict ‘no kissing’ policy.

This is not a judgemental post at all - we respect everybody’s personal choice. We’re just curious."

Love kissing, love kissing other partners, love my partner really kissing passionately , such a turn on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We find it odd that there are people who say 'no kissing...that's just for own partners/spouses'.

It's fine to suck a cock, lick a vag, have anal sex, lick each others arseholes, piss on someone, have bareback sex with strangers, swallow bodily fluids...but then get sketchy about kissing!?

If it's down to 'intimacy', which seems to be the main reason given for no kissing others rule, then there's certainly some bizarre interpretations of intimacy..lol"

You literally read my mind on this one.

Agree . Mrs x

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"We find it odd that there are people who say 'no kissing...that's just for own partners/spouses'.

It's fine to suck a cock, lick a vag, have anal sex, lick each others arseholes, piss on someone, have bareback sex with strangers, swallow bodily fluids...but then get sketchy about kissing!?

If it's down to 'intimacy', which seems to be the main reason given for no kissing others rule, then there's certainly some bizarre interpretations of intimacy..lol

You literally read my mind on this one.

Agree . Mrs x"

And for me that intimacy is a fundamental and exciting part of the fun.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Love it x

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By *oojCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

No kissing not for us and it's on the profile so everyone knows where we are coming from.

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By *areToShareCouple
over a year ago

Bingham

"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.

Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out

I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone. "

As would we.

People seem to have a hard time differentiating between love and passion while kissing. It's possible to kiss and be kissed passionately without it being 'loving'. Perhaps there's insecurities that need addressing..who knows?

Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

It’s couples who generally have the no kissing rule. It’s up to them how they chooses to invite others into their relationship. If people don’t like a couples preferences, then they don’t have to meet them. No drama. Anyone calling people disrespectful for having a preference is more disrespectful for not respecting others preferences.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I couldn't meet anyone that didn't kiss, it's all part of the build up.

Even on out couple profile we kiss others, I understand why some keep it for themselves though.

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By *haznsteCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We like kissing

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By *hisismeXXXMan
over a year ago

Welsh Wales

I wouldn’t choose to meet a couple who had a no kissing rule in place as I enjoy the sensuality as part of the fun.

However, I once replied to a last minute ‘meet us’ post on SDC, a couple staying in Cardiff St Mary’s Street Travel Lodge, we met for a drink in the big Walkabout before heading back to their hotel, where they set out their rules and no kissing was really the one they had.

I went with the flow as we were getting on really well and it was a fantastic fun filled time in their room, kissing or no kissing.

In reality, I spent most of my time behind her when the action started, either with hubby the other end or as a dp, so kissing wouldn’t really have been an option!!

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By *all_Toned_89Couple
over a year ago

Warwickshire

No kissing no play lol can't get it started without a good kiss..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we’re a bit odd on the kissing front . It’s ok to kiss when we meet a couple but no kissing when we borrow a male husband/ partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us, kissing is a very important part of the overall experience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I played as part of a couple with my ex I just could not bring myself to kiss others. I tried once and the guy's tongue was just cold; bleurgh. After that I just didn't do it. I rarely meet now as a singleton, but I do have that one friend and kissing him is possibly my favourite part of our time together. Kissing is intimate and sexy but for me kissing a stranger is just kinda "cold"

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By *all_Toned_89Couple
over a year ago

Warwickshire

"When I played as part of a couple with my ex I just could not bring myself to kiss others. I tried once and the guy's tongue was just cold; bleurgh. After that I just didn't do it. I rarely meet now as a singleton, but I do have that one friend and kissing him is possibly my favourite part of our time together. Kissing is intimate and sexy but for me kissing a stranger is just kinda "cold"

How interesting.. The Mr kissed a girl one date and his face was confused also because her tongue temperature

we'll have to remember to have a cuppa before kissing

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.

Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out

I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone.

As would we.

Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved."

