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Single guy v. married guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A massive dilemma for married guys, do you pretend to be single? If you are single is it through choice or are you secretly in a partnership?

Which is the safest, a married guy isn't looking for the next Mrs or he'd be on a dating site

Whatever the reason you want more sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only speak for us but we prefer honesty. We are happy to play with married guys as long as they honest with us. We don't judge guys it's up to them why they play away but I prefer to know rather than think a guy is single.

It's our choice and we know everyone has their own oppinions on married guys but we would rather know a guy was married than find out a "single guy" was actually cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

safest is someone single obviousily coz they wont have their mrs sending messages or giving phone calls and texts when they find out and get your number off thier phone or account!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer honesty too but we cant physicaly force a blokes mouth open and get him to tell the truth.

Until then we would have no idea he is married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i prefer not to know if a man is married.i dont need to know, its not as if i am wanting a realationship with a man, its only sex.

i prefer it if a man is single, but if i get a message from a good looking nice guy, then i wont say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i prefer not to know if a man is married.i dont need to know, its not as if i am wanting a realationship with a man, its only sex.

i prefer it if a man is single, but if i get a message from a good looking nice guy, then i wont say no.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I made the decision to put it on my profile as being married makes it difficult for me to meet so putting it on there means there is no need to bullshit about why its tough to arrange times - it also allows people to make a fully informed decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

best to be honest chunky, people would assume that anyways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"best to be honest chunky, people would assume that anyways"

I have deliberately avoided the word honest due to the obvious honesty/cheating husband paradox!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are happy to make allowance for a married guy and would rather know up front so that we are aware that there might be a chance he would need to cancel short notice or might not be able to stay out as long as a single guy. We have more tolerance for married guy who is honest than with a " single" guy who try's to hide things from us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"best to be honest chunky, people would assume that anyways

I have deliberately avoided the word honest due to the obvious honesty/cheating husband paradox!"

haha yeah its not very honest whilst being honest at the same about your honesty haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only speak for us but we prefer honesty. We are happy to play with married guys as long as they honest with us. We don't judge guys it's up to them why they play away but I prefer to know rather than think a guy is single.

It's our choice and we know everyone has their own oppinions on married guys but we would rather know a guy was married than find out a "single guy" was actually cheating. "

could not agree more

also married guys are less likely to turn into stalkers because they have too much to lose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only speak for us but we prefer honesty. We are happy to play with married guys as long as they honest with us. We don't judge guys it's up to them why they play away but I prefer to know rather than think a guy is single.

It's our choice and we know everyone has their own oppinions on married guys but we would rather know a guy was married than find out a "single guy" was actually cheating.

could not agree more

also married guys are less likely to turn into stalkers because they have too much to lose

"

And often more 'grateful' than (some) self righteous single blokes that seem to think that shagging everyone they mail is their 'right'. But not always...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think honesty is the key thing. It's either going to be 'behind someone's back' or 'my wife is happy for me to do this because'. Either way stick with the honest option.

Though a lot of women probably won't be interested in option 1 because they don't exactly want some irate scorned lover turning up at their door and kicking off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iam up front n always say I'm maried it says it on my profile honesty is the best policy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

single guy v. married guy!

good clean fight please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married guy, being very honest. It's on my profile & my wife knows.

Not gonna get a much safer bet than that, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"single guy v. married guy!

good clean fight please! "

Mmmmm yeah! I'll get the lube.....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

No contest: single every time!

Be hard to explain cane marks and wax on pubic hairs to a wife!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A massive dilemma for married guys, do you pretend to be single? If you are single is it through choice or are you secretly in a partnership?

Which is the safest, a married guy isn't looking for the next Mrs or he'd be on a dating site

Whatever the reason you want more sex. "

I'm single but want a relationship and am just fussy I guess...I have had more sex meets off a dating site than here, but it's early days on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

obviously you can only take a persons word for it...but prefer honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer single guys, not interested in helping anyone cheat no matter what their reasons. I want them available for me for a relaxed few hours, married men cannot do that, I want someone who doesn't care if they smell of my perfume or get covered in lipstick, married men cannot do that, nor do I want someone clock watching. I am not comfortable either with those who's wife knows either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A massive dilemma for married guys, do you pretend to be single? If you are single is it through choice or are you secretly in a partnership?

Which is the safest, a married guy isn't looking for the next Mrs or he'd be on a dating site

Whatever the reason you want more sex. "

Haaaaaaaa neither is safe when you have the Eastwick sisters flying round with a huge cauldron half full of water onions and carrots.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I'd prefer not to have someone's wife turning up a week later because the dumb c*nt forgot to clear their satnav.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I married to Cheryl cole but just love you swingers toooooooo much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I single woman I prefer honesty then at least i'm making an informed choice whether to play or not...Having just been on the receiving end of someone's missis...please please please guys if you are doing this on the downlow get a private phone, make up a new email address, msn address some of you leave yourselves wide open to get caught..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

honesty a must in all things

or a guy wont last long on here when word gets around

whatever his reasons

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I can only speak for us but we prefer honesty. We are happy to play with married guys as long as they honest with us. We don't judge guys it's up to them why they play away but I prefer to know rather than think a guy is single.

It's our choice and we know everyone has their own oppinions on married guys but we would rather know a guy was married than find out a "single guy" was actually cheating.

could not agree more

also married guys are less likely to turn into stalkers because they have too much to lose

"

wow.... I am really tempted to say something flippant as in " but you may have to deal with lots of angry wives instead".....

but I'll just say "wow"... and say thanks for the sweeping generalisation instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd prefer not to have someone's wife turning up a week later because the dumb c*nt forgot to clear their satnav."

