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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We get quite a few messages from men who have straight on their profile then message saying they are really bi but only in a mmf situation. Thought you are either bi or not, just a ploy to get to her is mostly what is going on. Do others find this frustrating? Bi couples what are you thoughts? Are we missing something?

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By *ussexualMan
over a year ago

Brighton

I get a few messages from guys who say straight on their profile. At first I thought "wow, they're going bi for me", but I guess not

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By *otlipsandSirCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Very common to get messages like that from single men , red flag for us as it sounds like a line !

Always trust your instincts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get quite a few messages from men who have straight on their profile then message saying they are really bi but only in a mmf situation. Thought you are either bi or not, just a ploy to get to her is mostly what is going on. Do others find this frustrating? Bi couples what are you thoughts? Are we missing something?"

Yes,they are straight cock suckers.

Hope that clears things up for you.

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By *rsandBooMan
over a year ago

Reading


"We get quite a few messages from men who have straight on their profile then message saying they are really bi but only in a mmf situation. Thought you are either bi or not, just a ploy to get to her is mostly what is going on. Do others find this frustrating? Bi couples what are you thoughts? Are we missing something?"

If not displaying bi then in our opinion they have already started off a lie about themselves and is a red flag.

We don't actively look for bi men but we always are miffed when people message us and have won't meet smokers on profile yet we do smoke. Instant no because again not being true to who they are or are just chances or haven't read our profile.

If we spot any type of lie against the profile or requirements to ours is a sorry but no, trust is key on here and if people want a small lie it's an instant turn off.

But everyone has their own way.

Boo

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

People have different reasons but a lot of women and couples won't meet bi men so I suspect a good few are hedging their bets hoping to get the best of both worlds also a lot of guys who probably identify as straight in normal lives have realised on fab it's a lot easier to get another guy to suck their cock than if is a women

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By *ams12345Man
over a year ago

london

I’ve left mine as bi curious and tbh I’d mostly play bi with a couple, but that’s in no means that I only want to play with the lady, I’m more than happy for her to sit back and instruct us on what to do.

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

It is extremely frustrating and the vast majority of males contacting us state they are straight. This happens despite our strongly worded profile. These people obviously think they are special!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile states I’m bi curios the reason for this is whilst I am very happy to play with a penis and have mine played with by male in a threesome I’m not actually attracted to the male form I just like dick so in a meet if it was just me and another male it would be more awkward than anything tbh so it’s not something that would ever happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get this constantly. So now, if the profile says straight, we just delete the message unread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our profile states I’m bi curios the reason for this is whilst I am very happy to play with a penis and have mine played with by male in a threesome I’m not actually attracted to the male form I just like dick so in a meet if it was just me and another male it would be more awkward than anything tbh so it’s not something that would ever happen"

If you are happy to play with a dick then you are past the curious stage.To me curious is maybe you would like to try but not sure about it.

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By *aoulDuke1Man
over a year ago

Bristol

There are infinite nuances of sexual attraction, presentation and identity that don't fit into Fab's drop down boxes.

If you get contacted by someone who doesn't fit your needs, ignore, block, and move on.

Can we please stop policing other peoples sexual identities?

Sorry, no, scratch that. Can we please stop policing men's sexual identities (whether straight or bi)?

There's a new post about it every fucking day. Weirdly, nobody gets their knickers in a twist about 'straight' women turning out to be less straight than advertised.

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By *eet The FlintstonesCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

We can never understand why men don't read profiles. That's what we write them for. We could block all single straight males but we do still have straight friends. Guess we just put up with it

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Sometimes it's a line, sometimes they do it because they don't want to alienate the couples that say no Bi guys (as not many Bi profiles say no straight guys)

But we've also had it in reverse in my couples profile, guy said he was straight and was definitely only interested in my husband when he met us

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"There are infinite nuances of sexual attraction, presentation and identity that don't fit into Fab's drop down boxes.

If you get contacted by someone who doesn't fit your needs, ignore, block, and move on.

Can we please stop policing other peoples sexual identities?

Sorry, no, scratch that. Can we please stop policing men's sexual identities (whether straight or bi)?

