FabSwingers.com forum: are people forgetting its a swingers site

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

so what do you think ?? are people forgetting its a swingers site ? for swingers into or wanting the lifestyle ?

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

"so what do you think ?? are people forgetting its a swingers site ? for swingers into or wanting the lifestyle ?

Yes unfortunately fab is dying! It’s full of time wasters and clout chasers now!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I think there has always been a portion of people on here treat it as various things other than a swinging site.....

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We find that a lot of people join thinking it's Tinder with a guaranteed fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think there has always been a portion of people on here treat it as various things other than a swinging site..... "

yes i agree but i think covid had exploded more to join but not for swinging my messages used to be 50/50 ie those who want the lifestyle to those just wanting a release now its like 95% to 5% ie the 5% wanting swinging fun the rest wanting quickie and openly saying thing like oh im only here to fuck or empty balls ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree far to many fakes and dreamers on here lately its became very hard to find genui people

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

It's a free site. Anyone can join. that leaves it open to all sorts of abuse. On other sites, people have to pay so you only pay if your serious. Think of it like a club. Paying on the door at somewhere like Quest or Pandora's means you really want to go in. If there was no membership fee how many random gawkers would just walk in off the street?

So that is always an issue....because it's a free site. Comes with the territory.

It also doesn't help the majority of accounts are single guys, faking stuff digitally is easy and some people just shouldn't be anywhere near this lifestyle.

Is fab dying? Nah. Unless a direct better alternative comes along it's not going anywhere. But it's community is certainly changing.

There are real swingers on here but...clubs and socials seem to be the best way to meet legit people currently, not through fab. Lockdown didnt make things easy on here but...ask again in a year and see where we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" It's a free site. Anyone can join. that leaves it open to all sorts of abuse. On other sites, people have to pay so you only pay if your serious. Think of it like a club. Paying on the door at somewhere like Quest or Pandora's means you really want to go in. If there was no membership fee how many random gawkers would just walk in off the street?

So that is always an issue....because it's a free site. Comes with the territory.

It also doesn't help the majority of accounts are single guys, faking stuff digitally is easy and some people just shouldn't be anywhere near this lifestyle.

Is fab dying? Nah. Unless a direct better alternative comes along it's not going anywhere. But it's community is certainly changing.

Very well said!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I think there has always been a portion of people on here treat it as various things other than a swinging site.....

I don't read most of my messages to know

In all seriousness though, I now don't clearly show my face anymore where as I always did previously due to the vast amounts of non swingers on here now..... Incl my son and some of his friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anyone has forgotten it's a swingers site,big clue in the name.

I do however feel,many are critical because they don't get everything their own way,sad really,self entitlement is such an ugly trait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm not forgetting it's a swingers site...but there's no law to say you have to be a swinger to be here...

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Timewaster site.

Loads of dreamers on here with men,woman and couple profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly yes its changed over the years and not for the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our experience is that this site is full of mostly married men wanting a quick shag.

They want it now, they don't care what they shag and they want to do it behind their partners back!

Not swinging in the slightest and 90+ of the people on this site do not know what swinging is!

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We remember!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our experience is that this site is full of mostly married men wanting a quick shag.

They want it now, they don't care what they shag and they want to do it behind their partners back!

Not swinging in the slightest and 90+ of the people on this site do not know what swinging is! "

Sadly we have to agree.

For us swinging is traditionally about couples swapping partners. But the sheer number of so called single men on here is just mind boggling. Perhaps the site should do the same as clubs and milk the single guys for a small fortune before they are allowed to join ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our experience is that this site is full of mostly married men wanting a quick shag.

They want it now, they don't care what they shag and they want to do it behind their partners back!

Not swinging in the slightest and 90+ of the people on this site do not know what swinging is!

Sadly we have to agree.

It's not all about you, so I don't think that's a very good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our experience is that this site is full of mostly married men wanting a quick shag.

They want it now, they don't care what they shag and they want to do it behind their partners back!

Not swinging in the slightest and 90+ of the people on this site do not know what swinging is!

Sadly we have to agree.

We think that is an excellent idea. It would probably get rid of a significant number of timewasters, but retain those that are serious about swinging.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"Our experience is that this site is full of mostly married men wanting a quick shag.

