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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Everywhere or nowhere?

A charming friend left me a message saying I was 'alluring' last night. It made me laugh (and not just because I am sure it referred to me inadvertenly flashing in a town centre).

When I get 'flattering' messages as an introduction, though, it does nothing for me.

When does and doesn't flattery work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

funny isnt it.

some like it and some dont.

i guess if you didnt like it your mind set would be 'you got no chance mate'

but if you did then your in the 'oh that's nice' train of thought and it gives you a boast.

all this proves is that woman dont know what they want and are very hard to please

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Flattery from someone who's met me is very welcome. Flattery from someone who hasn't is very suspect.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"funny isnt it.

some like it and some dont.

i guess if you didnt like it your mind set would be 'you got no chance mate'

but if you did then your in the 'oh that's nice' train of thought and it gives you a boast.

all this proves is that woman dont know what they want and are very hard to please "

Because we should all be thinking and doing the same at all times? Women, not the Borg

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Flattery from someone who's met me is very welcome. Flattery from someone who hasn't is very suspect. "

That is how I see it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Flattery from someone who's met me is very welcome. Flattery from someone who hasn't is very suspect. "

Flattery from someone who hasn't met me (not that I get it very often...) makes my flesh creep....

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"Flattery from someone who's met me is very welcome. Flattery from someone who hasn't is very suspect.

Flattery from someone who hasn't met me (not that I get it very often...) makes my flesh creep....

"

I agree far too personal.. From a friend it can be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take flattery very well as I always think the other person is taking the p**s. Andy is always moaning at me for this, but after all the years he's known me he knows I'll never change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Flattery from someone who's met me is very welcome. Flattery from someone who hasn't is very suspect.

Flattery from someone who hasn't met me (not that I get it very often...) makes my flesh creep....

I agree far too personal.. From a friend it can be nice."

Yep!

A little harmless 'flanter' can be harmless via messages or even in the forums - but full on brown tongueing and arse kissing when you've never even communicated - let alone met with someone comes across as a tad desperate and more than a little creepy!

I guess it's a fine line sometimes and if done 'in public' (e.g. forums) it's sometimes hard for people to tell who know's who and who's met who - hence the common use of the dreaded 'c' word regularly - when in fact it's normally just banter between friends, either real or virtual!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And as the gentleman who complimented Ms Lickety on her alluring outfit last night, I can assure you all that she certainly was. The trip to the cash machine discreetly exposing herself was my fault as I'd left my money at home - she's the perfect lady!

But to answer your auestion, yes I agree compliments from someone who you have not met can be entertaining but of little value (unless complimening how one's profile is written - which can be very nice).

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Flatterys great to give or receive

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

One of my regular friends always wants to come over before the given time and i always say i need time to get ready and his stock answer is someone as radiant and beautiful as you needs spend no time making oneself shine. Translated means - if you hurry up with the makeup i can be there shagging you earlier

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"One of my regular friends always wants to come over before the given time and i always say i need time to get ready and his stock answer is someone as radiant and beautiful as you needs spend no time making oneself shine. Translated means - if you hurry up with the makeup i can be there shagging you earlier"

I am sure he speaks nothing but the truth. Just as I am sure your interpretation also has truth to it.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Flatterys great to give or receive "

A bit of oral and aural

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Everywhere or nowhere?

A charming friend left me a message saying I was 'alluring' last night. It made me laugh (and not just because I am sure it referred to me inadvertenly flashing in a town centre).

When I get 'flattering' messages as an introduction, though, it does nothing for me.

When does and doesn't flattery work?"
When its blarney it doesnt work, when its not genuinely meant it doesnt work, when men say stuff to me that could be either of the former to get into my good books or my knickers it doesnt work. When its a genuinely meant compliment.....it may well produce a smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been told ive an amazing looking cock

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Ive been told ive an amazing looking cock"
you sure they didnt say you look amazingly like a cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't take flattery very well as I always think the other person is taking the p**s. Andy is always moaning at me for this, but after all the years he's known me he knows I'll never change "
Im exactly the same always think the other person is taking the p.ss ruby that is not Clyde

