FabSwingers.com forum: Women visiting a mans home

By *ylonlick OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Am I kidding myself thinking women would come to my home on the first meet.

Although I know I’m a genuine honest guy, do women honestly prefer to meet socially first in public?? Thanks folks x

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe

Depends how long they been chatting

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

When arranging a meet with a new lady I always suggested a social meet in a safe place first, ie coffee or in a pub.

This made them feel a little safer. Most times we then retired to my house for the fun times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some will, most probably won't.

I have in the past but wouldn't now, not unless I'd already been with them and trust them.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I meet verified men at their house and hotels.

Socials are totally pointless to me and don’t improve safety IMO… just shows they aren’t going to murder you in the pub!

If you’ve spoken a bit, have a good vibe and they are well verified… it’s no different to being walked home after a night out or date

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

We're all different. Personally I prefer a casual social first to test the waters and I'd be VERY wary of someone who wanted to get me alone in a private space straight away. That's high risk and I am pro not being murdered!

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By *raig mackMan
over a year ago

the nuclei of ecstasy

Ask her what she is comfortable with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How come people never think thee woman is going to murder them!

I'm thinking basic instinct scene!

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We rarely meet new couples at home addresses, we prefer hotels or clubs, less awkward we find if there is no attraction or chemistry

As people have pointed out everyone is different and some women will meet at your place x

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

Both veris are from women who have come to mine for first meets. I don’t sleep with just anyone so has to be something we’re both comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no ...ill only go to a guys house if ive known him a while and the trust is there .... been caught out before lucky hubs was outside in the car

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By *effrey45Man
over a year ago

Lytham

I’ve had quite a few ladies turn up to mine

Fair play we chatted on phone etc but first time face to face was them walking through the door

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

First meet? Absolutely not.

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By *veragecouple321Couple
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

We will meet in a neutral place and if things go well, have no problem coming to someone's house but the female is never alone, as I am there for safety reasons, and if the 3rd party doesn't like/want that then it's goodbye

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

My personal opinion is that if I was single I would never go to a man's home for a first meet. I wouldn't get in his car or go to his hotel room either or invite him to my home. I'd meet in clubs or nothing. I think adults should take the same advice they'd give their children when it comes to meeting people from the internet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i’ve been chatting to them for a bit and are certain i fancy them then yes. Sometimes i still like a social first. Just depends. With a complete rando, with no vibe or connection then its a no. X

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Some definitely will.

I prefer an initial social meet in a neutral place, so I wouldn't.

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

I prefer a social close to my own home so if I’m enjoying their company I will invite them to mine, my best friend is my neighbour she knows I’m on here and her hubby is a very strong presence so any trouble I know I can call her or bang on the wall and someone will be over, they have keys too! I don’t think I’d be happy going to a guys house without having chatted a while and first meeting in a public place

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Always a social .eet for me in a public place first time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had women come back to mine but that’s after we’ve chatted online, met socially first or I’ve arranged to pick them up in a public place before driving back to mine. Have never considered I might actually be in danger, I like to think I’m a good judge of character

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Any first meet for me, would be a social In a public place

I wouldn't go straight to someone's home that I'd never met before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have a social in public first. Certainly wouldn't go to someone's home that I didn't know.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

99% of the time we have a social first just to make sure it is actually who we're meant to meet! Had a meet at ours once with a couple when the guy turned up at the door himself,I (male) answered and got "are you who we've been talking to?" No idea mate,it was the woman of the couple we were chatting to. Guy duly gets in his car and leaves.Turned out she was in the car and he came to the door to check it was the right house so they came back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chatted on a regular basis for months with both my past fwb (not at the same time), before we met. The first was a social , then always at her place by her choice. The second was first meet at hers, them always there afterwards, again her choice.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

I have done. It was after chatting a few months. Not something i would normally do. I get messages asking to join a guy and his mate for mmf all the time. When i say I have no intention of going off and meeting 2 blokes on my own ive never met before they sometimes have gotten stroppy.

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By *ylonlick OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Thanks to everyone who’s commented, all posts have been a great help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gemma met me at mine as have a few other ladies from tinder before her, I’m happy for them to meet anywhere there comfortable, that can be mine, there’s or a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I kidding myself thinking women would come to my home on the first meet.

Although I know I’m a genuine honest guy, do women honestly prefer to meet socially first in public?? Thanks folks x"

One vote for social first before a home visit! Bit awkward to get out the home visit on a first meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not after an old friend recently got murdered and dismembered and discarded like trash in a field for doing exactly that.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I have done. It was after chatting a few months. Not something i would normally do. I get messages asking to join a guy and his mate for mmf all the time. When i say I have no intention of going off and meeting 2 blokes on my own ive never met before they sometimes have gotten stroppy."

This stroppiness worries me a lot, as to the motives of people

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Not after an old friend recently got murdered and dismembered and discarded like trash in a field for doing exactly that."

