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By *win Peaks OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

One night Nick said to me that she wanted to explore her bi side. After falling off the bed and giving it some thought (about 30 seconds) i reluctantly agreed to having to suffer watching and playing with other women . So we came to the conclusion that the best way of realising this was to go to a club.

Why did you start?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So i could have the best of both worlds...male and another female together.

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By *stmateMan
over a year ago

Notts

I thought I'd meet like minded ppl for mutual fun. Easier said than done lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit, I saw it in porn when I was a teenager and it totally turned me on. Decided to give it a go and bingo...the real thing was even better!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I guess it was to explore and realise a few dreams and fantasies at first, then it became more of a habit and found I actually enjoyed the scene and most of the people involved.

I have met some truly fantastic people and had some amazing experiences along the way, and quite possibly never experienced them if it were not for the swinging scene.

I had always had plenty of female partners over the years, so it was not a lack of sex or anything like that, just the thrill and rush of meeting like minded open people who knew exactly what they wanted.

I would find it hard to give it up now, it's become part of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some strange reason I can't get a regular girlfriend and being a man I have needs! So at the recomendation of someone I was chatting to, I joined here!

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"So i could have the best of both worlds...male and another female together."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

something to do on a saturday night lol. No seriously, to explore my bi side (jules) and have fun and meet new people, sex is good too

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

To catch an ex that was on here and forgot to mention it... He went I stayed....

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"To catch an ex that was on here and forgot to mention it... He went I stayed.... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admitted to my wife about my bi-curious side about 7years ago initially, and she was understanding enough to give me the confidence to go for it, even admitting to me that she was herself intrigued as to her curiosity towards sex with another female.

I searched on the internet at the time and also saw one of the channels on TV of a satellite service, about a few times, and went for my first meet.

Since that time I found I enjoyed myself after the initial nerves of every meet, and I continue to this day!

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I went to my first ever social from a swinging site. Had previously met guys 1on1 and mmf from the site...

Went along to the social....... Ended up at a 13 (i think it was 13) person orgy that night after the social

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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago

Tyneside

Same here carol wanted to try another woman as she did it years ago , so i said why not took about 4 months to get our first meet , after that well as you can tell we have enjoyed ourselves

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"I went to my first ever social from a swinging site. Had previously met guys 1on1 and mmf from the site...

Went along to the social....... Ended up at a 13 (i think it was 13) person orgy that night after the social "

My kind of girl

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

To save my marriage - it didn't work.

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over a year ago

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By *urious.coupleCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"To save my marriage - it didn't work."

Who's suggestion was it?

Why did you think it would help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much same for me. The wife said we should start seeing other people. This site was just one that we both signed up to meeting people as singles.

I did suggest linking up and doing a couples swap together as a shared experience in the hope that it would save the marriage but she wasn't interested. Divorce time. =/

She's also on here but doesn't use the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd sussed out that dating websites crossed over into this area in any case.

And so many fantasies are more achievable from this lifestyle

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"To save my marriage - it didn't work.

Who's suggestion was it?

Why did you think it would help?"

1/ It was a joint decision.

2/ Because the bedroom was the only area where things weren't working between us - or so we thought at the time - so by introducing sex from other sources we'd hoped it would fix our issues.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

was in a 3 year relationship where sex was non existent and i was made to feel as if i was attacking him every time i tried to initiate it.

when the relationship ended a guy i have been chatting to for year online suggested i check the site out and the rest, as they say, is history

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that the same for all of us here that ended up here as singles? Lol. I mean ironically I felt the same way like I was being 'disgusting/dirty' just for wanting sex.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Is that the same for all of us here that ended up here as singles? Lol. I mean ironically I felt the same way like I was being 'disgusting/dirty' just for wanting sex. "

i once dressed up al sexy....wearing glossy tights etc which i knew he liked (he used o take pics of womens legs in town on his phone!) and got told when he walked in

'get changed out of that'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started 6 months after we got married and on and off with kids etc, for 34 years

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Is that the same for all of us here that ended up here as singles? Lol. I mean ironically I felt the same way like I was being 'disgusting/dirty' just for wanting sex. "

Can't speak for everyone but there's a certain amount of truth in that statement in my case... despite my missus claiming to be sexually open and liberal.

Actually, she probably is sexually open and liberal - just she wasn't with me

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"To catch an ex that was on here and forgot to mention it... He went I stayed.... "

I was in a sexless marriage we split up then I kind of ended up in this relationship.. Someone saw him on here and I joined here to catch him... Best thing I have ever done and I have not looked back... Best experiences of my life have been through fab...

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Started 6 months after we got married and on and off with kids etc, for 34 years"

Reading posts like this makes me jealous.

I'm not looking for a relationship but sometimes I do miss not being in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Total honesty in this game is the only way. And if your relationship is rocky don't bother

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Total honesty in this game is the only way. And if your relationship is rocky don't bother "

Yep, can relate to that now.

Someone on here who I have a lot of respect for made a very similar comment when I wrote something similar to what I posted earlier shortly after joining, whilst still in a relationship. I didn't fully take their advice on board at the time.

