FabSwingers.com forum: Explicit Msgs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, What's peeps opinions on extreme graphic sexually explicit detailed sometimes essay type 1ST DM, with a Cock-Shot

or Dick-Pic

attached???

Note -

Cock-Shot = Attractive Penis

Dick-Pic = F`Ugly Penis

I personally find them too creepy, freaky & just too perv weird when no connection rapport chemistry or convo has been formed... & Most of the time I haven't even a clue what the sender looks like...I do receive quite alot & IMO ye just come across as Sickos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree, they’re just weird and why you wouldn’t build a rapport with someone first just baffles me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

^^^^^^^ Cool...So a guy even agrees with me...

As I said I'm receiving alot of them lately...

I just mark them as unread cos I know lots of the senders get a cheap sick perverted thrill knowing if I read such extremely graphic sexually explicit 1ST DM. I normally don't read the full content after I get the jist

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

As they are always cut and paste there's no thought gone into them and I guess it's the online equivalent of a flasher...gets his kicks by trying to shock but it's unlikely that anyone on here is easily shocked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As they are always cut and paste there's no thought gone into them and I guess it's the online equivalent of a flasher...gets his kicks by trying to shock but it's unlikely that anyone on here is easily shocked."

Yup...you said it..."The online equivalent of a flasher" I've often referred to the unsolicited Dick-Pic senders

or Cock-Shot senders

as Flashers, that's exactly what they are & there's many of them here...ha

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Absolutely agree with this. Those types of messages are usually instantly blocked, or at the very least put on unread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’re usually just copy and pasted which is always a no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah this. It's creepy and pervy, like flashing someone in a park.

I understand why they do it though - the site is full of sex pics and sex reviews and sex menus.

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By *odkaboy2Man
over a year ago

bristol

I have provided to some quite long and explicit messages but not on a first message and only when initiated by the other person, eg being asked what I would like to do with them. Without having had some prior correspondence how would I know what turns them on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On this site, we do not mind as it's very easy to delete, skim through delte and delte, put poster on ignore. It's good in a way that they out themselves like that.

The others i ignore are those that just send a few words or pushy and pretend to have control.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I don't many messages, but if I do I like to make them lighthearted.

The smutty stuff comes later, if it's mutually enjoyed.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We had one a while ago that was so obviously a copy paste from a previous message because they'd accidentally copied the time stamp you get at the bottom.

Not only that but they'd also sent the exact same essay to us 3 years previously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"^^^^^^^ Cool...So a guy even agrees with me...

As I said I'm receiving alot of them lately...

Oh bless ya, yeah those types of messages are just not needed.

I just delete them straight away as gives room for people I actually like to talk to lol

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I wouldn’t even dream of doing that it’s hard enough to get a reply never mind creeping them out first

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes, it’s weird.

On the positive front, it does mean you know immediately you don’t need to entertain their messages any further, so consider it a time saver!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, it’s weird.

On the positive front, it does mean you know immediately you don’t need to entertain their messages any further, so consider it a time saver!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it looks so unnatural it’s most likely copy and pasted, I’ve seen them sent. I’ve never understood attaching a dick pic

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

I like it. Maybe not the very first message though

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I like it. Maybe not the very first message though "

The point is that explicit messages can be fun, and may also be welcomed - but assuming they will be from the outset and sending someone filth as a first message if they haven’t explicitly requested it in their profile is weird, inconsiderate and just plain rude.

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"Hi, What's peeps opinions on extreme graphic sexually explicit detailed sometimes essay type 1ST DM, with a Cock-Shot

or Dick-Pic

attached???

Note -

Cock-Shot = Attractive Penis

Dick-Pic = F`Ugly Penis

How are you judging an attractive penis to an ugly one …. ?

I think mines the most handsome

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By *outhsuffolkcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

Unimaginative messages, copy and paste messages and dick pic message get instantly deleted and the sender gets added to the block list.

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

"I like it. Maybe not the very first message though

It doesn't particularly bother me. It does bother you. Viva la difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to get a little bit of a warm up introduction first. However, if its a nice enough intro and they are good at writing I'm happy enough for them to get very expressive quickly. But if it just a couple of lines going I'm going to do xyz then its boring. But not as boring as the endless hi how are you one liners that go nowhere.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I like it. Maybe not the very first message though

It doesn't particularly bother me. It does bother you. Viva la difference "

Do you mean it doesn’t bother you to be sending them to people who haven’t invited them, or to be receiving them from people who haven’t spoken to you before?

