FabSwingers.com forum: FWB/affair couples

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi Everyone, just wanted thoughts on FWB/Affair couples...

We had an experience this weekend after talking to a couple for a few weeks on here and another private platform we arranged a meet.

We sat in a bar for about an hour or so and seemed to get on well. The couple took a minute to themselves and said they had decided they didn't want to go further, which is absolutely fine, everyone has to feel safe and happy!

Wishing them all the best, we left.

The following day the male of the couple set up a private group with himself, his female partner and myself (the female of us!) Without my partner!!

I found this incredibly creepy and insulting as he thinks this is acceptable!

We knew they were a FWB couple but made it clear we are ina solid relationships so is it right they should assume I'd be interested in the same?!

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By *lay4RealCouple
over a year ago

London

"Hi Everyone, just wanted thoughts on FWB/Affair couples...

We had an experience this weekend after talking to a couple for a few weeks on here and another private platform we arranged a meet.

Wishing them all the best, we left.

The following day the male of the couple set up a private group with himself, his female partner and myself (the female of us!) Without my partner!!

I found this incredibly creepy and insulting as he thinks this is acceptable!

We knew they were a FWB couple but made it clear we are ina solid relationships so is it right they should assume I'd be interested in the same?!

It is both insulting and an over- reach in my opinion.

They have in effect disrespected your boundaries.

I would make that point clearly to them and block!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the reasons we won't play with FWB. It's not the same as a couple in a relationship. I personally would block them for that

Claire

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

It states to me your not good enough as a couple but they are wanting you as the exclusive female for them.

Had it loads of times when as a couple myself.

Your profile dosnt say your looking for this.

So its a block unless your interested in this type of meet.

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By *lay4RealCouple
over a year ago

London

"One of the reasons we won't play with FWB. It's not the same as a couple in a relationship. I personally would block them for that

Claire "

Ditto

The dynamics in an FWB is different from what you get in " normal" couples. As a result we have been reluctant to engage with them.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

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"Hi Everyone, just wanted thoughts on FWB/Affair couples...

We had an experience this weekend after talking to a couple for a few weeks on here and another private platform we arranged a meet.

Wishing them all the best, we left.

The following day the male of the couple set up a private group with himself, his female partner and myself (the female of us!) Without my partner!!

I found this incredibly creepy and insulting as he thinks this is acceptable!

We knew they were a FWB couple but made it clear we are ina solid relationships so is it right they should assume I'd be interested in the same?!

This happens all the time one reasons we gave up meeting from here. OH got fed up of guys of couples trying to get her to meet on her own. One couple we met had nice evening, meal and we said no and left like the OP the male tried to contact her separately and convince her to meet them on their own. She said no politely next the the couple started a hate campaign against her and their forum buddies joined in. She will nolonger come on this site. Soo many times after meeting couples on here the male wants to pursue private meetings

If is the FAB way

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Sorry this has happened to you OP, as it is I wouldn't say they did this because they are an FWB couple as its not just FWB couples that will do this, I've had the male from a couple approach me sepereately when I said that I wasn't interested in playing with them as a couple so he was trying to go behind his wife's back to play with me and shutting her out.

The stupid arse didn't realise that it was him I didn't want to play with and I wouldn't have dreamed of approaching her separately.

Its people OP and not the couples dynamic, above all its massively disrespectful fo anyone to do this to you.

As the single I always maintain that their relationship is the most important in anyone involving with other people.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"One of the reasons we won't play with FWB. It's not the same as a couple in a relationship. I personally would block them for that

Claire

Ditto

The dynamics in an FWB is different from what you get in " normal" couples. As a result we have been reluctant to engage with them."

Only really get to know people by conversation. FWBs are a difficult to define. A lot of FWBs are actually FBs which the guys initiate for their own gratification. Usually females fancy them but the sentiment is not returned they are simply a key or door opener for the guy. We would only ever meet people who are in a genuine relationship and there is definitely chemistry and obviously more (into each other), but not just using her to get into another woman pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have played with all varieties of couples and every experience is different wether FWB married or other varieties however should that have happened to us we would have blocked as that is not how we play and it’s extremely disrespectful to attempt to encourage other to break their rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think what they did was necessarily wrong OP. But if you’re not comfortable with it then don’t go there. If you and your partner are happy for you to play alone with them then enjoy xx

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By *inkyeroticaCouple
over a year ago

Ampthill

The fact the couple may or may not have been in a FB or FWB relationship isn’t relevant or the issue, unless a married couple behaving like that would be acceptable to you?

