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By *ams12345 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

What is it women and couples are looking for?

There’s loads of good men here getting totally ignored without a chance. Even the ones that don’t send unsolicited dick pics. Does the average male have a chance or is it all just a waste of time?

What I don’t understand is in clubs and parties there’s no problem in interacting and playing but on here it’s like everyone’s royalty. even trying to stir up a casual convo on here is impossible. I do appreciate the people that atleast reply to say they are not interested. So tell me me your secrets or your sorrows I’m all eyes and ears.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Everybody's wants will be different. The key is read the profile and take it from there.

As for us we only want to meet couples and possible single females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean, i can't get a meet to save my life. Scandelous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it women and couples are looking for?

There’s loads of good men here getting totally ignored without a chance. Even the ones that don’t send unsolicited dick pics. Does the average male have a chance or is it all just a waste of time?

What I don’t understand is in clubs and parties there’s no problem in interacting and playing but on here it’s like everyone’s royalty. even trying to stir up a casual convo on here is impossible. I do appreciate the people that atleast reply to say they are not interested. So tell me me your secrets or your sorrows I’m all eyes and ears. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know what you mean, i can't get a meet to save my life. Scandelous."

But you have had more meets than me lol and you’ve only been on 8 weeks!

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know what you mean, i can't get a meet to save my life. Scandelous.

But you have had more meets than me lol and you’ve only been on 8 weeks! "

Sssshhhhhhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given that there are far more men here then females and couples combined, what would you suggest they do? Just meet as many men as they can just to improve your success rate? No worries about what they want..."

Exactly! We don’t owe them a fuck!

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"I know what you mean, i can't get a meet to save my life. Scandelous."

Given that there are far more men here than females and couples combined, what would you suggest they do? Just meet as many men as they can just to improve your success rate? No worries about what they want...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Does the average male have a chance "

Not really, most men are poor to average on here. In terms of effort, profile text, pics and first messages.

A man needs to be better than average with all of the above to get anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know what you mean, i can't get a meet to save my life. Scandelous.

But you have had more meets than me lol and you’ve only been on 8 weeks!

Sssshhhhhhhhh "

Haha just realised that sounded like I can’t get meets!

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Everybody's wants will be different. The key is read the profile and take it from there.

As for us we only want to meet couples and possible single females."

Same for me

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"Given that there are far more men here then females and couples combined, what would you suggest they do? Just meet as many men as they can just to improve your success rate? No worries about what they want...

Exactly! We don’t owe them a fuck!"

Quite. It's your prerogative to meet who you like, when you like.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"Does the average male have a chance

Not really, most men are poor to average on here. In terms of effort, profile text, pics and first messages.

A man needs to be better than average with all of the above to get anywhere "

We don't spend much time here but block 5-10 guys a day who haven't even bothered to read our status let alone our profile.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

People to read my profile before they message, and not ignore what I'm looking for. It's pretty self explanatory and straight to the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we are only looking for other couples 95% of the time. That said we have in the past met a few single guys however it’s really only been for a specific reason and as a result of 99% not reading our profile don’t allow single guys to message and will search for what we want it’s much easier that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know what you mean, i can't get a meet to save my life. Scandelous.

But you have had more meets than me lol and you’ve only been on 8 weeks!

Sssshhhhhhhhh "

Yeah Mr I do ok.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the average male have a chance

Not really, most men are poor to average on here. In terms of effort, profile text, pics and first messages.

A man needs to be better than average with all of the above to get anywhere "

I don't think that's really true and makes the target audience sound a bit prissy. There are average ordinary men who probably do just fine.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP there's no magic solution.

However, a decent profile with good photos and good messages to appropriate people, will increase a persons chance of success.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP, have you considered that your avatar is, in effect, an unsolicited dick pic?

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By *inks_apeyCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Also, people sometimes try different things at clubs, and not what they want day to day, know a few other couples that play differently at clubs to home. We don't tend to, and are mostly looking for couples. But hey.

As for men's profiles we don't tend to look at them very often, but those we do tend to be rather bare bones as a rule. So can't really blame couples and ladies for not dropping to their knees at first message, I can count on one hand competent messages we've had off men, that have actually looked at our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know what you mean, i can't get a meet to save my life. Scandelous.

Given that there are far more men here than females and couples combined, what would you suggest they do? Just meet as many men as they can just to improve your success rate? No worries about what they want..."

i'll need to try so much harder. Cheers for the heads up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know what you mean, i can't get a meet to save my life. Scandelous.