Hopefully they'll see this post and know who they are, so they realise how much I value their comment now even if I didn't do so at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

got caught having sex in car years ago with a ex partner and asked what the guy was doing and he said dogging you so did google search on internet and never looked back on ething lead to another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To add a bit of fun to our already great sex life. I have a fantasy to watch D getting fucked a long time but it was stored in the ol wank bank. D has been Bi as for long as she can remember and we thought this would be a fun way of both our fantasies to be played out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a friend who is a swinger and was just fascinated hearing all the stories about what her and her hubby got upto

Was looking for what to get hubby for his birthday so decided on taking him to a swinging club

And the rest is history

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By *onestbabeWoman
over a year ago

canvey

I met a guy on a chat site and he told me about swinging parties.and then he took me to one then it went from there.I have all the fun and not a relationship.and have met some great couples and singles.and become great freinds so it can't be bad.

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By *ickiemintMan
over a year ago

Somewhere NW London

It started as a jokey remark by Su about 15 years ago. After then talking about it seriously over quite a while, we took a giant leap into the unknown with some close friends who were in on the conversations, and have enjoyed it ever since. Until very recently, its only ever been within a very close circle of friends. But its now part of the glue that keeps us together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love amatuer porn and one thing led to another and im here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a sexless marriage, and made a new years resolution to remind myself what it was like before I got too old.

Got more than I bargained for - but loving it!

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

we both loved watching porn so natural progression to watch + join for real

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

As usual, role playing in bed, me on my knees, bum in air and he said " wouldn't it be great if someone was behind you right fucking you hard" and i said I thought it would be great. We looking up adult clubs, went to abfabs a few weeks later and we've been at it ever since. Still my favorite position - getting it from behind while giving a bj, yummy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had always been interested in swinging as had a local dogging spot near where i lived. When the opportunity to embrace they lifestyle i did and that was over 12 years ago x

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We had just got together when we decided to try a swinger club - we'd both been married before and had numerous affairs and one night stands while we were with our exes, so there was no chance of either of us being "faithful" during our relationship - we love sex too much! We found swinging was a good way of getting sexual variety without deceit, and we've been doing it regularly for nearly 10 years now.

If swinging was more usual, more couples would stay together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's easy, i've got heart failure and my wife has needs lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started swinging because I was 'pushed' into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was bored, needed a bit of excitement and decided I'm not ready for the readers digest, my slippers and dressing gown just yet.

I'm having a ball on here and intend to carry on for a while yet! Met some amazing ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

met a couple who were on here way before i even knew this place existed , had some fun they suggested i joined , then they left after a while have never seen them since , however had a blast so far on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at 19yr old i realised what was called swinging was normal...everyone else had hangups

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

We have an active a varied sex life in the bedroom, bathroom and occassionally the garden ...lol

We progressed through bdsm and webcam. We got talking to friends and they told us they were swingers and shared some stories with us. Later that night I put my hand on the thighs of both women and said I bet he wished he was me. I left the table, came back to find him in my seat with one hand on his wifes' breat and the other inside my wifes' top feeling her breast and thought f**k me that's hot.

Well it took a long time to work out boundries, safe words and build up the nerve to try it. Now we've tried it we love it. We are still new and taking things slowish but having the time of our lives... Risky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started because its a easy way to get sex :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just love sex

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By *ayseanMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Although i had seen programmes/documentaries on swinging,like louis theroux,which is where i 1st thought this looks fun! Id never really looked into the scene until last december really,checked out where the nearest swing clubs were,(chams for me)went along for a couple of nights,had some fun,met some cool like minded people,and they told me about this site,and through fab+other sites iv met some great people,actually my 1st meet through a website was off the other site+was really nerve wracking at 1st,but ended up being really horny as i met a couple where the husband enjoyed me fucking his wife in front of him,so found that situation a real turn on+love to do more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest i dont class myself as a swinger, i dont see what i do as swinging, i just use swinging sites and the parties they open up for me, clubs etc to find people for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started with my 1st wife back in 1988, got d*unk one night when her sister was staying over, ended up in bed with both of them ( i used to go out with the sister before the wife ).

Next my long term g/f. Told her about the sisters experiance and she said she always fancied 2 guys, we tried it and thats when i found out i like watching her have sex with guys more than i liked 2 woman.Went to a few clubs, she found out she was bi and wanted to see me have sex with a woman. Thats when i started swinging for real i guess.

I then met Helen, told her how i was a swinger, how i get turned on watching my partner have sex with men and she said " yummy " tried it, loved it and finds it a huge turn on herself. Lucky for me, she gets the same kick out of seeing me have sex as i do her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started after I got hurt badly by a gf I was with after my divorce. She dropped the bomb out of the blue and shattered my world. It took a while for me to recover and I have lost the confidence of getting into a relationship.

This site works well with my needs, and fits around my hectic work/private life.

Also my ex wife was never really into sex. I was made to feel guilty for wanting or initiating sex, and was lucky to have it once a month.

So with all you horny sexy people on here it works very well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought I'd meet like minded ppl for mutual fun. Easier said than done lol"

Dont feel "singled' out As a couple we also find it difficult to find genuine meets and have our fair share of timewasters (couples)

We began swinging for pleasure not frustration lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hands were no longer able to satisfy me sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought I'd meet like minded ppl for mutual fun. Easier said than done lol"

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WE both had the courage to admit to each other that after years of being faithful to each other, we both fancied sleeping with other people (we are both str8!!) and decided to go for it!!

We are happily married and swinging has strenghthened our relationship as well as boosted our sex life

We have had some wonderful times with equally broad minded couples and lookin forward to many more.............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WE both had the courage to admit to each other that after years of being faithful to each other, we both fancied sleeping with other people (we are both str8!!) and decided to go for it!!

We are happily married and swinging has strenghthened our relationship as well as boosted our sex life

We have had some wonderful times with equally broad minded couples and lookin forward to many more.............

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