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Making the move on a couple.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, we’re soon going on holiday and would love to meet a couple who we get along with and find attractive. Now, if you feel like things are going well, how do you approach a couple in suggesting taking things further and whether this is something they’d be interested in?

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By *ovelaughliveCouple
over a year ago

Oldham

Are you going on a "normal" holiday or to a swingers resort? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Normal, we’re sort of thinking it’s probably a one in a million chance so are prepared that it won’t happen but would be interested to hear people’s thoughts?

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By *ovelaughliveCouple
over a year ago

Oldham

Love the idea of meeting people in a "normal" place makes it seem that little bit naughtier!! Were the same though not sure were brave enough to approach or flirt with people just in case lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes, that’s probably the attraction I guess!

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By *ovelaughliveCouple
over a year ago

Oldham

Maybe have a nosey on whos near on fab whilst you're there lol x

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Start slowly testing the water and if getting the right responses escalate from there. Start with a bit of mild flirtation. See if it's reciprocated and in case of couples by who towards who. Then if the flirting goes well suggest maybe something you can all do together, like play a game of pool for example. Then if the vibe continues to be good, start opening a conversation. Maybe on the grounds of have you ever done this? Or thought that? Or talk about this one time on holiday when? Etc. See how that goes, see how they respond. Do there share stories back or express and intrest in extra people. If so then make the next move. See if you can swap for a kiss or go back to a room or simply explain your swingers and interested, see what they say to that.

A lot of it is just judgement and seeing where it goes. As others have said most people aren't swingers so probably not up for it. However in our experience more people than you think seem to be open to the idea when approached the right way. And those who turn out not to be interested tend to be perfectly OK and supportive of it anyways. So nothing to lose and generally people tend to be a little more open to pushing boundaries on holiday. Although with that a warning too. People who having swung before may not have had the right talks prior or be in the right place for it. And you do really want to be involved in a car crash argument or break up of another couple on holiday.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"Start slowly testing the water and if getting the right responses escalate from there. Start with a bit of mild flirtation. See if it's reciprocated and in case of couples by who towards who. Then if the flirting goes well suggest maybe something you can all do together, like play a game of pool for example. Then if the vibe continues to be good, start opening a conversation. Maybe on the grounds of have you ever done this? Or thought that? Or talk about this one time on holiday when? Etc. See how that goes, see how they respond. Do there share stories back or express and intrest in extra people. If so then make the next move. See if you can swap for a kiss or go back to a room or simply explain your swingers and interested, see what they say to that.

A lot of it is just judgement and seeing where it goes. As others have said most people aren't swingers so probably not up for it. However in our experience more people than you think seem to be open to the idea when approached the right way. And those who turn out not to be interested tend to be perfectly OK and supportive of it anyways. So nothing to lose and generally people tend to be a little more open to pushing boundaries on holiday. Although with that a warning too. People who having swung before may not have had the right talks prior or be in the right place for it. And you do really want to be involved in a car crash argument or break up of another couple on holiday."

*haven't (not having swung before)

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Getting the timing right and seeing if the chat naturally flows towards sexy chat is the trick. If you get to a place where you can hint towards your fantasies with others and a "confession" that you're swingers then you can see how they react.

We were on holiday in Cyprus years ago when we got drawn into a social gathering with a bunch of older swingers. We didn't actually realise what was going on until years later when we started swinging. They were coming onto us pretty strongly and kept inviting us back to theirs for a "party". We were very innocent back then and thought they were just being friendly

So put your cards on the table, make it obvious but don't push

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By *onann3Man
over a year ago

scotland

Maybe say where and when your going on holiday on here . You never know might get a snap . You could arrange to hook up before you go . No pressure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Normal, we’re sort of thinking it’s probably a one in a million chance so are prepared that it won’t happen but would be interested to hear people’s thoughts?"

We are going away to Turkey end of October half term and would love someone to approach us

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We've been approached twice on holiday.

All I'll say is don't be pushy and take the hint if they're not interested. Both times with us it wasn't welcome

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Your odds might be improved by setting up a meet now on here whilst abroad.