They clearly didn’t want to play with your other half but would with you. If I’m understanding you correctly, your issue is being asked to play solo outside your relationship? Some couples are happy to swing this way, others not so much. Make sure you make this clear going forward.

Personally, we wouldn’t approach one part of a couple to play solo, and wouldn’t be impressed if we were asked to either. We have a couple profile so we play together.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"The fact the couple may or may not have been in a FB or FWB relationship isn’t relevant or the issue, unless a married couple behaving like that would be acceptable to you?

Personally, we wouldn’t approach one part of a couple to play solo, and wouldn’t be impressed if we were asked to either. We have a couple profile so we play together.

We always made it clear that we only meet as a couple from the start. Where the OP is coming from is probably more common than people realise. Married couples can be just a guilty of this as any other couple type. Think more so visible to us because OH is BI and they want the FFM fantasy but not having a partner involved. Woman wants to try FF but doesn't want a guy. Often just ants to.have both women to himself

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We’ve had this but from a couple of single guys who after engaging and chatting for a bit both asked if we met separately…

If it doesn’t state in a profile that they are willing to meet separately then always take it that it’s the two you are meeting/talking with.

Anyone trying to set up sneaky meetings are not being respectful and that says more about them.

Good filtering tool.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's really rude and insulting to your hubby too.

I don't think them been fwb is the issue, I've seen it being said that married couples have done this sort of thing.

I'd block them if you haven't already.

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

This is very underhanded. Selfish and disrespectful to your hubby and your marriage.

It is a very dangerous game that could end up with a broken marriage. That bit they wouldn’t care about as long as they got their unicorn.

Thank goodness you didn’t agree to it.

Some people are simply not nice xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They sound like charming people. Not! I’d never ask a couple to met separately. Although, previously I have met couples who do meet separately. Much of the time it was all about the man meeting alone and i found that boring after a bit.

Lack of respect for other peoples boundaries is one of the crappier sides of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Everyone, just wanted thoughts on FWB/Affair couples...

We had an experience this weekend after talking to a couple for a few weeks on here and another private platform we arranged a meet.

Wishing them all the best, we left.

The following day the male of the couple set up a private group with himself, his female partner and myself (the female of us!) Without my partner!!

I found this incredibly creepy and insulting as he thinks this is acceptable!

We knew they were a FWB couple but made it clear we are ina solid relationships so is it right they should assume I'd be interested in the same?!

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We had a similar experience a few years ago. We met a couple for a social and the woman was clearly disinterested from the word go.I don't think she spoke a sentence all evening.The next day, the guy phoned while I was at work and told Sandra his wife wasn't interested, but he would like to meet her alone.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

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"Hi Everyone, just wanted thoughts on FWB/Affair couples...

We had an experience this weekend after talking to a couple for a few weeks on here and another private platform we arranged a meet.

Wishing them all the best, we left.

The following day the male of the couple set up a private group with himself, his female partner and myself (the female of us!) Without my partner!!

I found this incredibly creepy and insulting as he thinks this is acceptable!

We knew they were a FWB couple but made it clear we are ina solid relationships so is it right they should assume I'd be interested in the same?!

We had a similar experience a few years ago. We met a couple for a social and the woman was clearly disinterested from the word go.I don't think she spoke a sentence all evening.The next day, the guy phoned while I was at work and told Sandra his wife wasn't interested, but he would like to meet her alone. "

Interesting experience, we once met a couple in the pub. Chatting away introductions etc small talk l. Then conversation came up about being Bi and the sudden horror on her face. Clearly she was supposed to be bi but hadn't told her. So not sure who we spoke to but doubt it was her.

Had another meet when a Couple said they were only interested in her and I could wait in the bar.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Personally we don't meet alone as a rule.

Weve had loads of messages just wanting me the female because I'm bi. Because she doesn't want another man (fair enough) but no thanks. For me i don't like the idea of being a performing seal for the mens enjoyment.

We are clear we are a full play all inclusive couple.

We dont meet anyone cheating either its our preference.

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