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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there anything wrong with us ? We have arranged 3 meets for last two saturdays and 1 for next friday ...both saturday meets were cancelled and just been told the friday one is too ...? I'm dissapointed but not mad about being blown out as things happen in real life which you have no control over ,I know but it does get to the point which makes you wonder is it us??

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Do you think you may be rushing to arrange the meets a bit too quickly?

Not saying you are but trying to work out why you are getting so many cancellations at the moment xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt get too paranoid, these things happen. Part and parcel of swinging unfortunately.

Keep going, it is certainly worth it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

no not at all honey ..we are quite flexible with our time so we always let the other couple set dates, and we dont rush into any meet we always chat for a while so we all comtable with each other ...just a bad run of luck i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"no not at all honey ..we are quite flexible with our time so we always let the other couple set dates, and we dont rush into any meet we always chat for a while so we all comtable with each other ...just a bad run of luck i guess "

Thats what it probably is,so don't be thinking its you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thats what it probably is,so don't be thinking its you "

probably is but you cant help getting paranoid ove rit i'm sure others have felt the same way when they have been let down a couple of times too ...

but hey were of to pleasures next sat instead so if anyone sees us coem and say hi

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

BTW I'm not actually knocking the fact of couples letting us down all have given reasonable excuses so no offence to the couples if you are reading these forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happens to us all - think you just have to accept it - we have usually found it better to arrange spur of the moment meets but then again had a great one with someone we have known for ages recently.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"BTW I'm not actually knocking the fact of couples letting us down all have given reasonable excuses so no offence to the couples if you are reading these forums "

I wouldn't get paranoid about it, as you say these things happen.

We used the meet today button once which was very succesful, maybe you could try that if you still fancy a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"happens to us all - think you just have to accept it - we have usually found it better to arrange spur of the moment meets but then again had a great one with someone we have known for ages recently."

not easy to do spur of the moment meets although we are quite flexible when arranging a week or two ahead ..as i say thanks for the feedback i know it probably aint us as we aint got two heads just me getting rid of my dissapointmnet i guess....lol anyone free next saturday???

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Er...how many heads do you have then????

I thought two was the optimum for a couple's profile - I'm such a traditionalist though...

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Well we know its not you B and C, having met you in the past we can vouch for that. You do have to wonder about some people on here though, they are all up for it until the actual meeting and then its a sudden change of mind.

They either get cold feet or are just stringing you along. Only way around it we have found is to build up a rapport with the couple first, even then it can go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is one of the following:

1) Legit reason for cancelling (cat on fire, caught swine flu etc)

2) They got cold feet at the last minute and used the above to pull out (happened to me so many times now lol)

3) The hubby arranged it without wifes permission and forced him to cancel

4) The profile in question was just a single person posing intending to waste everyones time

5) They just couldn't be arsed with a meet and pulled #1 or simply cancelled

Probably a few more I can't think of though! but don't worry happens to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anything wrong with us ? We have arranged 3 meets for last two saturdays and 1 for next friday ...both saturday meets were cancelled and just been told the friday one is too ...? I'm dissapointed but not mad about being blown out as things happen in real life which you have no control over ,I know but it does get to the point which makes you wonder is it us??

"

i know how you feel i get loads of guys cancel on me, my last example was last saturday i was meeting a guy, i was going to his house, got the train and waited outside the station where he was supposed to be picking me up, was supposed to be meeting him at 7.45 as thats when the train came in and it was just before that time, i was sat there waiting for him to come, and my phone went, text i minght add he didnt even have the balls to call me and it said "sorry but theres been a change of plan, im meeting somebody else now so im not be coming to pick you up but im free next weekend if u want to re arange"

I sat there and thought ffs am i really that bad that men still look for meets even tho they have already arranged to meet me?

try not to take it to heart, things like this happen a lot on here and its nothing to do with you

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

these things happen.... perils of swinging I suppose...

And there is nothing wrong with you guys at all... I defy anyone to say that these things have never happened to them in there swinging fun lives...

and at least they had the decency to let you know about it and give you notice.....

the way that I look at it is that sometimes real world stuff gets in the way of the fun time, it just cant be helped....

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


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i know how you feel i get loads of guys cancel on me, my last example was last saturday i was meeting a guy, i was going to his house, got the train and waited outside the station where he was supposed to be picking me up, was supposed to be meeting him at 7.45 as thats when the train came in and it was just before that time, i was sat there waiting for him to come, and my phone went, text i minght add he didnt even have the balls to call me and it said "sorry but theres been a change of plan, im meeting somebody else now so im not be coming to pick you up but im free next weekend if u want to re arange"

"

You have to be kidding!?! I am astounded at how rude some people can be - leaving you stranded at a station cos he's got (in his opinion) a better offer. Words fail me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anything wrong with us ? We have arranged 3 meets for last two saturdays and 1 for next friday ...both saturday meets were cancelled and just been told the friday one is too ...? I'm dissapointed but not mad about being blown out as things happen in real life which you have no control over ,I know but it does get to the point which makes you wonder is it us??

i know how you feel i get loads of guys cancel on me, my last example was last saturday i was meeting a guy, i was going to his house, got the train and waited outside the station where he was supposed to be picking me up, was supposed to be meeting him at 7.45 as thats when the train came in and it was just before that time, i was sat there waiting for him to come, and my phone went, text i minght add he didnt even have the balls to call me and it said "sorry but theres been a change of plan, im meeting somebody else now so im not be coming to pick you up but im free next weekend if u want to re arange"

I sat there and thought ffs am i really that bad that men still look for meets even tho they have already arranged to meet me?

try not to take it to heart, things like this happen a lot on here and its nothing to do with you "

Inconsiderate arseholes like that should be banned from the site.

