FabSwingers.com forum: kissing when swapping

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondered...

Is kissing something that should be kept for intimate times with your partner?

Should everyone kiss, to encourage "activities"?

Is it only me that thinks male/female kissing should be kept between male/female partners?

Is it wrong that I don't like the idea of my partner kissing another woman, but I really REALLY love watching him go down on another woman? :/

Am I the only one????

hugs and kisses (virtual ones) F xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People should do what they're most comfortable with, and perhaps avoid what they're least comfortable with.

Some kiss (I'm thinking most), some don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I agree I think kissing is a very private and sexual thing that should be kept for partners only. D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is one of those things that has to be agreed between a couple and with any of their potential meets. We all have to do what we are comfortable with and enjoy or there is no point. Personally I love kissing and would not meet people who did not want me to kiss them, but that's not a judgement on you, just a personal preference . x

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

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"Just wondered...

Is kissing something that should be kept for intimate times with your partner?

Should everyone kiss, to encourage "activities"?

Is it only me that thinks male/female kissing should be kept between male/female partners?

Is it wrong that I don't like the idea of my partner kissing another woman, but I really REALLY love watching him go down on another woman? :/

Am I the only one????

hugs and kisses (virtual ones) F xx"

Funnily enough, they say that kissing is one of the most intimate things you can do.

In a relationship that's on the wane, kissing is the very first thing that usually goes...even before any sexual activity, so it makes sense, where you're coming from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i actually prefer to meet those that do kss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we were arranging our first threesome with a girl we spent about a month planning it, compiling a huge list of do's and don'ts.

Eventually we realised that this was taking all the fun and anticipation out of it and decided to just go with the flow.

Besides which, we both realised that we had never had sex with someone else without kissing so weren't sure how that would go.

Everything turned out ok, and it was a huge turn-on watching the 2 girls sharing long lingering kisses.

When we go out in public they think nothing of having a deep kiss in public, must to the amusement of onlookers, plus the jealousy they must feel when they realise what fun we will be having later!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can I add to this, sorry I didn't fully explain earlier...

I am all for kissing women, in a male female couple meet.

But I wouldn't be comfortable kissing a guy.

I wouldn't mind watching S kissing a guy

but don't feel comfortable with the idea of seeing him kissing a woman.

Am I being sexist? Maybe I should watch it actually happening before making a decision?

I didn't know how I would feel watching him going down on a woman, and I love that. Maybe I should give it a try before making a RULE

hmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i actually prefer to meet those that do kss"

We only meet couples that kiss as for us its all part of the turn on

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By *winging In The RainMan
over a year ago

St Helens / Liverpool

The couples I've been with before we're fine with kissing and wanted it. Would feel a bit cold and soulless without I think. I do understand if a couple didn't want to though, I guess it's an intimate thing to share with someone that isn't your partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to kiss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own but we would say that kissing is a very nice prelude to things far more sexual.

We do not think it is the most intimate thing partners share just with each other, that we would say is the simplest of acts clothed or unclothed, a cuddle.

Just holding the one you love close caressing their hair or back as you lay together, definately nothing as intimate as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a massive part of our sex life, nothing better than a long slow, sensual kiss. I love kissing other women, it wouldn't be the same without it!

Amanda

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i actually prefer to meet those that do kss

We only meet couples that kiss as for us its all part of the turn on

I can really understand that. I get turned on watching people kiss myself...

I think I may have to give it a go. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondered...

Is kissing something that should be kept for intimate times with your partner?

Should everyone kiss, to encourage "activities"?

Is it only me that thinks male/female kissing should be kept between male/female partners?

Is it wrong that I don't like the idea of my partner kissing another woman, but I really REALLY love watching him go down on another woman? :/

Am I the only one????

hugs and kisses (virtual ones) F xx"

No it is not wrong, your feelings and boundaries and should always do what you are comfortable with.

Kissing is a big no for us and something we definitely keep for just us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know how people stop themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to kiss and would find it very cold at thought of not kissing. But I can see what others have said about keeping it special between themselves. I don't think I could kiss guys I didn't know very well or at a club if we ever did go to club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when we started swinging one of our first rules was NO kissing, but that soon went out the window.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Each to their own, but I wouldn't meet a couple where kissing (with one or both) was off limits..

Personally I would find it way too clinical without kissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would only meet couples who kiss, its a completely natural accompaniment to sex, a reflex action.

We understand some may have issues with it and that's up to them.

What does seem strange though is that some couples don't mind same sex kissing but not opposite.

That to us seems to be more a bit of an insecurity issue.

