FabSwingers.com forum: Telling Family

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do any of your family members know you're on here or know you're a swinger? If so how did you tell them? What was their reaction?

My son knows about my lifestyle and had zero problems with it, I hope its the same for all of you too.

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By *eachrunner1Man
over a year ago

Farnham

Absolutely not.

A couple of friends know, but that's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer to keep it a secret and be very discreet.

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

Friends know but my only family remaining is my son and he's 11 so nope lol

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I don't have any immediate family left, so don't have to worry about that.

I don't think Jack's dad would understand though, so we keep it to ourselves. He did tell a couple of close fiends, that was before we met.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I am not really 'in' the scene any more, but...

No, my family and friends don't know, and I would prefer that they didn't.

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

We keep it to ourselves it's our secret fun. stepping out of the norm its for us only none our kids or family need to know

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I think it is different if you are single or a couple.

For couples I think there is still the issue of if you are swinging then your relationship is damaged.

For singles with the advent of tinder and other hook up sites, there is less of a stigma attached.

That being said there is no way we would discuss sex with our parents anyway.

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By *mudge616Man
over a year ago

DONCASTER

How did your son find out?

My son knows

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By *oojCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Our kids know saves a lot of invented excuses, not a topic of conversation over sunday lunch even so.

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By *oodymonsterMan
over a year ago

Near Shrewsbury

Sister knows because she saw my laptop open on the page

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By *mudge616Man
over a year ago

DONCASTER

What did she say

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By *oodymonsterMan
over a year ago

Near Shrewsbury

I was a perv lol

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

I told my mum when I started going to club as a single so she knew where I was as my adult daughter was at home but my phone would be off.

I remember telling my mum about a session I’d had with this gorgeous guy but no details, for that guy to now be my hubby of 3 years. I didn’t tell dad until a year ago as he’s very Victorian in his views.

Mum was never bothered but they think we’ve left the scene and we haven’t

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By *randmrsbigcCouple
over a year ago

North east

"I think it is different if you are single or a couple.

For couples I think there is still the issue of if you are swinging then your relationship is damaged.

For singles with the advent of tinder and other hook up sites, there is less of a stigma attached.

That being said there is no way we would discuss sex with our parents anyway. "

Second this. Family haven't clue just a couple of close friends

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By *mudge616Man
over a year ago

DONCASTER

Haha that all

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

They’d be shocked,then they’d laugh,then they’d grill me like the fricking FBI about anything and everything. But it would all be good natured

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By *akedduo66Couple
over a year ago

Near Bordon

I can't remember what our (grown up) kids found that let the fact we are swingers out of the bag.

We'd always been open with them and all the sudden there was something going on we'd rather not talk about and this twitched their antennas.

"Why is mum dressed like that?" and that sort of thing.

All three have left home but have this annoying habit of bursting in unannounced and caught us off for a meet.

Eventually the truth got out and oldest was impressed we were still going strong, middle one was nonplussed and the youngest was concerned for his mother's safety, which she assured him on.

Then the youngest, for some reason best known to himself, told the mother in law.

She still can't really get over the fact her daughter is a naturist and this news sort of tripped a fuse and it's not spoken about, which is fine by us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most know I am into kink but not that on here

Couple may be shocked,couple may not as they know I have curiosities about sex

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Not family no, I told a close friend, she was shocked at first, but seems ok about it now.

She made it clear it's not her things and she doesn't really approve but accepts it's up to me how I live my life.

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe

My mum and my daughter know about me and my life

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Lol, sure. No one gives a fuck and if they do, they can go do one. We don’t go up to everyone and start off with “hey Mum I fuck other people”. Obviously not. But why do some people care? It’s 100% illegal for anyone to cause you issues with work for it and it’s 100% better if your family are too judgemental to deal with it to sack them off from your life anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because I’m a grown man who doesn’t need anyones acceptance or permission

And my kids are old enough to do as they please, legally, without informing me

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

NOOOO. My friends don’t even know. Nobody knows apart from Fab friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We keep it private.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

All my family know and few friends x

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

No.

It's our secret life and it makes it that more exciting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't think of why I'd discuss my sex life with my family so it's a no from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah pretty much anyone who knows me well knows I'm on here, I employ a radical honesty approach to life lol.... My mum thinks I'm nuts and can't understand why I don't want a traditional life with the ultimate goal being settling down and getting married like 'normal' people (not against it if I met the right person it's just not top of my list)... She's pretty sure I'm gonna end up murderd... Because you know we must all be psychopaths if we dare to be different lol

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By *mudge616Man
over a year ago

DONCASTER

How did they find out

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By *ornycouplepzCouple
over a year ago

here and there

My sister knows and the Mrs mum and brother know ,and also her auntie know but she is a swinger aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant imagine why we would discuss our private life in any form it took with family or friends......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people close to me know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no need for my family to know about my sex life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not as far as I’m aware and there’s absolutely no need for them too either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh no

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

"NOOOO. My friends don’t even know. Nobody knows apart from Fab friends. "

This. I had a FWB who told everyone what she was up to and couldn't understand how I told no one. Each to their own I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, my important people know what I get up to... They are happy that I am happy

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By *edandLouCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"My sister knows and the Mrs mum and brother know ,and also her auntie know but she is a swinger aswell "

So..your sister,mother in law, brother in law and aunty in law are all aware of your swinging? Really??