There's a new post about it every fucking day. Weirdly, nobody gets their knickers in a twist about 'straight' women turning out to be less straight than advertised. "

Good points.

I think some advertise as 'straight' (when they're not) as many women on here aren't interested in bi guys (nothing wrong with that either). I've had a couple of messages from females: Nice profile, but...

Strongly with you on the policing point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we get alot of these messages, we just block and delete, there is no point into entering into a debate with them, most dont see it as wrong, life to short for us, plenty of honest bi guys out there, why entertain liers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We get this constantly. So now, if the profile says straight, we just delete the message unread"

Yes we are as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blows my mind.. let’s be honest you can tell very quickly how honest they are about their sexuality. The amount of straight guys I get message is insane too.

I feel for any couple that falls foul of this deception

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By *eaderMan
over a year ago

Shropshire

I list as bi-c and that to me means I play with and suck cocks but don't do penetration.

I get lots of messages from straight M who want to do the same. I usually point out that I'm struggling to believe alot of what they are saying as their profile is untrue. Therefore what part of the subsequent conversation do you believe? I steer clear when it's a blatantly untrue profile.

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By *imandLiz14Couple
over a year ago

Needham


"We get this constantly. So now, if the profile says straight, we just delete the message unread"

Likewise for us if meeting from site....we're a little more lenient if clubbing

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By *eet The FlintstonesCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

If it says straight on a profile then that's what you are. I'm straight my guys are bi and we are happy to put that on our profile.

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

I’m bi. If I had to choose between girls or guys I’d go 100% girl. One on one fun with guys is great but sharing a mf couple is loads more fun

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By *aoulDuke1Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"If it says straight on a profile then that's what you are. I'm straight my guys are bi and we are happy to put that on our profile. "

Straight

Bi Curious

Bi

Gay.

That's it? That's the entire spectrum of human sexuality?

What the drop-down boxes on Fab let you choose?

It doesn't really leave much room for experimentation, development, self-discovery, or nuance, does it?

Sorry, but not everybody fits in those boxes, and sexuality is not a fixed thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get quite a few messages from men who have straight on their profile then message saying they are really bi but only in a mmf situation. Thought you are either bi or not, just a ploy to get to her is mostly what is going on. Do others find this frustrating? Bi couples what are you thoughts? Are we missing something?"

It’s a spectrum that some of us land weirdly on. I’ve slept with someone pre op before and found em extremely attractive, however, I’m firmly not attracted to people who identify as men. Yeah, some people are just lying, but others of us live on a spectrum.

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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"We get quite a few messages from men who have straight on their profile then message saying they are really bi but only in a mmf situation. Thought you are either bi or not, just a ploy to get to her is mostly what is going on. Do others find this frustrating? Bi couples what are you thoughts? Are we missing something?"
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you could be, ask yourselves do you fancy them? If so do they meet you sexual criteria? State what you are looking for from the meet, agree on limits and don’t get hung up on sexual labels.

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By *eet The FlintstonesCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

We are not trying to hang labels on people but why would a fully straight guy want to meet gay, bi, crossdressers who have a straight woman with them unless they thought that they could somehow get off with the woman. We have had maybe you fancied a change to why are you with them with added colourful language

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By *ylonlover87Man
over a year ago

Kent


"We get quite a few messages from men who have straight on their profile then message saying they are really bi but only in a mmf situation. Thought you are either bi or not, just a ploy to get to her is mostly what is going on. Do others find this frustrating? Bi couples what are you thoughts? Are we missing something?"

I think some men find the idea less gay or if their friends found out it would be less of a deal. Comes down to being self conscious

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By *he realdeal88Man
over a year ago

Coleraine

Can't say I've fancied a guy I just enjoy the kink of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 - They say straight just in case their profile is seen by a friend or relative.

2 - They say straight because putting Bi in their profile leads to 30+ messages per day from gay guys.

3 - Or they're only slightly bi curious and primarily straight. i.e. They are only prepared to indulge in bi sex if it means they get to fuck the wife as well. i.e. threesome sex triangle.