This, and the wanting relaxed time, without having to worry about perfume and such are compelling reasons to avoid married men, without even considering the moral questions.

I prefer single, single men. I won't necessarily rule someone out just because they're married but single would be preferred, definitely.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"A massive dilemma for married guys, do you pretend to be single? If you are single is it through choice or are you secretly in a partnership?

Which is the safest, a married guy isn't looking for the next Mrs or he'd be on a dating site

Whatever the reason you want more sex. "

No dilemma here. I don't pretend to be single. I say on my profile I'm not single.

I wear a wedding ring.

Always.

If someone wants to meet with me to swing, have sex and have some fun I'm going to get to know them a little first and vice versa. The'll soon find out my marital status.

I totally accept that some don't want to meet with me because of it and that's fine.

No dilemma here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not worried about smelling of perfume or lipstick. I always stay as long as I'm welcome to stay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about the bloke half of couples on here that are supposedly 'open' with their missus yet send secret messages without their other half knowing??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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wow.... I am really tempted to say something flippant as in " but you may have to deal with lots of angry wives instead".....

but I'll just say "wow"... and say thanks for the sweeping generalisation instead"

Why do you always say you're not going to say something and say it anyway?

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"

wow.... I am really tempted to say something flippant as in " but you may have to deal with lots of angry wives instead".....

but I'll just say "wow"... and say thanks for the sweeping generalisation instead

Why do you always say you're not going to say something and say it anyway? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Which is the safest, a married guy isn't looking for the next Mrs or he'd be on a dating site

"

As a "single" single bloke I am here for sex. I am also on a dating site. Once I have met someone for a relationship I will leave this site - unless I cna persuade her to join me here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only speak for us but we prefer honesty. We are happy to play with married guys as long as they honest with us. We don't judge guys it's up to them why they play away but I prefer to know rather than think a guy is single.

It's our choice and we know everyone has their own oppinions on married guys but we would rather know a guy was married than find out a "single guy" was actually cheating.

could not agree more

also married guys are less likely to turn into stalkers because they have too much to lose

And often more 'grateful' than (some) self righteous single blokes that seem to think that shagging everyone they mail is their 'right'. But not always...!"

Glad you put the some!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont like to meet married guys, i find their time very limited and when i meet someone i dont want someone whos on a timer and has to rush off mid shag because his wifes due home

when i meet someone i like someone who can give me the time and attention i require for a good session

why would i meet someone who only has two hours to give me while his wifes at bingo when i can have a single guy for the whole night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and its on my profile she knows but there's still lots I don't tell her, I'm not always honest with her how many blokes can say there 100 percent honest with the misses lol ( not many ) I'm not looking for a full on relationship just a fb and some fun . I know it meens I'll get a lot less meets but I'd rather meet someone who knows from the start where we both stand .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not worried about smelling of perfume or lipstick. I always stay as long as I'm welcome to stay.

"

Yes but then you have permission from your wife to play and she has her own profile, along with a couples one if I remember correctly so not really cheating then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Which is the safest, a married guy isn't looking for the next Mrs or he'd be on a dating site

As a "single" single bloke I am here for sex. I am also on a dating site. Once I have met someone for a relationship I will leave this site - unless I cna persuade her to join me here!!"

See this is why I prefer Married guys lol. I've had several who have moved on cause they found a girlfriend and more than once had meets canceled last minute cause they decided they had found ms right. I'm more than happy for them and thrilled they happy but we've been let down by single guys more than married. That's just our situation and how we feel. We find single guys are usually looking for a relationship as well as swinging and that can cause as much hassle if not more than a married guy for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Which is the safest, a married guy isn't looking for the next Mrs or he'd be on a dating site

As a "single" single bloke I am here for sex. I am also on a dating site. Once I have met someone for a relationship I will leave this site - unless I cna persuade her to join me here!!

See this is why I prefer Married guys lol. I've had several who have moved on cause they found a girlfriend and more than once had meets canceled last minute cause they decided they had found ms right. I'm more than happy for them and thrilled they happy but we've been let down by single guys more than married. That's just our situation and how we feel. We find single guys are usually looking for a relationship as well as swinging and that can cause as much hassle if not more than a married guy for us. "

You must be unlucky then as I have never had that as those I have met just want nsa

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

It amazes me how many stalkers there are out there. Also how many crazy wives apparently.

I've never had an angry husband come after me and I'm sure one or two of the ladies I have met were married at the time.

But then I guess, as I don't understand the mindset to be a stalker, (I like the variety of new friends) I'm unlikely to ever be one either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont like to meet married guys, i find their time very limited and when i meet someone i dont want someone whos on a timer and has to rush off mid shag because his wifes due home

when i meet someone i like someone who can give me the time and attention i require for a good session

why would i meet someone who only has two hours to give me while his wifes at bingo when i can have a single guy for the whole night "

2 hours is ages!! 20 minutes is long enough, plenty of time to do it twice and then off I go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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wow.... I am really tempted to say something flippant as in " but you may have to deal with lots of angry wives instead".....

but I'll just say "wow"... and say thanks for the sweeping generalisation instead

Why do you always say you're not going to say something and say it anyway? "

She does have a point but then it is funny the way he writes, gives me a chuckle!

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