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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

read Profiles ?

We start off with Profile pic......obviously

Then age

Etc

Quick look at pictures then read profile.

Only then would we fab, wink or message.

Probably in a tiny minority here but hey that's life but so f'n frustrating when you get the usual one liner, friends invite ffs

Otherwise happ fabbing all X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to read yours.....then realised i only had 86% battery left on my phone

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Loads don't bother reading. Happens to us and others all the time.

In fact friend's of ours changed their profile purposely to "will fill in later" just to see if it made a difference because no one was reading theirs.

It didn't and they actually got more messages.

Though being honest OP, yours is on the big side.

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Kettering/ Market Harborough

Nope, read my profile

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I always do,

It's frustrating when people can't take 2 mins to read mine.

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By *akjourneyMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Yes I do read profiles and will not message if I feel I am not what they are seeking.

To me it is being respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few people read and even if they do they’ll still shoot their shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally read the profile , to get a steer on if we looking for the same thing - shocker I know lol

OP - having said that , yours like a novel LOL

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Your profile is full of double entendres and "funnies."

I think it detracts from your message if I'm honest.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read through profiles and actually, it seems like most people that message have usually read mine. Seems I'm in the minority though!

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I read profiles, though it appears that few who message me have got past the photos.

OP, I am afraid I gave up reading your profile text... I found it disjointed, difficult to read and rather strange... sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We just wonder if those that cannot be bothered have much success!

That said, there are some that can't be arsed creating a profile so horses for courses I suppose.

However profile or not, there is a reason and true ours is long and if we are about to share our partners then for US an element of understanding / similar outlook is important.

That said, we are not judging. Each to their own xx

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I skim profile text.

I'm lazy.

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By *he HandiemanMan
over a year ago

north west

i do, interesting what some folk put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they pass the picture test, then will have a read.

Gotta hunt for the secret subject title

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was going to read yours.....then realised i only had 86% battery left on my phone

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I normally read the bio before deciding whether to look at pics or not but i haven't read yours op simply because we are in different countries so the logistics don't work.

There is a balance though between making an effort and getting others to look at your profile the way you want them to.

When writing a cv it's a well known fact that employers look for highlights and bullet points and standout attributes. Anything beyond that is pointless as it doesn't register with the average reader.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Perthshire

I read profiles. They provide a useful insight into the person/people behind them. It doesn't take long in most cases, yours is a bit of a novel though OP and, as I don't fit what you are looking for, I must admit I didn't read it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say 50% don’t read it, 25% read it and 25% read it and ignore what you say anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before you blocked me for laughing at a comment that made me smile I was going to suggest that maybe yours isn't read properly because it's exceptionally long

A sense of humour may help with your quest to find someone too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

We read profiles and find them very useful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was going to read yours.....then realised i only had 86% battery left on my phone

this tickled me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We only block to keep our account tidy, not meant as any sort of insult X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read a profile because it's important to me to see what the man's profile is like especially if there's a message from him. Unfortunately there are still some men who don't read our profiles x

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

"read Profiles ?

We start off with Profile pic......obviously

Then age

Etc

Quick look at pictures then read profile.

Only then would we fab, wink or message.

Probably in a tiny minority here but hey that's life but so f'n frustrating when you get the usual one liner, friends invite ffs

Otherwise happ fabbing all X

What's that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was going to read yours.....then realised i only had 86% battery left on my phone

Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i always do. But some are way too long and like reading a book. And some make no sense at all and seem like they've been wrote after a bottle of rum

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By *ixey and CopperCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

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By *ixey and CopperCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"I was going to read yours.....then realised i only had 86% battery left on my phone

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Not many read our profile.

I delete their messages without reading them in return.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Central

I always read profiles. It's probably initiating fabicide, if anyone is insisting that they don't.

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By *ephistoCouple
over a year ago

torrance

Some people do read them and some don’t. Some profiles are long and some aren’t. Some profiles are all over the place and some are brief. It seems that it doesn’t matter at all if you’re getting what you want!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was going to read yours.....then realised i only had 86% battery left on my phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read profile in full, look at their likes, then their pictures/videos.

Then re-read if they take my fancy and Hotlist to message later or, message there and then!

