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By *onkey_boy87 OP   Man
over a year ago

derby

So me being one of them. I'm interested to know who thinks being in a relationship and playing on here is ok as long as you don't get caught?

Or are you totally against infidelity?

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Plenty on here so just crack on!

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull


"So me being one of them. I'm interested to know who thinks being in a relationship and playing on here is ok as long as you don't get caught?

Or are you totally against infidelity? "

Yes totally against it. Its a nasty thing to do..why would anyone want to associate with such a person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are various reasons why people commit infidelity.I do not judge them.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

People always have a justification as to why they cheat. Some reasons are more understandable than others but they’re rarely genuinely good.

Cheating only brings pain to people and usually to the innocent party, why you would want to hurt the person you claim to love is contradictory.

Just leave your partner

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

The inevitable fall-out can be catastrophic, and even more so when children are involved - who wants to associate with people willing to inflict that sort of pain upon those that are supposed to be their most cherished.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to stay away, don’t want a disgruntled women knocking the door x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So me being one of them. I'm interested to know who thinks being in a relationship and playing on here is ok as long as you don't get caught?

Or are you totally against infidelity? "

Having been on the other side, you will get caught, it will destroy her but hey, long as you're getting your rocks off huh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So me being one of them. I'm interested to know who thinks being in a relationship and playing on here is ok as long as you don't get caught?

Or are you totally against infidelity? "

I'm always interested to know why you seek elsewhere...that's just me being nosey though!

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By *onyjoCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Sorry i am totally against infidelity. I have been cheated on twice and the hurt that it causes and the upset and upheavel i would not wish upon anybody. It underminds trust for future relationships.

It also affects any children caught up in it situation.

I personally would never entertain people in a relationship married or otherwise unless it was with the approval of the other persons partner.

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By *ave1963MexboroughMan
over a year ago

Mexborough

I don't judge the actions of others but I've always been honest in my relationships. If I'm with someone who's not into swinging I don't swing.

I also don't knowingly play with women who are playing away. The last thing I need is an irate partner turning up at my door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I okay with cheating? No.. Would I ever cheat? No but I'm not going to beat anyone with a moral stick. People are very quick to judge but no one knows what is happening in anyone's lives and the reasons they do what they do.

Just do whatever you want to do but if your looking for acceptance or justification, this won't be the place to find it

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By *onkey_boy87 OP   Man
over a year ago

derby

Just for the record as it seems the responses I'm getting privately and in here belive I am in a relationship.

I am not!

The way I've worded my original post probably comes across this way. But I meant I am someone who sees it as ok, not that I am the one doing it. People cheat for many reasons and it isn't my place to judge or care

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By *onyjoCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

I disagree with cheaters having being in the receiving end of it too often, it should be something you either do with your partner or not do it. If you want to shag about at least let that person go and find someone they deserve nobody deserves to go to bed wondering why they wasn't enough

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I disagree with cheaters having being in the receiving end of it too often, it should be something you either do with your partner or not do it. If you want to shag about at least let that person go and find someone they deserve nobody deserves to go to bed wondering why they wasn't enough"

Absolutely agree.

I’ve just had come out of a relationship where she cheated, lied about it and has now confirmed it via FB.

Infidelity is shitty and there’s no need for it, it destroys people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it’s not anything to do with sex, if my GF ha sex with someone else is don’t really mind (Hence why we’re here) it’s the break of trust that hurts the most, I think it’s very hard to repair that kind of damage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't be arsed with messing about. I don't care if someone else is as long as it doesn't impact me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

no, I don't think its "ok as long as you don't get caught".

I know there are loads of reasons that people cheat and some of them I sympathise with. I'm not a believer in doing something wrong and justifying it by saying it's ok as long as the wronged person doesn't find out though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to judge, recognise relationships are complicated and appreciate there may be various reasons why people might sexually stray

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By *ndymanchester1Man
over a year ago

salford

How common is infidelity?

Interestingly present scientific studies estimate that 1 in 25 children are born illegitimate without father knowing. Average number of children to a family is 1.7, so that’s at least 1 in 15 couple infidelities that resulted in children. With that known, what do we think the level of infidelity is given how few would lead to a illegitimate child? S tricks me a lot more common than people like to admit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost my ex of 7 years due to infidelity so I’m not down with it at all. The only exception is if the couple are aware that they are playing away with permission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't judge anyone but realistically why stay with her if she doesn't fulfil all your needs? If a relationship doesn't work 100% in the bedroom it's not going to work 100% in any other room of your house...

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Same to most couples answers here, no judgement at all we all have reasons for being here but we choose not to be part of the hurt it could cause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally against it. When you know the truth about one half of a couple cheating and hear the other say about how wonderful the relationship is you know that person is in for a massive fall.

If you can't be faithful and be with someone 100% let them go so they can find someone who will.

No matter the excuse it is hurtful and selfish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be interested to know (if you were cheating on here), how you’d feel if you came across a profile that was your partner? I wonder how it would feel?

I genuinely don’t know the answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How common is infidelity?