They want it now, they don't care what they shag and they want to do it behind their partners back!

Not swinging in the slightest and 90+ of the people on this site do not know what swinging is!

Sadly we have to agree.

You will just get more fake couples accounts (there are plenty already).

It also wouldn't stop the so called single men, just the ones without a lot of money.

If you don't want singles, use your filters, and leave them for the couples that do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most single guys do there just looking for a quick leg over that’s not swinging it’s casual sex

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

There does seem to be very little of anything these days.

I think everyone is on Tinder. Or Snapchat.

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By *dventureSeeker23Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"so what do you think ?? are people forgetting its a swingers site ? for swingers into or wanting the lifestyle ?

Agree

the few have become the masses who spoil the site for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Site caters for a lot more than swingers now , exhibitionist , bdsm , etc etc . People use the site for a number of reasons . Everything evolves .

This does make meeting genuine swingers harder but you get out what you put in .

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I think there has always been a portion of people on here treat it as various things other than a swinging site.....

I don't think it's any different than it was when I first joined which was what, 14 or so years ago

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Site caters for a lot more than swingers now , exhibitionist , bdsm , etc etc . People use the site for a number of reasons . Everything evolves .

This does make meeting genuine swingers harder but you get out what you put in .

Us swinging, exhibitionist BDSM types have been here for quite some time!

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Personally I think the two initial entry requirements should be the membership fee (which isn't large) and mandatory photo verification. One you sign up to those two then you're in

However there needs to be an acceptance that it's not just about swinging in the traditional sense. I'm married (with permission) but don't have any interest in clubs or socials, I enjoy chatting with people on here, browsing the forums, writing the occasional dirty story for them and the even more occasional tribute. During my time here I hope to find a couple to play with on a fairly regular basis but if it doesn't happen it's not the end of the world. I hope that doesn't make we unwelcome to the more traditional swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should only get one week free, then you have to pay.

One week is long enough to see if you like the site or not.

And no coming back on for another week once your week is up, using the same email address..

And if you can be bothered making a different email address every week you are just sad.

But it won't happen because it makes the site look good with all these so called members.

But if the site was cleaned up , ie. If account has been dormant for over 6 months get rid. Etc.

But that won't happen either.

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By *ewiscypherMan
over a year ago

St Austell

"I think most single guys do there just looking for a quick leg over that’s not swinging it’s casual sex "

Not all of us though, or so I’d like to think.

All my experiences and fwb so far I’ve met in real life, on here for the first time to broaden horizons with people who are more honest and upfront than most about what they want from life, and if you have an interest in something more than one on one(as I have) it’s not a exactly a conversation easily started in a bar...

I’ve found it’s trickier on line than IRL because you can’t get immediate feedback on how your comments are landing, unlike a normal conversation, so been a bit trial and mostly error.

I think because posts and pictures are very up front people assume its like Tescos and you can't just have whatever you see on the shelf lol..

..and then are surprised and frustrated when it doesn’t turn out like that! But sadly go on to behave online in ways they probably wouldn’t do face to face (or I’d hope so), but that's probably true of all social media now.

Just like in real life it takes some effort to persuade others to let you in and establish a connection and that’s fine with me. I enjoy the chase, have had a few interesting exchanges on messenger, if they lead to something more, (cup of coffee is the initial ambition) then happy days...been enjoying the conversations where they progress.

Patience, manners and a lack of presumption feel the right way forward but happy to accept any tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a sex site and has been for a while now.

‘The lifestyle’ is only part of it

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

It’s still really good for meeting swingers on Fab ,just choose those who actually swing not that hard to spot

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By *arty84Man
over a year ago

Orpington

Hmm it is very much a bit of both, yes it's for swingers that want to socialize and swing with other couples/singles.