I enjoy the long ones.....if they are not to dry OR, not to full of shite!

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By *aynLexiCouple
over a year ago

Bridgwater, Somerset

Most don't read profiles before messaging but it then makes such a refreshing change when you get a message from someone who actually has read it.

If you show you've read our profile you'll instantly get my attention and definitely recieve a reply

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We'll read a profile if it looks like they may be of interest. Some are a tad long though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe make your profile shorter ...lol

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

London

"read Profiles ?

We start off with Profile pic......obviously

Then age

Etc

Quick look at pictures then read profile.

Only then would we fab, wink or message.

Probably in a tiny minority here but hey that's life but so f'n frustrating when you get the usual one liner, friends invite ffs

Otherwise happ fabbing all X

People look at the profile pic first! I really doubt many read anything. Then they message (winks are a waste of time and I just mass delete them. What is the point of a wink anyway?).

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

"I was going to read yours.....then realised i only had 86% battery left on my phone

Haha. I know what you mean.

Yes, we read profiles but doubt anyone would read a novel. I think ours is quite long and was going to reduce it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do read profiles but in all honesty wouldn't read yours. It's way too long for us

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Suppose the first thing is the profile picture then age and then the bio.

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven

Read and move on

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By *ojoMojoWoman
over a year ago

The East End

"I was going to read yours.....then realised i only had 86% battery left on my phone

This made me laugh

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By *oublesixesMan
over a year ago

Corby

I always send a personal message when I contact people - no copy paste here.

Means I read the profile text, info, and interests - and fab the pictures of course

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"read Profiles ?"

not enough, clearly, or I would not get so many pointless messages from single straight males who want to meet me on my own.

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By *artorialMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Yes always, saves wasting time contacting folks who aren't going to be interested

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Yes we do - saves time and effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"read Profiles ?

We start off with Profile pic......obviously

Then age

Etc

Quick look at pictures then read profile.

Only then would we fab, wink or message.

Wow, I always read the full profile before sending a message or wink, I saw the size of yours and clicked back!

Probably in a tiny minority here but hey that's life but so f'n frustrating when you get the usual one liner, friends invite ffs

Otherwise happ fabbing all X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care if they read outta or not

If they ignore ours,we ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"read Profiles ?

We start off with Profile pic......obviously

Then age

Etc

Quick look at pictures then read profile.

Only then would we fab, wink or message.

Probably in a tiny minority here but hey that's life but so f'n frustrating when you get the usual one liner, friends invite ffs

Otherwise happ fabbing all X

Too long didn't read, a few simple things about you should be enough. But yes I read profiles and dont talk to blanks, its says so in my profile

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By *uv2kissMan
over a year ago

fenland

In our experience

A woman can have a blank profile with nil pictures and get messages.

A single guy could have a fantastic profile with tasteful pictures but his message will get lost amongst the tsunami of messages.

A couple not looking for single men will still get messages from single guys ( and an automatic block )

I could go on but you get the gist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s like life in general surely. Some people don’t read the assembly instructions for flatpack furniture, some do??! It’s not really surprising is it ?

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

I actually think yes, I blanked my profile last night and have had 4 times more messages… I think the reading on mine before put people off because I was detailed in what I’m looking for, now it’s like a free for all! The funniest are the ones telling me we have the interests and how beautifully stunning I am… on an empty profile

gotta love fab!

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"I actually think yes, I blanked my profile last night and have had 4 times more messages "

But are they messages that interest you or has the rubbish factor gone up exponentially?

Gbat

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I had a longer profile but realised that nobody was reading it all, so then did bullet points, so you’d only read the bits appropriate to yourself. That didn’t work either.

Now I’ve kept it short and it’s still not read by those messaging me.

I still get straight guys who’s profiles don’t mention being interested in TV/TS. Or not answering ‘Hi Messages’ both still appear regularly.

But on the plus side at least I’m getting interest

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I read profiles. They can tell me a lot about the person or persons before I answer a new message or before I message someone. I don't answer message if the bio doesn't appeal to me.

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

"I actually think yes, I blanked my profile last night and have had 4 times more messages

But are they messages that interest you or has the rubbish factor gone up exponentially?

