FabSwingers.com forum: How important are verifications?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been on here a while but never really taken it seriously so I have no verifications and struggle to get meets without them. How important do you all find them? Is there perhaps something in my profile that could be a put off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a nutshell, very. Then at the other extreme, you get people who are put off by the amount you have. Especially in quite a short space of time.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Not important at all, just meet at clubs, you know people are real that way.

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By *uayside Glory HoleMan
over a year ago

Gateshead Quayside

I think very. If someone has been a member for a number of months and hasn’t managed to meet, have a good time and receive a verification theres a chance this means that they either tend not to meet and are just enjoying the chat, don’t meet because they’re engaged in some weird catfish game or are disappointing in person/during sex. It could of course just mean they ask meets not to verify them to remain discreet but of course you can just show the verification summary and not post the verifications or rely just on the verified in person badge….

Most people like to cut through the crap and focus on safer bets and on here a safer bet in my opinion is someone who has been verified a few times. The verification feature is one of the most useful things about Fab I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are important to me...some can tell me alot about someone...You can also tell so much by the type of peeps some meet & I also check out the verification trail... If some have met certain peeps there's no way I'll be meeting them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Important to me. I wont meet anyone who doesn't have a meet veri already. I have my reasons. But I wont even reply to a message from someone unverified x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

They're very important in the minds of some who don't have them. The lack of them is often attributed to the extremely difficult job that it is for all single men here, or those who haven't made a good profile or used the site well. Some want what they haven't got, always.

I think for most they're just of marginal benefit. Some only meet verified users but I think they are a minority.

You can use the cam chat rooms and get a veri that way. Or meet anyone friendly like me socially, who will confirm you are who you say you are. Or at fab socials. Or people in clubs.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

"Important to me. I wont meet anyone who doesn't have a meet veri already. I have my reasons. But I wont even reply to a message from someone unverified x"

But how do you get verified if you can’t get a meet

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By *killsMan
over a year ago

Never Never Land

"Important to me. I wont meet anyone who doesn't have a meet veri already. I have my reasons. But I wont even reply to a message from someone unverified x

But how do you get verified if you can’t get a meet"

You go to organised socials or club meets. Once you get chatting to people at those events they are more than happy to meet verify you.

It lets people know you will actually turn up and look like your pictures portray.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications show two things, you are who you say you are and you actually show up to meets. That's why I prefer people who are.

I think a guy is more likely to take a chance on someone who isn't verified than a woman mostly because of safety. I guess we all need someone to take a chance to get verified in the first place

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By *rGenuineMan
over a year ago

Purley

Very important. For two reasons.

1) it gives people an indication of what you’re actually like not just knowing you are genuine. It helps them gauge whether or not you might be a good match.

2) the amount of fake profiles and/or complete tools on here increases by the day, so it’s a great filter. You can actually search for just those verified which manages to remove 90% of dross.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"Very important. For two reasons.

1) it gives people an indication of what you’re actually like not just knowing you are genuine. It helps them gauge whether or not you might be a good match.

2) the amount of fake profiles and/or complete tools on here increases by the day, so it’s a great filter. You can actually search for just those verified which manages to remove 90% of dross.

spot on.

Also as said above, you can tell a lot about someone by who they meet. Some people clearly aren’t fussy, so if you aren’t fussy then carry on. However, if you ARE fussy then you know these people won’t be for you!

We never meet anyone from websites who are not verified AND have the veris displayed. Personal choice of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't do clubs hence always rely on genuine verifications. Sometimes we cross check the trail as well .

We can make out loads of things from the veris. We read between the lines and try to find if they match our personalities or not .

On Fab ,when 90% are fakes and time wasters , verifications helps us a lot.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

I understand why women and couples like to go with verified people. Personally having been on here for over 18 months during the pandemic and not being an obvious choice for a meet then unsurprisingly I've not got one.

I really can't be arsed to hang around the chat rooms for one as it means nothing. Personally whenever I message someone I'm always polite and respectful, happy to chat and even offer to arrange a cam session during the day when time allows. I'll always be honest about what I'm after and hopefully that will enable me to make better friends than a simple green tick next to my name.

I'm not a fake but if I don't ever get a meet and a verification then it's not the end of the world for me, Don't get too hung up about it, just concentrate on being the person you are and let others concentrate on looking for the people they want. If it's not you then move on, plenty of others on here.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

They form part of my decision to meet someone, along with pics, location age etc

In the past I have met men with no veries, because ae we all have to start somewhere.

For me, you'd be too young op.

