FabSwingers.com forum: I need help with getting some meets on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies is there something wrong with me why I can't get meets , lads feel free to comment

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By *arty84Man
over a year ago

Orpington

From what I've been advised of by others for my profile, you need to change your profile pic and not to a penis profile one. Your current one makes it look like your the woman, so understably confusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your age range to 71 op and then your inbox will explode!!!!!

Nothing is guaranteed on here so just chill and enjoy the journey and accept that meets will come when they come.

Best of luck.

Tony

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I would get some better photos for a start

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By *outhEastPaulMan
over a year ago

Thames Ditton surrey

PML

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

"I would get some better photos for a start"

I'll agree with this as personally your profile avatar puts me off for a start op

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Same as others said with pics, if I can see more of a woman on a single male profile, it's an automatic delete.

Also get rid of the warning at the end, it's meaningless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude, you have only been here 8 weeks! It takes some guys longer than that just to get a reply let alone a meet. This site isn't Instashag.com, so chill, enjoy the show and take it for what it is. The ratio is about 200 guys to every single woman on here, so don't be squawking you can't get a meet.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I'm surprised you need any help, being "a true alpha".

Frank

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By *igtatsMan
over a year ago

gravesend

"I'm surprised you need any help, being "a true alpha".

Frank"

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

"I'm surprised you need any help, being "a true alpha".

Frank

An Alpha, a true Alpha would never declaire that they are one. Stating you are a master at making her cum first is off putting. And wanting a lady to be creative yet skilled? Your age range starts at 18, skills are learnt over time. Lose the statment at the end as others have said. And bi cock sucking as profile pic will put many off. 8 weeks is no time on this site. Exspect tripple that and half a dozen fakes and time wasters before a meet.

Happy swinging.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Oh and you Fab straight

thats not confusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies is there something wrong with me why I can't get meets , lads feel free to comment "

Drowning in Alpha males on here

Do you have something else, nobody else has?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This line made me laugh OP

"make me wanna nut before putting it in HMU

It's something the teens I work with might say not something I thought a 30 year old man would put on a swinging profile. However if it truly represents who you are then I'd keep it in buddy

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Institutions.....

Nobody gives a shit about us, honestly - DELETE!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Any advice given is pointless really because your existing profile as it is now is a truer reflection of who you really are.

If you change it to suit what you think people want to see or add suggestions from other members it becomes a collection of opinions.

I would leave it exactly as it is rather than try to be someone or something you're not.

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

Firstly your photos are a complete turn off.

Your profile text contains acronyms that I had to look up, maybe I’m too old though.

All this Alpha but more so, A ‘True Alpha’ can be off putting for many. So you are a master at making her cum first? Everyone is different so that’s a bit of a sweeping statement.

Lose the warning message at the end, it’s meaningless, pointless and shows lack of intelligence.

Oh and you’re in the ratio of around 350:1 men to women.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

"Ladies is there something wrong with me why I can't get meets , lads feel free to comment

Drowning in Alpha males on here

Do you have something else, nobody else has?"

I got a wife that would cut my dick off if she found out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That first sentence would send me running, I don’t like to be told I’ll cum first, what if you can’t make me cum first.

What even is an alpha.

I would delete the pics and start again, no filters, just you, some clear good body shots.

Take out the disclaimer too.

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By *xhibitionisticvoyeurMan
over a year ago

Wrexham

Grammar.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Replace that bullshit disclaimer nonsense with something interesting. It means nothing and nobody cares!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op nothing wrong with a cock pic or two dont lket the few tell you what all women like or dont like your profile about you ....

now the real problem is the sheer numbers of you...men you are plentyful again dont let that put you off ... be you be kind and non abusive and hopefully you'll get there ...remember the view of the forum are very very small part of the swinging scene

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Your profile is perfect, tells me everything I need to know.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Quote some Shakespeare - women luv that shit.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

I think the above sums up your profile.

To add, FAB is an information and community resource site for swingers first and foremost.

