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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Sorry this is a bit long.

Since stumbling across swinging in my earlly 40s, I (Luke) have never had any great difficulty meeting women. I always got lucky when I went to clubs on my own. I ended up in a couple of year-long FWB situations, one after the other. One of them arranged two threesomes for us pretty easily. One had to be cancelled because my partner ended up in hospital, but the other one went ahead.

Now I am in a committed, romantic relationship with Hannah, and she is interested in exploring this scene too. We have been messaging various single women on Fab for a long time. The pandemic got in the way but we've met three of them. Two were purely social, the other turned into a threesome when we last met, and hopefully we will have many more exciting encounters.

The thing the gets me is that in all these relationships, meeting couples has turned out to be rather hard. With one FWB relationship we met one couple socially and they never got back to us. We had one soft-swap experience at a club on one occasion. We never got anything else off the ground.

Hannah and I find that a lot of couple profiles here have no pics of the man so Hannah doesn't know if she might be attracted to him. We have had approaches from couple on here but they mostly seem to want to just get it on straight away, but the social part is very important for us and we want to take a bit of time getting to know a anybody. We're not really party-goers so club nights don't really appeal, with the exception of BGHS which we love, but the pandemic put a stop to that for a long time. We went to Eureka during the day last week and hoped there would be couples there but the whole place was deserted apart from us and about five single men.

This seems to be the unusual way round. I thought men and couples had a tough time meeting women. But my experience is that a couple meeting a couple is the tough nut to crack. I know one aspect of it that there are more people who need to be attracted to each other.

Has anybody else had this kind of issue or are we alone?

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Am sure that you are not alone in this experience. On our couples profile we had some of the encounters that you have described.

Unlike you however we visited clubs more frequently and struck up friendships with other couples although all the socialising and play took place at these venues. It was rare that we would meet at outside these venues though it did happen.

It's an odd one but I suppose that the club environment made it easier to be more relaxed and free to express ourselves without fear of being overheard and frowned upon.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You are not alone.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

It's different for everyone as we all use Fab a little differently. We don't have many pictures of Bry up because he only plays with the occasional bi guy....95% of the play and all the decisions on who we meet is mine. It does mean we avoid one issue that you may have....we don't need four people to fancy each other, only three, so it's immediately 25% easier to find a match.

However, I'm quite picky and couples do tend to be a bit older on here than singles (maybe because they wait till kids are grown up), and then there's also the huge number of "couples" that don't actually have a female half.

We try and avoid too much socialising because due to my fatigue and pain issues (long term post chemo effects), I can really only manage one "thing" per week, and a two hour social takes it out of me just as much as a two hour play date. So we don't want to "waste" our few opportunities, if that makes sense?

Char (and Bry)

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

We tried for years on here but we met more females outside of FAB and other sites than in. Wish you luck and hope it works out for you

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