FabSwingers.com forum: Blocking

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can someone please explain why when indulging in message conversations and seemingly getting on that all of a sudden you are then blocked even after accepting a friend request, because it beats the hell out of us

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

They bottled it, fake profile or their wife found them on the interweb and is giving them a right good bollocking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you can imagine it happens to men loads. I've never understood it and of course there is no recourse to ask why.

I've even been blocked on the day of a planned meeting. Beggars believe!!

Totally the wrong characters for this type of site. Be upfront and honest is the easiest way!

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Because they are literally ‘wankers’.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

There are loads of reasons it could have happened only the person who has blocked you knows why .It does not mean they are fake or time wasters or other suggestions above .It could simply be you well too pushy or you said something they didn't like or took the wrong way .It doesn't really matter they blocked you just block back and move on .

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Can someone please explain why when indulging in message conversations and seemingly getting on that all of a sudden you are then blocked even after accepting a friend request, because it beats the hell out of us "

If I block then there is always good reason for me personally to do it. Maybe they didn't like your pics or you said something that made them panic or was really not to their taste.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Because they don't want to talk to you any more. Perhaps you've served your purpose in making them feel wanted or horny and they've gone off to enjoy each other. No point worrying about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about it.

You can't control other people and what they do.

It can be disappointing when someone you like blocks you but this is life, plenty of other nice people of here.

Good luck to you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you started this thread OP - I was thinking of starting a similar one.

Same thing happened to me yesterday. A few days ago, a couple winked at me , they also fabbed my pics, so returned a wink back. So far so good.

Then I decided to reach out with a introductory message - nothing vulgar (that's not my style). Checked in last night and block !

Now I don't really care, cos I've not built up any relationship - but it does strike me as odd behaviour , especially as they initiated. If they had a change of mind , why not simply reply and say "thanks but no thanks " ?

I'm not loosing any sleep over it, but it strike me that blocking is used to avoid rejecting others , rather than to block nuisance folks.

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By *dventureSeeker23Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

This maybe a site glitch?

Does seem a bit stange for people to people to engage then block?

Might want to raise it in the site issue fourm?

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Glad you started this thread OP - I was thinking of starting a similar one.

Same thing happened to me yesterday. A few days ago, a couple winked at me , they also fabbed my pics, so returned a wink back. So far so good.

Then I decided to reach out with a introductory message - nothing vulgar (that's not my style). Checked in last night and block !

I'm not loosing any sleep over it, but it strike me that blocking is used to avoid rejecting others , rather than to block nuisance folks.

Bear in mind that with a couple, it might be one half who initially winks/fabs/whatever, then when the other half sees they aren’t happy with their partner’s choice. They might then prefer to block than have to explain.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"This maybe a site glitch?

Does seem a bit stange for people to people to engage then block?

Might want to raise it in the site issue fourm?"

It’s not a glitch, it’s personal choice.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Surely no-one would block me?

Im far too adorable.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Because they are toss pots and smell of wee.

Had the same to us so we just block them back.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

[Removed by poster at 24/08/21 10:38:15]

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"Surely no-one would block me?

Im far too adorable.

Blocked

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Surely no-one would block me?

Im far too adorable.

Blocked

And I always thought your had good taste.

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

Have you not noticed this place is full of pricks cunts and arse holes.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"Surely no-one would block me?

Im far too adorable.

Blocked

And I always thought your had good taste.

Me too

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Just kidding

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

Who knows why. People have always been strange and will continue to be so.

People you have never even spoken to or know about, even block you. Sometimes you see a profile, you attempt to write to them and then find out they’ve blocked you, when you didn’t even know they existed (or maybe not) until that point when you saw their profile.

Spend your valuable time on people that actually matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I block people if I'm not interested or they have been unpleasant. I have tried to be polite and say no thanks, but would either get nasty comments back or they just keep trying. So it's just far easier for me to block.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

OP many they chat and even they sound lovely but their reality is just that , having access to your only friends pictures

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I freely block, because I can't be bothered engaging with people I'm not interested in multiple times. I've been here long enough that the same people pop back up over and over again. Blocking them because I'm not interested is a simple way of removing them from my feed and my search results.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I freely block, because I can't be bothered engaging with people I'm not interested in multiple times. I've been here long enough that the same people pop back up over and over again. Blocking them because I'm not interested is a simple way of removing them from my feed and my search results. "

Exactly this

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

If you've had open communication it would be polite to explain why they felt you're no longer suitable, but it is what it is, you'll never know so just forget them and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad you started this thread OP - I was thinking of starting a similar one.

Same thing happened to me yesterday. A few days ago, a couple winked at me , they also fabbed my pics, so returned a wink back. So far so good.

Then I decided to reach out with a introductory message - nothing vulgar (that's not my style). Checked in last night and block !

I'm not loosing any sleep over it, but it strike me that blocking is used to avoid rejecting others , rather than to block nuisance folks.

Yeah totally aware , but it's not hard to simply send a message to say no thanks. Again blocking is used as a way of avoiding rejection, or can't be bothered.

