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By *D of fun OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northampton

I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He probably shocked how beautiful you are and amazed he had free night out ??

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Because some people think that being a gentleman means having to pay for everything, having to be the one to travel and so on.

I'm always happier to split the bill so there is no expectation on either party but if a woman insists on paying I have no issue with that. I would insist on paying next time though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He probably shocked how beautiful you are and amazed he had free night out ??"

Hahaha love that trail of thought

Brilliant

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?"

I would have at least tried to go Dutch

Nice profile by the way x

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Because some people think that being a gentleman means having to pay for everything, having to be the one to travel and so on.

I'm always happier to split the bill so there is no expectation on either party but if a woman insists on paying I have no issue with that. I would insist on paying next time though. "

I’ve never understood the notion that if the man or whoever pays, there’s an expectation of some sort for whoever is being treated. That’s madness.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?"

Why’d you feel compelled to pay OP?

Personally, on a first date or social, if a man lets me reach for my wallet—my pussy shrivels up dry and dies.

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By *egvisir71Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?

Why’d you feel compelled to pay OP?

Personally, on a first date or social, if a man lets me reach for my wallet—my pussy shrivels up dry and dies."

So you expect the male to pay?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?

Why’d you feel compelled to pay OP?

Personally, on a first date or social, if a man lets me reach for my wallet—my pussy shrivels up dry and dies."

So why not put in your Rules

Men

You're paying on the first date / social

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Op id be in shock to… generally I pay not the female.. she just graces me with her presents

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By *D of fun OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northampton


"I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?

Why’d you feel compelled to pay OP?

Personally, on a first date or social, if a man lets me reach for my wallet—my pussy shrivels up dry and dies."

I paid when he went to the Toilet it was only far as he did the driving.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I never expect the guy to pay for everything if we go for a meal or even a hotel meet. I don't see why it should be expected in this day and age. We are all adults and should be well able to pay our share.

But men I've met have been amazed when I've paid as it seems not to be the norm on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only done "drinks" for socials and do rounds. I once met one guy who would order double vodkas when I was buying but bought himself a fosters when it was his round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it depends, if I've suggested dinner then I'd pay as I invited, if he invited then he'd pay. Nothing makes me feel more awkward than divvying up a bill at the table... I'm same with friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its lovely you spoilt him. I always pay my way, even now I take my husband to dinner, I feel funny if he pays even though we share money lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,m happy to pay for coffee, although usually the man pays for the first. I always offer to pay for any second coffee. I like to pay my way.

X

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve paid before but prefer to split the bill. I don’t expect anyone to pay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials for me are usually a Costa, but 99% of the time I'll pay. It removes their sense of entitlement, if I decide they're not for me. Amazes me how some think a 3 quid coffee buys them a shag!!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Once had a woman buy me drinks every time we went out. Literally pub or club before finishing our round she'd make an excuse and be at the bar paying for drinks, there was no getting around it.

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Wow can we meet for a social as I've never had a restaurant bill paid as for some reason everyone expects me to pay!! Anyway its 2021 and I believe that women can vote!!

Personally I always would expect to pay as I'm old school so I too would have been shocked!!

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Well I must be the exception here by being one of the last of the dinosaurs from the era when hardware was something that you got at the iron mongers, and the only software around was located between old men's legs before viagara was invented, when it was also hip for a guy to take a lady out who had gone to a lot of trouble to look her best for the occasion, and not expected her to have a pocket calculator in her handbag to work out her share of the tab.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Well I must be the exception here by being one of the last of the dinosaurs from the era when hardware was something that you got at the iron mongers, and the only software around was located between old men's legs before viagara was invented, when it was also hip for a guy to take a lady out who had gone to a lot of trouble to look her best for the occasion, and not expected her to have a pocket calculator in her handbag to work out her share of the tab. "

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?

Why’d you feel compelled to pay OP?

Personally, on a first date or social, if a man lets me reach for my wallet—my pussy shrivels up dry and dies.

So you expect the male to pay? "

Nothing gets past you, Sherlock!

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?

Why’d you feel compelled to pay OP?

Personally, on a first date or social, if a man lets me reach for my wallet—my pussy shrivels up dry and dies.

So why not put in your Rules

Men

You're paying on the first date / social "

Don’t really have to. The vast vast majority, if I’ve agreed to meet them, already come correct.

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

I’d come correct x

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I have only done "drinks" for socials and do rounds. I once met one guy who would order double vodkas when I was buying but bought himself a fosters when it was his round. "

Is he Scottish

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Well I must be the exception here by being one of the last of the dinosaurs from the era when hardware was something that you got at the iron mongers, and the only software around was located between old men's legs before viagara was invented, when it was also hip for a guy to take a lady out who had gone to a lot of trouble to look her best for the occasion, and not expected her to have a pocket calculator in her handbag to work out her share of the tab. "

You just split it down the middle there is no need for a calculator.

