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By *uv2kiss OP   Man
over a year ago

fenland

When you started on fab did you have a boundary in your head, soft swing or no kissing or no anal.

Have your boundaries changed over time and if so what made you reconsider?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My boundaries are no bareback, I won’t kiss men, and no piss, shit or spitting

Nothings changed there still my boundaries lol

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By *uv2kiss OP   Man
over a year ago

fenland


"My boundaries are no bareback, I won’t kiss men, and no piss, shit or spitting

Nothings changed there still my boundaries lol "

I love to kiss, but I do agree with all the rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safe sex is a must but I like to push my boundaries just a little bit, I love to kiss, it really puts me in the mood. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm talking to my Mrs and we thinking bout having a mfm or mainly me watching. I said my boundaries would be safe sex and anal kissing is a must from me

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By *uv2kiss OP   Man
over a year ago

fenland

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By *uv2kiss OP   Man
over a year ago

fenland


"I'm talking to my Mrs and we thinking bout having a mfm or mainly me watching. I said my boundaries would be safe sex and anal kissing is a must from me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safe sex is a limit for me.

Everything else,/ well, I had a friend who used to say, ‘try everything twice, except inc**t and country dancing’. That seems a fair rule!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always safe sex but as a rule anything else goes as long as we're comfortable with it barring water sports and pain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From when we started our boundaries have changed as we've gone along.

Things we might want to try that we didn't years ago move the boundaries.

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Boundaries are always meant to be PUSHED.

Right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine have pretty much stayed constant. No PPP, usually no anal, no car meets.

I have broken the car meets rule once though, and I've become far more confident with other women/bi play. I'm fine with unprotected sex, but no creampies anymore unfortunately. Xx

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

We always push the boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not going to say my boundaries have changed , I think Sir has just nudged them a little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have boundaries in place and they are still there OP.

Interested to know why boundaries have changed for some people though

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Our boundaries are more or less the same but we have moved from full swap to soft swing.

We probably take things a lot more slowly than many too.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

C was as vanilla as vanilla could get when she joined. She was debating joining the WI

Since then she’s taken herself down rabbit holes and pushed her boundaries in so many ways. She’s now bi and finding her level on the BDSM spectrum.

We got together and have continued to push boundaries in terms of our play sessions and toys bought. Toys we winced at 6 month ago have been bought and enjoyed.

C does not recognise the person she was sexually a couple of years ago…and we are always extending our sexual map. It’s led to exciting times

K

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By *ildatnightCouple
over a year ago

leeds

For now we just have cam fun and now looking to fuck in front of other couples /guys only touching each other tho so guess there are boundaries for now

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By *ildatnightCouple
over a year ago

leeds

For now we just have cam fun and now looking to fuck in front of other couples /guys only touching each other tho so guess there are boundaries for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Boundaries are always meant to be PUSHED.

Right?"

Only if it’s consensual. I have hard limits and soft limits, the soft limits can be pushed if agreed, anyone that pushed a boundary without checking with me, would be out of the door.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Boundaries are always meant to be PUSHED.

Right?"

I don't agree.

There's no value or virtue in pushing a boundary just for the sake of it. Some are in place for very good reasons

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Boundaries are always meant to be PUSHED.

Right?

Only if it’s consensual. I have hard limits and soft limits, the soft limits can be pushed if agreed, anyone that pushed a boundary without checking with me, would be out of the door."

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Boundaries are always meant to be PUSHED.

Right?

I don't agree.

There's no value or virtue in pushing a boundary just for the sake of it. Some are in place for very good reasons"

Exactly, it’s so important to respect that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have a good thing why ruin it?

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By *aoulDuke1Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Boundaries don't need to be pushed, but they do need to be checked every now and again, or at least some of them do.

We develop & change and get experience, and I certainly don't want to get stuck in a rut.

I'm not 'into' ws, but during a play session a while ago, S was sitting on my face and hinted that she needed a wee. I made eye contact and nodded and the next thing I know, I'm being pulled up the stairs by the hair, shoved on my back in the bath and she's hosing my cock & chest down... It was totally hot, but not something I want every time with her (and never anyone else). Unless the moment seems right at the time...

Or when I was fucking her and asked her to make me clean her up afterwards. Same caveats.

Boundaries are limits. Breaking them without consent is a hard no. Exploring them with someone you trust is hot AF, provided its safe, sane & consensual.

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Love your watersports story

Right up my street x

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

Ours have altered slightly from when we first joined x

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Ours have been amended x

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yes we had boundaries and they have pretty much stayed the same. They have been slightly moved and with one couple we broke the boundaries but always with each other agreement

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

What boundaries did you break?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We set certain boundaries but found them very inhibiting.In the moment certain things can become desirable so lots of discussions we now leave it up to each other to decide how far to go.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

It never ceases to amaze how many couples will not indulge in kissing others. She can suck cock, and get drenched in cum all she likes, and he can lick pussy that's been filled time after time, but kissing is something that is so personal to them that it's out of bounds to everyone else. For that reason I've always let the woman make the first move over kissing, when playing with a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve kinda answered your own question…. kissing for many couples is a sign of love so choose to keep it for themselves, all the rest is just seen as sex which I guess for many is more acceptable.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

So I take it that you don't kiss others that you play with either, which is fair enough, and underlines my reasoning for letting the lady make the first move when kissing comes into play, because I certainly wouldn't want to spoil the fun by over stepping the mark and kissing the lady, even though I've had tongues thrust down my throat at events as simple as socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm talking to my Mrs and we thinking bout having a mfm or mainly me watching. I said my boundaries would be safe sex and anal kissing is a must from me"

Shouldn't her boundaries take precedence?

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