But you have had more meets than me lol and you’ve only been on 8 weeks!

Sssshhhhhhhhh

Yeah Mr I do ok..... "

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Someone who actually sends an intelligent message and has a decent profile

Bi would be a bonus

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By *ockgit64Man
over a year ago

Poulton le Fylde, Lancs.

UNICORNS!!! We all want a Unicorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, respect, trust and chemistry is a must and what we look for. For us once we have those key elements then that's when the real fun can start and create meets that are nights to remember x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the average male have a chance

Not really, most men are poor to average on here. In terms of effort, profile text, pics and first messages.

A man needs to be better than average with all of the above to get anywhere

I don't think that's really true and makes the target audience sound a bit prissy. There are average ordinary men who probably do just fine."

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"UNICORNS!!! We all want a Unicorn "

Not all of us.

Well we do but we are lucky we have a regular single lady.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I just want cake, is that too much to ask

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Someone who actually sends an intelligent message and has a decent profile

Bi would be a bonus "

This

Apart from the Bi bit it’s a requirement with me

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

Our first meet was a single guy

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

I think that’s going to be different for every couple, from guys, I want a guy I’m comfortable around, a guy who will come and watch tv or a film without expecting sex but if it happens great, I want to trust him I want to know him and want to want to naked around him plus the obvious sexual attraction

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"What is it women and couples are looking for?

There’s loads of good men here getting totally ignored without a chance. Even the ones that don’t send unsolicited dick pics. Does the average male have a chance or is it all just a waste of time?

What I don’t understand is in clubs and parties there’s no problem in interacting and playing but on here it’s like everyone’s royalty. even trying to stir up a casual convo on here is impossible. I do appreciate the people that atleast reply to say they are not interested. So tell me me your secrets or your sorrows I’m all eyes and ears. "

We.wouldn't reply to you in a message because you've only got dick pics. Yes your right you might have a better chance in a club where people can see what you look like. If you don't have face pics on your profile its a bit harder to get a meet. You kinda answered your own question, you don't send dick pics but you advertise on your profile which put a lot of people of.

Hope you get lucky x

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By *0shadesOfFilthMan
over a year ago

nearby

It’s just the numbers, 100+ men to one woman

Hence 8/10 blokes turned down by 2/10 salad dodgers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t had any meets where it becomes more than a social. But I enjoy what fab is and I’m sure my time will come with the right female or couple.

Bear with it OP it will happen I’m sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They want (I suspect) someone distinctly not average.

But before everyone gives up.... No one is average. We all have a unique blend that makes us exceptional.

However 90pc of men do fuck all to bring that to life and so hide behind dick picks, three weod profiles, and copynpaste messages.

Don't be that guy.

Own who you are. Turn off the 95pc of people who aint ever gonna be into you. But blow the mind out of the 5pc who would dig you of you took a chance on being you.

Or maybe they just want a big dicked millionaire with a dodgy ticker. In which case your only option is to turn gay.

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It’s just the numbers, 100+ men to one woman

Hence 8/10 blokes turned down by 2/10 salad dodgers "

There's some truth to this due to the numbers ratio . But probably too controversial for some.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"They want (I suspect) someone distinctly not average.

But before everyone gives up.... No one is average. We all have a unique blend that makes us exceptional.

However 90pc of men do fuck all to bring that to life and so hide behind dick picks, three weod profiles, and copynpaste messages.

Don't be that guy.

Own who you are. Turn off the 95pc of people who aint ever gonna be into you. But blow the mind out of the 5pc who would dig you of you took a chance on being you.

Or maybe they just want a big dicked millionaire with a dodgy ticker. In which case your only option is to turn gay. "

This.

Tbf we arent looking for some adonis.

But someone who can hold a conversation and we can have fun with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s just the numbers, 100+ men to one woman

Hence 8/10 blokes turned down by 2/10 salad dodgers "

You know you could have made that point without being so insulting. Maybe this ratio means that, for a change, physical attributes don't count for everything. Communication, humour, empathy might actually matter more.

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

We are glad you ask.

As others have said read the profile and think if you are a good match??

Send a polite message and if a couple remember that.

Be careful what you say on the forums as that can end your chances before they begin, and on the same theme your status says a lot about the type of person you are. We always pay close attention to both!!

Treat people with respect and remember this is a swingers site not an escort site which does seem to get confusing for some sometimes!!!

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By *at27Man
over a year ago

Belfast / Brighton


"OP, have you considered that your avatar is, in effect, an unsolicited dick pic?"