It worked for us in gran canaria, although we did not play with the other couple in the end.

Meeting a random swinging couple of holiday is about as likely as meeting them down the pub.

So helps to increase your odds of success if you try to meet swingers.

Let's say 100k use this site everyday, but probably 50% are single men.

So guestimating from one of the most popular sites you are still looking at maybe 1% of couples in the UK who are swingers.

Therefore it's a 1 in 100 chance of sitting in a bar and just happening to meet a swinger.

Then you have to recognise them as swingers and finally have mutual attraction.

That's a lot to leave to chance.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Lots of good advice here. Bottom line is if you are on a definitely vanilla holiday then tread carefully and be prepared to be not just knocked back but possibly also a bad reaction.

We have “picked up” in vanilla situations a few times (not many) but also reckon we missed out a few times by not being brave enough to gently push on what might have been an open door.

Long story here (all true)...

One time we got it right was in Mykonos. We were on a nudist beach and got chatting to another British couple (didn’t know they were until Mr B asked to borrow their face mask and snorkel - non sexual, very innocent).

Anyway we got chatting, hit it off and ended up at the beach cafe having dinner until late. We arranged to meet at beach next day around lunch time.

Next morning we did a little naughty photoshoot of our own in a secluded spot before heading to the beach and meeting them (they had saved us some sunbeds next to them).

Lots of good chat and banter. The two men decided to go for a swim leaving ladies chatting. The woman then asked Mrs B if she would rub sun cream on her back (poss first hint there might be something more than just banter). Mrs B decided to be just a little more sensual and lingering than might be normal (just a tad) and then asked if she wanted her to put any cream on her bottom (she was lying on her front). Again she did so just a tad more sensually than perhaps was vanilla but got no negative reaction. BTW the men were oblivious as in the sea.

Later in the afternoon the ladies got left alone again for a while when the men went to fetch drinks. The ladies still sunbathing but lying on their sides facing each other chatting, Mrs B pushed a little further by commenting on how much she liked how the other woman had shaped her pubic hair (an inverted small triangle) and got a jokey “you been looking at my pussy” reply followed by some banter about nudist beaches etc and a compliment on oggling other bodies, how nice it was to oggle young slim bodies rather than big fat old German ones (there were quite a few) and a final “you have an amazing body” just as the men returned with drinks and cut short the convo.

We arranged to meet for dinner that night in Mykonos town.

Over dinner with drinks flowing it was more flirty (inc the obligatory cliche “didn’t recognise you with your clothes on”). Mr B starts talking about liking taking photos. What kind of photos asks the woman. Naughty ones as we found a great private spot. A little more probing from her and then Mr B says would you like to see them. She flicked through the pictures (start off as tasteful nudes) showing each one to her husband both paying lots of compliments. Then it comes to a shot of a blowjob and Mr B goes all coy and embarrassed “oh sorry I forgot those were there!” and motioning for the camera to be returned and she asks “do you mind if I keep looking?”

Conversation over dinner turned to how there were definitely swingers on the beach as could tell by way people checking each other out. She says “well we were checking you guys out!” Mrs B asks “are you swingers?” To be told “no but always been intrigued, are you swingers?” And we admitted we were all embarrassed like teenagers.

After that convo went a bit vanilla and we thought we had messed up (they were really nice people and we hoped we had not spoilt things even to just hang out). We went dancing and things got a bit sensual on the dancefloor and then she asked (it was defo her driving things not him) if we wanted to come back to their apartment. Anyway we had a mind blowing evening of debauchery followed by some very fun three more days/nights including very sensual suncream rubbing on the beach much to the voyeuristic pleasure of all those Germans.

We stayed friends for a few years after too

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Of course, if you do convince a couple who haven’t swung before to join you, you run the risk of one or both of them reacting badly when something sexual starts to happen, even if they liked the idea beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Your story seems a good way to go about things, trying to show that your sexually experimental and seeing how they respond to that!

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