Gbat "

Awful! No ones silhouette picture is beautiful

I have reinstated my original profile now

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Many clearly don't - case in point, over in the Meets Requests section a couple whose profile quite clearly states that they are not interested in single males had a "Would love to meet" response from...

....you guessed it, a single male. And no, it wasn't me...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We only have a long one for the fun of writing it but eventually if we were meeting someone you'd have thought they'd have taken some time to read it lol

Short ones are fine for us but we do read them if we are interested X

Just can't be bothered with the lazy winks and friend invites from people we have nothing in real common with other than we are on a swingers site

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

If an individual interests me then yes I will read their profile. You can get alot of information from a from a well written profile.

It may not be the same as meeting in person. But it should give you a flavour of their personality.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"If an individual interests me then yes I will read their profile. You can get alot of information from a from a well written profile.

It may not be the same as meeting in person. But it should give you a flavour of their personality.

Though in some cases, a poorly written profile can tell you everything that you need to know...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"read Profiles ?

We start off with Profile pic......obviously

Then age

Etc

Quick look at pictures then read profile.

Only then would we fab, wink or message.

Probably in a tiny minority here but hey that's life but so f'n frustrating when you get the usual one liner, friends invite ffs

Otherwise happ fabbing all X

That's longer than war and peace

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

Pictures first, if there isn't any I move on. If it's just sic pics, we'll you know the score.

I will read if pictures are for my own liking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at pics read the profile but if it's a essay then we don't,were here for great sex with people were attracted too and have a connection with,I don't feel we need to know someone's life stories etc

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

I always look if I'm in the age range first then if they meet smokers then I'll read the profile then the pics and a rub of the chin, yay or nay.

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By *urious KittenWoman
over a year ago

your bed

I always read a profile and check out veris first. You can normally get a feel for someone and what they like if they put some thought into it

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By *un BadgersCouple
over a year ago

Stansted & France

We always read profiles and get astounded by others who don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a good look/read though profiles before any response to new messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read as far as the first passive aggressive DO, DO NOT...or HOW DARE YOU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot don't read ours, I read all profiles, I'm afraid I couldn't read yours op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually enjoy reading profiles! It’s the first thing I do, before looking at photos.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Cumbria and Galloway

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do read profiles. Some members get around this problem using this method - In the last paragraph of their profile or somewhere in between, they say something like "If you have read through my whole profile, add the subject 'Rose' when sending message". So you can easily send any message without the title straight to the bin.

Hope this helps.

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By *anny197097Man
over a year ago

knob Creek

I rarely read a profile..

Especially long ones ..

And if I were to read a long profile, I’d expect a decent standard of writing and punctuation..

Shows a level of intelligence, which I find a turn on ..

Op re-read your profile.. just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read a profile before I send a message. If I'm just skipping through a gallery, I may not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I always read profiles - and expect people to read mine. Works as quite an efficient filter

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"I was going to read yours.....then realised i only had 86% battery left on my phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Made it to the end! Phew! That was hard going in places, a novel by Dostoyevsky is easier to follow! Bit of constructive criticism here, hope you dont mind... Seems to be a lot of no's and not's more what you're not into than what you are? You're not into bisexuality, fair enough, doesn't float your boat (although lets be honest, unless they make a lunge for your cock how will you know?) You seem to labour the point a bit ( you couldve just said " I (m) play strictly straight. Sorry chaps!") Seems a bit ranty. And no offence but ranty profiles are having a knock on effect at our end. We have to work extra hard now to screen out genuine bisexual guys, have to get into long winded pingpongs with "fab"guys (who thanks to ranty profilez feel they're have to hide because "theyre not worthy" or desperate straight guys pretending to be "Fab" because they think they'll get to have a go on The Pussycat! And no. Youre right. They dont read profiles do they?! Best wishes CandDx

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I read every profile I’d reply or send a message too and expect the same.

But anything super long i avoid. Who’s got time for that lol!

Couple of pictures, the basic details, short and to the point bio…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pic, then profile. If no face pics red flags and check for explanation in profile text.

If it don't fit on 1 screen shot I'm bored, and generally written by people with lots of what they won't do but not really what they will.

It's FAB, chill, be funny or not like me. You can explain all your rules in messages but think they turn people off if too many.

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