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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it that for meets there is this list of serious criteria to get through? Its like applying for a job and people seem to forget were all human, social and meant to be having fun.I might have to write up a sex CV, past 'jobs/experiences', achievements and education. Personal preference does come into it but had a few exchanges of messages and seems im not seen as human, just a play thing. I get asked for a list of photos for their pre thought criteria before they will even consider meeting. Then get told to meet that night but not given a time or location. Last meet I had soon as they had both orgasmed enough i was told to leave before I had finished!

Swore I wouldnt do a single male rant and ive had fun in the past, its just all seem a bit pedantic in their nature sometimes. Are there any like minded laid back, down to earth people out there? Who would like to meet a usually laid back young male, good smile, looks after appearance and after fun, who aims to please and to have mutual pleasure.

Rant could be down to the lack of sex, never had such a long stretch before! Almost 3 months now, friend with benefits has been busy....going rather insane, never knew i relied on it so much until now! Stressed!

Sorry people, anyone else had problems with meets going wrong lately? And being left unsatisfied still?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why dont u just get out to some clubs?-easy answer...not saying ur gonna get sex...but moaning at home?-surely uve read too many rants, and seen the advice offered.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Its a very very serious business arranging spontaneous fun don't you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were closer we'd help you stop that drought x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amen buddy.

The unwarranted arrogance of some and just poor manners is truly astonishing.

If you want sex you can go any pub/bar and try your luck. But as you said this isn't a job. Surely it should be about fun and laughs not negotiation and accusations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a set criteria myself, no not the funny ones on my profile but the one I go by as if I just met them.

Say I met a couple or a woman during a night out and they demanded several things up front I would tell them where to go.

Why would I tell them where to go?

Plenty of better options available as it is the real world and not some website where you can go window shopping.

I refuse to bend over backwards just to see some woman naked, that isn't my style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a set criteria myself, no not the funny ones on my profile but the one I go by as if I just met them.

Say I met a couple or a woman during a night out and they demanded several things up front I would tell them where to go.

Why would I tell them where to go?

Plenty of better options available as it is the real world and not some website where you can go window shopping.

I refuse to bend over backwards just to see some woman naked, that isn't my style."

if she asked u to limbo-dance while looking up her skirt u would have to..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Amen buddy.

The unwarranted arrogance of some and just poor manners is truly astonishing.

If you want sex you can go any pub/bar and try your luck. But as you said this isn't a job. Surely it should be about fun and laughs not negotiation and accusations. "

I actually believe that people reluctant to meet are the ones throwing all the conditions in capitals at people who read their profiles. I wouldn't waste your energies on lost causes like that if you don't feel you satisfy such stringent requirements as you may have to provide a DNA sample and chart of paternal lineage on entry at a meet

Just keep looking and messaging people on here. Eventually one will buck the trend - no such thing as a never ending run of bad luck

Wolf

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

As there hasn't been a serious answer from a couple I'll add my thought:

Why not a criteria? Do I want to see a photo before I consider a meet? Yes, I have to find the guy attractive, doesn't mean my idea of attractive is the same as yours, but at least it's mine. I need that person to know what I'm willing to and what I'm not willing to do and therefore what he can expect in return. After all, you're the one asking me for a night of lust so it has to be what I want, the way I want it. Why shouldn't it be that way? If you don't want to meet me then fine, plenty do. That's their attitude because they're at a premium and single guys on this site are a dime a dozen and it can seem a harsh world in here but if you want to meet that lady/ couple you are going to have to expect to abide by their rules. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey thanks for the replies, sorry for the rant (once again)

I would join some clubs if it wasnt for the price, enjoyed them in the past but as a couple, i dont believe i should have to pay so much more for them as a single guy.

I'm looking forward to the thrill of meeting people once again, even if on a social basis. Probably need to update my profile and have it worded better (i keep trying but being dyslexia finding the right words is proving difficult)

thanks all :D

and I understand it being on the couples terms, its more when they say meet you tonight but dont follow it up that bugs me. I'm not so worried bout being turned down completely, least i know then :P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Agreed, just have to find those on my wave length :D


"Amen buddy.

The unwarranted arrogance of some and just poor manners is truly astonishing.

