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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds

How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received.

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By *heHungStudentMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Best thing with rejecting is to just leave it, delete the messages, maybe even block them and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This !!

Be polite, it might mean they don’t fancy meeting you at this time, but maybe in the future. Manners are free aren’t they

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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"This !!

Be polite, it might mean they don’t fancy meeting you at this time, but maybe in the future. Manners are free aren’t they "

Totally agree, manners cost nothing

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I’ve tried the no thank you and while some do reply with no problem mostly I then get abuse so it’s easier just not to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, I get some really horrible abuse whenever I politely decline an offer. Usually all age related! If you can't handle rejection, you really shouldn't be on here.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Only ever had one from a female I'd never talked.

My response was a polite who are you and how did you get this number

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

I wouldn't think their would be a valid reason to reply once they have informed that you aren't for them but if one doesn't reply then simply delete and block so don't stumble across. Helps to filter out your criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they message back saying I'm not for them I just give a polite " all the best" back. If they delete my messsge or read without replying I just block

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By *upersoaker3000Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Always polite and wish them well and thank them for responding and for being up front.

I don't understand why you would be rude about it. It's just life. Some people will be attracted to and some won't. It's no reflection on you or them.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

There's no answer to this. Some people get really abusive when turned down. Who needs that? That's why the site rules state that a no reply should be viewed as a polite 'thanks but no thanks'.

I bet most of those who believe not replying it inherently rude don't have to deal with too many crass, disgusting or otherwise annoying messages, especially from people who haven't even bothered to read their profile before sending them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally send a polite message back wishing them well! If they’ve taken the time to respond, it’s the least I can do! I don’t usually block them, as who knows whether in future we might be more compatible. I do put a note in their profile though to remind myself not to message the again unless things change.

I totally get why some don’t respond even to say no thanks. From what I hear, there are a lot of members who get abusive when turned down, and why would they put themselves out there for that?

I did recently ask (very politely) for some feedback on my profile and opening gambit, as a local lady winked at me, then immediately deleted the introduction I sent her five minute later (I don’t copy and paste, so it wasn’t that). She said try again another time as she just wasn’t up for it right now, but got too many messages to reply to them all (fair enough I guess). She also told me not to be touchy about it, which swear I wasn’t - I was just hoping to find out how I messed up the initial contact so I wouldn’t do it again! Once again I thanked her for taking the time.

I hate that people are dicks and get nasty when rejected, it really ruins it for the rest of us who are polite and respect people’s right not to want to get to know us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a " no worries, happy fabbing " from me. If I'm not for someone then no point dwelling.

I have however had someone turn me down on message and then say they wouldn't have turned me down after meeting them in person. Proving a point from another thread, some people are photogenic and some aren't. I am the latter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just reply, no problem, have a good day etc no point being salty if you’re not someone’s type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really look on here as I find it pretty hopeless or maybe I'm hopeless at it...lol

The folks I have talked to or had socials with that have decided it's a "no" usually just don't message again or send a polite message.

Those that haven't replied who have chatted to me for weeks I just don't get. Especially when they message you at all hours.

Those that send a polite no, get a thanks for your time and good luck finding what you want message from me in return.

I've been on the scene twenty years and can't be arsed with bother.

It's very rare I reject someone because it's very rare I get offers nowadays...

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By *ochdale lad2019Man
over a year ago

Rochdale

I always send a polite message saying no worries thanks for the reply and good luck with everything, why be a dick over it

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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received.

I wouldn't think their would be a valid reason to reply once they have informed that you aren't for them but if one doesn't reply then simply delete and block so don't stumble across. Helps to filter out your criteria"

I didn’t reply, I just laughed

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

I just say thanks and move on.

I can't recall ever receiving an abusive message.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I dont respond, no point. Just delete and move on x

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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I just say thanks and move on.

I can't recall ever receiving an abusive message."

