FabSwingers.com forum: Fabs vs. real life

By *oldfisch OP Man
over a year ago

HARROW

Attracting women in real life is 100 times easier than on this website. Agree..?! I'm not blowing my own trumpet, but I tend to make connections quite easily in a bar or other social situation, and Fabs seems to be almost a waste of time..? Sorry!

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

10@ percent mate, probably due to the fact there’s 70 to 1 ratio on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats your expectation of the site OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that's a given yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's the promise of something different. Chances are if you meet someone in a bar they won't be into all manner of fuckery like we do on here

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Attracting people when meeting face to face is always going to work easier than sitting behind a keyboard. This is the reason why I would urge all men to attend clubs and socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being in a bar you've already passed the hurdle of meeting in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's the promise of something different. Chances are if you meet someone in a bar they won't be into all manner of fuckery like we do on here"

Are you suggesting that none on here ever frequent bars, restaurants or other social settings

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

"Attracting women in real life is 100 times easier than on this website. Agree..?! I'm not blowing my own trumpet, but I tend to make connections quite easily in a bar or other social situation, and Fabs seems to be almost a waste of time..? Sorry!"
Why bother on here then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s your usual approach on here?

Women get so many messages so you need to stand out! And I don’t mean by sending a photo of you cock, that never works for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's looking for something more than vanilla obviously

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

He's looking for something more than vanilla obviously"
You can get sex when you meet women in real life it’s not that difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's the promise of something different. Chances are if you meet someone in a bar they won't be into all manner of fuckery like we do on here

Are you suggesting that none on here ever frequent bars, restaurants or other social settings "

I'm suggesting that in all probability someone random in a bar won't be as libertine as us.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Nope.

I haven't (yet) got the confidence to go up to people in 'real-life'. Don't think I've ever done it tbh.

I'm finding it much easier to chat to people and make connections on here, and I'm really not finding it that difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you on here if it’s a waste of time ?

I think it depends on what your wanting, if your thinking you’ll instantly attract women then it’s definitely the wrong place to be in my brief experience here so far, personally I’m enjoying getting to know people hopefully building some friendships and connections, letting things progress naturally. Sounds like your pretty successful away for here so probably the best way to get what you want I’d say, either way good luck

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

I disagree we have been messaged and played with couples we would never approach in real life it's quite nice tbh I think genuine people on here are more interested in a connection than looks(for the most part) I'm sure it's much easier in the clubs and stuff but some of us can't get to them so this is our only option

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I love chatting to ladies in real life and meet a lot, but very few are likely to jump into bed with you in a hurry...

I also like chatting to ladies on here and having fab dates. Have a meal go out dancing and lots of naughtiness and laughs.

I've got crap pics , and I'm a greying middle aged white guy.

Maybe they just feel sorry for me

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I must be something wrong there too, cuz having no luck out there either

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Because in the bar those women get to see your face, on here however just your cock. So maybe get a face picture up or stop wasting your time.

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By *ustfortheforumsWoman
over a year ago

"Attracting people when meeting face to face is always going to work easier than sitting behind a keyboard. This is the reason why I would urge all men to attend clubs and socials."

And single women

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Because in the bar those women get to see your face, on here however just your cock. So maybe get a face picture up or stop wasting your time. "

The unvarnished truth!

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Because in the bar those women get to see your face, on here however just your cock. So maybe get a face picture up or stop wasting your time. "

You havent seen his face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you walk up to women in a bar and say "Hi, I'm looking for fun?" Suspect not but that's usually why men aren't successful here (and the sodding cock pics) - when they don't treat women as people. Or show interest in anything other than sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab works for me as the younh guys on here that claim to be into "mature BBWs" tend to keep that as their dirty little secret and don't want anyone to know about it in everyday life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you walk up to women in a bar and say "Hi, I'm looking for fun?" Suspect not but that's usually why men aren't successful here (and the sodding cock pics) - when they don't treat women as people. Or show interest in anything other than sex.

So true, I find myself screaming "why can't you just be normal" when a cute guy has just sent a gross message instead to trying to talk to me as a fellow human.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think op that you pulling a woman in real life has zero to do with swinging this is a site for lifestyle choices chatting to a woman at the bar has nothing to do with anything on this site ... so if its not swinging you want then why not leave and carry on pulling women at the bars ?

vanilla world vrs swinging world two completely different zones and rules

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Not disagreeing with you at all ...from my perspective I hate it when couples or ladies just see me as a walking cock...little attempt at charm or engagement ...

and I've got a normal one...