XXXX

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"Just wondered...

Is kissing something that should be kept for intimate times with your partner?

Should everyone kiss, to encourage "activities"?

Is it only me that thinks male/female kissing should be kept between male/female partners?

Is it wrong that I don't like the idea of my partner kissing another woman, but I really REALLY love watching him go down on another woman? :/

Am I the only one????

hugs and kisses (virtual ones) F xx

Funnily enough, they say that kissing is one of the most intimate things you can do.

In a relationship that's on the wane, kissing is the very first thing that usually goes...even before any sexual activity, so it makes sense, where you're coming from."

yep thats right..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We would only meet couples who kiss, its a completely natural accompaniment to sex, a reflex action.

We understand some may have issues with it and that's up to them.

What does seem strange though is that some couples don't mind same sex kissing but not opposite.

That to us seems to be more a bit of an insecurity issue.

XXXX"

Interesting point. I don't see it as an insecurity issue as such. More of an intimacy issue. I think kissing is very intimate.

Op, there will always be something that doesn't feel quite right. Do what feels best for you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others who've posted here, we can't imagining playing without kissing - that would seem very artificial to us........

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just wondered...

Is kissing something that should be kept for intimate times with your partner?

Should everyone kiss, to encourage "activities"?

Is it only me that thinks male/female kissing should be kept between male/female partners?

Is it wrong that I don't like the idea of my partner kissing another woman, but I really REALLY love watching him go down on another woman? :/

Am I the only one????

hugs and kisses (virtual ones) F xx

No it is not wrong, your feelings and boundaries and should always do what you are comfortable with.

Kissing is a big no for us and something we definitely keep for just us."

I agree wholeheartedly with what you say about boundaries.

we keep french kissing just for us too.

It is all about personal boundaries and what's right for one couple won't be for another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore kissing its an important part of sex, i once had a 3 sum without the kissing, just wasn't the same, you just can't beat a good snog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im all for kissing, especially after they have licked me out hhmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we love kissing

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By *anfiona2Couple
over a year ago

ramsgate

We have met couples who kiss and couples who don't but much prefer to kiss, feels a bit odd otherwise

And you are constantly forgetting and have to stop yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i actually prefer to meet those that do kss

We only meet couples that kiss as for us its all part of the turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love kissing too but I can see why some couples wouldn't want to keep it to themselves. It's different for different people. I'd be considerate though of anyones boundaries if I was potentially meeting them.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I like kissing.

It can be horny and relaxing and exciting all at the same time.

Little kisses 'after' that lead to it all over again are always welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i actually prefer to meet those that do kss

We only meet couples that kiss as for us its all part of the turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondered...

Is kissing something that should be kept for intimate times with your partner?

Should everyone kiss, to encourage "activities"?

Is it only me that thinks male/female kissing should be kept between male/female partners?

Is it wrong that I don't like the idea of my partner kissing another woman, but I really REALLY love watching him go down on another woman? :/

Am I the only one????

hugs and kisses (virtual ones) F xx

No it is not wrong, your feelings and boundaries and should always do what you are comfortable with.

Kissing is a big no for us and something we definitely keep for just us."

We are the same...except if it's with people we have a deep level of intimacy with...

Don't let anyone tell you you're not right in having some things specially for you...it doesn't got in the way of meets for us if people kiss their own partners, nothing is lost in a meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondered...

Is kissing something that should be kept for intimate times with your partner?

Should everyone kiss, to encourage "activities"?

Is it only me that thinks male/female kissing should be kept between male/female partners?

Is it wrong that I don't like the idea of my partner kissing another woman, but I really REALLY love watching him go down on another woman? :/

Am I the only one????

hugs and kisses (virtual ones) F xx"
Not the only one I feel exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We would only meet couples who kiss, its a completely natural accompaniment to sex, a reflex action.

We understand some may have issues with it and that's up to them.

What does seem strange though is that some couples don't mind same sex kissing but not opposite.

That to us seems to be more a bit of an insecurity issue. XXXX"

I wouldn't say it was an insecurity thing, I wouldn't be involved in what I am and enjoying it so much if it was.

If it was insecurity, would I be so up for S playing with women?

I seem to be asking myself a lot of questions. It can only be healthy thought I suppose. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maxi loves kissing. Without it she would struggle to get turned on. It is something she really must have to ensure that she feels relaxed etc.