I only had the one, thankfully

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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’ve tried the no thank you and while some do reply with no problem mostly I then get abuse so it’s easier just not to reply "

Don’t blame you, you single women get inundated with messages so would be impossible to respond to everybody

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

I usually phone a friend and hatch my re vengy. mwhaa

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By *ofdiamondsMan
over a year ago

Coningsby

If I get a polite thanks but no thanks I respond in kind acknowledging the effort to reply then leave it.

Not had any rude responses yet but would just ignore as not petty enough to retaliate.

If it's unread, read or deleted I just leave it alone and take it as a no

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Yeah, I got called "gopping" the other day after I politely said not for me thanks

Best response is no response

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By *hocCock1Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Not had one as I rarely message first, best response ignore and block so you don't cross paths again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is so disappointing the number of times I see that women are being called a slut for rejecting a man.

The men can't understand that if she is such a slut and still won't fuck you then you must be a proper grot

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By *igBen9Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I don’t mind being rejected (it’s part of the game) but what’s frustrating is when your messaging someone back and forth and suddenly they stop replying or delete your messages.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

The reality for us is that we reject quite a few single guys and it doesn’t hurt to be polite.

We’ve actually backtracked and ended up meeting someone we rejected. All because he was polite and would occasionally comment nice things on our new photos

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By *ekkatransTV/TS
over a year ago

Scarborough

No point getting bothered over rejection, we all have different tastes.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’ve no idea, I’ve never been rejected

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By *nspired CoupleCouple
over a year ago

andover


"Yeah, I got called "gopping" the other day after I politely said not for me thanks

Best response is no response"

Have not heard the term Gopping in years, made me smile

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By *amalusMan
over a year ago

Tullamore

I tell them fair enough, thanks for taking the time to let me know, happy hunting!

No need to be rude or mean if someone isn't into you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This !!

Be polite, it might mean they don’t fancy meeting you at this time, but maybe in the future. Manners are free aren’t they "

This for me.

Ive email couples that have viewed me thanking them for their unhidden view of my profile and wishing them well. People don’t realise how demoralising it can be to have no views ‘logged’ when people are likely viewing your profile. As it says above, manners are free.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"This !!

Be polite, it might mean they don’t fancy meeting you at this time, but maybe in the future. Manners are free aren’t they "

Free, but not freely distributed enough!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I don’t mind being rejected (it’s part of the game) but what’s frustrating is when your messaging someone back and forth and suddenly they stop replying or delete your messages."

Then either don't turn up for a coffee, or just look at the ceiling when you first meet them...

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I always reply thank you for letting me know

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Yeah, I got called "gopping" the other day after I politely said not for me thanks

Best response is no response"

Learnt two new words today.

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I say thanks for replying, happy Fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I screenshot their pictures, have a wank then block them. Small victories

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave it, move on.

"You cannot possibly fuck all women on the world, but you should not stop trying" - a Russian proverb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a ‘no thanks’ but they always seem to ask why so I just delete them then they keep sending messages so off they go to my block list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Be polite, it might mean they don’t fancy meeting you at this time, but maybe in the future. Manners are free aren’t they "

I think a lot more of someone who replies politely to my (polite) rejection. You never know what will come around again.

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield


"I’ve tried the no thank you and while some do reply with no problem mostly I then get abuse so it’s easier just not to reply "

Very great insight and advice

After all if you're being rejected you should not waste any more of their time

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

If replied sorry not for me no matter how disappointing manners go a long long way showing very deserved respect

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I've never had to deal with a nasty rejection, if someone takes the time to say they are no longer interested then you should at least send a few words to the effect of thanking them for being honest and sorry you were not compatible, no point in leaving things bitter.

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

One time out of the blue I got a message from this snorky gal asking for clear face picture after I sent it she replied well just how old are you after I told her I was 68 she replied back gross that's like doing it with my grandpa

I guess some people just find it cute to be insulting

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By *exymansexyMan
over a year ago

Warfield

A lot of women do not reply at all now matter how polite or respectful a message. And some others just block you mid conversation with out any warning. Even if they are sening you kisses and suggesting a social.