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By *ornycouplepzCouple
over a year ago

here and there

"My sister knows and the Mrs mum and brother know ,and also her auntie know but she is a swinger aswell

So..your sister,mother in law, brother in law and aunty in law are all aware of your swinging? Really??"

Yes ,we are a very open couple, after all it's nothing to be ashamed of .we quite often chat to her aunty about it x

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By *enatton2Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Nope! Select friends know but that’s it

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We really wouldn't want our family knowing,we don't think our parents would understand it, at all, and we don't want our children knowing.

They don't know Mrs is bi either.

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By *rNightMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Nope, only my boss knows I’m here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My family are very very judgy. I should be married with kids and settled… they wouldn’t get this choice.

My mother things my sexual deviance will calm as I age

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Nobody in my male life knows about Alex and her antics.

My ex knows and supports me dressing but I've never mentioned sex (as Alex) to her. I'm sure she knows though as she's not stupid.

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By *verageman81Man
over a year ago

lerwick

My cousin knows as she seen a fab notification pop up on my phone. Didn't seem to bothered to be honest she just laughed it off. And hasn't told any off the family as far as I know.

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Told some friends. Their reaction wasn’t great, quite shocked and disapproving. Not told family. Son is 11. Wouldn’t mind him knowing when he’s older but might be a bit embarrassing at first. I’m impressed with those couples that have told family. Good for you.

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By *bbott24Couple
over a year ago

Devizes

Evidently she told her best freind but not to the full extent, evidently she was a bit jealous.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Ring, ring, ring, ring.

Hi Mum its Liz.

Yeah, fine thanks.

No, nothing wrong but just thought I'd let you know that Paul and I love shagging strangers and Paul especially likes watching me having sex with men we only meet in the woods.

What, why don't you want us round for Sunday lunch.

Oh dear, we were really looking forward to telling everyone over Christmas dinner, especially the vicar.

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By *quirtandlick40Woman
over a year ago

east uk

My sister knows, infact she will baby sit for me if I'm away for the night x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really a conversation I fancy having with my family tbh its not really their business lol a few friends know

Mrs x

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By *ouplecu2015Couple
over a year ago

Reading

Oh my God i hope no

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

Siblings and our Son knows. We never wanted the risk of him seeing one of us out on a date separately and assuming the worst. He didn't bat an eyelid!

(Did wait until he was 18 though)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My family and work friends know I'm a swinger, I've no secrets.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

My best friend and her husband know we told them in the live lounge a few weeks ago, they were totally shocked, but we wanted to tell someone and they were the one's we can trust. X

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

It's actually surprised me over the years how many couples, and single women have no secrets from their immediate family. The lady in Reading who actually introduced me to this site was a swinger from the early days when contact magazines were the way to connect. Her son who lived with her knew full well that his mum was a swinger, and for safety he knew as much detail as possible about the people his mum was meeting, and parties she was attending. There was a mother and daughter swinging in East Wales on here, but their golden rule was mum didn't play with anyone daughter had played with, and vice versa. A very close friend of mine, whose 18 year old grandson lives with her from time to time, has seen her changed ready for me coming round, and has no issues with it. His mum and her other daughter in Scunthorpe who also has a profile on here are all aware of their mums high sex drive, and her adventures. Those are just three examples, there are many more that have come to my attention. I'm sure that my family know that I can't be living the life of a monk, but are just minding their own business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend knows but her husband knows nothing

She knows alot and did not believe me so proved it.

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from maybe letting one or two very close to me know what I was up to (from a safety perspective) I see no reason why anyone else should know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's absolutely conservative with us. No way we would tell another soul known to us in our community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my close friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No definitely not,I have two grown up daughters,the eldest would be appalled & disgusted & the younger one wouldn't understand why I was cheating on her mother. Not told any of my friends.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I don’t discuss my sex life with my family, and don’t intend to.

Some friends have an idea just because of how I am, but I’ve never gone into great detail with them.

I think being a member of the Fab community is something special and not to be shared with those outside the fold. If you’re in you’re in and anyone can join if they want to be in!

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my sister as shes the only close friend I have and she really didn't take it well and she rarely speaks to me now, i've never regretted something more. I'm rather lonely now but i've alienated myself

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By *ornyandachingCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Family wouldn’t understand. Happily explained it to a government vetting agency for security clearance

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"I told my sister as shes the only close friend I have and she really didn't take it well and she rarely speaks to me now, i've never regretted something more. I'm rather lonely now but i've alienated myself

That’s so sad! What a pity she can’t love the real you. Sending hugs (if you want them! If you don’t, leave them to one side). Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep myself to myself my family are prudish so wouldn't understand..my best mate knows but we've only discussed it once to be fair

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