Me, myself cannot get my head around folks that don't want to kiss but enjoy giving and receiving oral

I cannot think of a sexual act that is more personal than oral sex, maybe that is just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for us kissing is a big part of it, we'd always respect others boundries but it would feel strange to us

understand where some people are coming from but to us, having sex is far more intimate than kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally i wouldnt meet someone who wouldnt kiss me, if im not good enough to kiss im not good enough to suck your cock

Sorry but i find it a bit insulting that a guy will stick his cock in any hole going but not kiss me

makes me feel like im just a lump of meat to off load on

Just my opinion tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wonder, with people who say they don't kiss others, what happens at Christmas or Birthday booze ups.

When someone wants an Under The Mistletoe or Birthday snog, do they say "No I don't kiss but you can lick my clit" or "You can suck my cock instead".

Hey, now that we think about it, perhaps that's not such a bad rule to have after all!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We wonder, with people who say they don't kiss others, what happens at Christmas or Birthday booze ups.

When someone wants an Under The Mistletoe or Birthday snog, do they say "No I don't kiss but you can lick my clit" or "You can suck my cock instead".

Hey, now that we think about it, perhaps that's not such a bad rule to have after all!

XXXX"

kinda what we were thinking lol..... can't wait to meet you guys at xmas

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We both think kissing is an essential part of sex, we both love those lovely long kisses when you're starting off slowly in mish, those hurried passionate kisses when you're changing position and kissing when you're cuddling after cumming. If you are going to 'let down your defences' and have sex with somebody else, why deny yourself the pleasure of kissing? Without kisses it all becomes very routine, not passionate and erotic as sex should be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know how people stop themselves!"

To be honest I rarely enjoy it so tend not to kiss.. and actually rarely find guys trying to.. so find it odd when people try to kiss me.

WE dont have a no kissing rule but can totally see why some keep something for themselves.. and it doesnt matter what that is as long as it works for you.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" why deny yourself the pleasure of kissing? Without kisses it all becomes very routine, not passionate and erotic as sex should be."

See my sex with others is full of passion and very erotic to us... but it rarely if ever involves kissing..

I also wouldnt lay and cuddle and kiss after sex with someone other than my Master... its a fuck.. no more than that.. its a cock that I am enjoying for that moment.. I dont deny myself anything...As I really dont enjoy kissing and prefer to get straight to sex.

but I dont find those that want to kiss or need to kiss odd.. I just make it clear I dont.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We both think kissing is an essential part of sex, we both love those lovely long kisses when you're starting off slowly in mish, those hurried passionate kisses when you're changing position and kissing when you're cuddling after cumming. If you are going to 'let down your defences' and have sex with somebody else, why deny yourself the pleasure of kissing? Without kisses it all becomes very routine, not passionate and erotic as sex should be."

Yep...we love all of that...with each other...

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

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Kissing for us both is an important part of foreplay..

If its not allowed then we'd prob move on to the next profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, S here.

With us being pretty new to the swinging scene I am currently having issues with anxiety. Sometimes I just cant get it up. However, kissing F seems to settle my nerves and I feel OK. So it does make me wonder if kissing someone else would have the same effect?

The problem currently is that kissing anyone but F hasn't even crossed my mind because I just love the way she kisses. It is a very intimate thing that we do and sometimes we'll just lay together for hours just kissing. And it is something that really turns me on.

Maybe we should just try it out one day and see how we feel about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, if i wanted sex without kissing i'd hire an escort!!

Kissing is a main part of the sexual act as far as i'm concerned! It would be too clinical without it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

kissing is very important and part of the excitement. Not to kiss would feel cold and pointless.

I would feel like I was just using someone or being used if I didn't kiss

MWAH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we first started out about 3 years ago I didn't like the idea of Tracy kissing other guys but as we have progressed we have enjoyed stretching our boundaries and I actually find it very horny now. Having said that if we were approached by another couple to play who didn't

like kissing we would still meet them and respect their wishe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

kissing is what gets me turned me on ... without kissing it it would just be mechanical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissin is an absolute must for us, when we first started we agreed no kissing but soon found that actually it took something away from the experience, now we both get turned on watching each other kiss others so so horny but each to their own.

We keep anal and swallowing just for us!!

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Kissing really gets me going, its passionate and sexy, and I love it.

If people dont kiss then i can respect that of course, but i prefer onces who kiss long hard and deep.

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

Each to their own as they say but cant get my head around the whole kissing is too intimate for meets thing I would have thot having sex with someone was far more intimate than having a snog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i good sensual kiss not ramming tongue down the throat is best and often gets me to the finish line better than full sex xx

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By *unover40Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

As someone stated above, has to be personal choice and whatever your comfortable with. We couldnt imagine a meet without kissing, vital part of the fun

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