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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey everyone,

Hope your all well and enjoying the sunshine we have been having. I’ve noticed a lot of guys putting up threads about getting no meets etc, I’m in the same boat. I’m sending polite and professional messages and not even getting a reply.

A little about me. I’m 34 I’m employed and have two businesses, I’m a single dad to a almost 2 year old boy, and I’d say a genuine and honest person. We all have needs which is why I’m here, zero time for a relationship but would like to meet women who are looking for a drink or two along with more after. I’m just wondering why I’m getting no response? Is it my photos? Is it my profile? Is it just me?… am I in the wrong place to look for what I’m looking for?.. obviosuly I want a connection with someone before heading into bed with them, but I’m struggling to figure out why I’m getting nothing? If it’s me, then it is what it is lol

Would appreciate the help.

Thanks

My names Antony btw x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi Antony

Your profile reads well and you have some decent pics on your profile.

It can be a numbers game on fab, maybe a club or social would be better for you.

Join in on the forums too and get known.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey thanks for your reply Aswell as your opinion it’s greatly appreciated.

I will do my best to become as active as poss on the forum side of things. I’m sure your right with it being a numbers game, it’s one of those things I have no idea how attractive I am hahaha.

Thank you for your reply though x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Please don't be offended if I kindly decline your offer. I am fussy who I spend my time with".

Do you get so many women desperate to meet you that you need to say this on your profile ?

Also you need to decide if you are 6'2 or 6'3 !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your reply. I wasn’t aware my height was different but now I’ve amended that, I am 6ft 2. Also, I have deleted the comment you referred to about declining, i didn’t put it there to make it look like I got lots of messages, I just didn’t want to come across rude if I didn’t reply. I get it though, probs not best to of said that, so thank you for your opinion x

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It’s not a bad profile to be honest although I’d say it’s more a dating profile than a FAB profile.

You need to mix your pics up…out of all your pics, you’ve basically got two pic types. So you are just repeating the same pose different location

You say you’re an adrenaline junkie but there’s not much fun or personality in your pics to reflect that.

I’m nit picking as you’ve got a good base - you just need to show more of your personality.

It’s a safe profile - nothing edgy, just nice. If that’s your style then that’s good.

Good luck

K

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I agree with your comments about the pics. It's all face or chest. I was expecting to see an adrenaline junkie pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and find town / socials they are generally held in pubs and I've found them the easiest way to get veri's and then connect with people. Some have been ladies that didn't respond to messages but viewed me differently when meeting.

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

As a business owner I bet you might be picky who you employ, it's the same here on fab. You can't employ everyone you come across, women don't fuck everyone they come across either.

Also fab is like real life,especially for guys if you go to a pub to pull you might get lucky, more often you might not.

Don't expect too much, be patient and stay polite as you are and things will eventually click.

Profile looks good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is fine, better than many for sure.

You are only looking for single women not couples (which is fine) but that really means the numbers are against you, there is literally hundreds of single guys on fab for every single women and couple, take couples out and you stretch those odds much further.

I would continue to keep your profile, engage on the forums and look for social events in your area.

Also as said it comes over more as a dating profile rather than a swingers (again that's fine) but I wouldnt just rely on fab alone in that case, the swipe right / left website is full of women looking for what you want and the ratios are much more 50/50 so I would also be looking there as well.

Good luck

KJ

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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

I agree with the others you need to be more imaginative with your pictures. You just have to bide your time can take a long time to make a break through

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By *orrow my wifeCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Build your social structure at socials , clubs and forums and it will open up opportunities x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for your advise, I will defo take this on bird. I’ll keep my eyes and ears out for socials in my area, aswell as try and create a more varied photo gallery.

Really appreciate you all taking the time to help.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Your bio is repetitive and you use the word professional twice and also in your original post here. It's a marmite term and will immediately turn a lot away from your profile.

It's a very safe generic profile apart from that with not even a hint of humour or the edginess normally associated with adrenaline junkies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always nice to see a massive dog lover. Woof!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always nice to see a massive dog lover. Woof! "

Thanks, dogs are amazing. I could never be with out a four legged best friend x

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Your bio is repetitive and you use the word professional twice and also in your original post here. It's a marmite term and will immediately turn a lot away from your profile.

It's a very safe generic profile apart from that with not even a hint of humour or the edginess normally associated with adrenaline junkies. "

The word Professional does put us off a little (we're an unprofessional couple), however it's about the whole profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a bad profile, although I also do when I see the word ‘professional’.

Your pics are pretty much a collection of selfies, perhaps use a remote shutter button and some imagination.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Always nice to see a massive dog lover. Woof! "

Do you only love massive dogs ?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just looking for some uncomplicated and I'm attached fun"

Did you intend saying this ?

Personally I find your status offputting "If Covid doesn't take you out can I"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always nice to see a massive dog lover. Woof!

Do you only love massive dogs ?"

No Jack Russells!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love all dogs, always will … all types x

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By *entlegiant64Man
over a year ago

craigavon

We all in the same boat ... It is numbers .. The men outnumber the women ide say 10 to one .. Also if you have depression Fab is a dangerous place for you with constant rejection ect ... But be assured by this thred alone its completly normal here and its not just you .. To be honest its like the lottery . and if your not in then ya cant win lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Please don't be offended if I kindly decline your offer. I am fussy who I spend my time with".

Do you get so many women desperate to meet you that you need to say this on your profile ?

Also you need to decide if you are 6'2 or 6'3 !"

Loads of women put things like that on their profile...is there something in the fab rulebook that men can't?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're 6ft2 pal so you should have no problems...you're already 80% there haha

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Compared to most of the single guys profiles on here, yours is far better than most.

Maybe go into what kinky stuff you like as like someone said above it's more like a general dating profile.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It's an ok profile compared to the majority on here. I'm sorry to say it sounds a little boring, and 'tindery'. But you're a nice looking guy, tall able to accommodate. Maybe with 2 businesses the gallies are wondering how would fit them in?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're 6ft2 pal so you should have no problems...you're already 80% there haha"

Hahaha I’m guessing height isn’t everything hahaha but thanks for the compliment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Compared to most of the single guys profiles on here, yours is far better than most.

Maybe go into what kinky stuff you like as like someone said above it's more like a general dating profile."

Hey,

Thanks for helping, I’ll defo look into adding my likes for sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's an ok profile compared to the majority on here. I'm sorry to say it sounds a little boring, and 'tindery'. But you're a nice looking guy, tall able to accommodate. Maybe with 2 businesses the gallies are wondering how would fit them in?

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Hey thank you for the compliments you made, it’s appreciated. It’s nice to know for sure. Being the owner always means I can make the time to fit the girlies in, so that’s never a problem

Yes my profile sounding boring seems to be mentioned a lot, I’m not great at that so I’ll do my best to get that turned around ASAP. Thank youuuuu xx

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