FabSwingers.com forum: Fetish Events

By *ichsahra OP Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

Can anybody recommend a fetish event that is up and coming and would be good for newbies to attend we are from Nottingham but travelling is not a problem

Thank you

R&S

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Well its kinda hard to make a recommendation without knowing what you like.

Are you looking for themed events (Rubber, FemDom, MedFet play etc.?) “high protocol” D/s, cross over swing/kink, rope, extreme/edge type play?

Sometimes its easier to look at some of the clubs and see their events listing and find what you are looking for.

Townhouse in Liverpool, Xtasia in West Brom, Club F in Stanley all run kink events - as do many others.

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By *ichsahra OP Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

Wow thank you _etcpl think we need to do some more research didn’t realise there were so many types for us I think it’s the black rubber/leather look

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Nottingham has a strong rope community, which holds events. It may be worth looking into the Nottingham munch and talking to people to see what may be on and to dip a toe into the scene.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

It's also tricky as some aren't advertised (or at least you need to be in the know).

I have been to the Townhouse as a newbie on a fetish night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw a rope and cake event on here earlier.

Might be a good starting point?

On MasterRopeKnot’s account, meets.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever you do, don't turn up late to a fetish event. The punishments can be severe.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Whatever you do, don't turn up late to a fetish event. The punishments can be severe."

^^ I feel the need to point out that is a joke.

My autistic brain took a moment to realise what the poster meant.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers."

Each to their own isn't it.

I'm one of those horrible lot that likes my dungeon or rope play with a healthy dose of sex / sexual play.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Can anybody recommend a fetish event that is up and coming and would be good for newbies to attend we are from Nottingham but travelling is not a problem

Thank you

R&S"

Does Nottingham have a Star Wars fetish event?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

Each to their own isn't it.

I'm one of those horrible lot that likes my dungeon or rope play with a healthy dose of sex / sexual play."

Me too!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Wow thank you _etcpl think we need to do some more research didn’t realise there were so many types for us I think it’s the black rubber/leather look "

If you are on the other fetish friendly website you can find details of a couple of munches due to take place in Nottingham early next month. They can be good sources to find oit about local events.

You also have several events at the Oasis Image Studio which is in Nottingham I believe.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

"Wow thank you _etcpl think we need to do some more research didn’t realise there were so many types for us I think it’s the black rubber/leather look

If you are on the other fetish friendly website you can find details of a couple of munches due to take place in Nottingham early next month. They can be good sources to find oit about local events.

You also have several events at the Oasis Image Studio which is in Nottingham I believe.

Oasis is just outside of Nottingham in the countryside. I have been there pre- lockdown for rope events.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

Each to their own isn't it.

I'm one of those horrible lot that likes my dungeon or rope play with a healthy dose of sex / sexual play.

Me too!"

Me three!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

Each to their own isn't it.

I'm one of those horrible lot that likes my dungeon or rope play with a healthy dose of sex / sexual play.

Me too!

Me three! "

Is it about purist or preference.

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
over a year ago

rochdale

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

Each to their own isn't it.

I'm one of those horrible lot that likes my dungeon or rope play with a healthy dose of sex / sexual play."

Definitely.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

Each to their own isn't it.

I'm one of those horrible lot that likes my dungeon or rope play with a healthy dose of sex / sexual play.

Me too!

Me three!

Is it about purist or preference. "

For me, kink turns me on but makes me want sexual play. It is not always enough on its own. X

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

Each to their own isn't it.

I'm one of those horrible lot that likes my dungeon or rope play with a healthy dose of sex / sexual play.

Me too!

Me three!

Is it about purist or preference. "

Its preference.

For some BDSM play is an enhancement to sex, some a replacement for sex and for others they do not mix.

Its a bit old to hear about how some people take BDSM too seriously and they should lighten up. The thing to remember is that what we do is somewhat illegal and can cause permanent harm or death.

Unless you know what or how people play you don’t know if they are boring, stuck up, arrogant, or if they are shy, people watchers, introverted, assessing risks, planning a scene, determining best location to play, lighting levels etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers."