The insecurities thing is often mentioned. I wonder why people think they can infer insecurity from one boundary but not another

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

"I think we’re a bit odd on the kissing front . It’s ok to kiss when we meet a couple but no kissing when we borrow a male husband/ partner "

We totally get that.

If we’ve borrowed a male from a couple known well to us then kissing is automatic. But, a new single guy from a couple might be different.

We’d have to respect the decision and feelings of the missing partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I love to kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If no kissing was the rule , I wouldn’t meet , kissing is just as important as penetration or foreplay , it’s all part of sex

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

Kissing is hugely erotic for us. What can start as a simple peck can end up in a full on steamy session...

Kissing is a definite yes from us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had "no kissing" meets in the past which have felt incredibly cold, made me feel really uncomfortable and wanted to escape ASAP. Personally speaking, kissing, flirtatious behaviour and getting to know your partner (s) is all part of the build up, the turn on and an amazing opportunity to intimately connect with whoever you've decided to play with...

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By *areToShareCouple
over a year ago

Bingham

"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.

Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out

I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone.

As would we.

Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved.

The insecurities thing is often mentioned. I wonder why people think they can infer insecurity from one boundary but not another

Well this thread is about kissing, so our comment only relates to kissing. For inference on other boundaries, we'd have to comment on the relevant thread topic should one be made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We insist on it!

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By *olfie26Man
over a year ago

Brierley Hill

A meet is by far better when kissing is involved.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Always ask what the preference is personally we find kissing hit and prefer to be with couples who like it too but we do understand why some people don't like it

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By *ewCoup7eCouple
over a year ago

Fulham

We’re a kissing pair! But we respect others… always find it is probably the glue to the experience

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

If we aren't allowed to kiss them then we wouldn't meet them. Couldn't imagine getting sexual and intimate with a person without kissing them.

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By *tag and HellcatCouple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby

Kissing is a huge turn on for me

Never met anyone who didn’t kiss at all

Would probably not be interested in an encounter that didn’t involve kissing

Vixen

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Kissing is essential to me

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Heathrow

Looks like you have loads of horny fun too

We do our best to entertain!

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

Kissing is an important one for us, so we probably wouldn’t meet someone if kissing wasn’t for them! Miss pc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it. Makes him so jealous x

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh

To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.

Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful

Personally I think that anyone who wants or expects to kiss someone that doesn't want to be kissed is incredibly disrespectful.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.

Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out

I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone.

As would we.

Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved.

The insecurities thing is often mentioned. I wonder why people think they can infer insecurity from one boundary but not another

I don't enjoy anal. I'm not at all insecure, I just don't like it. Similarly I don't like kissing the men we okay with, but I do enjoy kissing other women. It does not make me the slightest bit insecure.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.

Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out

I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone.

As would we.

Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved.

The insecurities thing is often mentioned. I wonder why people think they can infer insecurity from one boundary but not another

I think you need to be very secure in yourself to define a boundary and stick to it in the face of constant criticism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us its how can you have sex without kissing ?

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

We love kissing. You can tell a lot in how someone kisses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is definitely a must x

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

Gotta kiss as that sparks the passion

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Kissing with passion

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By *j69funCouple
over a year ago

kildare

Oh kissing is must to make the connection right.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Generally expect it and get so much more from a meet with it.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Kissing is the fun part especially in a build up towards a meet. I had a meet where kissing wasn't allowed and t felt strange.. as though it was missing something. Maybe it's just me but it was interesting when she mentioned that kissing was for intimate relationships only

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By *S2505Couple
over a year ago

lon

I love watching H kissing guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coming from a couples view if you are new or still fairly new to the scene its abit too intimate/passionate for us. Their should be some things kept for you as a couple that you dont do on meets and for us when we have sex thr kissing is part of the love making.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only met one couple of here and they were happy to kiss ( well I missed the female half) but the meet ended early for other reasons so I don't know whether we wpuld have spent a lot of time kissing or not.

