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If you have been in a D/s relationship how long have you been out of the scene?

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

It’s an addiction and the longer you don’t engage, the more it calls to you.

With Covid it’s been four years for me.

How about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two years for me, but the longer I go the fussier I get in terms of my expectations from another one. Not sure if I’ve just got used to being on my own and not answering to anyone else, that I’m now putting obstacles in the way. But on the other hand, the feeling of being in that dynamic is what I crave. Who knows what it is, but I’m sure if the right opportunity comes up I will just know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just for clarification, what is a D/s relationship?

Apologies for my ignorance.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Two years for me, but the longer I go the fussier I get in terms of my expectations from another one. Not sure if I’ve just got used to being on my own and not answering to anyone else, that I’m now putting obstacles in the way. But on the other hand, the feeling of being in that dynamic is what I crave. Who knows what it is, but I’m sure if the right opportunity comes up I will just know "

Please don’t answer if you don’t want too.

What broke it?

For me it was an odd combination of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s been very difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two years for me, but the longer I go the fussier I get in terms of my expectations from another one. Not sure if I’ve just got used to being on my own and not answering to anyone else, that I’m now putting obstacles in the way. But on the other hand, the feeling of being in that dynamic is what I crave. Who knows what it is, but I’m sure if the right opportunity comes up I will just know

Please don’t answer if you don’t want too.

What broke it?

For me it was an odd combination of things."

He cheated and left for another woman. Left me questioning the whole relationship and everything he had taught me.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Just for clarification, what is a D/s relationship?

Apologies for my ignorance. "

Not a problem, Domination/submissive.

The relationship bit is what makes it special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just for clarification, what is a D/s relationship?

Apologies for my ignorance. "

Dom/Sub relationship

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

Around 3 years. I miss it. One day I might find what I want but I’ve spent so long working out what I want as a sub I don’t think it’ll ever be an easy find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just for clarification, what is a D/s relationship?

Apologies for my ignorance.

Dom/Sub relationship "

Thanks for clearing that up for me.

Not something I’ve done.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Two years for me, but the longer I go the fussier I get in terms of my expectations from another one. Not sure if I’ve just got used to being on my own and not answering to anyone else, that I’m now putting obstacles in the way. But on the other hand, the feeling of being in that dynamic is what I crave. Who knows what it is, but I’m sure if the right opportunity comes up I will just know

Please don’t answer if you don’t want too.

What broke it?

For me it was an odd combination of things.

He cheated and left for another woman. Left me questioning the whole relationship and everything he had taught me. "

Ah, breaking of trust.

The ultimate bond.

Hey, really hope things don’t build a too bigger wall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two years for me, but the longer I go the fussier I get in terms of my expectations from another one. Not sure if I’ve just got used to being on my own and not answering to anyone else, that I’m now putting obstacles in the way. But on the other hand, the feeling of being in that dynamic is what I crave. Who knows what it is, but I’m sure if the right opportunity comes up I will just know

Please don’t answer if you don’t want too.

What broke it?

For me it was an odd combination of things.

He cheated and left for another woman. Left me questioning the whole relationship and everything he had taught me.

Ah, breaking of trust.

The ultimate bond.

Hey, really hope things don’t build a too bigger wall."

That’s happened to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two years for me, but the longer I go the fussier I get in terms of my expectations from another one. Not sure if I’ve just got used to being on my own and not answering to anyone else, that I’m now putting obstacles in the way. But on the other hand, the feeling of being in that dynamic is what I crave. Who knows what it is, but I’m sure if the right opportunity comes up I will just know

Please don’t answer if you don’t want too.

What broke it?

For me it was an odd combination of things.

He cheated and left for another woman. Left me questioning the whole relationship and everything he had taught me.

Ah, breaking of trust.

The ultimate bond.

Hey, really hope things don’t build a too bigger wall."