Thank you for the kind words re my rope work

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

Thank you for the kind words re my rope work

“But fuck you and your purist ways?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for the kind words re my rope work

“But fuck you and your purist ways?”

Actually NO! Not at all!

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By *inranWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Wow thank you _etcpl think we need to do some more research didn’t realise there were so many types for us I think it’s the black rubber/leather look

If you are on the other fetish friendly website you can find details of a couple of munches due to take place in Nottingham early next month. They can be good sources to find oit about local events.

You also have several events at the Oasis Image Studio which is in Nottingham I believe.

Oasis is just outside of Nottingham in the countryside. I have been there pre- lockdown for rope events.

To be fair as MRK taught the main rope teacher in Nottingham. A lovely man who used to be my sub. I would say he has done his share of 'pure' events too.

I think it's about time people have a choice. I like rope for ropes sake, I like bdsm for bdsm's sake and I like kink with a massive helping of sexual play too.

If you want to compartmentalise you can, if you don't that's cool too.

But I would hate to think I wasn't welcome at a kink event because I'm a swinger or vice versa.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Thank you for the kind words re my rope work

“But fuck you and your purist ways?”

Actually NO! Not at all!"

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Thank you for the kind words re my rope work

“But fuck you and your purist ways?”

Actually NO! Not at all!

Naughty

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By *sylockeWoman
over a year ago

East Anglia

Hi MRK!

Can’t wait for your Cake and Rope event!

I’m a swinger who is new to kink and I am really glad I am so welcome to your event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi MRK!

Can’t wait for your Cake and Rope event!

I’m a swinger who is new to kink and I am really glad I am so welcome to your event.

It will be lovely to have you there

Looking forward to wrapping you in some string too

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By *sylockeWoman
over a year ago

East Anglia

Thank you for being so welcoming to a newbie, but I have to start/learn somewhere?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for being so welcoming to a newbie, but I have to start/learn somewhere?!

We all have to start some where, I was new once and hell I'm still new now and learning every day

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Thank you for being so welcoming to a newbie, but I have to start/learn somewhere?!

We all have to start some where, I was new once and hell I'm still new now and learning every day

Exactly. We are all just people who know a few things, maybe more than some but likely less than others.

The day you stop learning is a sad day indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

Each to their own isn't it.

I'm one of those horrible lot that likes my dungeon or rope play with a healthy dose of sex / sexual play.

Me too!

Me three!

Is it about purist or preference.

For me, kink turns me on but makes me want sexual play. It is not always enough on its own. X"

I’m same, I think I’d feel shortchanged if I didn’t get the dicking

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

Each to their own isn't it.

I'm one of those horrible lot that likes my dungeon or rope play with a healthy dose of sex / sexual play.

Me too!

Me three!

Is it about purist or preference.

Its preference.

For some BDSM play is an enhancement to sex, some a replacement for sex and for others they do not mix.

Its a bit old to hear about how some people take BDSM too seriously and they should lighten up. The thing to remember is that what we do is somewhat illegal and can cause permanent harm or death.

lighting levels etc."

I really wanted to avoid getting into this but I think there is a clear difference between being a purist and preference.

The easiest way to explain it is comparing naturism to swinging. Naturism is about being naked and enjoying yourself on a nonsexual basis.

A swinger thinks the removal of clothes is an invitation to sex. That is why purist naturist clubs don't want swingers. Whether you are a purist naturist or a swinger can be a preference. But unless you go to a Eurekas or Kestrels which are in effect swingers club if you have sex publicly at a naturist club you will be removed.

A similar distinction applies in regard to swinging and BDSM.

That is why I would suggest there is a difference between preference and being purist.

The problem with sexual dungeons is that they become filled with sexual adventurers who are not interested in BDSM protocol or etiquette they are either interested in sex show or hoping to insert themselves into a sexual situation. In a purist dungeon the sexual adventurers leave the dungeon because they are bored.

A choice in regard to dungeons is required and following the etiquette of the particular dungeon.