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By *ittle-unicornWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Super important to me. Especially as a single woman, it’s a safety thing. Obviously just because someone is verified it doesn’t make them safe, but there is definitely some comfort from knowing I’m meeting whoever I think I’m meeting, and that they know how to behave.

That said, I know of people who have given verifications because they felt obliged to, not because they would actually advise anyone to meet with the people. Quite the opposite in fact! So I do take veris with a pinch of salt.

If you’re struggling to get verified, get yourself to a club or m&g and meet a few people that way.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Very important. For two reasons.

1) it gives people an indication of what you’re actually like not just knowing you are genuine. It helps them gauge whether or not you might be a good match.

2) the amount of fake profiles and/or complete tools on here increases by the day, so it’s a great filter. You can actually search for just those verified which manages to remove 90% of dross.

spot on.

We never meet anyone from websites who are not verified AND have the veris displayed. Personal choice of course!"

Agree with both. It’s not the only and ultimate selection criteria but it goes a long way to help get a picture of someone

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By *usthereforfun2018Man
over a year ago

Herts/Beds/Bucks

Very... it helps determine the genuine people from the messers. I don't need all the gory details from the meet, but to know the person is genuine, turned up etc and everyone had fun is definitely a big help.

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By *eddyBear55Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

Last 18 months has been a nightmare for meets so therefore no veris yet but I'm sure some people will accept this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're important to me because you know the person is real and is actually going to turn up!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

They show we are genuine, that we turn up to meets other than that not really that important.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I have decided from now on only to meet verified fabbers as have been let down a few times recently by non verified people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very. Important to me to get an ideal for who I’m meeting and I’m guessing it’s vice-versa.

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By *harlotteBigBoobsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Very importany for me i always read the verifications and puts me off if they dont have any. I also look at the people whove verified them to get an idea of what type of person they go for

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We’re definitely keen on seeing verifications for people, but only as an indication they are genuine. It’s not the only factor, but it’s a reasonable indicator someone is likely to be for real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Important to me. I wont meet anyone who doesn't have a meet veri already. I have my reasons. But I wont even reply to a message from someone unverified x

But how do you get verified if you can’t get a meet"

This exactly!!

Also 1 of the main solutions suggested is go to a club which isn't an option for a lot of people on here for various reasons

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Important to me. I wont meet anyone who doesn't have a meet veri already. I have my reasons. But I wont even reply to a message from someone unverified x

But how do you get verified if you can’t get a meet

This exactly!!

Also 1 of the main solutions suggested is go to a club which isn't an option for a lot of people on here for various reasons "

There are lots of people who will meet people with no verifications - the person being replied to just happens not to be one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Important to me. I wont meet anyone who doesn't have a meet veri already. I have my reasons. But I wont even reply to a message from someone unverified x

But how do you get verified if you can’t get a meet

This exactly!!

Also 1 of the main solutions suggested is go to a club which isn't an option for a lot of people on here for various reasons

There are lots of people who will meet people with no verifications - the person being replied to just happens not to be one of them."

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

"Important to me. I wont meet anyone who doesn't have a meet veri already. I have my reasons. But I wont even reply to a message from someone unverified x

But how do you get verified if you can’t get a meet

This exactly!!

Also 1 of the main solutions suggested is go to a club which isn't an option for a lot of people on here for various reasons

There are lots of people who will meet people with no verifications - the person being replied to just happens not to be one of them."

This^^^^. You've just got to keep trying and put yourself over as a decent reliable bloke in your nessages. Learn from your successes and failures, enjoy chatting with like minded people, if it happens then great and if it doesn't then you've lost nothing and life goes on.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Super important to us!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I used to say that they were only important in so far as seeing how consistent they were with the rest of someone's profile.

There has been a lot of discussion recently in the Irish forum about coffee meets to help out unverified members.

In the spirit of that I chatted recently to an unverified profile. They then took it upon themselves to contact someone I had verified and tried to cause trouble. They claimed they were doing me a favour and resorted to body shaming when challenged.

Thankfully nothing came of it but as a result I have blocked unverified profiles and won't be chatting to or meeting anyone who is not verified.

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By *urnhambiguyMan
over a year ago

Swindon

They are very important as there are, unfortunately, a load of time wasters and bots on here. Verifications mean you know that profile is a real person or couple, and they are serious about meeting rather than being all talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Important to me. I wont meet anyone who doesn't have a meet veri already. I have my reasons. But I wont even reply to a message from someone unverified x

But how do you get verified if you can’t get a meet

This exactly!!