If you want sex you can go any pub/bar and try your luck. But as you said this isn't a job. Surely it should be about fun and laughs not negotiation and accusations.

I actually believe that people reluctant to meet are the ones throwing all the conditions in capitals at people who read their profiles. I wouldn't waste your energies on lost causes like that if you don't feel you satisfy such stringent requirements as you may have to provide a DNA sample and chart of paternal lineage on entry at a meet

Just keep looking and messaging people on here. Eventually one will buck the trend - no such thing as a never ending run of bad luck

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As there hasn't been a serious answer from a couple I'll add my thought:

Why not a criteria? Do I want to see a photo before I consider a meet? Yes, I have to find the guy attractive, doesn't mean my idea of attractive is the same as yours, but at least it's mine. I need that person to know what I'm willing to and what I'm not willing to do and therefore what he can expect in return. After all, you're the one asking me for a night of lust so it has to be what I want, the way I want it. Why shouldn't it be that way? If you don't want to meet me then fine, plenty do. That's their attitude because they're at a premium and single guys on this site are a dime a dozen and it can seem a harsh world in here but if you want to meet that lady/ couple you are going to have to expect to abide by their rules. Simple. "

I'm sorry to disagree vehemently with this, but I do.

Actually, real, genuine swinging single guys with a good attitude, great outlook and an understanding of just what swinging is all about are NOT a dime a dozen - they are as rare as single fems.

Everyone should have criteria and everyone has the right to be choosy - single men included. Thinking its just a bloke asking for a night of lust is wrong IMHO - this sort of attitude to single guys is a huge part of the problem why so many guys on this site adopt dysfunctional behaviour.

Its a two way deal and guys have the right to have their rules too. I will not play with anyone who believes that they 'hold all the cards'. No-one has the right to dictate terms over anyone else - and I wouldn't play with anyone who thought that way.

Swinging is a meeting of minds - if they are in sync, the rest will follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I completely disagree with your post although this is a swinging site personally I wouldn't sleep with every Tom,Dick and Harry there has to be some attraction for that person as this is a social site too....I know exactly what I'm looking for and it's definitely quality over quantity

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"I completely disagree with your post although this is a swinging site personally I wouldn't sleep with every Tom,Dick and Harry there has to be some attraction for that person as this is a social site too....I know exactly what I'm looking for and it's definitely quality over quantity "

me neither. Tinas, Donnas and Henriettas only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's usually a crap meet when rules and so on are laid out - hence why we generally only meet in clubs !

Of course it still happens that one is not always on the same wavelength even in a club , but generally it's usually great as there are less demands and it's jet what it is NSA sex !

Good single guys are hard to find too - especially as a couple as there are three of you looking to fulfill desires - we generally love meeting the guy who is jet like us and likes to just enjoy the fun , but it has to be said that when we have had our fun we do like to say goodbye and have fun together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont mind criteria

as long as she meets mines and vice versa its all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As there hasn't been a serious answer from a couple I'll add my thought:

Why not a criteria? Do I want to see a photo before I consider a meet? Yes, I have to find the guy attractive, doesn't mean my idea of attractive is the same as yours, but at least it's mine. I need that person to know what I'm willing to and what I'm not willing to do and therefore what he can expect in return. After all, you're the one asking me for a night of lust so it has to be what I want, the way I want it. Why shouldn't it be that way? If you don't want to meet me then fine, plenty do. That's their attitude because they're at a premium and single guys on this site are a dime a dozen and it can seem a harsh world in here but if you want to meet that lady/ couple you are going to have to expect to abide by their rules. Simple.

I'm sorry to disagree vehemently with this, but I do.

Actually, real, genuine swinging single guys with a good attitude, great outlook and an understanding of just what swinging is all about are NOT a dime a dozen - they are as rare as single fems.

Everyone should have criteria and everyone has the right to be choosy - single men included. Thinking its just a bloke asking for a night of lust is wrong IMHO - this sort of attitude to single guys is a huge part of the problem why so many guys on this site adopt dysfunctional behaviour.

Its a two way deal and guys have the right to have their rules too. I will not play with anyone who believes that they 'hold all the cards'. No-one has the right to dictate terms over anyone else - and I wouldn't play with anyone who thought that way.