Amazing answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s just the numbers, 100+ men to one woman

Hence 8/10 blokes turned down by 2/10 salad dodgers "

Aren’t you all sweetness and light

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"What is it women and couples are looking for?

There’s loads of good men here getting totally ignored without a chance. Even the ones that don’t send unsolicited dick pics. Does the average male have a chance or is it all just a waste of time?

What I don’t understand is in clubs and parties there’s no problem in interacting and playing but on here it’s like everyone’s royalty. even trying to stir up a casual convo on here is impossible. I do appreciate the people that atleast reply to say they are not interested. So tell me me your secrets or your sorrows I’m all eyes and ears. "

What would you offer our fun?

Look from others perspective, not your own, you might just then see away forward.

Oh and smile, never whinge

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I'm not currently looking, but when I am I look for profiles that show a bit of effort & creativity, bios that show the person's personality, pics that stimulate my imagination (close ups of genitals are a total turn off).

I look at profiles before I read messages, if the profile doesn't capture my interest then the message is very unlikely to either.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"What is it women and couples are looking for?

There’s loads of good men here getting totally ignored without a chance. Even the ones that don’t send unsolicited dick pics. Does the average male have a chance or is it all just a waste of time?

What I don’t understand is in clubs and parties there’s no problem in interacting and playing but on here it’s like everyone’s royalty. even trying to stir up a casual convo on here is impossible. I do appreciate the people that atleast reply to say they are not interested. So tell me me your secrets or your sorrows I’m all eyes and ears. "

Can't speak for other couples, but we are certainly looking for an average male.

Our definition of an average male.

Happy to invest two or three minutes, in order to read our profile.

Then can process those words and understand what we're looking for, and can work out objectively, whether he, to some degree, fits.

Isn't a flasher - I don't think your average man wants to stick his erect cock in everyone's face.

Has some life experience and can hold a decent, interesting, lively conversation.

Happy to agree to disagree, we both enjoy discussion, but don't enjoy arguments.

Doesn't take life too seriously and understands how a positive approach to life is good for themselves, and others around them.

Doesn't want to destroy their body with cigarettes, excessive alcohol or d***s.

There you go OP, nothing exceptional there, just our opinion on what amounts to an average male, but as I'm a republican, I'd be happy to have a discussion if, in your opinion, any of the above makes me royal

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"What is it women and couples are looking for?

There’s loads of good men here getting totally ignored without a chance. Even the ones that don’t send unsolicited dick pics. Does the average male have a chance or is it all just a waste of time?

What I don’t understand is in clubs and parties there’s no problem in interacting and playing but on here it’s like everyone’s royalty. even trying to stir up a casual convo on here is impossible. I do appreciate the people that atleast reply to say they are not interested. So tell me me your secrets or your sorrows I’m all eyes and ears. "

Your point about clubs and parties is the key - for us at least. There you get to see what you're getting and no-shows aren't an issue. More importantly you're meeting guys who have made the effort to go out and interact with people, rather than those who expect, or even demand, a free fuck because they've written a three line message on Fab.

We don't look for single guys on Fab, but single guys in clubs are great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it women and couples are looking for?

There’s loads of good men here getting totally ignored without a chance. Even the ones that don’t send unsolicited dick pics. Does the average male have a chance or is it all just a waste of time?

What I don’t understand is in clubs and parties there’s no problem in interacting and playing but on here it’s like everyone’s royalty. even trying to stir up a casual convo on here is impossible. I do appreciate the people that atleast reply to say they are not interested. So tell me me your secrets or your sorrows I’m all eyes and ears.

Can't speak for other couples, but we are certainly looking for an average male.

Our definition of an average male.

Happy to invest two or three minutes, in order to read our profile.

Then can process those words and understand what we're looking for, and can work out objectively, whether he, to some degree, fits.

Isn't a flasher - I don't think your average man wants to stick his erect cock in everyone's face.

Has some life experience and can hold a decent, interesting, lively conversation.

Happy to agree to disagree, we both enjoy discussion, but don't enjoy arguments.

Doesn't take life too seriously and understands how a positive approach to life is good for themselves, and others around them.

Doesn't want to destroy their body with cigarettes, excessive alcohol or d***s.

There you go OP, nothing exceptional there, just our opinion on what amounts to an average male, but as I'm a republican, I'd be happy to have a discussion if, in your opinion, any of the above makes me royal "

Well said

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I generally find that people’s profiles will tell you what they want. There isn’t one specific thing that every woman and couple wants. Oh, well, maybe there is - I think we all want people to read our profiles before messaging us.

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