The following apply to most of things on Fab. Maybe Admin could post it as a FAQ 
The comments are based on how we've found things, others may have a different approach/opinion.
1. Communication
This is the most important thing. First of all between the stag & vixen. If there are any questions, get them sorted before they become issues.
Discuss what your limitations are - soft/hard limits etc and stick to them initially, at least until you've had some experiences. Then you'll be in a better position to decide how far you want to go AND what won't happen.
For example: As general rule, we only meet at clubs or occasionally a hotel and never at home. So it surprised me when Vixen invited a couple we'd been playing with in a club back to her house. Fortunately, it was a scenario we'd discussed in advance and it was very hot to see her taking charge in this way.
Make sure the other person/people know what you want and find out what they would like. This way it saves any issues or embarrassment. It can feel funny saying 'we want to do this but not that' or asking someone what they like, but after a couple of times it become natural. As stag, it's my responsibility but that's just us.
2. Safety
This should be paramount. For example: I won't leave Vixen alone with anyone unless we played with them several times and earned out trust. I also look out of her if we're using glory holes etc, and make sure that things don't go beyond the boundaries we've agreed. It's very easy in the heat of passion to let things go too far, so in my opinion, it's the stag's responsibility to ensure that it stays within agreed limits.
Also, have a safe word which can be used in normal conversation without raising red flags. You never know when you might need to get out of something.
3. Reclaim Sex
Possibly the best bit about a stag/vixen relationship. It can be very intoxicating but it can also stir up some strong feelings, which leads nicely onto:
4. Feelings & emotions
These can be varied from couple to couple and even due to individual meets. Don't be surprised to feel jealous, guilt, desire and just about everything else. Provding you talk it out, it can make the relationship even stronger.
5. Changing roles
Stag & Vixen is just part of the 'swinging' spectrum. You might change to being a hot wife & cuck, or cuckqueen relationship. Don't be surprised if the lines get a bit blurred over time. After some experiences, you might find a liking for one thing or another.
As a side note, woe betide anyone who tries to treat me as a cuck. Not just from me but I dread to think what Vixen would do to them 
6. Take a break
This is supposed to be fun. If it stops being fun, then it's time to take a break, regroup and decide how/if you want to continue.
Hope this helps. It took a while to decide what to say.
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