I calmly and peacefully, in my head, scream like a lunatic and imagine throwing my laptop accross the room.

After all, there's no point in being overly dramatic about these things.

It's not like its happened more than fifty or so times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve replied to (and rejected) quite a few today, and all of them have been nice and gracious (so far).

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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago

the Goldilocks Zone


"Always polite and wish them well and thank them for responding and for being up front.

I don't understand why you would be rude about it. It's just life. Some people will be attracted to and some won't. It's no reflection on you or them."

100% this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the point in being mean about it? We aren't all going to be attracted to each other, be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of women do not reply at all now matter how polite or respectful a message. And some others just block you mid conversation with out any warning. Even if they are sening you kisses and suggesting a social.

I calmly and peacefully, in my head, scream like a lunatic and imagine throwing my laptop accross the room.

After all, there's no point in being overly dramatic about these things.

It's not like its happened more than fifty or so times."

I don't think I have had a response no matter how polite i am. Most go unread until they are auto deleted, to the point i have accepted i am not what anyone is after, so removed my profile at some point you have to accept the horse is dead!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

Basically the same, lifes to shorts to care about others opinions on you.

The same way we have preferences, so do the ladies on here. Can't be everyones type.

As for the miserable people who try to make others feel small with comments like that, ignore em pal. They're obviously are very sad people, who want others to feel sad as well.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I normally respond, no problem happy swinging. No point being bitter over it. I prefer to know where I stand

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

We must be fortunate. We reply a sime no thanks, it what we're after style and never had abuse. Occasional pleas to change our mind, which we just delete. But we've never had rude repercussions as we say no nicely, or think we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I would enjoy getting at least the rejection message haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get alot of rejections lol, although frustrating, there is no need to abusive. like you say manners cost nothing and we all have different tastes.

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By *.luke7Man
over a year ago

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I don’t get that abusive response to rejection?

Either this is their first time rejection and not a seasoned veteran like myself.. or they think that people will succumb to the pity

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By *exymansexyMan
over a year ago

Warfield

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By *exymansexyMan
over a year ago

Warfield


"I think I would enjoy getting at least the rejection message haha "

oops.

Went to edit my post and it deleted!

I really understand what you are saying. Felt thsat way many times!

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I used to just delete messages that didn't interest me and then I did an experiment of responding to every message I received.

It was about 25% abuse, 25% no reply and 50% thanking me for replying.

The abuse is annoying but I decided to continue replying to most messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My standard reply to a thanks but no thanks message would be:

"Thanks for the reply and good luck!! Xx"

I believe in Karma and treating people with the respect I desire.

I then block and delete to stop me accidentally bumping into them again at a later date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always reply to a thanks but no thanks message with a “happy fabbing” response. politeness costs nothing

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By *ostguy321Man
over a year ago

Bucks

Be gracious in rejection and move on, accepting that if there is no attraction then fair enough.

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By *harlotteBigBoobsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I always say a polite no worries thankyiu very much and vice versa if they nit my type always a polite nit for me I'm sorry happy fabbing.

Some of the abuse I've recieved is unreal. Messaged one guy to say hello , commented on his tattoos and said he was very attractive to receive a reply saying why would I be interested in a fat fuck like you ?? But more when I reject them , had one only yesterday say why not ? You can't recieved that many offers surely your obese, lol I just block if get abusive. Suppose to be a bit of fun x

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

There is a spectrum of like-minded people on this site, the majority of whom appear to be reasonable, civil and decent (swingers), but one occasionally encounters people with particular issues, whether temporary or long-term.

The wisest course is to be polite and courteous and mature, despite the intermittent abuse, rudeness and goading.

Anonymity allows people to reveal their true personalities.

Bearing in mind my age, I personally don't expect much success, in terms of meets, but it is an experience and a pleasant one for the most part.

The occasional abuser, crank or addict does not deter me; in fact the more rapidly they reveal their true nature the better; one can rapidly move onto more potentially fertile ground, where I can spread my seed, to coin a phrase.