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

"I like it. Maybe not the very first message though

It doesn't particularly bother me. It does bother you. Viva la difference

Do you mean it doesn’t bother you to be sending them to people who haven’t invited them, or to be receiving them from people who haven’t spoken to you before?"

It doesnt bother me receiving them

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Exactly this. Sad, desperate and disgusting. Not disimilar from the sort of guys who start a conversation politely then suddenly say something disgusting totally out of the blue and start talking dirty.

They go straight on our block list.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Dont get many and those we get are deleted. The sender may if I am in the mood get a reply telling them what I think (never positive) but often it is a straight delete.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I like it. Maybe not the very first message though

It doesn't particularly bother me. It does bother you. Viva la difference

Do you mean it doesn’t bother you to be sending them to people who haven’t invited them, or to be receiving them from people who haven’t spoken to you before?

It doesnt bother me receiving them"

Well that’s a different thing to assuming they will be welcome and sending them as a first message, isn’t it? If you are happy to receive them, enjoy!

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

"I like it. Maybe not the very first message though

It doesn't particularly bother me. It does bother you. Viva la difference

Do you mean it doesn’t bother you to be sending them to people who haven’t invited them, or to be receiving them from people who haven’t spoken to you before?

It doesnt bother me receiving them

Well that’s a different thing to assuming they will be welcome and sending them as a first message, isn’t it? If you are happy to receive them, enjoy!

Thank you I will

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi, What's peeps opinions on extreme graphic sexually explicit detailed sometimes essay type 1ST DM, with a Cock-Shot

or Dick-Pic

attached???

Note -

Cock-Shot = Attractive Penis

Dick-Pic = F`Ugly Penis

How are you judging an attractive penis to an ugly one …. ?

I think mines the most handsome

^^^^^^^ How do I know an attractive penis from an ugly one...by appearance obsviously...

& some unsolicited Dick-Pics

I receive are clearly STI infected & not to mention coated in smegma & other yellowy/green fluid... Fk now I've just put myself off my food for the day & I feel suddenly ill

. (Soz if I've made others feel ill too if you stumble across this comment)

Unfortunately having a photographic memory has it's disadvantages at times

...I always zoom in & check these

Dick-Pics out obsv

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"Hi, What's peeps opinions on extreme graphic sexually explicit detailed sometimes essay type 1ST DM, with a Cock-Shot

or Dick-Pic

attached???

Note -

Cock-Shot = Attractive Penis

Dick-Pic = F`Ugly Penis

How are you judging an attractive penis to an ugly one …. ?

I think mines the most handsome

^^^^^^^ How do I know an attractive penis from an ugly one...by appearance obsviously...

& some unsolicited Dick-Pics

I receive are clearly STI infected & not to mention coated in smegma & other yellowy/green fluid... Fk now I've just put myself off my food for the day & I feel suddenly ill

. (Soz if I've made others feel ill too if you stumble across this comment)

Unfortunately having a photographic memory has it's disadvantages at times

...I always zoom in & check these

Dick-Pics out obsv

Oh my well mine looks like an absolute dream compared to what you’ve been receiving

if I do say so myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a very open minded woman i find them a massive turn off and an insant block for me ... first message should be a introduction not a porn scrip

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I love a dick pic/ cock shot… but those first messages in massive detail about what they wanna do to you just make me cringe lol.

They’ve usually no idea what I like and they all pretty much say the same thing lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like it. Maybe not the very first message though

It doesn't particularly bother me. It does bother you. Viva la difference

Do you mean it doesn’t bother you to be sending them to people who haven’t invited them, or to be receiving them from people who haven’t spoken to you before?

It doesnt bother me receiving them

Well that’s a different thing to assuming they will be welcome and sending them as a first message, isn’t it? If you are happy to receive them, enjoy!

He's happy to receive them yes...said Dick-Pics

/Cock-Shots

. He did say though not in a 1ST MSG.