Also 1 of the main solutions suggested is go to a club which isn't an option for a lot of people on here for various reasons

There are lots of people who will meet people with no verifications - the person being replied to just happens not to be one of them.

Decent reliable bloke...tick

Fairly handsome...tick

Tall....x

Hung.....x

There's only so much trying a bloke can do.. I respect myself too much to send messages to women I'm not attracted to just to have a better chance of a meet

Appreciate the advice though

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

colchester

I think you need a few on here to get things moving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Decent reliable bloke...tick

Fairly handsome...tick

Tall....x

Hung.....x

There's only so much trying a bloke can do.. I respect myself too much to send messages to women I'm not attracted to just to have a better chance of a meet

Appreciate the advice though

I feel your pain mate. I've provisionally arranged to meet someone twice on here and she's bailed both times (the first one at very short notice) so I've cut my losses on that front. I've also added a few social meets on "meet me" with no responses (which is fair enough if no-one wants to meet an unverified guy!).

I'm not on here to be a swinger and I'm not planning (although I could be persuaded by a lady) on attending any clubs. I think that basically means a chat room veri as the only viable option. I do have 3 women on my friends list but they obviously have thousands of messages to get through daily

so even striking up a constant dialogue and getting to arrange a meet that way is nigh on impossible as you only tend to get a 1 or 2 word response to a message and it might take them a week to reply!

There's a woman round the corner from me who's managed 8 or 9 meets in a week since joining Fab so getting verified obviously isn't an issue for her!

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

I think what's frustrating for us unverified men is that we all tend to get lumped in the same group as the time wasters, arseholes and bots and therefore ignored. I quite understand why but it's frustrating none the less. Also, it's not that easy for us to just head out to a local club or social and many of us don't want to do that anyway.

Personally I'd like to loose my swinging virginity with a couple also new to swinging so I'd be the first one for them and vica versa so in that respect a verification is less important.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"I think what's frustrating for us unverified men is that we all tend to get lumped in the same group as the time wasters, arseholes and bots and therefore ignored. I quite understand why but it's frustrating none the less. Also, it's not that easy for us to just head out to a local club or social and many of us don't want to do that anyway.

Personally I'd like to loose my swinging virginity with a couple also new to swinging so I'd be the first one for them and vica versa so in that respect a verification is less important."

Tbh mate not being verified is a lame excuse on fab. It’s easy to webcam with someone and then they can verify you are real. What’s stopping you doing that ??

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By *ittle-unicornWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Personally I'd like to loose my swinging virginity with a couple also new to swinging so I'd be the first one for them and vica versa so in that respect a verification is less important."

It’s frustrating for others to have their time wasted. It’s frustrating (and scary) to head out to meet a couple only to find it’s just a single guy. It’s frustrating when people use pics that are 10 years old and doesn’t give a true reflection of how they really look.

I see unverified people complaining constantly about how it’s ‘not fair’, but it seems like they don’t consider the other side of things at all - which automatically makes them someone I have no interest in meeting. If you’re not considerate of my feelings/safety m, you aren’t going to be considerate of my sexual pleasure either.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Personally I'd like to loose my swinging virginity with a couple also new to swinging so I'd be the first one for them and vica versa so in that respect a verification is less important.

Tbh mate not being verified is a lame excuse on fab. It’s easy to webcam with someone and then they can verify you are real. What’s stopping you doing that ??"

I've regularly said that I'm available for daytime camming but so far no takers. I've certainly no interest in being verified in the chat rooms as it serves no purpose. As I said personally I'm not too fussed about being non verified and I understand why people, especially single women stick with verified people. However I'm simply sympathising with others who want to get one but struggle to do so.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

More important for couples than single guys. There's a massive amount of fake couples profiles. We do read them, it helps decide whether we reply. We follow the verification trail too.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Well, I've got the house to myself tomorrow during the day so if anyone fancies giving me a cam verification....

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Important to be honest! If they are very new give them a chance everyone has to be verified at one time. My only issue is just because some are verified from webcam, Well that doesn't mean they actually meet though especially if been online over a year and not verified from a meet still.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Extremely! Wouldn't meet anyone without any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite tough getting a verification tbh when you have none and are new to this but I suppose I dont message many people unless I like there profile.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Very important to us , we can see if they will actually meet ,and if they are social swingers or players

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the honesty of verifications being left

Some arent even genuiene i get asked weekly by straight men to verify them ( without meeting ) just for the green tick ( i always say no )

But if honest can help with decision makings on meeting the person for me

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