It is not an Instagshag site!!

If that is what you are expecting, you will be sorely disappointed.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I'm surprised you need any help, being "a true alpha".

Frank"

Frank being Frank again

(absolutely agree though)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quote some Shakespeare - women luv that shit.

Erm. Looks at today's update.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is perfect, tells me everything I need to know."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the above sums up your profile.

To add, FAB is an information and community resource site for swingers first and foremost.

It is not an Instagshag site!!

If that is what you are expecting, you will be sorely disappointed.

fab has all types of swingers who swing many different ways alot of swinger do infact like the insta shag types the random meets all set up in a jiffy ... there is nothing in the swinging scene that screams we follow rules of the few

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By *elilah999Woman
over a year ago

Malton

"I would get some better photos for a start

I'll agree with this as personally your profile avatar puts me off for a start op "

Why does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

+++ to add some of you having a laught at him dont have a clue yourselve by the looks of some of the blank profiles ?? at least hes trying

give the young guy a chance he clearly dont know the scene as yet but we were all new to this at one point

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By *elilah999Woman
over a year ago

Malton

"Any advice given is pointless really because your existing profile as it is now is a truer reflection of who you really are.

If you change it to suit what you think people want to see or add suggestions from other members it becomes a collection of opinions.

I would leave it exactly as it is rather than try to be someone or something you're not.

This is interesting. Try and please all. You'll end up pleasing nobody. Everyone is different and will have different opinions.

Target those people who you want to meet.

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By *elilah999Woman
over a year ago

Malton

"+++ to add some of you having a laught at him dont have a clue yourselve by the looks of some of the blank profiles ?? at least hes trying

give the young guy a chance he clearly dont know the scene as yet but we were all new to this at one point"

Here, here

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Quote some Shakespeare - women luv that shit.

Erm. Looks at today's update.

Ha ha. See - i was right.

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

Get out op

try the supermarket or pubs and clubs you will have better odds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get out op

try the supermarket or pubs and clubs you will have better odds"

Or pop in to the local butcher’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So my thoughts would be, i no particular order,

1) amend the profile wording. I know it's probably how you speak but it may not be how a lot of people on here do and it may put some off. That isn't having a pop because if you ever heard me speak I sound like Benny off Crossroads.

2) Maybe explain what you like and how you would like to get to understand what the lady / couple like. That may be via chat or social but also if you are getting down to it from what they say and do and what their actions are telling you.

3) As and when you do meet remember that no matter what stage the proceedings are at, if they say stop or no then do so. You can ask what the problem is and if you can resolve it then great; If not then learn and retire gracefully.

I think some more photo's of just you would be good as you are trying to sell yourself, your image and your personality (even though it's a site where people look to meet others for sex a lot still want to enjoy being with the person).

Anyway they are my thoughts, I hope that helps.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"I think the above sums up your profile.

To add, FAB is an information and community resource site for swingers first and foremost.

It is not an Instagshag site!!

If that is what you are expecting, you will be sorely disappointed.

Your comments are valid.

However realistic expectations are needed here.

To gain any oportunities within the swinging community individuals need to work at networking and socialising with others...

Yes there is a meets section and some individuals may meet unverified minimal profiles with one dick pic.

But the vast majority don't..

A good profile and networking through different mediums such as events clubs forums and chat rooms will open more doors than say spamming 100 meets or profiles with a message of "fancy a shag!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what a suprise another guy moaning about not getting meets, but has put no effort in, there are loads of great guys on here, so do them a favour and stop diluting the pool, there are far to many guys on here as it is, most put in no effort, and then moan about it.

Expecting the slating

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

The apron string in the clutched hand gives you away op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the above sums up your profile.

To add, FAB is an information and community resource site for swingers first and foremost.

It is not an Instagshag site!!

If that is what you are expecting, you will be sorely disappointed.

Your comments are valid.

However realistic expectations are needed here.

To gain any oportunities within the swinging community individuals need to work at networking and socialising with others...