Bloody Hell.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

This stroppiness worries me a lot, as to the motives of people

I have no problem cutting them off or blocking right then.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

This stroppiness worries me a lot, as to the motives of people

I have no problem cutting them off or blocking right then. "

Oh definitely! Agreed. But someone else might go. That's what gives me the heebie-jeebies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my 1st/only meet and went to his. Met him several more times at his house. Was lucky ish I guess.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Always a social meet, in a public place, for first meet. Then either a club meet or occasionally a hotel. I'll only go to someone's home once I feel comfortable with them and have built a level of trust.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

This stroppiness worries me a lot, as to the motives of people

I have no problem cutting them off or blocking right then.

Oh definitely! Agreed. But someone else might go. That's what gives me the heebie-jeebies

I very much get that. Some low in confidence, lonely, any number of things. You never really know what s going on in someones head and why they make some descisions that at other times they woukdnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually meet at guy's homes xx

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By *hemainintainMan
over a year ago

North East

Plenty ladies gk straight to guys homes and vice versa.

Some of my favourite meets have been lying on bed with door open waiting for the prey to arrive lol x

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I would after a social meet and I would also put a couple of safety controls in place such as a couple of phone check-ins with a trusted friend.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Plenty ladies gk straight to guys homes and vice versa.

Some of my favourite meets have been lying on bed with door open waiting for the prey to arrive lol x "

I am sure you meant it as a joke but I would not be comfortable with being referred to as "prey" - that WOULD make me feel less safe.

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

"How come people never think thee woman is going to murder them!

I'm thinking basic instinct scene!"

I always worry there is going to be a rabbit stew waiting, or was that the wrong film?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Am I kidding myself thinking women would come to my home on the first meet.

Although I know I’m a genuine honest guy, do women honestly prefer to meet socially first in public?? Thanks folks x"

I always offer a quick chat over the ‘phone, as a first step before moving things on to any kind of meet. I’m happy to give her my number, so she can call me number withheld, that way I cannot be a pest afterwards. It’s a great ice breaker, hearing each other’s voice, and moving on to either a friendly social over a brew in a coffee house, or straight to a play date, usually soon follows.

I mostly do hotel meets, but have been invited to ladies’s homes too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I kidding myself thinking women would come to my home on the first meet.

Although I know I’m a genuine honest guy, do women honestly prefer to meet socially first in public?? Thanks folks x"

ask yourself, if you were a woman, would you go to a strange guys house, know i wouldnt

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I’ve had countless tinder matches come over to mine for the first date. It’s kinda weird how trusting they are thinking about it.

Now that I’m a bit older and wiser I always suggest a social first at a nearby pub. It’s just safer for everyone involved and removes a lot of the awkward “your not what I thought you’d be can you get out of my house” situations I’ve found myself in before

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By *hemainintainMan
over a year ago

North East

"Plenty ladies gk straight to guys homes and vice versa.

Some of my favourite meets have been lying on bed with door open waiting for the prey to arrive lol x

I am sure you meant it as a joke but I would not be comfortable with being referred to as "prey" - that WOULD make me feel less safe. "

Honestly just a joke... you're safe with me x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Plenty ladies gk straight to guys homes and vice versa.

Some of my favourite meets have been lying on bed with door open waiting for the prey to arrive lol x

I am sure you meant it as a joke but I would not be comfortable with being referred to as "prey" - that WOULD make me feel less safe.

Honestly just a joke... you're safe with me x "

They all say that

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

No I wouldn’t tbh. Have in the past. Sometimes it’s been fine - sometimes not so much.

No problems feeling unsafe (though that would be a factor in my thinking now) - just issues with them looking nothing like their pictures - and in a couple of cases having dirty, grotty homes. I’m not a clean freak but there are certain standards.

These days I have a social first as I’m looking for longer term friendships rather than one-off’s anyway- so if they can’t find the time for a coffee I assume they won’t find time for regular meets.

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By *hemainintainMan
over a year ago

North East

"Plenty ladies gk straight to guys homes and vice versa.

Some of my favourite meets have been lying on bed with door open waiting for the prey to arrive lol x

I am sure you meant it as a joke but I would not be comfortable with being referred to as "prey" - that WOULD make me feel less safe.

Honestly just a joke... you're safe with me x

They all say that

Lol. Or they turn out to be serial killers and you're like.... "what imagine that two serial killers in one house....."

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Plenty ladies gk straight to guys homes and vice versa.

Some of my favourite meets have been lying on bed with door open waiting for the prey to arrive lol x

I am sure you meant it as a joke but I would not be comfortable with being referred to as "prey" - that WOULD make me feel less safe.

Honestly just a joke... you're safe with me x

They all say that

Lol. Or they turn out to be serial killers and you're like.... "what imagine that two serial killers in one house.....""

...what are the chances.

In all seriousness though the chances of coming to harm are fairly low but unless they were zero I wouldn't contemplate it. Maybe I'm more risk averse being older

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"No I wouldn’t tbh. Have in the past. Sometimes it’s been fine - sometimes not so much.

Very much my thinking too Peachy

There are phone apps I know women use to track and look out for each other, when meeting strangers for the first time too

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Trying to get a woman to go straight to your home for the first meet makes you sound like a murderer, frankly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done before. Don't know if I would now though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done before, but only after long periods of online chatting. I'm more inclined to request a coffee shop social first though these days.

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