Thank you. Damage is done unfortunately, but I’m sure the wall will come down for the right person at some point.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Around 3 years. I miss it. One day I might find what I want but I’ve spent so long working out what I want as a sub I don’t think it’ll ever be an easy find "

Ha ha, you ( I suspect) will not find it cognitively, the sub need is not in the conscious mind, it’s a need to get past domestic conscious into a subconscious fantasy/need.

Never found a submissive lady who is not usually Dom in the domestic world and wants to play outside it.

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Two years for me, but the longer I go the fussier I get in terms of my expectations from another one. Not sure if I’ve just got used to being on my own and not answering to anyone else, that I’m now putting obstacles in the way. But on the other hand, the feeling of being in that dynamic is what I crave. Who knows what it is, but I’m sure if the right opportunity comes up I will just know

Please don’t answer if you don’t want too.

What broke it?

For me it was an odd combination of things.

He cheated and left for another woman. Left me questioning the whole relationship and everything he had taught me.

Ah, breaking of trust.

The ultimate bond.

Hey, really hope things don’t build a too bigger wall.

Thank you. Damage is done unfortunately, but I’m sure the wall will come down for the right person at some point. "

Smiles) sure it will not even be on your mind.

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM


"Around 3 years. I miss it. One day I might find what I want but I’ve spent so long working out what I want as a sub I don’t think it’ll ever be an easy find

Ha ha, you ( I suspect) will not find it cognitively, the sub need is not in the conscious mind, it’s a need to get past domestic conscious into a subconscious fantasy/need.

Never found a submissive lady who is not usually Dom in the domestic world and wants to play outside it."

You have a point! Will take someone pretty bloody great to let me give up any control now, maybe one day

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Around 3 years. I miss it. One day I might find what I want but I’ve spent so long working out what I want as a sub I don’t think it’ll ever be an easy find

Ha ha, you ( I suspect) will not find it cognitively, the sub need is not in the conscious mind, it’s a need to get past domestic conscious into a subconscious fantasy/need.

Never found a submissive lady who is not usually Dom in the domestic world and wants to play outside it.

You have a point! Will take someone pretty bloody great to let me give up any control now, maybe one day "

Maybe? Is there still a key for that lock?

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

We tried it about 2 years ago and then with work and kids it got abit much so cooled it down. Weve recently last few weeks started it back up again and its a good dynamic to have but communication is key!

If anyone would like to ask/ chat about any of it feel free to ask

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By *icentious OP   Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

That need to get out of domestic reality is an immense pull.

While the drop is low, the climb to high is amazing for all parties.

Think it is difficult not to become addicted.

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

We were actively as in full time up until our lad was born, (9 years ago) we have then kinda still fallen back to it often in the bedroom but recently getting a bit more full time altho the transition hasn’t been as easy as we thought lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since beginning of first lockdown for me but currently looking again for a sub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Broke up with my last sub just before the first lockdown and not met a new one since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since the Spring. Have been looking for a new Dom since then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a great first D/s relationship fir 4 years after a very long married vanilla one . Got to say it was the best thing ever and didn't know having a sub could be so amazing and fulfilling . Ended up in February . Really missing it now

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By *wistedbambi69Woman
over a year ago

Somerset


"Two years for me, but the longer I go the fussier I get in terms of my expectations from another one. Not sure if I’ve just got used to being on my own and not answering to anyone else, that I’m now putting obstacles in the way. But on the other hand, the feeling of being in that dynamic is what I crave. Who knows what it is, but I’m sure if the right opportunity comes up I will just know "

This sounds so much like me. It's been about 4 years (I think) since I was in that dynamic, but now I'm finding it nearly impossible to find anyone to even consider it with

I thought it was just me, but maybe it's more common than I thought it was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Mr) have always had D/s relationships in some form (without Mrs involved wasn’t her thing but has started to pay an interest) for the last 15 years plus, however my last one ended just before covid hit and am yet to get involved in another. I did dabble in looking for sub during the lockdown but found the online scene to be flooded with the I’ve watch 50 shades and am bored locked in my house but not really interested crowed.

Maybe it’s time to get back to the scene as it’s a massively important part of me and I do miss it daily

Mr

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