I'm a straight guy and have no sexual impulse towards other men. Occasionally the couples I meet at clubs are bi and both husband and wife enjoy to stroke and suck my cock. It has no effect on me when her husband takes his turn, but it makes them both happy, and in exchange he allows me to lick and fuck his wife so we all get something to enjoy from the experience. As the couples I meet tend to be bi at clubs it is natural to be a little flexible regarding sexuality while still remaining straight regarding preference and taste.

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By *umslut jannineTV/TS
over a year ago

nottingham


"People have different reasons but a lot of women and couples won't meet bi men so I suspect a good few are hedging their bets hoping to get the best of both worlds also a lot of guys who probably identify as straight in normal lives have realised on fab it's a lot easier to get another guy to suck their cock than if is a women "

100% this

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By *leasureman123Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I used to have 2 profiles one straight and one bi.

I used to get more meets with couples from my straight profile with "straight couples" who turned out to be bi anyway when speaking to them, and they didnt want to meet openly bi guys as met straight couples in clubs etc. Its a bit messed up really on here if honest loads of people lying about their sexuality.

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By *osmicRobMan
over a year ago

Chorlton cum Hardy

I believe there are some guys who have a 'bi' profile who are happy to hook up with single bi / gay men. Others may mention 'bi' signalling they are comfortable being in close contact with a guy during a mmf threesome as some people may call men involved in a dp / dvp 'bi'.

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By *ylonfan73Man
over a year ago

west yorkshire

In the heat of the moment, anything goes. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I could come into that category. I find couples incredibly erotic and would give both oral and receive oral off both and may possibly experiment with going further if the mood took me on the night. I would happily have lots of fun with a woman on their own but a guy on their own really doesn't do anything for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get quite a few messages from men who have straight on their profile then message saying they are really bi but only in a mmf situation. Thought you are either bi or not, just a ploy to get to her is mostly what is going on. Do others find this frustrating? Bi couples what are you thoughts? Are we missing something?"

I dont think that’s fair to say, it doesn’t have to be plot at all, it could just be their fantasy being fulfilled in that way, people look for what pleases them at that time doesn’t mean there is anything sinister afoot. Then again there could be.. hard to say I guess

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By *osmicRobMan
over a year ago

Chorlton cum Hardy


"In the heat of the moment, anything goes. X"

True, feelings can change when you're in the moment. Your mind can work in different ways when you're horny and your cock is throbbing.

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By *isspurplechesterWoman
over a year ago

Chester

We get messages from ladies on my couples account who’s profile says straight, but want to play with me in ffm! I’ve also had a few socials from this account, with ladies recently who’s profiles say straight but they are infact bi or at the least curious, and they have contacted me! Another of fabs great mysteries haha

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By *oublesixesMan
over a year ago

Corby

I find the bi description a bit ambiguous. I enjoy playing guys but oral only. Don't mind kissing but can take it or leave it and I don't do anal. I don't fancy men and certainly wouldn't have a relationship with one, I just enjoy sucking cock. I suppose you could call me fab-bi. Point being that everyone has a different spin and people will put on their bio the orientation they feel most comfortable with

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By *leasureman123Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"We get messages from ladies on my couples account who’s profile says straight, but want to play with me in ffm! I’ve also had a few socials from this account, with ladies recently who’s profiles say straight but they are infact bi or at the least curious, and they have contacted me! Another of fabs great mysteries haha "

And theres always the pillow princesses in couples too

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By *leasureman123Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I find the bi description a bit ambiguous. I enjoy playing guys but oral only. Don't mind kissing but can take it or leave it and I don't do anal. I don't fancy men and certainly wouldn't have a relationship with one, I just enjoy sucking cock. I suppose you could call me fab-bi. Point being that everyone has a different spin and people will put on their bio the orientation they feel most comfortable with"

bi playful or bi sensual ive heard it called!

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By *oublesixesMan
over a year ago

Corby


"I find the bi description a bit ambiguous. I enjoy playing guys but oral only. Don't mind kissing but can take it or leave it and I don't do anal. I don't fancy men and certainly wouldn't have a relationship with one, I just enjoy sucking cock. I suppose you could call me fab-bi. Point being that everyone has a different spin and people will put on their bio the orientation they feel most comfortable with

bi playful or bi sensual ive heard it called!"