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Because in the bar those women get to see your face, on here however just your cock. So maybe get a face picture up or stop wasting your time.

You havent seen his face

Don’t want to

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"i think op that you pulling a woman in real life has zero to do with swinging this is a site for lifestyle choices chatting to a woman at the bar has nothing to do with anything on this site ... so if its not swinging you want then why not leave and carry on pulling women at the bars ?

vanilla world vrs swinging world two completely different zones and rules"

Surely there is some overlap of interpersonal skills, humour, charm still apply in both dimensions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is not a waste of time. I have met women and couples here and it did lead to sex. Take a longer term view.

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By *oldfisch OP Man
over a year ago

HARROW

I think the person who said the problem is the ratio, is correct. If it's 70:1, or whatever, then it doesn't make a lot of sense from a male point of view? Don't get me wrong; I've had several nice conversations on here with both women and couples but it's very rare to even get a reply...If I could achieve just one meet I will take it all back!

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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago

stourbridge

"10@ percent mate, probably due to the fact there’s 70 to 1 ratio on here. "

It feels more like 7000/1

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By *ussetdevilCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

If you posted normal pics instead of just your cock you might get more luck......

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By *oldfisch OP Man
over a year ago

HARROW

Fair point; I'll do that....

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Meeting in a bar is a million miles from this site, as soon as you see someone you can feel an attraction, personally I don't get that from just a picture. Fab social meets and clubs are a great place to meet people and if you fancy anyone great! If not there is always next time.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

There are some really good blokes profiles on here , not mine i hasten to add… have a look at their tasteful pics ..

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

I don’t think this is a waste of time at all. I enjoy the social side on the forums and I’ve made a couple of really good connections on here. I’ve not had any meets yet (due to circumstances and distance more than anything else) but they will happen in time and it’s giving me the confidence to go to clubs as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto totally agree.

Fab is window shopping with fingers pointing out Naaah naaah..

Very criticle and judgemental in many way that what is healthy.

In real life face to face one has the chance to express yourself fully, ie banter chat,eye contact,flirting,

Many look and have a better body vibe. Than just in pics taken in a rush, or angles no so easy.

" the art of real meets is truely being lost i say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Attracting people when meeting face to face is always going to work easier than sitting behind a keyboard. This is the reason why I would urge all men to attend clubs and socials."

Well said and stated younglady.

I agree

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

I was always lucky in tbat when i walked into bar or club all the women's knickers just seem to fall off. Now on fab all i want is for the women to put their knickers back on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is a nightmare for most men, let's be honest.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Anyone swinging for a while , male or female, has lots of options when it comes to getting nsa sex, so are generally more selective about new people. I think the people who struggle here are male, newbie non swingers, thinking it’s tinder

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Like most things connection in person is usually easier.

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Real life is easier 100%.

You can see the person and chat and they can see you for the person you are and not hidden behind a screen. It's hard to trust that the person is who they say they are and messages can be misinterpreted and taken out of context so easily.

In person it's real, you are both there and can't hide yourself.

Its all down to trust on here and being real.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

From my experience in life and with Fab, finding a girl I like to which she expresses interest in me is impossible.

Both just as hard as each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well in person “real life” they see you and your face OP not just your cock

If it’s not working no harm in changing your approach…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you have to remember op is that basically this is a site for an underground community. You need to know the right phrase's and codes. Next women you message put "FAF" as the heading. You'll be Amazed at the difference

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

Fab like any other platform is a one dimensional communication tool. Given that the best communication is face to face... Body language, eye contact etc messaging on fab to a 70 to 1 ratio will always be an uphill struggle. Good luck all!

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By *ams12345Man
over a year ago

london

Welcome to the club my friend

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

That's why we tent to use this site for information, events and keeping in contact with freinds and we leave meeting people and hooking up to clubs or when out for a drink.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

That's why we tent to use this site for information, events and keeping in contact with freinds and we leave meeting people and hooking up to clubs or when out for a drink."

Exactly the same for us.

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