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Random or Planned meets

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By *dventureSeeker23 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Hey all just wanted to get the general mood what do people prefer

Random or Planned meets?

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

A mixture of both

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

Random better every time

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By *dventureSeeker23 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Random better every time "

Any reason?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A mixture of both "

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Always planned and always a social first to establish if there is an attraction in person.

Only exception would be people I meet in a club or at a party, but those events would also be planned in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Random is best

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

A last minute can be very exciting

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve only had three “random” meets. All three were poor.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Got absolutely nothing from the one random meeting I did have apart from being able to say I had one. It was all about her and her needs.

The first meet will always be a social and possibly the second one too.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Planned for me,

All my best meets have been planned and with a social first

Had a more spontaneous one years ago and it wasn't so great.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Random more fun I don't plan meet weeks ahead

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By *oublesixesMan
over a year ago

Corby

Planned is better for me

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Planned it is always better with the lead up

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Planned for us. I really enjoy getting know people and building up the desire before the meet.

I think a spontaneous meet could be fun sometime though.

Kx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Planned for me.. always a social first to check the chemistry & make sure there are no serial killer vibes!

My safety is paramount .. so I would never just meet a random for a meet on my own outside of a club setting.

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By *exymansexyMan
over a year ago

Warfield

Unplanned.

Love to go-for-it when the feeling and moment just feel perfect.

Hate the idea of planning what mood I need to be in next tuesday at 3pm.

Also I love the freshness of unlplanned with someone new. Raw.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Odd one for us.

If there is a kink element, definitely planned.

However, there is something rather joyous about spontaneous play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both work, but have pro's and cons.

Planned meets can take a lot of time to find the right profile, people and place, which can kill the moment when searching through all replies. But, you've found what you're looking for at the end of it and you can take things from there.

Random meets, for example, in a club. You see the person, chat, decide there and then if they arw for you. Or, the other option, see the person or people you like, ask them for a play, get your kicks and move on.

It all depends on chance and circumstance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unplanned is exciting, but definitely get the practical need for planned. There’s a certain excitement to suddenly having to get ready to meet someone when 5 minutes ago you were doing the dishes!!

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By *ubandsubCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

We lean more to random for single guys, also fuck n goes no small talk etc just good naughty fun. Some times she dosnt know who as fucked her. Which adds to the naughtiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer spontaneous... I like the short term adrenaline I think with planned in advance meets there is a tendency to over plan and it kills it for me personally.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Planned but at times random can be just as much enjoyable think we may all need this at times as a change of scenery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have done both and Both types can be a failure or they can be highly erotic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love meeting regulars so I guess for me it has to be planned

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I’m a horrible planner, so it’s always random for me

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

In the context of the thread, what is considered a random meet?

"Do you want to fuck now", "Yeah ok".

Or just something that happens for no apparent reason than it just happened. Is that actually a random meet? because "meet" implies some intent.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Planned, too old for random, risk appetite lowers with age lol

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"In the context of the thread, what is considered a random meet?

"Do you want to fuck now", "Yeah ok".

Or just something that happens for no apparent reason than it just happened. Is that actually a random meet? because "meet" implies some intent."

Whilst meet might imply some intent it doesn't inform whether their is only a social aspect or sexual which makes it random

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"In the context of the thread, what is considered a random meet?

"Do you want to fuck now", "Yeah ok".

Or just something that happens for no apparent reason than it just happened. Is that actually a random meet? because "meet" implies some intent.

Whilst meet might imply some intent it doesn't inform whether their is only a social aspect or sexual which makes it random "

Hence reason for the post, it was really a question to what is considered a random meet.

It is the context of the question a random encounter, aka and encounter that is completely out of the blue without any prior knowledge or expectation and completely unrelated to FAB or swinging in general.

Then yes they can be very exciting and very fulfilling, but does not detract from what a planned meeting may bring.

I posted a story of such an event in stories and fantasies. Have been one of a number but I would not consider these as random meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Random for a club/night out, definitely planned the rest of the time

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By *leasureman123Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Both have their merits, and both can be a let down. Have to say best meets been planned with social beforehand to click and then repeat meets with same person or couple after as more relaxed and can go with the flow more as get on and understand each other.

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By *dventureSeeker23 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"In the context of the thread, what is considered a random meet?

"Do you want to fuck now", "Yeah ok".

Or just something that happens for no apparent reason than it just happened. Is that actually a random meet? because "meet" implies some intent."

I think every one has their own defination it was a open question to honest.

Random meaning not planned with someone you know or not.

I tried not to put too much detail on purpose to inspire thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer planned meets, and I tend to love a weekend together after connecting. Impromptu can be fun when it’s with someone I’ve met previously…

But generally I like the planning of a weekend meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Planned for me, I enjoy chatting and getting to know someone before I decide to meet. Only once have I ever met someone on the same day as chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Planned is nice because then you have more time to prepare and look and smell your best but I used to do 'are you free i' m horny'meets with my old fuck buddy and they were amazing because we knew exactly what we both wanted from those random hook ups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always planned ahead because of childcare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who we are trying to meet a Couple or single Man/Women.

With Couples we find they are quite reliable and we seem to be able to plan things in advance with them.

Saying that we find talking to a single Man at the start of a week. To try and arrange a meet for the weekend is usually a waste of time as they don't show up.

We find the best way to get a Single Man is to put up a status that we're looking for One on that Day and see who messages us.

Saying all that we're looking to make friends with Couples and are looking for a group we can belong to but with single Men they are just a sex toy/ didldo to us.

Oh and as for Single Women it's different again. It's very Softly Softly catch the monkey. lots of patience lots of effort for very little return.

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