FabSwingers.com forum: do you meet outside your preference / ideal persons

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

so do you meet outside your preference / ideal person / like / attraction ...

so yet again in convo with a guy (not fab but a club regular) i hear those words that make me think why ?? im hearing it more and more too ah its just a shag i would not be seen out with that person ??

if you would not be seen out with that person then why would you meet/shag i just dont get it ....theres no way id meet someone im not sexually attracted too.

so i guess the question is would you meet and play with someone that you would not walk down the street with ?

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

No, never. I'm extremely selective about who I meet and always meet for at least one social first to establish if there is a connection & attraction face to face.

I don't compromise on what I'm looking for & won't have sex with someone who I don't find both physically & mentally attractive.

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By *on-snowedMan
over a year ago

harlow

A very beautiful lady sent me a message tonight attraction was wild but so far away.

So bloody annoying

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I would never meet someone if I wouldn't be seen walking down the street with them but I would 100% meet people I wouldn't date. It's highly likely they wouldn't date me either.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

If I wouldnt ber seen walking down the street with them, then I wouldnt be meeting them in the first place. I only meet people I like.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

ilkley and Stockport

If I ever get the feeling that someone wouldn't want to be seen in public with me, then I'm not going to be doing anything in private with them.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

So that’s why I’m getting nowhere nobody would be seen dead with me so she was right

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

Never. We would never play with anyone we are not attracted to and have a connection with. We have had quite a few social meets that have not progressed to play which is why we usually only meet folk that are localish unless it's a club or we are in the area anyway

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By *atinocoupleCouple
over a year ago

SF, NY, London (in that order)

Generally no, but we have played with people who we originally thought we wouldn’t but conversations flowed and a different attraction developed. Older/younger/different types, sometimes the humor or mind just worked

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We dont. No.

We make it obvious what we are looking for in our profile but still get messages from other people. Tend to block them, if they cant read profile how are we meant to get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm quite selective for 1 on 1 meets xx

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Attraction can be both physical and mental stimulation x

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

I watched a TV program years ago where they tried to explain why a person would go to a nightclub and go home with someone that as they described as below their standards....Alcohol involved...They put it down to smell saying that it was pure lust , the animal side to us...I've been with women that I wouldn't normally go with and they've been with me..Good old lust.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Depends whether you're using the real-world definition of "preference" or the Fab one.

Everywhere else, "preference" means "A greater liking for one alternative over another or others." On Fab, it's usually code for "absolute dealbreaker".

I will play with anyone I find attractive, regardless of the individual characteristics that compose that attractiveness.

I guess my answer to the question posed by the thread hinges on whether you consider "I find them attractive" to be a "preference". Hah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m really fussy and my fucking standards are no different from my dating ones!

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Nope, hence why were ocassional swingers

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

I've been told that I'm either a dirty little secret or that I'm not girlfriend material. It does make me wonder, why fuck me then?

I did ask one guy once. He said I'm a great shag but he couldn't be seen out with a fat bird who isn't that pretty. Each to their own I guess

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I've been told that I'm either a dirty little secret or that I'm not girlfriend material. It does make me wonder, why fuck me then?

I did ask one guy once. He said I'm a great shag but he couldn't be seen out with a fat bird who isn't that pretty. Each to their own I guess"

What charm school did he get expelled from?

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

No, I'm selective on who I'll meet

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I have high standards on here and in real life,

I think it's frustrating for Jack, as we don't find couples where I'm attracted to the man often.

My view is that if I don't fancy someone and they're not a person I'd see in real life, then I'd rather not bother.

Miss

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Nope, if I wouldn’t meet them in the “real” world I wouldn’t meet off here/ clubs.

Like wise any men looking to be desperate or meeting any one i wouldn’t be interested.

I’ve turned down super hot guys because I know they wouldn’t pull me in a nightclub so don’t try meet me off here

haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been told that I'm either a dirty little secret or that I'm not girlfriend material. It does make me wonder, why fuck me then?

I did ask one guy once. He said I'm a great shag but he couldn't be seen out with a fat bird who isn't that pretty. Each to their own I guess"

What the hell!!!! Arrogant tw@ts. No one has the right to treat another person like that.

I think Polly_Chromatic has hit the nail on the head : If I ever get the feeling that someone wouldn't want to be seen in public with me, then I'm not going to be doing anything in private with them.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I have my physical preferences in a woman but they’re hard, fast and set in stone. Don’t believe it necessarily makes me desperate or that I’ll shag anyone with a pulse which I have been accused of in the past.

It’s more how the person conducts themselves just as much as their appearance that attracts me to someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I watched a TV program years ago where they tried to explain why a person would go to a nightclub and go home with someone that as they described as below their standards....Alcohol involved...They put it down to smell saying that it was pure lust , the animal side to us...I've been with women that I wouldn't normally go with and they've been with me..Good old lust."

This will explain why I go for different types at clubs and not my norm on fab.....

Horny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it can be circumstantial for sure. Generally there has to be an attraction though

My question especially for singles is if meeting a couple and you find one but not the other attractive do you continue or not? Just curious

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I think it can be circumstantial for sure. Generally there has to be an attraction though

My question especially for singles is if meeting a couple and you find one but not the other attractive do you continue or not? Just curious "

I'm a single man who meets couples sometimes. Being straight, I don't find any men attractive – so yes, I do continue.

It's a question of a) finding the woman attractive, and b) finding the man likeable, or at the very least not offputting in some way. Hah.

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