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By *exymansexy OP   Man
over a year ago

Warfield

What do other guys think about...

When everything is perfect, the person, the smell, the visuals, the feel, your horniness, everything, and you know right away it will not last more than a couple of minutes..

Being filled with worry at performance related stress but really wanting to let go and enjoy those few minutes (or seconds)

Thoughts?

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Not afraid to admit it, but I have suffered with performance in the past due to stress.

As much as ya want it to happen, it won't. It is embaressing, but I took mine as a warning bell to de-stress and go elsewhere.

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

Never go out with a loaded gun!!! Have a couple of wanks before a meet, to empty the chamber.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines generally the opposite tbh.

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

You have been on here a good while with no varies, you have a less than great profile so assume you haven't actually met anyone on here yet?

It doesn't take much to convince yourself that you will have performance issues and that's what will hold you back.

Take time to please the lady before penetrative sex so that if you cum quickly then she will either take as a compliment or show herself as a Karen,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just let go and enjoy them. There are other things you can do while recovering and before you know it you'll be ready to go again. Don't overthink it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take an eternity to cum lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn't just a guy thing. Some women orgasm too quick in their eyes too.

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By *intyGWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I’ve recently been with a gentleman who has this same anxiety, and I was flattered that he shared his anxieties with me on chat before we met. I reassured him it wasn’t a problem and I will say that knowing beforehand allowed me to tease and hold back at the right times so that when I could feel he was about to come, we changed tactics. Play lasted the best part of an hour and he gave good feedback on having the space to relax and enjoy himself. In the end I was the one who took bloody ages and never came! Gah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use foreplay … get her ‘off’ so the penetration is just the adding …rather than the main attraction ? But also….drain it before you arrive ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still trying to find that happy medium on a regular basis but it is what it is I guess

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By *exymansexy OP   Man
over a year ago

Warfield


"Just let go and enjoy them. There are other things you can do while recovering"

Put the TV in bedroom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also have this issue at times but aas others have said, just go with it, enjoy yourself and in the "recharge" times, you can be doing other things

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By *exymansexy OP   Man
over a year ago

Warfield

Forgive me I probably did not explain myself properly.

I do not mean to say that I have a problem per say but rather there are occasions when my senses are so excited that I can come very quickly.

But instead of enjoying the moment I am usually filled with dread of my partners reaction and that I will look like a 'loser' type thing.

Performance pressure can be a reality as can being responisble for someone else's orgasm.

Anyway I'm sure plenty of other guys feel the same. ...high five.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

As I young guy I didn’t last long but in 10 minutes I was hard and ready again. When you get older recovery time is much much longer so I have learned how to last to ensure the lady is fully satisfied before I come. This requires you to learn how to edge over a considerable time and this takes time and effort to learn. I have developed a self training routine that works for me.

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By *exymansexy OP   Man
over a year ago

Warfield

I just realised it's constantly hearing that 'I' must satisfy my partner that brought about this fear and embarressment.

Same as I must have a big fat cock. Be a stallion. Recover and go again within minutes. Etc etc...

Why is my partner's sex enjoyment 'my resinsibility'?

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By *exymansexy OP   Man
over a year ago

Warfield

That's interesting...

No one can say why my partners sexual enjoyment is my responsibility?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve recently been with a gentleman who has this same anxiety, and I was flattered that he shared his anxieties with me on chat before we met. I reassured him it wasn’t a problem and I will say that knowing beforehand allowed me to tease and hold back at the right times so that when I could feel he was about to come, we changed tactics. Play lasted the best part of an hour and he gave good feedback on having the space to relax and enjoy himself. In the end I was the one who took bloody ages and never came! Gah "

What a women!! Hats off to you lady!!

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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield


"I’ve recently been with a gentleman who has this same anxiety, and I was flattered that he shared his anxieties with me on chat before we met. I reassured him it wasn’t a problem and I will say that knowing beforehand allowed me to tease and hold back at the right times so that when I could feel he was about to come, we changed tactics. Play lasted the best part of an hour and he gave good feedback on having the space to relax and enjoy himself. In the end I was the one who took bloody ages and never came! Gah "

Definitely the type of woman I'd love to meet, kind, caring and understanding, just a shame there's nit more like you, I am honest in my profile as I'm sadly starting with ED, still works just needs that female touch of encouragement, most women near me want you +8" cum bucket loads and last forever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve recently been with a gentleman who has this same anxiety, and I was flattered that he shared his anxieties with me on chat before we met. I reassured him it wasn’t a problem and I will say that knowing beforehand allowed me to tease and hold back at the right times so that when I could feel he was about to come, we changed tactics. Play lasted the best part of an hour and he gave good feedback on having the space to relax and enjoy himself. In the end I was the one who took bloody ages and never came! Gah "

This exactly…communication and relax and enjoy the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a similar issue myself but only with meets of fab? Very strange to be fair as I've never been a nervous guy but for some reason I blow my load quick when it's a fab meet? When it's not it's perfectly normal..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never go out with a loaded gun!!! Have a couple of wanks before a meet, to empty the chamber. "

Oh yes. Experienced tactic has served me well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve recently been with a gentleman who has this same anxiety, and I was flattered that he shared his anxieties with me on chat before we met. I reassured him it wasn’t a problem and I will say that knowing beforehand allowed me to tease and hold back at the right times so that when I could feel he was about to come, we changed tactics. Play lasted the best part of an hour and he gave good feedback on having the space to relax and enjoy himself. In the end I was the one who took bloody ages and never came! Gah "

Such a gem, you deserve a medal!

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