I'd be interested to know if there are any singles that aren't into kissing.

Sadly I've found a lot of people I've met haven't missed me much.

Something tells me I'm the common denominator in that.

For one on one meets kissing is really important, and I wouldn't meet one on one with someone that wouldn't kiss me. I'll definitely make a point of saying that if someone isn't intetested in kissing me then they can't be that attracted to me, or if they've kissed me briefly then they need to be honest and say they didn't enjoy it.

With couples i understand they may want kissing to be something they save for themselves, so it might not be essential.

I know I'm a single profile, but just thought I'd put my there cents in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's brilliant when couples I talk to have well-defined boundaries around what they do, or don't do with a third person ie me. Not least as it shows they've actually talked about them. Some I share, some I don't. But it's definitely not my place to judge them. Not wanting to kiss isn't disrespectful in itself - though of course, it could be conveyed disrespectfully like anything else.

Just because it's not a boundary I share doesn't make it wrong! Instead of presuming why it's important to them - seeing you purely as a sex object / insecurity etc... Well sure, those are easy leaps to make. But that doesn't make it true. Why not ask if they'd be willing to expand on why they feel that way? Maybe they will, maybe they won't. That's up to them. Ultimately, we get to know each other and then we all make a choice if we want to meet. For some kissing is essential, for some it's not. Let's all just respect each other's choices and be kind though*

*Or try to be - we all mess up sometimes. I'm learning about the lifestyle all the time but have definitely made a few mistakes on my way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't agree more. Without the sparks the fires of passion won't burn.

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

Each to their own but personly we couldn't meet without kissing it plays such a big part

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By *unessexcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Kissing makes it better and we love it x

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

We won't meet anyone with a no lissing rule. It plays such an important part of our play experience

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

Kissing all the way

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
over a year ago

A place where others reside (West Oxfordshire)

Kissing is acceptable for us and something we always let people know about in early conversations. If someone said they didn't want to then that would be a discussion for us to have prior to agreeing to meet them. Each to their own.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Kissing is definitely a must for me when having arranged meet ups. If something random happened in a club, especially if it was a group thing then I would still enjoy it but accept that it’s not been agreed.

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Will let you know when I get a meet lol

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I prefer kissing, it's one thing that really turns me on, but I respect that some people don't x

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By *cottyl1983Man
over a year ago

Tyne and Wear

You just have too. Love a good snog before play

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By *bonyBiDesiresCouple
over a year ago

West London

As has been mentioned we all have a right to our comfort levels. If it clashes then there's no law that says you stell have to meet or play.

As part of a couple if the other couple didn't want to kiss It wouldn't be a problem for me. But when meeting alone (male half here) It would keep my enthusiasm for meeting.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.

Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out

I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone.

As would we.

Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved.

The insecurities thing is often mentioned. I wonder why people think they can infer insecurity from one boundary but not another

We're the same in that we love fem/fem kissing but not MF. We don't reply to profiles that say kissing is a must. One night in a club we got questioned by a Lady "whose decision is it you don't kiss?", the answer was "both of us". At the time we didn't think too much of it, on reflection we were quite disturbed someone could question someone else's boundaries. We've met her since and had a friendly chat, we wouldn't and won't play with her though. We would imagine most singles kiss, though many couples don't. We would hope decent people respect ANY boundaries of anybody else when choosing to play.

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By *heshireguy69Man
over a year ago

saddleworth

Nothing happens without kissing for me.

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By *ustfun009Man
over a year ago

oxford

I love to kiss...in fact i would love a kiss only meet

...however i am also respectful of others wishes and always do as requested

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh

To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.

Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful

Surely you talk about boundaries beforehand? Meeting a couple without doing that is just asking for misunderstanding and totally naive.

we can all roll our eyes.

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I'm a single woman and will rarely kiss. It's a sexual preference and for me one that I pretty much always choose not to do and it's not disrespectful to have a preference.