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

I take it with a HUGE pinch of salt. I dont take the whole "wowzers you look amazing" messages as I wouldnt believe it in a pub, so why say it on here?! Im very guarded and very particular who I believe. I like to think I dont take any bollocks as I am what I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Flattery from someone who's met me is very welcome. Flattery from someone who hasn't is very suspect. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nowhere with me

i hate messages with the hey your stunning and im thinking you haven't saw my face picture

i have problems with flattery and compliments when im with friends and family and on here i dont believe fuck all of it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in the context of Swinging - flattery is just as important - after all we dont want to think of us all as being pieces of meat do we...so bring on charm bring on flattery and that goes both ways - even us Bi men appreciate a bit of flattery its not all "drop them fella your on next"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" in the context of Swinging - flattery is just as important - after all we dont want to think of us all as being pieces of meat do we...so bring on charm bring on flattery and that goes both ways - even us Bi men appreciate a bit of flattery its not all "drop them fella your on next" "

yet it can sound false ad fake just ti get in someone knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Flattery from someone who's met me is very welcome. Flattery from someone who hasn't is very suspect. "

Totally agree. Hate when guys who don't know me at all turn on the charm and flatter me. It always makes me feel they are fake. Just turns me right off.

Now if someone who knows me says something flattering or sweet I melt

It has to be genuine and sincere or it turns me cold.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

You don't have to flatter me, just make me laugh. I have illusions about my body etc so flattery doesn't really work, but get me giggling..... Well, then you'd better be prepared!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like it when people say they like my pictures, i only say i like their pictures if i realy do.

if someone says i dont look my age, thats nice because thats what all women want to hear. they dont say it very often though. i dont take what people say to me that seriously though.

i was always told that it is polite to say thank you, when someone compliments you, even if you dont agree with them.

so i usualy say thanks even if i think they are lying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Flattery from someone who's met me is very welcome. Flattery from someone who hasn't is very suspect.

Flattery from someone who hasn't met me (not that I get it very often...) makes my flesh creep....

"

I can tell when people are being genuine or just saying it to get something from me.

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

I like to be complimented! It helps when you first meet someone to be sure that they are attracted to you and interested in taking things further.

I've often thought when guys write lovely things in a verification why they couldn't have said it face to face.

In the chatroon the standard telling every woman on cam that she is stunning is clearly not a genuine approach however.

Its very English not to flatter, or accept compliments well. European men are far more free with compliments, and take rejection with a smile and shrug, and say oh well, maybe tomorrow....

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants


"Flattery from someone who's met me is very welcome. Flattery from someone who hasn't is very suspect.

Flattery from someone who hasn't met me (not that I get it very often...) makes my flesh creep....

"

Beyond the pale of me to call you a cracker then!

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Do any of you men - straight, bi or gay - like to receive flattery from women? Or, as the women have said, do you not believe what is said?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to be complimented! It helps when you first meet someone to be sure that they are attracted to you and interested in taking things further.

I've often thought when guys write lovely things in a verification why they couldn't have said it face to face.

you have the right atitude.

In the chatroon the standard telling every woman on cam that she is stunning is clearly not a genuine approach however.

Its very English not to flatter, or accept compliments well. European men are far more free with compliments, and take rejection with a smile and shrug, and say oh well, maybe tomorrow.... "

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Do any of you men - straight, bi or gay - like to receive flattery from women? Or, as the women have said, do you not believe what is said?"

Would be surprised if anyone truthfully said they did'nt tbh, after all us 'blokes' if we are honest are human also..

Nice when it happens but dont take it as a given and it does depend on whom is saying it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I happen to like complimentary comments. Is that a bad thing?

I do realise that many of the remarks made on a site like this are aimed at getting into a woman's knickers.

But when I read that someone appreciates my smile or my eyes over and above the usual "nice tits luv" it does make me feel I must be doing something right lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of you men - straight, bi or gay - like to receive flattery from women? Or, as the women have said, do you not believe what is said?"

I have no idea.....should it ever happen, I will let you know how I feel. Generally my liasions begin and end with the same delted message......

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Do any of you men - straight, bi or gay - like to receive flattery from women? Or, as the women have said, do you not believe what is said?