I don't mind the Cock-Shots

once a connection or a rapport has been formed. I just defo don't want it virtually unsolicitedly shoved in my face especially the Dick-Pics

. As I said earlier...It's the online equivalent of FLASHING.

Sometimes I have to ask to see it, & yes especially after chemistry has been formed...I do like to see all the `goods`. Buuuttttttt initially its body & leg pics I want to see & possibly a face pic...that's so important to see if there's an attraction but I completely understand why some feel uncomfortable sending face photos...discretion etc... But I obvs need to a face photo before a meet... Buuuttttttt by that time alot of trust & rapport will have been formed...

So to the FLASHERS & there's lots of ye...Ye may want to join www.flashersannoymous.ie

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"as a very open minded woman i find them a massive turn off and an insant block for me ... first message should be a introduction not a porn scrip"

^^^^^^^ Defo a mannerly intro...3-4 sentences Max...Not a badly written sick extremely graphically explicit perverted unsolicited porn script with their penis attached

...I actually feel like I'm being assaulted at times with some of the disturbing 1st DM I receive & some have been mini books also & most are quite long in text

As someone else said they like to shock or whatever as Flashers do... Buuuttttttt I'm actually Shock-Proof ha...nothing phases me at this stage

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a block to me. The message he's sending is "Look at me, I'm so wonderful" which is rude, arrogant, and sadly all too common.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Omg I way too lazy to write a long essay.

Seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually attach a face pic and a nude body shot to my messages but it’s not like a super close up of my cock whilst hard. I have those pictures and if they want to see it, they can either ask or go look for themselves. I think that’s fair, no? I would like to know if it isn’t so I can change my style of introducing

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By *ardnreddyMan
over a year ago

LIVINGSTON

First contact should be respectful and no dick pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I usually attach a face pic and a nude body shot to my messages but it’s not like a super close up of my cock whilst hard. I have those pictures and if they want to see it, they can either ask or go look for themselves. I think that’s fair, no? I would like to know if it isn’t so I can change my style of introducing

You did ask...so I will answer your question...I would avoid sending a full frontal nude body shot in a 1st DM, I'm assuming your cock is visible also yea. It's still an unsolicited explicit photo. Wait till you get the good vibes etc..

Or more importantly just ask the recipient first

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I share a lot of the kinky stories I write on here in forums and also in messages; some are very graphic and some are very kinky, but they are only shared in messages in private with people who have asked for them, or i have chatted to and have enjoyed the ones in forums.

I would never send one uninvited to anyone.

why spend ages writing something that is going to get deleted and you blocked, in addition to the fact that is is tacky to say the least and insulting as well.

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By *ola81Woman
over a year ago

pond

If I ask for a face picture and received a cock pic instead I just say... Oh what a head .. a dickhead... Nice to meet you dickhead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Or more importantly just ask the recipient first

I just have to add I just viewed your public photos & they are very tasteful I must say...

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Presumably they work for some people?

Maybe the senders of these messages could verify that!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I share a lot of the kinky stories I write on here in forums and also in messages; some are very graphic and some are very kinky, but they are only shared in messages in private with people who have asked for them, or i have chatted to and have enjoyed the ones in forums.

I would never send one uninvited to anyone.

why spend ages writing something that is going to get deleted and you blocked, in addition to the fact that is is tacky to say the least and insulting as well.

^^^^^^^ Now I'm gonna go looking for your Kinky Story threads...

It's

totally different when they're not shoved in our faces without consent & as you said those who do send them in a 1ST DM "it is tacky to say the least and insulting as well." Yes I agree also & sometimes it's actually like being sexually verbally assaulted as some of the 1ST DM I receive are quite disturbing & hard-core...Mainly stating what they want to do to me in extreme sexual graphic detail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're either trying to stand out from the crowd by showing how "kinky and depraved" they are or they're getting off on the shock factor. Either way I find them predictable and boring. So they are promptly deleted and blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or more importantly just ask the recipient first

I just have to add I just viewed your public photos & they are very tasteful I must say...