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By *adyJane86Woman
over a year ago

South of Lincoln

I always politely respond with

Hi there thanks for mailing but its a no thankyou from me all the best of luck and stay safe

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"I’ve tried the no thank you and while some do reply with no problem mostly I then get abuse so it’s easier just not to reply "

When this happens I would like folk to just delete the message so I know it’s a no thanx

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"I always say a polite no worries thankyiu very much and vice versa if they nit my type always a polite nit for me I'm sorry happy fabbing.

Some of the abuse I've recieved is unreal. Messaged one guy to say hello , commented on his tattoos and said he was very attractive to receive a reply saying why would I be interested in a fat fuck like you ?? But more when I reject them , had one only yesterday say why not ? You can't recieved that many offers surely your obese, lol I just block if get abusive. Suppose to be a bit of fun x"

Ur not big u got all the right curves in the right places

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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I always say a polite no worries thankyiu very much and vice versa if they nit my type always a polite nit for me I'm sorry happy fabbing.

Some of the abuse I've recieved is unreal. Messaged one guy to say hello , commented on his tattoos and said he was very attractive to receive a reply saying why would I be interested in a fat fuck like you ?? But more when I reject them , had one only yesterday say why not ? You can't recieved that many offers surely your obese, lol I just block if get abusive. Suppose to be a bit of fun x"

There are some nasty people out there, no need for comments like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always post a polite message back life’s too short to be rude , you can’t be everyone’s cup of tea as they say

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Not had one as I rarely message first, best response ignore and block so you don't cross paths again "

Same, it’s happened once or twice in several years and it’s disappointing, because I’ve invested time in messaging , but it’s not to be so best thing is to simply block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always say a polite no worries thankyiu very much and vice versa if they nit my type always a polite nit for me I'm sorry happy fabbing.

Some of the abuse I've recieved is unreal. Messaged one guy to say hello , commented on his tattoos and said he was very attractive to receive a reply saying why would I be interested in a fat fuck like you ?? But more when I reject them , had one only yesterday say why not ? You can't recieved that many offers surely your obese, lol I just block if get abusive. Suppose to be a bit of fun x

There are some nasty people out there, no need for comments like that. "

It was there way of feeling in power when what they really are doing is hidding behind a phone. If they said that in a pub they would get a smacking. Either by the person or the person standing with them. And then they would look and feel stupid. But say it on a phone. !!!! Nothing happens.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

The one time I had a rejection message on here I sent a brief response thanking them for responding, expressing my appreciation of their honesty, and wishing them the best for the future.

Then I kicked myself for my stupidity, because the last thing they probably wanted was another message from the idiot male they'd just rejected. Oops.

I don't know what I'll do if it happens again. Overthink things terribly, I expect. Hah.

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By *akieplumMan
over a year ago

blandford

Normally i'd reply with a thank your taking your time to message me, or ok no problem best of luck. But now most dont give a rejection message, they just dont reply or ghost you. Then i find its them that complain no one has manners. I mean they dont owe a reply i get that. Just manners can go a long way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

Death threats !

No I mean at first then I’m all good

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Just a polite no thanks received goes a long way

Thank you and move on

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I think the only acceptable response to a rejection reply is a ‘no worries, all the best’ or similar, or no response at all.

‘Politely’ responding with questions about why or asking for feedback, is as inappropriate as abuse I think, albeit less offensive. Why would you keep bothering a person who has already said they’re not interested? It’s irritating. You have to respect people’s boundaries and not keep forcing your way into someone’s inbox when they’ve already told you no.

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By *rGenuineMan
over a year ago

Purley

Just be polite and respect the fact that they have 400 messages to sift through and still took the time to respond - most don’t (understandably).

Sadly there will always be those who think everyone will fuck anyone on here, but if you went to a bar and asked 200 women if they wanted a drink most would say no!

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

I think being nice always trumps!!

On a certain fetish site I had a guy message ( I’ve never looked at the profile/ liked anything etc) I’m too big for him! I was like ooook then he blocked me! That one left me a little confused!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say at the end of a message that if I'm not your thing then that's fine, I understand that not everyone has the same taste although it is nice to get a message back saying so.