Buuuut it is a sex site as well, otherwise there wouldn't be the search options for singles looking for singles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

who ever said swingers are couples only ?? thats so not true swinging is about everyone male female couples so swinging is for all its only a few couples who think the scene is theres...

also you can still be a swinger and be into kink of any type and be as softcore or hardcore as you want to be ...

this is not an attack on anyone its just about the life style things like a message from someone asking for phone sex ..... someone asking for money or gifts to meet ... or your only perpose on the site is to be hot pic number one and on and on ...

this is not about men ruining it or because of them it ruins iot for us ot bed vrs good

the last 20 years we've met men only so we love men for us and our swinging lifestyle men (some) are awesome

those who say its a sex site i do agree but its a sex site for swingers thats the difference

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

this is not about fab its self ... fab as a site provide all the tools for the swinging lifestyle .... there is nothing out there that comes remotely close to fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so what do you think ?? are people forgetting its a swingers site ? for swingers into or wanting the lifestyle ?

Hope it changes for the better and soon

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By *eirdscienceMan
over a year ago

Postwick

It's like all things in current life, you've got to think about their feelings, liberal crap

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Is it possible that Covid, the lockdowns and endless debates as well as the aftermath have changed people's perception a bit? Not in a conscious way of not wanting swinging anymore but perhaps more subtle? Maybe it just takes time to re-adjust again?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I think I depends how you define swinging…..

I’m single, I only meet single men off fab.

I attend clubs regularly as a single gal.

I’ve dated off here, I have quickies off here with men i never plan to see again and I’ve made some of the best friends in the form of couples from clubs ever

Everyone uses it differently, don’t think it’s an issue, just block and move on if they aren’t for you!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

So that is always an issue....because it's a free site. Comes with the territory.

It also doesn't help the majority of accounts are single guys, faking stuff digitally is easy and some people just shouldn't be anywhere near this lifestyle.

Is fab dying? Nah. Unless a direct better alternative comes along it's not going anywhere. But it's community is certainly changing.

This…lockdown has certainly increased the people who clearly see this as a sex pick up site rather than an actual swinging site.

But then you get into the discussion of singles being swingers

It’s also lost a lot of genuine swingers, who won’t meet whilst Covid still continues so there does seem to be an imbalance currently.

But it has always attracted the wanking fodder due to it being free. And that will always continue until they stop non paying members to be able to contact anyone.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

See the same things being said. Swinging is only part of this site and people only see the bits they want to see. One of the biggest attractions of this site are the chat rooms and cams. Would say that is the largest group have no intetion of meeting or never did, just want to crack one off while being watched.

People are called time wasters and fakes because so called swingers think that everyone here is to meet. Guys think timewasters and fakes because people dont drop their pants just because they want.

I would probably say the vast number here are not here to meet, just here for cams, dirty talk and fantasies. The peole who are here to meet are only a small part of FAB. Just because they ate not here to meet does not make them time wasters or fakes. Some are obviously but certainly not as many as seemed to be clamed

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"Is it possible that Covid, the lockdowns and endless debates as well as the aftermath have changed people's perception a bit? "

A good point, well made.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

People use this site for whatever reasons they want.There are no rules to say you have to use the site a certain way. Why not just concentrate on those who are looking for the same thing as you and ignore the others. And what exactly is a swinger does it have to be a couple? then how would all these couples who are looking for threesomes get them if it was all couples.

I don't consider myself to be a swinger as such but I've had a lot of fun on here since I joined and made some amazing friends .If that doesn't suit what what others want or think should be on here I really couldn't give a rat's ass.I shall continue my journey on here .

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

I've been on the site for years and it hasn't really changed in my opinion,

The single Men to Women/couple ration is still huge and unless fab changed how you can join it never will,

I've never classed myself as a swinger and probably never will, If and when I hook up it will be either at a club or a "social party" and even that will be more spontaneous then pre planed, Chatting with friends/perving and passing the time away is the main reason I continue to come on fab

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By *areToShareCouple
over a year ago

Bingham

"so what do you think ?? are people forgetting its a swingers site ? for swingers into or wanting the lifestyle ?

Surely you're not implying that the knicker-selling skanks, the begs that are just here to scrounge for money or drugs, the single guys that pose as females or couples to get to look at your friends gallery photos..and other such ilk, are here for anything other than the true pampas grass and anklet wearing, swinging lifestyle the rest of us are here for?

Shame on you OP...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people see it as a hook up site now. Gone are the days when it was actually about "swinging" x

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By *istretchMan
over a year ago

leeds

The way you treat the site depends on your situation , if every one who was using it as a sex site stopped paying their £5.00 it would dissappear pretty quick .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,d describe Fab as an adult dating/swinging site ...and I,d describe most dating sites as dating/hook up sites..