I like that, sadly there are only a few option on fabs

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By *irgin1aTV/TS
over a year ago

Here xx

All the time lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have played with a cock when meeting couples but I wouldn't meet a guy on his own

I don't mind my cock being sucked when it's been in his lady either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm 1 of these guys.. I have no attraction to men and another reason is if I put bi I get inundated with guys wanting to meet... am more about fun with couples not just a guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get quite a few messages from men who have straight on their profile then message saying they are really bi but only in a mmf situation. Thought you are either bi or not, just a ploy to get to her is mostly what is going on. Do others find this frustrating? Bi couples what are you thoughts? Are we missing something?"

Himself at the keys...It's an odd one. We're all on a sexuality continuum but Fabs only has several pidgon holes to put yourself in. Id say I'm 65% Bi. Happy to suck or be sucked off by another guy (as part of group play) DP and DV is also fine but I don't think I'd meet a guy on my own, or want to fuck a guy whilst his lady watches. Shall I change my role to Bi-curious? What does the panel think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our profile states I’m bi curios the reason for this is whilst I am very happy to play with a penis and have mine played with by male in a threesome I’m not actually attracted to the male form I just like dick so in a meet if it was just me and another male it would be more awkward than anything tbh so it’s not something that would ever happen"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One year I changed my status to bi-curious and that I only wanted to meet couples or ladies who were into bi-curious guys.

I got quite a lot of interest from couples and eventually arranged a meet with a couple who said they'd break me in gently. It was one of my best experiences on fab. I played with that couple five times and the last time we played we had a chat about my sexuality and they said although I was into sucking cock and did it quite well and that I was into anal, giving and receiving, I was definitely not bisexual and basically a submissive bottom who liked to suck cock. Honestly that's the truth. I have zero interest in guys, zero. The thought of kissing a guy is an instant turn off and it's only when I'm in the 'zone' of being sexually aroused that if a cock comes my way I'll suck it, but at the same time it actually does nothing for me either, I don't actually get turned on by sucking cock, however if there's a female involved in play and I see the look of excitement in her eyes, that's what gets me off.

The second couple I played with told me more or less the same, and that many guys are like this. They dubbed me hetero flexible, so not bi-curious as I'd already tried and definitely not bisexual as I don't have any attraction to men.

I then realized I was in that mythical gender group where group a says I'm bisexual and groups b through z have an alternative gender orientation. So my profile states I'm straight (or as some jokingly call 'fab straight') and I only apply to profiles where the couples are seemingly relaxed to bi curious guys or state they are orally bi with a female present. I haven't had any issues since then.

I've read up on this grey area and currently believe people are either born a certain way or like me you're a sexual explorer that gets turned on whilst fantasizing about a sexual orientation but aren't actually what you think you are even when participating. So just because you engage in play with a set agenda you can definitely not be what people think or say you are, you're just acting to please a third party and that's the turn on.

lol that's makes sense to me from my perspective but probably not to many others!

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By *woforone69Couple
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Yes we generally don't meet off here, prefer bi nights at clubs,

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"We get quite a few messages from men who have straight on their profile then message saying they are really bi but only in a mmf situation. Thought you are either bi or not, just a ploy to get to her is mostly what is going on. Do others find this frustrating? Bi couples what are you thoughts? Are we missing something?"

I am a classic example of this. I am a Dom bi top, but only really enjoy playing with guys when a woman is watching or joining in.

I'm happy to play with the guy only in a meet, as long as she is there, watching, taking pics or videos, giving instructions, orders to him etc....

Have played one on one with guys, but it's only about as satisfying as an average wank, without a woman there...

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By *bthreeCouple
over a year ago

Yeovil


"Very common to get messages like that from single men , red flag for us as it sounds like a line !

Always trust your instincts"

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our profile states I’m bi curios the reason for this is whilst I am very happy to play with a penis and have mine played with by male in a threesome I’m not actually attracted to the male form I just like dick so in a meet if it was just me and another male it would be more awkward than anything tbh so it’s not something that would ever happen

If you are happy to play with a dick then you are past the curious stage.To me curious is maybe you would like to try but not sure about it."

There isn't a hetexible status so its the best description, bisexual to us means you like all pf that person not just the organ

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