Bet you feel like setting up another meet, taking a couple of sympathetic heavies with you and teaching him the error of his ways.

I guess you probably wouldn't but it would serve the bugger right!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its frustrating when people don't show up, but lets face it...if you had to tell your family or friends that you can't come to your grandads 80th birthday party because you have to meet 3 strange men for a gangbang, its usually an easy choice.

People choose their normal life over swinging because its a luxury not a neccessity.

Just remember... when ever you arrange a meet, you may be way down in their pecking order of priorities, regardless of how keen they are to meet you.

Funny thing is, its the "hardcore" swingers who are most likely to show up, but so many people like to say on their profiles that they are not hardended swingers. I say, its better to priorise the hardcore swingers as they will definitely show up and advertise yourself as hardcore as it also means reliable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i know how you feel i get loads of guys cancel on me, my last example was last saturday i was meeting a guy, i was going to his house, got the train and waited outside the station where he was supposed to be picking me up, was supposed to be meeting him at 7.45 as thats when the train came in and it was just before that time, i was sat there waiting for him to come, and my phone went, text i minght add he didnt even have the balls to call me and it said "sorry but theres been a change of plan, im meeting somebody else now so im not be coming to pick you up but im free next weekend if u want to re arange"

I sat there and thought ffs am i really that bad that men still look for meets even tho they have already arranged to meet me?

try not to take it to heart, things like this happen a lot on here and its nothing to do with you "

What a total *#^&$ some people are so horrible!

We had that a long while ago so understand how you must of felt, thats why we only meet peeps now if they come to us.

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we assume that each person we arrange things with wont turn up and unfortunately we are mostly right. It does nothing for your ego when you are constantly let down. we experimented to see what the odds were, so arranged a meet for a particular friday and said yes to every guy that contacted us and said they were free. 107 contacted us, 45 replied to our reponses, 2 days before 15 were left saying they were still coming, confirming by phone, one day before this had dwindled to five, definates and on the night. 1. So the moral of the story is if you want to meet 1 person have at least 1O6 in reserve. Now if 107 had turned up we would have been fucked !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now if 107 had turned up we would have been fucked !! "

over and over!

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Funny thing is, its the "hardcore" swingers who are most likely to show up, but so many people like to say on their profiles that they are not hardended swingers. I say, its better to priorise the hardcore swingers as they will definitely show up and advertise yourself as hardcore as it also means reliable!"

Well, we call ourselves occassional swingers because we only meet new people once in a blue moon.

However if we say we're going to meet then barring genuine illness or family crisis,which we'll make known ASAP, we'll be there.

During the journey we'll also comunicate our ETA etc,if there have been any delays.

So to say the people most likely to turn up are "hardcore" swingers just isn't so,in our case anyway.

We just try to treat people with the same consideration we'd like to be shown ourselves.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree with Trace and Ric on this one.

We have been members of sites for almost 4 years but in that time have only met around 10 people (counting couples as 1 rather than 2 lol) mainly because real life has gotten in the way so we cant meet very often.

BUT if we say we will meet you we will unless the kids or one of us have taken ill suddenly - which has happened a grand total of once in the whole time and it was me who felt very ill its the nature of my medical condition that sometimes it can flare up sudenly and without warning

Shona

x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something of mine flares up often without warning

Seriously though on this site, we have been real lucky so far and only been let down a couple of times, on another site we was on though, omg! it was about 50/50 not turn up!

I don't think the op needs to be paranoid though, am sure its just a run of bad luck and i'm sure most of us get bad runs at some point

Tony

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anything wrong with us ? We have arranged 3 meets for last two saturdays and 1 for next friday ...both saturday meets were cancelled and just been told the friday one is too ...? I'm dissapointed but not mad about being blown out as things happen in real life which you have no control over ,I know but it does get to the point which makes you wonder is it us??

i know how you feel i get loads of guys cancel on me, my last example was last saturday i was meeting a guy, i was going to his house, got the train and waited outside the station where he was supposed to be picking me up, was supposed to be meeting him at 7.45 as thats when the train came in and it was just before that time, i was sat there waiting for him to come, and my phone went, text i minght add he didnt even have the balls to call me and it said "sorry but theres been a change of plan, im meeting somebody else now so im not be coming to pick you up but im free next weekend if u want to re arange"

I sat there and thought ffs am i really that bad that men still look for meets even tho they have already arranged to meet me?

try not to take it to heart, things like this happen a lot on here and its nothing to do with you "

Wot a feckin tosspot grrrrrrrr i bet u were livid ... hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

shit happens

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