Yes there is a meets section and some individuals may meet unverified minimal profiles with one dick pic.

But the vast majority don't..

A good profile and networking through different mediums such as events clubs forums and chat rooms will open more doors than say spamming 100 meets or profiles with a message of "fancy a shag!"

"I think the above sums up your profile.

To add, FAB is an information and community resource site for swingers first and foremost.

It is not an Instagshag site!!

If that is what you are expecting, you will be sorely disappointed.

Your comments are valid.

However realistic expectations are needed here.

To gain any oportunities within the swinging community individuals need to work at networking and socialising with others...

Yes there is a meets section and some individuals may meet unverified minimal profiles with one dick pic.

But the vast majority don't..

A good profile and networking through different mediums such as events clubs forums and chat rooms will open more doors than say spamming 100 meets or profiles with a message of "fancy a shag!"

erm i think youll find the vast majority in fact do ... the swinging world is not according to the very small forums most people who swing dont even use clubs most meet and play at the same time .. people have to stop assuming the forums and its user's are the rule they are not there are 1.000s of couple's out there swinging with a fuck n go type meet and never meet them again ...

realistic expectations for many guy just that a fuck and go and why well because it works for a hell of alot of them the forum 1% vrs the swinging scene 99%

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

"I would get some better photos for a start

I'll agree with this as personally your profile avatar puts me off for a start op

Why does it? "

Because at the time it was a cock picture

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

"Dude, you have only been here 8 weeks! It takes some guys longer than that just to get a reply let alone a meet. This site isn't Instashag.com, so chill, enjoy the show and take it for what it is. The ratio is about 200 guys to every single woman on here, so don't be squawking you can't get a meet."

This exactly, be patient, make your presence know by contributing on the forums in a positive way, I was 6 months plus before even getting some message exchanges let alone a whiff of a meet. well thought out profile write up and some good photos without too much cock in your face seem to be more acceptable until at least you get asked for a cock picture.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"I think the above sums up your profile.

To add, FAB is an information and community resource site for swingers first and foremost.

It is not an Instagshag site!!

If that is what you are expecting, you will be sorely disappointed.

Your comments are valid.

However realistic expectations are needed here.

To gain any oportunities within the swinging community individuals need to work at networking and socialising with others...

Yes there is a meets section and some individuals may meet unverified minimal profiles with one dick pic.

But the vast majority don't..

A good profile and networking through different mediums such as events clubs forums and chat rooms will open more doors than say spamming 100 meets or profiles with a message of "fancy a shag!"

I think the above sums up your profile.

To add, FAB is an information and community resource site for swingers first and foremost.

It is not an Instagshag site!!

If that is what you are expecting, you will be sorely disappointed.

Your comments are valid.

However realistic expectations are needed here.

To gain any oportunities within the swinging community individuals need to work at networking and socialising with others...

Yes there is a meets section and some individuals may meet unverified minimal profiles with one dick pic.

But the vast majority don't..

A good profile and networking through different mediums such as events clubs forums and chat rooms will open more doors than say spamming 100 meets or profiles with a message of "fancy a shag!"

realistic expectations for many guy just that a fuck and go and why well because it works for a hell of alot of them the forum 1% vrs the swinging scene 99%"

We will agree to disagree.

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By *elilah999Woman
over a year ago

Malton

"what a suprise another guy moaning about not getting meets, but has put no effort in, there are loads of great guys on here, so do them a favour and stop diluting the pool, there are far to many guys on here as it is, most put in no effort, and then moan about it.

Expecting the slating"

I don't think he's moaning. As I didn't see it as anything more than an honest question?.

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By *elilah999Woman
over a year ago

Malton

Love it. Well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank you, Done

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank you so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your location nothing quite as off putting as Bradford.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Change your location nothing quite as off putting as Bradford. "

wow what a vile thing to say ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Change your location nothing quite as off putting as Bradford. "

Your comment way more off-putting than his location, mate

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

The user name could be changed and no cock pictures

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