Thank you! You have some gorgeous photos too. Yeah I always shy away from a full closeup but you’ve got a point. Always attached the body as a “hey this is my body type, stocky and tattoos” kinda photo but might get a similar photo with boxers on

thanks for the advice

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Invariably I find them tedious and so I don't really bother with them. It's a tough enough job just keeping up with messages from matched people

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By *otmale88Man
over a year ago

wales

I must admit never understand sending a pic of ur cock I would say mine is a decent looking looking one but seriously there not the most attractive surely a face pic is more of an obvious turn on x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I must admit never understand sending a pic of ur cock I would say mine is a decent looking looking one but seriously there not the most attractive surely a face pic is more of an obvious turn on x"

Some cocks are very Beautiful & Attractive

...Some only though...

Not many...

Just don't send them unsolicitedly...wait till they're asked for or until a good connection/vibe has been formed

I do Luuuuuvve a good Cock=Shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, What's peeps opinions on extreme graphic sexually explicit detailed sometimes essay type 1ST DM, with a Cock-Shot

or Dick-Pic

attached???

Note -

Cock-Shot = Attractive Penis

Dick-Pic = F`Ugly Penis

I think it a bit presumptive of a guy to think any woman would want a dick/cock pic on a introductory message !! I don’t send unless asked , however I do send a tongue in cheek message regarding the dick pic overload to a woman’s inbox !!!

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Majority of messages i've received had a dick pic attached. I mean only so many dicks you need to see in one day. Lol

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By *ingpongMan
over a year ago

Wallsend

I don't understand why anyone sends some ridiculous short message saying "Hi, how's you" or "how you doing" I mean you're online, you're obviously OK then add a dick pic, I don't get it, why send a dick pic to someone when you're trying to get their attention, the person you're trying to strike up conversation with might not want to see it, they've already fell at the first hurdle by putting a slang minimal text together coupled with something else they don't want ie: dick pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I really don't understand (not directed at you OP) are women who complain about receiving cock pics yet have explcit public pics. Yes, it's your profile and you can post what you like and yes you can make certain demands of potential suitors too if you wish to. But you're silly to think men won't send dick pics if they see similarly explicit images on your profile. Good for the goose and all that....

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"What I really don't understand (not directed at you OP) are women who complain about receiving cock pics yet have explcit public pics. Yes, it's your profile and you can post what you like and yes you can make certain demands of potential suitors too if you wish to. But you're silly to think men won't send dick pics if they see similarly explicit images on your profile. Good for the goose and all that...."

Why? What you show on your profile is on your profile, if people choose to look at it it’s up to them.

These images are not being sent privately to people unrequested, so they don’t imply an invitation to be sent similar photos privately and unrequested.

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By *olly_AmberTV/TS
over a year ago

Live Sussex, Work London

I do not want to see anyone’s dick until I’m at least interested. Profile dicks or unsolicited dick pics in messages and not going to make me more interested in you

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Absolute nail on the head …

I don’t send cock pics, I don’t show cock pics on my profile..

But people that are showing very intimate pictures will attract intimate pictures..

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they portray an image of the forumite that can be misinterpreted. I couldn't care less what people put on their profile btw. It's up to them. But every image and even every forum post will be interpreted by people in different ways. If you're going to be outraged by an unsolicited cock pic I'd suggest this isn't the best site to be on. (Again, that's an observation and not directed at you).

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By *exymansexyMan
over a year ago

Warfield

Cock-Shot = Attractive Penis

Dick-Pic = F`Ugly Penis

I personally find them too creepy... IMO ye just come across as Sickos"

May I please ask what are the female version of these terms/discriptions?

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cock-Shot = Attractive Penis

Dick-Pic = F`Ugly Penis

I personally find them too creepy... IMO ye just come across as Sickos

May I please ask what are the female version of these terms/discriptions?

Thanks."

I have no idea "what are the female version of these terms/discriptions?" Because for 1 reason I'm not aware of what names you give a certain part of the female anatomy.

These are just my personal codes...

Cock-Shot = Attractive Penis

Dick-Pic = F`Ugly Penis

Guess it's up to you to make up your own personal codes...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also I've definitely come to the conclusion that the `men` who have close up very explicit profile photos are getting cheap sick thrills when sending mail...knowing that their dick is being viewed. I've said it to many that I don't chat to a dick (pic) & what do they do...they send msg after msg after msg

Think it's time my block button gets some use.

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