Like I said I don't loose and sleep of it, But you can't escape the fact it's lazy and it's rude.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Million Dollar question but some does this in a hope just to be able to see the photos that may be in the friends only. So be wise before you accept,most people won't accept until they have met in person, which is a good step to take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not really into the online chatting. I’ll often block if I’ve replied, to be polite but signed off with good luck, take care etc (ie, hint that the convo is over), they then see that as the green light for more back and forth. I again give a not so subtle hint, they continue. Etc etc

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I had a recent one with a "couple" where the chat was going ok until "he" said how "she" liked to take cocaine off cocks. I said I don't do drugs and that was immediate block by "him". Are drug dealers trying to use Fab now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time with me OP. Some people will gain your confidence and then send “friend requests” simply to get access to your private pics or videos. Once they have viewed you have served your purpose.

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By *odieCI5Man
over a year ago

Solihull

I was just about to go on a social and was then blocked, these time wasters need to be named and shamed, it takes 30 seconds to say, sorry Ive changed my mind. and you need thick skin to be on here, so you just respect that decision and not be abusive. But blocking out the blue is very annoying

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Glad you started this thread OP - I was thinking of starting a similar one.

Same thing happened to me yesterday. A few days ago, a couple winked at me , they also fabbed my pics, so returned a wink back. So far so good.

Then I decided to reach out with a introductory message - nothing vulgar (that's not my style). Checked in last night and block !

I'm not loosing any sleep over it, but it strike me that blocking is used to avoid rejecting others , rather than to block nuisance folks.

Yeah totally aware , but it's not hard to simply send a message to say no thanks. Again blocking is used as a way of avoiding rejection, or can't be bothered.

Like I said I don't loose and sleep of it, But you can't escape the fact it's lazy and it's rude. "

I guess you haven’t experienced the barrage of begging, arguing, and outright abuse that often comes from saying you’re not interested.

It’s no ruder to block someone than it is to not reply to someone, and site FAQs state that not replying is not rude. As for lazy, we’ve all got better things to do than engage in arguments about why we should fuck someone when we don’t want to.

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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago

the Goldilocks Zone

Because they don't want to talk to you any more. Perhaps you've served your purpose in making them feel wanted or horny and they've gone off to enjoy each other. No point worrying about it. "

Yep - this ^. Dont let it get to you; I doubt the blocker has put any real thought into how it will make you feel. It's frustrating, but probably a bullet dodged in the long run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad you started this thread OP - I was thinking of starting a similar one.

Same thing happened to me yesterday. A few days ago, a couple winked at me , they also fabbed my pics, so returned a wink back. So far so good.

Then I decided to reach out with a introductory message - nothing vulgar (that's not my style). Checked in last night and block !

I'm not loosing any sleep over it, but it strike me that blocking is used to avoid rejecting others , rather than to block nuisance folks.

Yeah totally aware , but it's not hard to simply send a message to say no thanks. Again blocking is used as a way of avoiding rejection, or can't be bothered.

Like I said I don't loose and sleep of it, But you can't escape the fact it's lazy and it's rude.

I guess you haven’t experienced the barrage of begging, arguing, and outright abuse that often comes from saying you’re not interested.

So I think there are two scenarios here

1. If blocking without any prior engagement. I have no issue with this what so ever. And totally understand why it's used like this - IE to stop the barrage of "why" etc. You won't get any arguments from me on this

2. Where there has been prior engagement, and all of a sudden a block - this is what this thread is about I believe. Why not just say , "actually on second thoughts you're not for me" ? You've already been engaging with them , what's stopping you sending a message ? Blocking to avoid an uncomfortable conversation , after showing some interest is in my opinion just rude. It you chatting to someone face to face, and you loose interest - you don't simply stop chatting and walk away - why should it be any different online ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just about to go on a social and was then blocked, these time wasters need to be named and shamed, it takes 30 seconds to say, sorry Ive changed my mind. and you need thick skin to be on here, so you just respect that decision and not be abusive. But blocking out the blue is very annoying "

Yeah it's that blocking out of the blue that is annoying, especially if you've had prior engagement from both sides

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

If it was a couples profile then more than likely it was a phoney profile and the woman doesn't exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, there are currently lots of fake profiles from what I can gather who message straight after joining and have then I'm assuming been reported and removed

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Ah you accepted the friends request, so they have now copied and pasted all your friends only pics.

Mystery solved.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Weve had a couple block us when we've met and played on more than one occasion never found out why.

We tend to block males quite a lot but only if they're pushy

Weve had people add us as friends but never speak

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By *inkyeroticaCouple
over a year ago

Ampthill

The only person who can explain is the one who blocked you! When I (C) was here as a single male I’ve had it happen, and while it would be nice to know why, it isn’t really essential. Just use your time, energy and head space on those who are interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah you accepted the friends request, so they have now copied and pasted all your friends only pics.

Mystery solved.

This !

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"Because they are literally ‘wankers’.

Ed"

Simple as that I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would good etiquette to say "no thank you" before blocking when you have been chatting seemlingly well.It would be good etiquette to actually reply to polite messages too.

And of course, it woukd be hood etiquette not to winge, to push, be abusive, or be aggressive towards someone who said "no thank you".

Wgat is it called already? Ah, yes, courtesy. It was common until the late 90s.

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

You’re not alone, happens all the time

Not sure we ever get used to it!

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