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By *edsky29Couple
over a year ago

Fine Ass City

Being polite is the best way, we got a message from a single male the other day saying that he hopes we catch coronavirus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This !!

Be polite, it might mean they don’t fancy meeting you at this time, but maybe in the future. Manners are free aren’t they "

Totally agree, always be nice

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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Being polite is the best way, we got a message from a single male the other day saying that he hopes we catch coronavirus"

Horrible response, clearly a bitter idiot that can’t take rejection

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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think the only acceptable response to a rejection reply is a ‘no worries, all the best’ or similar, or no response at all.

‘Politely’ responding with questions about why or asking for feedback, is as inappropriate as abuse I think, albeit less offensive. Why would you keep bothering a person who has already said they’re not interested? It’s irritating. You have to respect people’s boundaries and not keep forcing your way into someone’s inbox when they’ve already told you no. "

Agreed, asking why or for feedback just appears desperate and the behaviour of a stalker !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be nice and say sorry to bother you if my message was read. There is only so many hundred times you can do that though. I expect to be rejected these days and can’t be bothered to be nice anymore. This sites for perving and who knows one day someone might respond lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you haven’t got anything nice to say then don’t say anything

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Be polite and move on.

When we started out we met a guy and ver’d him but got nothing back. At the time we were pissed, but now we treat this place slightly more transactionally.

But we do it politely, and occasionally just block people who act like pratts.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"I think the only acceptable response to a rejection reply is a ‘no worries, all the best’ or similar, or no response at all.

‘Politely’ responding with questions about why or asking for feedback, is as inappropriate as abuse I think, albeit less offensive. Why would you keep bothering a person who has already said they’re not interested? It’s irritating. You have to respect people’s boundaries and not keep forcing your way into someone’s inbox when they’ve already told you no.

Agreed, asking why or for feedback just appears desperate and the behaviour of a stalker ! "

I think it’s a bit entitled to try help yourself to even more time from a person who has already said they’re not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

Being nice has started to grind me down on fab…. I’ve stopped replying with ‘Not for me thank you’ and don’t reply anymore - I just can’t stand the backlash. The best response is ‘no problems thanks’ and I agree, blocking is probably best, as the amount of repeat messages I get saying ‘howz U bbe. Fancy a fuck?” is pretty dull. Not wanting to moan about the men on here, it’s just the minority who fill up the majority of my inbox haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received.

Being nice has started to grind me down on fab…. I’ve stopped replying with ‘Not for me thank you’ and don’t reply anymore - I just can’t stand the backlash. The best response is ‘no problems thanks’ and I agree, blocking is probably best, as the amount of repeat messages I get saying ‘howz U bbe. Fancy a fuck?” is pretty dull. Not wanting to moan about the men on here, it’s just the minority who fill up the majority of my inbox haha x"

It’s tough I know ? Wanna hug it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

Are you sure that wasn't a fella who got back to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best thing with rejecting is to just leave it, delete the messages, maybe even block them and move on "

Did this recently and was later told they had a status up telling people to avoid us as we were clearly fake for not sharing our face pics on demand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received.

Being nice has started to grind me down on fab…. I’ve stopped replying with ‘Not for me thank you’ and don’t reply anymore - I just can’t stand the backlash. The best response is ‘no problems thanks’ and I agree, blocking is probably best, as the amount of repeat messages I get saying ‘howz U bbe. Fancy a fuck?” is pretty dull. Not wanting to moan about the men on here, it’s just the minority who fill up the majority of my inbox haha x

It’s tough I know ? Wanna hug it out "

Love to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received.

Being nice has started to grind me down on fab…. I’ve stopped replying with ‘Not for me thank you’ and don’t reply anymore - I just can’t stand the backlash. The best response is ‘no problems thanks’ and I agree, blocking is probably best, as the amount of repeat messages I get saying ‘howz U bbe. Fancy a fuck?” is pretty dull. Not wanting to moan about the men on here, it’s just the minority who fill up the majority of my inbox haha x

It’s tough I know ? Wanna hug it out

Love to "

Right cmon bring it in !!!!