Interestingly present scientific studies estimate that 1 in 25 children are born illegitimate without father knowing. Average number of children to a family is 1.7, so that’s at least 1 in 15 couple infidelities that resulted in children. With that known, what do we think the level of infidelity is given how few would lead to a illegitimate child? S tricks me a lot more common than people like to admit "

Interesting numbers. I'm actually not totally surprised that 1 in 15 couples would have a child that didn't belong to the male partner xx

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

Cheating is a true lack of spine. There is no need to cheat be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won’t go there From a totally selfish perspective around STDS.

Man with wife wants to sleep with me. Wife doesn’t know. They still sleep together. Wife may be sleeping with other men unbeknownst to him. I don’t want to catch whatever she/he gets that they’re not talking about. If he’s not open with her about who he is sleeping with and taking necessary precautions, I will assume he won’t be open with me too. Just not worth the risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I okay with cheating? No.. Would I ever cheat? No but I'm not going to beat anyone with a moral stick. People are very quick to judge but no one knows what is happening in anyone's lives and the reasons they do what they do.

Just do whatever you want to do but if your looking for acceptance or justification, this won't be the place to find it "

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met with people doing this, i see it as there issue and if they didnt meet me theyd be meeting someone else.

Whatever their reasons doing it i leave with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would normally be against infidelity. I would always come up with an advice like "Why don't you just break up?" But when I think about it, life is not that straightforward. There could be plenty of reasons why someone is locked in a sexless relationship but unable to break it up. So unless I know the full details, I don't think it's right for me to make judgements.

On the other hand, if given a chance, I probably wouldn't meet someone who is cheating simply because I don't want to be chased around the city by her angry boyfriend.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Char has more of a morel objection but as a couple we find that married/attached guys are simply less reliable. It's harder to chat to them as they're often only online for odd hours, and the chances of a meet cancelling (or them just not turning up) is higher as there's another person with demands on their time.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

They have there reasons for being here .until you have walked in there shoes .don't judge them.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If your asking would we meet somebody who is cheating then our answer is no.

Of course it is more than possible that we would never know when meeting somebody but as we only meet couples it slightly harder for them to hide it.

Also we never judge somebody who is cheating as we have no idea what is going on in their personal life and we don't want to know.

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By *onkey_boy87 OP   Man
over a year ago

derby


"I disagree with cheaters having being in the receiving end of it too often, it should be something you either do with your partner or not do it. If you want to shag about at least let that person go and find someone they deserve nobody deserves to go to bed wondering why they wasn't enough

Absolutely agree.

I’ve just had come out of a relationship where she cheated, lied about it and has now confirmed it via FB.

Infidelity is shitty and there’s no need for it, it destroys people "

You've been on this site over a year as a single man and claim to have just come out of a relationship due to her cheating? Maybe she knew you were doing the same?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I disagree with cheaters having being in the receiving end of it too often, it should be something you either do with your partner or not do it. If you want to shag about at least let that person go and find someone they deserve nobody deserves to go to bed wondering why they wasn't enough

Absolutely agree.

I’ve just had come out of a relationship where she cheated, lied about it and has now confirmed it via FB.

Infidelity is shitty and there’s no need for it, it destroys people

You've been on this site over a year as a single man and claim to have just come out of a relationship due to her cheating? Maybe she knew you were doing the same? "

We met on here and were on here as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disagree with cheating, there is not need for it. Either play on here together or have the others consent or leave the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who has been mentally damaged by infidelity, I find it abhorrent.

I would never touch a cheater with a barge pole and my heart goes out to the innocent parties being cheated on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That feeling you get when you find out a partner has cheated should be enough to never do it to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn the scenario around would all the people that are cheating on their partners be happy if they were the ones being lied to..secret meetings..secret messages...

Cheating can ruin peoples lives.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Turn the scenario around would all the people that are cheating on their partners be happy if they were the ones being lied to..secret meetings..secret messages...

Cheating can ruin peoples lives."

And yet it’s so often the one that gets cheated on that’s hurt the most whilst the other walks away

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"Turn the scenario around would all the people that are cheating on their partners be happy if they were the ones being lied to..secret meetings..secret messages...

Cheating can ruin peoples lives.

And yet it’s so often the one that gets cheated on that’s hurt the most whilst the other walks away "

Perhaps she was hurting...it would take a special kind of person to do it malevolently ..maybe she has had bad experiences in her life

If you met on here perhaps it's part and parcel finding someone who found fab in the first place

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

If you want to play around break up with the person sex is never going to be better than a really healthy loving relationship if your both into it then it's awesome if not do the right thing be a man about it and end it

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice


"Turn the scenario around would all the people that are cheating on their partners be happy if they were the ones being lied to..secret meetings..secret messages...

Cheating can ruin peoples lives."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So me being one of them. I'm interested to know who thinks being in a relationship and playing on here is ok as long as you don't get caught?

Or are you totally against infidelity? "

Playing on here and each other knowing is fine. Any play without the others knowledge is a betrayal of trust and the end of the relationship. No ifs, no buts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally against it, i would never want to cause a family to break apart, hurt someones feelings for my own gain.

People say there's reasons for being on here behind someones back, but personally I can't see any reason a honest conversation can't happen.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So when you're fucking someone with your partner's consent, who are you thinking about whilst fucking? Your partner, or the person you're fucking?

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