There are a lot of profiles of all types on here that are not serious about meeting.

Maybe the perception of "swinging" some people have is now outdated.

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By *edandLouCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sometimes it seems to be an "anti single men" site. And we find that sad. We meet single males when the opportunity arises or when we choose to. To tar all single men with the "I'm here for a shag"brush is a bit unfair. Just our opinion.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

"The way you treat the site depends on your situation , if every one who was using it as a sex site stopped paying their £5.00 it would dissappear pretty quick ."

There is enough filters to block they type of people you don't want to meet and if you've been here awhile and still can't find what you're looking for maybe have a look at yourself instead of other site users

(not directed at anyone particular)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes it seems to be an "anti single men" site. And we find that sad. We meet single males when the opportunity arises or when we choose to. To tar all single men with the "I'm here for a shag"brush is a bit unfair. Just our opinion."
but you are a couple so you wouldn’t you want single men to join you & your partner I meant for us single ladies the single guys inundate us for a quickie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of people see it as a hook up site now. Gone are the days when it was actually about "swinging" x"

Surely hook up and swinging are the same thing? They are both a casual sexual encounter.

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By *ubbermaidbabyCouple
over a year ago

clwyd

For us it feels like it’s become way to serious, the fun seems to have gone somehow. Years back it genuinely felt a fun site but not so much these days.

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By *edandLouCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Sometimes it seems to be an "anti single men" site. And we find that sad. We meet single males when the opportunity arises or when we choose to. To tar all single men with the "I'm here for a shag"brush is a bit unfair. Just our opinion. but you are a couple so you wouldn’t you want single men to join you & your partner I meant for us single ladies the single guys inundate us for a quickie "

I appreciate what you're saying but the amount of profile blurbs or status updates saying no single guys is massive. Just use the filters. That's what they're there for.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"For us it feels like it’s become way to serious, the fun seems to have gone somehow. Years back it genuinely felt a fun site but not so much these days. "

Literally this!

Forums is just for everyone to moan haha!

Don’t like it, block and move on… who cares

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Don't think Fab is dying it probably has more active accounts than it has ever had in the eight or nine years we have been on here. The there has always been lots of fake, timewasters or picture hunters, call them what you will.

Covid clearly caused a lot of profiles to join who were curious or wanting a quick shag. I have deliberately not said single guys as we have had a lot of couples profiles send us the "meet now" message just recently.

These profiles quickly become disillusions and delete their accounts after a short while when they realise that it is not instashag.

If you are patient set you filters then you will eventually find the true swingers amounts all the deadwood, it just takes time and effort as with all things on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes it seems to be an "anti single men" site. And we find that sad. We meet single males when the opportunity arises or when we choose to. To tar all single men with the "I'm here for a shag"brush is a bit unfair. Just our opinion. but you are a couple so you wouldn’t you want single men to join you & your partner I meant for us single ladies the single guys inundate us for a quickie

I appreciate what you're saying but the amount of profile blurbs or status updates saying no single guys is massive. Just use the filters. That's what they're there for.

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yeah & I have x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got shot down in a post for saying it was a swingers site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman (who wants to remain a single woman) I feel a bit confused when I'm told I can't be classed as a swinger as I don't have a partner yet everyone seems to be looking for "unicorns".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am on here as a single guy. I am also part of a couple.

Not all single men are just looking for a quick shag. I can name many single women on here doing that too. So are we all saying it's OK for a single lady but not a single man. I have met some amazing ppl on here and remain great friends with anyone I have met on here.

There is no other sites like this hence many people join it. What about all the couples that are actually looking for single men, I guess that's OK too. Just use your filters it really is that easy, and let's face it we can all spot a fake miles away.

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I've been on here years and love it! You'll always get people trying to treat it as a joke and you see the odd person at club nights acting out but overall it's fantastic.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Our experience is that this site is full of mostly married men wanting a quick shag.

They want it now, they don't care what they shag and they want to do it behind their partners back!

Not swinging in the slightest and 90+ of the people on this site do not know what swinging is!

