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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So Mrs here and would love to fulfil my FFM fantasy with the right lady. Chemistry and attraction is Important ,as well as same sexual level to me, however I'm struggling to get any single female attention...any advice would be appreciated what would get your attention?? X

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Most couples I have met via an organised social, or at clubs or private parties, as opposed to on here. Some of those couples have then introduced me to their friends.

It's far easier to establish if there is an attraction in a face to face situation, & with a couple I have to like them both and find them both attractive.

You haven't specifically asked for feedback on your profile, so I can't give advice on it, but there are some things on there that would put me off.

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Hi

Hiya

It’s great that you have photos of both of you. Lots of couples don’t. You both look good.

Here are some things that would go through my mind…

1) “she’s bicurious. Has she had any experience at all?” A complete newbie can be fun but, as you can imagine, newbies can be very hesitant. I’d like to know the level of experience.

2) “what does she want to explore?” Be honest about what your curiosity means.

Do you want to be on the receiving end of stroking, kissing, breast play, fingering, cunnilingus, arse play, toys, fisting, kink, being made to gush?

Now turn the tables. Which of those do you want to do to me? Stroking, kissing, breast play, fingering, cunnilingus, arse play, toys, fisting, kink, making me gush?

If there’s a big difference between what you want to receive and what you’re willing to do, it might put some women off. A visiting woman might be wondering “how will I get off during this encounter?”

3) “what’s the guy’s role?” Is he there? Is he watching? Is it a threesome? If the woman is inexperienced and hesitant and the guy is watching rather than participating, it might be that no one actually does anything to my body. I’d wonder who was planning on fucking me.

4) you both look very hot and toned. I’m more squishy (!) and I’d wonder whether you’d be attracted to me. Perhaps say something like “we love all body types from super-slim to super-curvy” or “we’re both really attracted to slim women” or “larger women are a huge turn on for both of us”.

5) Lose the faux-legal disclaimer from your profile. You are not going to bring an international claim for intellectual property infringements against an Australian university nor anyone else.

6) clubs might be a good way to have some brief, low-level encounters with women to gain experience. Personally, I’d quite enjoy pampering a brand-new bi-curious woman in a club for half an hour. But I’d be unlikely to set up a private meet that could be a brief one-way interaction.

I hope this advice is useful. It boils down to you making sure that what you’re looking for is fun for the woman joining you too.

All the very best.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Some good advice here.

We have managed to have a few FFM/FMF meets off here, and it has all come down to thorough communication and managing the expectations of everyone.

The language you use can affect if a person would be interested in joining you. They may be put off if they feel they are just part of a science experiment.

Make sure its just as important about what you offer as opposed to solely being about what you want.

What part of a FFM meet is the fantasy for you(both)? Think about what your prospective play partner may go through to try and ensure your fantasy meets your expectations.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Weve been lucky enough to have met 2 lovely single ladies. One of whom we meet regularly when time allows.

This was from connections at a club and in a group chat away from fab.

We got chatting to people and it went from there.

As a bi lady I agree with the questions asked above.

When we have a ffm everyone is involved and playing. Which works for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all and some great advice which I appreciate and can fully relate to. I will be having a little overall of the wording on our profile and be more specific in certain areas xx

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We have both been looking for another female but had a few chats and phone number exchanges but they have tended to be fake,time wasters or go quiet on us.

We have made it clear and open that it could be ff only or mff but havent had many offers.

Only play we had was with other couples ff and men playing with own couples.

Hard just to find a female to join in.

Good luck x

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all and some great advice which I appreciate and can fully relate to. I will be having a little overall of the wording on our profile and be more specific in certain areas xx"

The advice about the type of body shape you're looking for is indeed good advice.

A couple of years ago the wife was looking for a couple to play with and was put off contacting so many couples due to them being athletic built and not stating what body shape/size they were looking for.

Hope this helps a little and good luck with your search. X

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Ffm is the hardest dynamic to find with the most amount of couples looking for it.

We often get messages asking for me, female to meet couples on my own. Not something I want to do personally. And it can feel quite rude almost like no we don't want him just you. Weve had offers where they want me to join them and the male to join us. Um no sorry.

We do meet couples, ladies and guys. That said we are struggling full stop atm

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By *oungCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

new castle

Any women want join to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah looking for the same here.

It’s not as easy as others and the OP is correct.

You need to narrow down what your looking for, start physical wise as let’s face it, it’s mostly about sex!!! And be honest with people, if not for you move on!! X

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I've found clubs work well for most scenarios.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

we've done it a few times with a couple of different ladies

open and honest communication is required

trust and respect needs to be applied too

it can be pleasant,

it can also go a bit wrong because people are people and sometimes the expectations are mixed matched

but when it works, just WOW!!!

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By *aughtyloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull


"So Mrs here and would love to fulfil my FFM fantasy with the right lady. Chemistry and attraction is Important ,as well as same sexual level to me, however I'm struggling to get any single female attention...any advice would be appreciated what would get your attention?? X"

Don’t hide your profile

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We found a female a few weeks ago and played ffm.

Nice experience and be great to try it again.

Wifes first full on ff play.

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By *oungCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

new castle


"We found a female a few weeks ago and played ffm.

Nice experience and be great to try it again.

Wifes first full on ff play.

"

Nice to hear that shere plis

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