To be honest I've never treated anyone as a sex toy. Guys have always had a good time and I dont have any issues getting repeat meets. Although its rare I do 121 meets which helps... but those I have done and not kissed have still not found it an issue.

There are plenty of other things to do. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

"To the couples out there, we wondered what your policy was on kissing when playing with others.

Personally, we love it and feel it enhances the experience but we’ve come across other couples where they have a strict ‘no kissing’ policy.

This is not a judgemental post at all - we respect everybody’s personal choice. We’re just curious."

I think policy might be a tad beuracratic.

We have been both kissers and non-kissers.

Soft swing and full swing.

No one seems to have minded either way from the people we have met.

We respect others boundaries and hope they would do the same.

We can't all be for everyone so if the dynamics don't match then there are plenty more people for everyone to meet.

We don't worry about what we don't want just what we do and whether the feeling is mutual with whoever we meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the couples out there, we wondered what your policy was on kissing when playing with others.

Personally, we love it and feel it enhances the experience but we’ve come across other couples where they have a strict ‘no kissing’ policy.

This is not a judgemental post at all - we respect everybody’s personal choice. We’re just curious."

We love it. Kissing is a massive turn on for us both and watching eachother as we kiss & play with another couple is a real turn on. Xx

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By *avidagainMan
over a year ago

st.leonards on sea

no kiss no meet simples x thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh "

It works both ways. We wouldn't meet anyone who has no respect or understanding for boundaries or considered them laughable

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By *azlargepenisMan
over a year ago

about

Essential for me. It’s usually the only thing that makes me climax . Fortunately or unfortunately I’ve not had many meets in the last year or two.

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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouh

Interesting thread. I love kissing it’s a big thing for me but apparently my Mr doesn’t kiss on meets (I’ve never actually noticed how naughty am I!)

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

I love kissing, it's so intimate. But, this is the reason some couples don't want to share their kisses. They reserve kisses for themselves. I always discuss boundaries and consent before a meet. It clarifies so much, and leaves less chance for awkwardness during the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't get people saying they don't kiss because it's too intimate.

Ffs you'll fuck someone but not kiss them, how is that not intimate??!!

If you don't kiss we won't want to fuck you either!

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By *eductiveEyesKillerThighsWoman
over a year ago

Nowhere & Everywhere

Kissing for me all the way, or that meet is not happening at all!

It's the thing that gets me juicy and turns me on the most, and without it I'd be dry as a desert!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

A meet with no kisses would be a no for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adore sensual kissing. It always leads to sensual licking, stroking and exploring

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

No kiss, no meet, unless it's a social of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d rather not kiss randomers, I have done (reluctantly) but I’d really rather not.

It does nothing for me unless there are feelings attached and it’s just going through the motions.

Kissing someone that you love is amazing and I’d do it all day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We feel you need the kissing, it's an aspect of sex in our opinion.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

I know I’m not in a relationship but I have to say that sex without kissing is terrible!

Sex is about the sights, the smells, the tastes, the touch. Lose kissing and you lose the passion. In my opinion anyway

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

"I know I’m not in a relationship but I have to say that sex without kissing is terrible!

Sex is about the sights, the smells, the tastes, the touch. Lose kissing and you lose the passion. In my opinion anyway "

If one of us has a cold but still feels horny we might do sex without kissing just between ourselves.

We have also seen plenty of group sex where oral and sex tends to be the only requirement.

Indeed gloryholes are designed for sex without kissing or even seeing and plenty of people use them.

I'm all for people having their own preferences and limits and more power to them.

As for those who can't get why some don't kiss that's fine, we can't all understand each others internal emotions and responses.

It would require us all to be empaths to actually understand each other even if we come from a different perspective.

For me cuddling, kissing and holding hands is far more intimate than sex.

The is a difference between intimate and physical contact.

We do kiss but that is our choice and we are happy to respect those who choose otherwise.

Its not laughable or weird or wrong, it's just different.