Sadly we have to agree.

We think that is an excellent idea. It would probably get rid of a significant number of timewasters, but retain those that are serious about swinging."

That’s a strange thing to say because it presupposes that ‘timewasters’ (however they’re defined) wouldn’t spend out money to ‘waste time’. Obviously, if they time waste, they get off on it and paying to do it won’t matter to them. Far better to improve ones selection processes to lessen the impact of people like that than moan about it all. The only thing you can change is yourself be that attitude, point of view, etc but not the actions of other people.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

At times yes I think it has, appears to be more like tinder at times. But sometimes one person stands out, understands the lifestyle and is respectful of choices x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Our experience is that this site is full of mostly married men wanting a quick shag.

They want it now, they don't care what they shag and they want to do it behind their partners back!

Not swinging in the slightest and 90+ of the people on this site do not know what swinging is!

Sadly we have to agree.

The site should do what others do; free to join, but paid membership to send/read private messages, and post in the forums/chatrooms. Making it a pay to use site would clear the bulk of timewasters who have (in the main) joined because they were bored during lockdown.

Those of us who choose not to be "milked" by the clubs really did not miss the clubs over the last 18 months

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

Perhaps the site should do the same as clubs and milk the single guys for a small fortune before they are allowed to join ??

We think that is an excellent idea. It would probably get rid of a significant number of timewasters, but retain those that are serious about swinging.

With that type of thinking maybe fab isn't for you, Even if fab did do something similar how many "single" Men would couple up

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Our experience is that this site is full of mostly married men wanting a quick shag.

They want it now, they don't care what they shag and they want to do it behind their partners back!

Not swinging in the slightest and 90+ of the people on this site do not know what swinging is!

Sadly we have to agree.

Those of us who choose not to be "milked" by the clubs really did not miss the clubs over the last 18 months

People can filter their messages by site supporters only so that option already exists for those that want to use it

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By *ubbermaidbabyCouple
over a year ago

clwyd

"For us it feels like it’s become way to serious, the fun seems to have gone somehow. Years back it genuinely felt a fun site but not so much these days.

Literally this!

Forums is just for everyone to moan haha!

Don’t like it, block and move on… who cares

Exactly way too serious!! Bring back the fun!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

So time wasters won’t spend out? When they get off on time wasting? Yeah good call

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Is it possible that Covid, the lockdowns and endless debates as well as the aftermath have changed people's perception a bit? Not in a conscious way of not wanting swinging anymore but perhaps more subtle? Maybe it just takes time to re-adjust again? "

my thoughts about it, exactly!

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

There’s a woman who pops up on my local updates.. giving a running commentary of where she’s going, what she’s doing or what she’s eating..

It’s not fucking fa##book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like there’s a lot of people just looking for one fwb, or someone to date and be vanilla. Isn’t that what plenty of fish is for?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Our experience is that this site is full of mostly married men wanting a quick shag.

They want it now, they don't care what they shag and they want to do it behind their partners back!

Not swinging in the slightest and 90+ of the people on this site do not know what swinging is!

Sadly we have to agree.

What about the single women on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating sites are for serial strange and bunny boiler stalkers. I like the relaxed, less needy almost fam vibe with swingers who are often happy loving couples. They haven’t come to appreciate me yet by yeah

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Dating sites are for serial strange and bunny boiler stalkers. I like the relaxed, less needy almost fam vibe with swingers who are often happy loving couples. They haven’t come to appreciate me yet by yeah

Men on dating sites never actually wanted to date, or want a fwb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel like there’s a lot of people just looking for one fwb, or someone to date and be vanilla. Isn’t that what plenty of fish is for? "

There's plenty to go around on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of people see it as a hook up site now. Gone are the days when it was actually about "swinging" x

Surely hook up and swinging are the same thing? They are both a casual sexual encounter.

I've spoken to couples on here who seem to think that swinging is couples swinging with other couples x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with couple 202

site is not like it used to be

I get more messages of guys just after sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with couple 202

site is not like it used to be

I get more messages of guys just after sex"

What did you get before that made it so different?