See That’s what pals are here for x

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By *ucksguy2000Man
over a year ago

aylesbury

Take it on the chin and move on, success will come eventually ??

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Im not going to lie, it definitely puts a dent in my confidence and I genuinely feel shit about myself but I always reply and thank them for taking the time to respond to me.

Which is more than what most do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter how polite I say "no thank you" I nearky always get abuse.. its crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No matter how polite I say "no thank you" I nearky always get abuse.. its crap"

I almost deleted fab for this reason at the weekend. A man decided to tell me him and his mate were laughing at my body in comparison to theirs & my veris must be a joke. The coward blocked me before I could point out the selfie’s he sent showed where he worked. Reported and dusted myself off and back in the room!

Haha! Big hugs xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No matter how polite I say "no thank you" I nearky always get abuse.. its crap

I almost deleted fab for this reason at the weekend. A man decided to tell me him and his mate were laughing at my body in comparison to theirs & my veris must be a joke. The coward blocked me before I could point out the selfie’s he sent showed where he worked. Reported and dusted myself off and back in the room!

Haha! Big hugs xxxx"
good girl. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

If she responded like a cunt like that I would be a cunt back especially if I sent a nice message originally...she's probably still trying to find the way out of her own arse

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By *arte_Blanche_NECouple
over a year ago

Northern


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

Never bothered us and we just move on but we’ve had some awful messages back when we’ve rejected, the ones that make us cringe the most are when people ask what’s put us off.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to say “Thanks for letting me know.” but that has led to snide replies from people looking for an argument. So now I just delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

I just thank them for getting back to me and wish them all the best. I do genuinely appreciate them being honest and responding as I completely understand everyone has their own preferences and I’m certainly no prize male specimen. The fact though they’ve taken that time to respond in a kind and thoughtful way to say in their own way “thank you but no thanks”, It’s very touching even if it not what I’d hoped for.

I really don’t understand why someone would be rude and offensive to someone when they’ve tried to let them down gently and have been thoughtful of their feelings when responding, though equally why be rude to anyone whether it’s a first message, responding to a message or reply back to a responding message. I’m newish to swinging and to Fab but to me Fab should be a happy, positive fun places to visit to socialise with like minded people and maybe make some friends. If that leads to anything else then great but predominantly a happy chilled community. Same as if at a club or party.

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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’ve replied to (and rejected) quite a few today, and all of them have been nice and gracious (so far). "

Your clearly attracting the nice People

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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received.

Are you sure that wasn't a fella who got back to you "

It was a woman’s profile but you know fab it could have been a man.

Had a woman’s profile contact me last week and we got something arranged to meet then she said “I have a dick” it’s absolutely bizarre why would a guy set up a woman’s profile, I replied not for me thanks and blocked but it does make you wonder what goes through peoples minds !

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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received.

If she responded like a cunt like that I would be a cunt back especially if I sent a nice message originally...she's probably still trying to find the way out of her own arse "

I just thought oh dear somebody’s having a bad day so didn’t reply to her nasty comments.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received.

Are you sure that wasn't a fella who got back to you

It was a woman’s profile but you know fab it could have been a man.

Had a woman’s profile contact me last week and we got something arranged to meet then she said “I have a dick” it’s absolutely bizarre why would a guy set up a woman’s profile, I replied not for me thanks and blocked but it does make you wonder what goes through peoples minds !

"

Maybe not a guy, maybe a pre op trans woman. You should definitely have been made aware of her penis early in the conversation, before it gets to talking about a meet if that was the case.

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By *dventureSeeker23Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

Some people are just strange. I take the same approach as you thanks for the reply as most don't here and hope they do have a nice evening

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By *eedsmale36 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received.

Are you sure that wasn't a fella who got back to you

It was a woman’s profile but you know fab it could have been a man.

