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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Just a gripe to get off my chest. I can't write what I really want to write.

Almost entirely we ignore very short messages with virtually no words from single men. Today I received one and decided to be nice by thanking him for his compliment.

He went on to demonstrate he either hasn't read or hasn't understood any of our profile.

This is why we never reply to these short messages. It has never been productive. I really should learn.

Gripe over.

As you were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do have a long but very informative profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe place your stance on singly Men at the beginning of your profile, rather than at the end.

It should help at least limit those messages.

If we're asked any questions where the answer is already in our profile, (and we're quite specific just now), then we'll reply with ...... We're very short on spare time, hence why we have such s detailed profile, you'll find all you need to know there.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Yep. Any stupid messages are instantly deleted. We get loads

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

We get stupid messages where they clearly havent read the profile and it shows! We tend to delete but we do get the odd one that you can tell thought has gone in to the message and they have read the profile. When we can see they have read the profile even if they arent what we arenlooking for we try to reply out of curtesy as they took the time to read and write a message only fair we do the same

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

It can be frustrating Op.

We’ve had to put a brief synopsis at the top of our profile for the ‘hard of thinking’..

However, it’s nice to be noticed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

95% of all messages we receive are pointless, few words, or only directed at Mrs as though it’s a single profile. I very much doubt most of those people read our profile. Which I don’t really understand. Obviously images are great to see if there’s a possible attraction but we also read a profile. It tells u what that person is about, their wants etc. Why on earth would u not read it ? Or are people reading it and then ignoring what they’ve read ?

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"95% of all messages we receive are pointless, few words, or only directed at Mrs as though it’s a single profile. I very much doubt most of those people read our profile. Which I don’t really understand. Obviously images are great to see if there’s a possible attraction but we also read a profile. It tells u what that person is about, their wants etc. Why on earth would u not read it ? Or are people reading it and then ignoring what they’ve read ?"

Is it possible that the 95% of messages aimed solely at the female has anything to do with the fact that 86.5% (5 out of 37) of your photos only show the Mrs or another female?

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

The 5 out of 37 refer to the non female pix above before anyone gets smart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"95% of all messages we receive are pointless, few words, or only directed at Mrs as though it’s a single profile. I very much doubt most of those people read our profile. Which I don’t really understand. Obviously images are great to see if there’s a possible attraction but we also read a profile. It tells u what that person is about, their wants etc. Why on earth would u not read it ? Or are people reading it and then ignoring what they’ve read ?

Is it possible that the 95% of messages aimed solely at the female has anything to do with the fact that 86.5% (5 out of 37) of your photos only show the Mrs or another female? "

Would the fact it’s a couples profile and the subsequent text accompanying it not be a clue we are a couple ? Actually no your comment confirms that most single guys fail to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The 5 out of 37 refer to the non female pix above before anyone gets smart "

Mate if my Mrs looked as good as his I wouldn't put any pics of my ugly mug on, I'm just happy he is willing to share the pics.

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"We get stupid messages where they clearly havent read the profile and it shows! We tend to delete but we do get the odd one that you can tell thought has gone in to the message and they have read the profile. When we can see they have read the profile even if they arent what we arenlooking for we try to reply out of curtesy as they took the time to read and write a message only fair we do the same "

That’s exactly what we do. Any decent message get a reply, even if it's a no thanks. Even just banter is fine. I've had conversations about music with people we wouldn't expect to meet and it's all good.

I'm just rolling my eyes at myself for responding to this message given where it went.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


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Would the fact it’s a couples profile and the subsequent text accompanying it not be a clue we are a couple ? Actually no your comment confirms that most single guys fail to read "

Actually I did read your profile and your message - and I am not trying to have a go. Just pointing out an alternative hypothesis and related data points.

Strangely, I do actually understand the OPs (and your) predicament as I get a lot of stupid short messages from couples as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good to know stupidness isn’t only limited to one gender

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Good to know stupidness isn’t only limited to one gender "

Sadly so

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I had a message today that was just a x wtf?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"We get stupid messages where they clearly havent read the profile and it shows! We tend to delete but we do get the odd one that you can tell thought has gone in to the message and they have read the profile. When we can see they have read the profile even if they arent what we arenlooking for we try to reply out of curtesy as they took the time to read and write a message only fair we do the same "

I thanked someone for reading my profile and he thought i was being sarcastic!!

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands


"Just a gripe to get off my chest. I can't write what I really want to write.

Almost entirely we ignore very short messages with virtually no words from single men. Today I received one and decided to be nice by thanking him for his compliment.

He went on to demonstrate he either hasn't read or hasn't understood any of our profile.

This is why we never reply to these short messages. It has never been productive. I really should learn.

Gripe over.

As you were. "


"Just a gripe to get off my chest. I can't write what I really want to write.

Almost entirely we ignore very short messages with virtually no words from single men. Today I received one and decided to be nice by thanking him for his compliment.

He went on to demonstrate he either hasn't read or hasn't understood any of our profile.

This is why we never reply to these short messages. It has never been productive. I really should learn.

Gripe over.

As you were. "

Applauding your post and your gripe. Your profile is very well written and clearly articulates the kind of person/people you are both looking to meet with. Its clear that you are not currently looking to meet with single men. We may have similar interests and out looks, but if we met outside of Fab, I wouldn't exspect an invite into your bed.

Profiles are written for a purpose and should be respected.

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move


"Just a gripe to get off my chest. I can't write what I really want to write.

Almost entirely we ignore very short messages with virtually no words from single men. Today I received one and decided to be nice by thanking him for his compliment.

He went on to demonstrate he either hasn't read or hasn't understood any of our profile.

This is why we never reply to these short messages. It has never been productive. I really should learn.

Gripe over.

As you were. "

Yes on all counts.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I had a message today that was just a x wtf? "

Maybe they are illiterate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a message today that was just a x wtf? "

You've been marked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a gripe to get off my chest. I can't write what I really want to write.

Almost entirely we ignore very short messages with virtually no words from single men. Today I received one and decided to be nice by thanking him for his compliment.

He went on to demonstrate he either hasn't read or hasn't understood any of our profile.

This is why we never reply to these short messages. It has never been productive. I really should learn.

Gripe over.

As you were. "

But, isn't the issue the fact guys didn't read your profile rather than they write short messages? I don't why the length of the message correlates with a better understanding of your profile.

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