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over a year ago

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By *ed velvet thornWoman
over a year ago

over the rainbow

"I think most single guys do there just looking for a quick leg over that’s not swinging it’s casual sex "

A few of us women use the site for the same thing though let's not forget .... Its not just single guys

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Our experience is that this site is full of mostly married men wanting a quick shag.

They want it now, they don't care what they shag and they want to do it behind their partners back!

Not swinging in the slightest and 90+ of the people on this site do not know what swinging is!

Sadly we have to agree.

We think that is an excellent idea. It would probably get rid of a significant number of timewasters, but retain those that are serious about swinging."

If you charged men the time wasters would simply switch to couple profiles; like they do now. And would you include single females paying to eliminate sex discrimination?

What of the couples who want mfm meets? gang bangs? The spare men who pay a fortune to join would be those with money not those who are good to meet.

The only way forward as I see it is for Fab to effectively "police" the rules better and exclude and block those proven to be timewasters; as they do in clubs.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Personally I think a few simple changes to fab, without actually turning the site into a pay site or excluding any user of any gender would make all the difference.

I cant imagine it would be to hard to implement and given the memberships many of us pay for, I think the following would would make a huge difference.

1) Every user, or at least every new user who registers in the future, they have to be 100% to be photo verified before being able to use the site. Every single one. We all have smart phones, tablets, digital cameras or PCs with webcams. Yes, photos can be faked but it will put a lot of people off and a keen eye can spot a fake photo. Yeah some will go to the effort but it'll stop a lot of the fake bots and what have you among other things. It'll stop random d*unks making accounts with "fancy a fuck" in the title at 2.00am and it'll certainly stop other individuals using Fab to sell drugs, which yes, I have seen random accounts pop up in my area trying to score things at certain times in the week (and yes..I report it).

2) Change veris into a more structured system. I.E: Separate Webcam veris and Meet veris. By this I mean show webcam veris as a blue tick (for example) and physical meets as a green tick. Now a lot of people hide their veri's (as is their right) but it would make it a lot easier if we could tell which was which IF the person is not showing veris. Now it isnt going to change much but as a quick visual guide it helps. It makes it easy to say "oh..this account was cam verified...but that was 2015". May still be a legit person who does not want veris leaving but it just gives everyone else a quick bit of extra info that may not be obvious.

3) A gold tick veri. This is the "trusted member" tick. Now this would be aimed more at "event organisers, party hosts club workers or even people in the adult industry" but the idea here is, once you meet x amount of different account holders, say 30 for argument sakes, it's fair to say you are who you say you are. Not 30 veris in total but 30 different account holders and it can only be achieved (making it sound like a game here) through actual meets, not webcam veris. Again...I can understand some people not wanting to show such a tick (ergo it should be optional to display) but it would make it easy for people to see who is legit if say a social, private party gangbang or whatever is posted.

For a lot of the real swingers, which I assume all us forum users actually really are, we are having to put up walls and assume the worst. Be extra cautious etc due to the nature of how the site is now, how the community has changed from say 10 years ago (and yeah..we where originally about back then as well) and how easy it is to just install a random app on a smartphone. At least 10 years ago it was a new thing and a lot of people where not using smartphones back then.

Now before anyone says it, yes it's easy to to say "use common sense, use filters etc etc" but on the other hand a sites only as good as it's community and the features it offers. The negatives can put off new members who are really interested in the life style and yes, it's going to be a different story depending upon your location in the country but the cracks are there.

In general Fab should not ignore or dismiss some of the repeat complaints that keep popping up on the site (and lets be honest...they do) and should make it more welcoming to absolute newbies who are serious. Want to see what I mean? Go make a single female account and see what happens in the moments after you set it up.

Disproportional numbers in account types, pic hunters, time wasters, micky takers etc. Even straight up rude behaviour to many serious users. We've all seen them over and over. The community HAS changed so Fab should change at least a little as well and I firmly believe a few quality of life improvements on the site without changing the nature of the site could make it a better place for us all.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

What do you call a swinger, we have been in the lifestyle roughly 40 years and in all that time the main part of swinging was meeting others for sex, rather than going to parties and nightclubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love to comment but we just keep getting 7 day bans. So hello all..... Who wants to fuck

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

Nope, it’s a site we can make connections with people who might be into the same things as us. One of those things being ENM.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

this is so true.

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