Or you take turns of paying. I really don't see why the man should be expected to pay all the time .It doesn't matter how long I take to get ready or the effort I put in before I meet the person. It's nothing to do with old style values either or anything like that. You are both meeting for the same reason so I don't understand why a women would expect the man to always foot the bill it actually reeks of entitlement if you never put your hand in your own pocket.

It would make me very uncomfortable if I was meeting someone and they always footed the bill and it would put me off seeing them again.If it's someone I meet regularly then yes I don't mind it sometimes as we both would do it.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Well I must be the exception here by being one of the last of the dinosaurs from the era when hardware was something that you got at the iron mongers, and the only software around was located between old men's legs before viagara was invented, when it was also hip for a guy to take a lady out who had gone to a lot of trouble to look her best for the occasion, and not expected her to have a pocket calculator in her handbag to work out her share of the tab. "

Sir, please keep doing what you’re doing and just find women who appreciate your wonderful gentlemanly and generous gestures.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"Well I must be the exception here by being one of the last of the dinosaurs from the era when hardware was something that you got at the iron mongers, and the only software around was located between old men's legs before viagara was invented, when it was also hip for a guy to take a lady out who had gone to a lot of trouble to look her best for the occasion, and not expected her to have a pocket calculator in her handbag to work out her share of the tab.

Sir, please keep doing what you’re doing and just find women who appreciate your wonderful gentlemanly and generous gestures. "

Thanks for all your replies, both public and private. Another reason why it's more in my comfort zone to treat the woman whose company I am having the pleasure of is that they may not have the disposable income that I have, and may be even struggling a bit, so the thought of a lady having to spend out, when her resources could be better deployed on her family rather than dividing up a restaurant bill sits far easier with me.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?

Why’d you feel compelled to pay OP?

Personally, on a first date or social, if a man lets me reach for my wallet—my pussy shrivels up dry and dies."

So you're not a exponent of gender equality then?

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By *ochdale lad2019Man
over a year ago

Rochdale

Iv always paid its just how I am. I don't expect anything back from it if anything happens it happens if not no problem I don't set out thinking that far ahead its just a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never do more than coffee or a drink for a first social/date and I always pay for the first round. I've had guys be shocked by that and also some that weren't overly happy about it. After that, we take it in turns. If I go out for a meal, we split the bill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have only done "drinks" for socials and do rounds. I once met one guy who would order double vodkas when I was buying but bought himself a fosters when it was his round. "

Brutality

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I have only done "drinks" for socials and do rounds. I once met one guy who would order double vodkas when I was buying but bought himself a fosters when it was his round. "

Hahahah what a legend

Shameless!

Love it

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By *egvisir71Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?

Why’d you feel compelled to pay OP?

Personally, on a first date or social, if a man lets me reach for my wallet—my pussy shrivels up dry and dies.

So you expect the male to pay?

Nothing gets past you, Sherlock! "

So much for burn the fucking bras eh equality when it suits.

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By *hillingbeanMan
over a year ago

somewhere not to far aaay in the midlands

Both should pay separately

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?

Why’d you feel compelled to pay OP?

Personally, on a first date or social, if a man lets me reach for my wallet—my pussy shrivels up dry and dies.

So you expect the male to pay?

Nothing gets past you, Sherlock!

So much for burn the fucking bras eh equality when it suits. "

Like Bill Burr said, women treat equality like a buffet

Equal pay? Sure thing! Splitting the bill on the 1st date? Ew no that’s yucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think the person who asks should be the person to pay. If I message a guy and ask to take him out for a drink, I'll pay. If he asks me, he can pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've gone 50/50 before and offered to pay every time I've been on a social.

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

I’ve never been on a social and not paid, but that’s with women (does that count haha) Miss pc

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I've been on socials where we've had meals. Sometimes the other person will pay, sometimes I do, sometimes we split the bill.

If it's coffee or drinks then we tend to take it in turns to go to the bar or the counter and buy.

There is no expectation on my part that someone will pay for my meal or drinks. Sometimes it happens, but it's never something I would expect.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I've bought the drinks/coffee/ice cream on a social before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually always meet for a drink for this reason. It's within my disposable income budget to afford a drink every now and then. Usually the guy/girl will then buy the second drink. (If there is one Haha)

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns

I’d have thought that most “dates” would either be old-fashioned where the man is expected to pay, or 50/50 where the bill is split anyway.

So I’d have have thought that it was at least a little unusual for the woman to end up paying - unless there’s a specific circumstance such as the man travelling a long way.

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By *ntman83Man
over a year ago

Walsall


"I had a lovely social/ meal and paid and the male was shock... Why?

Why’d you feel compelled to pay OP?

Personally, on a first date or social, if a man lets me reach for my wallet—my pussy shrivels up dry and dies."

This reaction here is exactly why he was shocked

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