I say that as someone who regularly used both the new and old Kestrels dungeons, and the dungeon at Hellfire.

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

Each to their own isn't it.

I'm one of those horrible lot that likes my dungeon or rope play with a healthy dose of sex / sexual play.

Me too!

Me three!

Is it about purist or preference.

Its preference.

For some BDSM play is an enhancement to sex, some a replacement for sex and for others they do not mix.

Its a bit old to hear about how some people take BDSM too seriously and they should lighten up. The thing to remember is that what we do is somewhat illegal and can cause permanent harm or death.

lighting levels etc."

I really wanted to avoid getting into this but I think there is a clear difference between being a purist and preference.

The easiest way to explain it is comparing naturism to swinging. Naturism is about being naked and enjoying yourself on a nonsexual basis.

A similar distinction applies in regard to swinging and BDSM.

That is why I would suggest there is a difference between preference and being purist.

A choice in regard to dungeons is required and following the etiquette of the particular dungeon.

I say that as someone who regularly used both the new and old Kestrels dungeons, and the dungeon at Hellfire."

That’s a generalisation. Many people move between the worlds of naturism, swinging and BDSM, adapting to the rules and etiquette of each venue and event.

Swingers don’t “view the removal of clothes as an invitation to sex”, that’s a sexual predator you’re thinking of.

Different events allow people to explore different parts of themselves and mix in different ways. The assumption that people can’t belong in all three worlds, and adapt their behaviour to fit the environment, is incorrect.

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By *sylockeWoman
over a year ago

East Anglia

Whilst I hear what you are saying I would not want non-swingers to assume that if anyone removed their clothes amongst a group of swingers the assumption is they are up for sex. Consent is as important in the swinging world as in the BDSM, kink, non swinging world.

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By *inranWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Although MRK has some decent ropework on his profile, I am one of those malignant purists that likes their rope or dungeon play sans swingers.

Each to their own isn't it.

I'm one of those horrible lot that likes my dungeon or rope play with a healthy dose of sex / sexual play.

Me too!

Me three!

Is it about purist or preference.

Its preference.

For some BDSM play is an enhancement to sex, some a replacement for sex and for others they do not mix.

Its a bit old to hear about how some people take BDSM too seriously and they should lighten up. The thing to remember is that what we do is somewhat illegal and can cause permanent harm or death.

lighting levels etc."

I really wanted to avoid getting into this but I think there is a clear difference between being a purist and preference.

The easiest way to explain it is comparing naturism to swinging. Naturism is about being naked and enjoying yourself on a nonsexual basis.

A similar distinction applies in regard to swinging and BDSM.

That is why I would suggest there is a difference between preference and being purist.

A choice in regard to dungeons is required and following the etiquette of the particular dungeon.

I say that as someone who regularly used both the new and old Kestrels dungeons, and the dungeon at Hellfire."

OK but a lot of dungeons I know have nights when sex is allowed and nights when it's not. It is up to the organisers personal rules for that event.

It is your choice which you go to. It's not more pure though. The reason most bdsm events were not sexual is because a lot of them were run in normal venues and kit was brought in. Speaking as someone on the scene many many years ago. ( long live nemesis) It's not because bdsm is only real bdsm with no sex.

You are on here so I assume a swinger. So if you go to any event you will find there is at least one swinger there (you)

You may not swing there, but there you are on your pan proving that swinger can go to a bdsm event without going for 'the show'

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Atlantis Evolution in Stoke-on-Trent have a monthly fetish event which is great for first timers. There’s usually a demo and you can have a look around and watch people play. The next one will be in October. You can dm me for details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Atlantis Evolution in Stoke-on-Trent have a monthly fetish event which is great for first timers. There’s usually a demo and you can have a look around and watch people play. The next one will be in October. You can dm me for details. "

I'm hoping they start their peer rope up again soon too

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By *ubbermaidbabyCouple
over a year ago

clwyd

Townhouse Wirral have radical desire event, They also have a latex event, and also FET-ish crossover event. Catering for all aspects of fetish fun.