Had a woman’s profile contact me last week and we got something arranged to meet then she said “I have a dick” it’s absolutely bizarre why would a guy set up a woman’s profile, I replied not for me thanks and blocked but it does make you wonder what goes through peoples minds !

Maybe not a guy, maybe a pre op trans woman. You should definitely have been made aware of her penis early in the conversation, before it gets to talking about a meet if that was the case. "

No mention of it on profile, no mention of it for numerous messages over a 2 week period then arranged a meet and then “oh by the way I have a dick”

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Me get rejected don't be silly

Joking, I just say take care

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By *roydonlionMan
over a year ago

Croydon

I always respond graciously to my ever increasing rejections

Anyone got a violin I can borrow?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why respond to a no thanks ? its not needed just leave it at the no thanks and move on ....

rejection is part n parcel to the scene everyone should expect it at any time nothing in life is a given ... just suck it up and move on

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs


"why respond to a no thanks ? its not needed just leave it at the no thanks and move on ....

rejection is part n parcel to the scene everyone should expect it at any time nothing in life is a given ... just suck it up and move on"

This it's happened twice this year once very recently but we're all adults and you just move on

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

If they’re polite - answer thanking them & wish them all the best. One was rude they just got blocked.

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By *unBob85Man
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I always reply with a polite message, manners cost nothing. Can honestly say I’ve only ever had one in polite response and I put that down to them probably having a bad day, if not I probably wouldn’t have got along with them anyway !!

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By *etsukaCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Just a " no worries, happy fabbing " from me. If I'm not for someone then no point dwelling.

I have however had someone turn me down on message and then say they wouldn't have turned me down after meeting them in person. Proving a point from another thread, some people are photogenic and some aren't. I am the latter "

I find this. I also absolutely cannot work out if I fancy someone from a random body pic. I'll not reply to people for arbitrary reasons- copy and paste jobs, inability to use a full stop, just because they don't have particularly good photos and then I could meet them at a club and the person in reality has something about them that makes me go "wow".

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By *icence_2_Thrill_006.9Man
over a year ago

Sex Bi The Sea


"How do people respond to a rejection message ?

I always respond with “no problems, have a great evening / day / night” etc

Cant see the point in been rude or bitter, it’s only a no.

Same as

Had one woman in Lanark Scotland message me after I sent her a nice message : “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours cock”

At the time I thought WTF but I did laugh !

Interested in other peoples response to rejection or the best put down received. "

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By *ver the hill for fabMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Always with a very polite message

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By *icence_2_Thrill_006.9Man
over a year ago

Sex Bi The Sea


"Just a " no worries, happy fabbing " from me. If I'm not for someone then no point dwelling.

I have however had someone turn me down on message and then say they wouldn't have turned me down after meeting them in person. Proving a point from another thread, some people are photogenic and some aren't. I am the latter

I find this. I also absolutely cannot work out if I fancy someone from a random body pic. I'll not reply to people for arbitrary reasons- copy and paste jobs, inability to use a full stop, just because they don't have particularly good photos and then I could meet them at a club and the person in reality has something about them that makes me go "wow"."

I’ve had this happen a couple of times a polite no thanks and then I meet the lady at a house party and things are different face to face definitely helps to see if there’s a mutual spark

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By *ver the hill for fabMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"Just a " no worries, happy fabbing " from me. If I'm not for someone then no point dwelling.

I have however had someone turn me down on message and then say they wouldn't have turned me down after meeting them in person. Proving a point from another thread, some people are photogenic and some aren't. I am the latter

I find this. I also absolutely cannot work out if I fancy someone from a random body pic. I'll not reply to people for arbitrary reasons- copy and paste jobs, inability to use a full stop, just because they don't have particularly good photos and then I could meet them at a club and the person in reality has something about them that makes me go "wow"."
for not using a full stop a bit extreme don't you think.

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By *ver the hill for fabMan
over a year ago

LONDON

I would not lose a wink of sleep over it it's only a message on a hook up site different if you were in a pub or club and you getting on ok

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