I have no idea.....should it ever happen, I will let you know how I feel. Generally my liasions begin and end with the same delted message...... "

Have you ever been flattered out there in the world beyond Fab?

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By *weetcheekstooWoman
over a year ago

southampton


"funny isnt it.

some like it and some dont.

i guess if you didnt like it your mind set would be 'you got no chance mate'

but if you did then your in the 'oh that's nice' train of thought and it gives you a boast.

all this proves is that woman dont know what they want and are very hard to please "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of you men - straight, bi or gay - like to receive flattery from women? Or, as the women have said, do you not believe what is said?

I have no idea.....should it ever happen, I will let you know how I feel. Generally my liasions begin and end with the same delted message......

Have you ever been flattered out there in the world beyond Fab?"

Mercifully, yes. This is not the site to bolster the ego of the single male...

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Do any of you men - straight, bi or gay - like to receive flattery from women? Or, as the women have said, do you not believe what is said?

I have no idea.....should it ever happen, I will let you know how I feel. Generally my liasions begin and end with the same delted message......

Have you ever been flattered out there in the world beyond Fab?

Mercifully, yes. This is not the site to bolster the ego of the single male... "

So, it was good and you enjoy being flattered?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Do any of you men - straight, bi or gay - like to receive flattery from women? Or, as the women have said, do you not believe what is said?"

I believe every word why would they tell a porky. Unless they say unkind things about my bag - bloody liars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well flattery works for me every time! i flatter the wife...she pauses in shock! gives me just enough time to duck! she swipes and misses! husband lives to flatter another day!

yep, flattery works for me every time!

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Do any of you men - straight, bi or gay - like to receive flattery from women? Or, as the women have said, do you not believe what is said?

I believe every word why would they tell a porky. Unless they say unkind things about my bag - bloody liars"

Your bag? Now, why would people tell porkies...? They could have been trying to get to your chicken or are you the only one allowed to choke the chicken?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"well flattery works for me every time! i flatter the wife...she pauses in shock! gives me just enough time to duck! she swipes and misses! husband lives to flatter another day!

yep, flattery works for me every time!"

You offer flattery and she offers flattening

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Do any of you men - straight, bi or gay - like to receive flattery from women? Or, as the women have said, do you not believe what is said?

I believe every word why would they tell a porky. Unless they say unkind things about my bag - bloody liars

Your bag? Now, why would people tell porkies...? They could have been trying to get to your chicken or are you the only one allowed to choke the chicken?"

He likes a familiar touch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well she is a very tall 5 foot and a really mean strong size 6 and if you see her with her chopper dicing a carrot then you would flatter her too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any of you men - straight, bi or gay - like to receive flattery from women? Or, as the women have said, do you not believe what is said?

I have no idea.....should it ever happen, I will let you know how I feel. Generally my liasions begin and end with the same delted message......

Have you ever been flattered out there in the world beyond Fab?

Mercifully, yes. This is not the site to bolster the ego of the single male...

So, it was good and you enjoy being flattered?"

Yes it was nice, and I would be happy to respond to more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of it is all a load of baloney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"most of it is all a load of baloney

"

you look very attractive tonight!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Everywhere or nowhere?

A charming friend left me a message saying I was 'alluring' last night. It made me laugh (and not just because I am sure it referred to me inadvertenly flashing in a town centre).

When I get 'flattering' messages as an introduction, though, it does nothing for me.

When does and doesn't flattery work?"

I use the flattery will get you everywhere line occasionally but only to those we have been having a bit of banter with.

Neither of us take compliments that well, even on the occasions when we know people are being genuine and we know them well.

So from a complete stranger it won't work at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everywhere or nowhere?

A charming friend left me a message saying I was 'alluring' last night. It made me laugh (and not just because I am sure it referred to me inadvertenly flashing in a town centre).

When I get 'flattering' messages as an introduction, though, it does nothing for me.

When does and doesn't flattery work?

I use the flattery will get you everywhere line occasionally but only to those we have been having a bit of banter with.

Neither of us take compliments that well, even on the occasions when we know people are being genuine and we know them well.

So from a complete stranger it won't work at all."

i wank at ur pics alot

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