Swinging is a meeting of minds - if they are in sync, the rest will follow.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I think disappointment comes from being to prescriptive.

I know lots of people are extremely specific on thier profiles because they say they know what they want but there's a lot to be said for not being so serious, going with the flow, relaxing and enjoying and if it doesn't turn out to be yur cup of tea then fine, you hopefully came away with something else instead ... a more human experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As there hasn't been a serious answer from a couple I'll add my thought:

Why not a criteria? Do I want to see a photo before I consider a meet? Yes, I have to find the guy attractive, doesn't mean my idea of attractive is the same as yours, but at least it's mine. I need that person to know what I'm willing to and what I'm not willing to do and therefore what he can expect in return. After all, you're the one asking me for a night of lust so it has to be what I want, the way I want it. Why shouldn't it be that way? If you don't want to meet me then fine, plenty do. That's their attitude because they're at a premium and single guys on this site are a dime a dozen and it can seem a harsh world in here but if you want to meet that lady/ couple you are going to have to expect to abide by their rules. Simple.

I'm sorry to disagree vehemently with this, but I do.

Actually, real, genuine swinging single guys with a good attitude, great outlook and an understanding of just what swinging is all about are NOT a dime a dozen - they are as rare as single fems.

Everyone should have criteria and everyone has the right to be choosy - single men included. Thinking its just a bloke asking for a night of lust is wrong IMHO - this sort of attitude to single guys is a huge part of the problem why so many guys on this site adopt dysfunctional behaviour.

Its a two way deal and guys have the right to have their rules too. I will not play with anyone who believes that they 'hold all the cards'. No-one has the right to dictate terms over anyone else - and I wouldn't play with anyone who thought that way.

Swinging is a meeting of minds - if they are in sync, the rest will follow.

"

Amen to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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if she asked u to limbo-dance while looking up her skirt u would have to.."

Asking is not demanding so yes, I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As there hasn't been a serious answer from a couple I'll add my thought:

Why not a criteria? Do I want to see a photo before I consider a meet? Yes, I have to find the guy attractive, doesn't mean my idea of attractive is the same as yours, but at least it's mine. I need that person to know what I'm willing to and what I'm not willing to do and therefore what he can expect in return. After all, you're the one asking me for a night of lust so it has to be what I want, the way I want it. Why shouldn't it be that way? If you don't want to meet me then fine, plenty do. That's their attitude because they're at a premium and single guys on this site are a dime a dozen and it can seem a harsh world in here but if you want to meet that lady/ couple you are going to have to expect to abide by their rules. Simple.

I'm sorry to disagree vehemently with this, but I do.

Actually, real, genuine swinging single guys with a good attitude, great outlook and an understanding of just what swinging is all about are NOT a dime a dozen - they are as rare as single fems.

Everyone should have criteria and everyone has the right to be choosy - single men included. Thinking its just a bloke asking for a night of lust is wrong IMHO - this sort of attitude to single guys is a huge part of the problem why so many guys on this site adopt dysfunctional behaviour.

Its a two way deal and guys have the right to have their rules too. I will not play with anyone who believes that they 'hold all the cards'. No-one has the right to dictate terms over anyone else - and I wouldn't play with anyone who thought that way.

Swinging is a meeting of minds - if they are in sync, the rest will follow.

"
couldn't have said better

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By *wfirsttimersCouple
over a year ago

kendal


"Yeah I think disappointment comes from being to prescriptive.

I know lots of people are extremely specific on thier profiles because they say they know what they want but there's a lot to be said for not being so serious, going with the flow, relaxing and enjoying and if it doesn't turn out to be yur cup of tea then fine, you hopefully came away with something else instead ... a more human experience."

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why wouldn't couples have a critera & expect to see photos before a meet?

people should be able to be as specific as they want, if someone doesn't like that they can simply walk away

we wouldn't meet anyone without a few pics and a bit of chat, just our preference

and on the flip side i'd rather couples we meet have seen us before meeting, otherwise you then have an increased risk of turning up and facing complete rejection..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do that sort of thing, prefer to relax afterwards cuddling and maybe do it all over again

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