FabSwingers.com forum: Guys thoughts on couples?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A couple of days ago I was listening to a conversation in the office where a single guy was boasting about his sex life etc.

He went on to describe in graphic detail about how he met up with a couple from another website. He was very derogatory about the couple, especially the husband whom he described as a sad little wanker

Obviously the rest of the guys in earshot were lapping it all up. I was astonished to be honest. It has certainly made me think a lot differently about single guys. The guys we have met previously have all been very respectful when in our company but after listening to this guy bad mouthing the couple he had met I do now wonder whether they harbour different thoughts.

My thinking is that they should feel privileged to join a couple as they are opening their relationship to an outsider. Indeed the guys we have met and gone on to play with have stated it is a privilege during the initial meet.

I don't mean this to sound one sided as we also feel privileged when we do meet with a guy that we both click and get along with.

I has left me feeling a little jaded about us meeting any further single guys in the future and has left a sour taste (pardon the pun).

What are the guys thoughts on the above? Be gentle please

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?"

This.

But that said plenty of singlemen do think that couples are on here because the female is in someway dissatisfied with the male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He was obviously an obnoxious prick.

I never brag about my meets or describe anyone in the way he did. I'd guess that he probably made most of it up to make up for his own inadequacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont let that guy put you off . . we have met a few single guys of here and seen some again . . . its only fun for us that we enjoy . dont let this prick put you off . . . . just enjoy wot you like doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could just have easily overheard some couple doing the same thing or a single woman even, though probably unlikely that they would be bragging loudly about being involved in the scene x some people are just arses, it's not exclusive to men x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What probably happened is he turned up for the meet but was so nervous he couldn't get an erection. After half an hour of desperate fumbling the couple asked him to leave. Once he got home after this humiliating experience he masturbated watching porn and imagined what he wished had happened.

In order for him to come to terms with his sad, humiliating experience he's decided to tell anyone who'll listen what a stud he is, what a cheap slut the lady was and what a sad prick the man was.

It's what people do to cope with guilt from traumatic experiences.

Don't worry about it and go back to having lots of fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?

This.

But that said plenty of singlemen do think that couples are on here because the female is in someway dissatisfied with the male."
When you have been married over 25 years its just nice to spice things up at times and when you love sex why not .

if we all go home with smile after no person would ruin nothing ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could just have easily overheard some couple doing the same thing or a single woman even, though probably unlikely that they would be bragging loudly about being involved in the scene x some people are just arses, it's not exclusive to men x"

This!

There will always be those who love to brag - male, female or one party from a couple! 99% of the time what they will brag about will be fantasist BS rather than the truth. The majority will understand the terms 'discretion' and respect - and I'd imagine those listening in this case were more than likely thinking 'twat' and secretly assuming he was talking out of his arse!!

Don't let it bother you - if you're choosing your play companions in the right way the odds are you'll never be the couple being gossiped about. If you're ever concerned about someone's ability to be discreet - don't play!

Keep calm - and carry on!!

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By *arwensReturnCouple
over a year ago

darwen

We once met a single guy off here who went on to slag us off to another couple who he didn't realize we had made friends with.

Clearly he was showing off to try and get a meet but the things he had said were very nasty towards me () and Dale was not happy.

Once we confronted him and he denied it and has now spent the best part of two years trying his best to talk to us again. Which he has failed with miserably. It put me off for a while but I thought Sod it but I must admit I am now very picky and aware so I know how you feel hope the feeling fade hunni and not ruin your time

Charlie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?

This.

But that said plenty of singlemen do think that couples are on here because the female is in someway dissatisfied with the male."

Absolute tosh we dont NEED swinging just enjoy it thats quite a conceipted opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a shame you get people like this! But i guess given the nature if the game it is inevitable, just as single guys get brandished as desperate loosers looking to tart about.

I think getting to know a meet before playing can really out intentions. I know I would not meet anyone without assertaining if there is respect prior.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lots of men who are nice to your face, are probably a lot of the time saying things about the people they meet and have sex with. i dont let it bother me too much, what i dont hear wont hurt me.

just as long as i am having my bit of fun. i met a single man who had met the same couple as me, and he said he didnt like the way that the man had talked in a disrespectful way about the women he had had sex with. so married men are just as bad as single men sometimes as well. why wouldnt they be.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?

This.

But that said plenty of singlemen do think that couples are on here because the female is in someway dissatisfied with the male."

it is one of the key factors in what separate a lot of single guys from the ones who do "get it" so to speak,

I have heard that opinion from a lot of guys here who think it is a quick shag site that think women and couples are here because someone is lacking.... (married people playing away without consent) when in fact it is probably the opposite for most couples where swinging is an addition

I hate people who "boast" as it shows a lack of discretion... and unfortunately people will "bad mouth" people as its human nature for a lot of people... but will then be sickly sweet in peoples faces if they think it will lead to a legover...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Privilaged?? So it has nothing to do with the fact 'maxi' wants to experience multiple guys loads then??

You as a couple are just being nice to us single guys and opening your lives to us?? PISH!!!

All you hear from certain couples is how privilaged us single guys should be when we are invited to join you for some fun! Does my head in!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not all like that. I find it a great honour to be invited to join a couple in their most intimate moments. He just an idiot, prob just making the story up!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet he told his mates he was going to meet a cpl, then afterwards he had to tell them how it was and big himself up. He probably either didn't turn up or was a total waste of space.

I have met with a couple from another site, (no it wasn't me she overeheard), and have enjoyed every minute of our time. As others have said, I feel priveledged to be allowed into their life and relationship. Can you imagine if any of his mates were actually swingers what they must be thinking of him now !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say i think to allow a single guy into a couples situation IS a privaledge that they should respect we find that if it comes accross that they don understand that then they dont deserve to fuck my wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What probably happened is he turned up for the meet but was so nervous he couldn't get an erection. After half an hour of desperate fumbling the couple asked him to leave. Once he got home after this humiliating experience he masturbated watching porn and imagined what he wished had happened.

In order for him to come to terms with his sad, humiliating experience he's decided to tell anyone who'll listen what a stud he is, what a cheap slut the lady was and what a sad prick the man was.

It's what people do to cope with guilt from traumatic experiences.

Don't worry about it and go back to having lots of fun!

Lol...love this! And it is probably the most true. The guys will have been listening, but I doubt lapping it up as much as you think - they'll have been able to smell the bullshit too, but they'll only say that between themselves when he's left the room. There will be people with this attitude of being gods gift to someone else's sexlife (single guys, gals and couples) but so long as you know the truth of yours and you're having fun then leave them to their delusions x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single male who's met a few couples and I feel "lucky" to be invited in to a relationship like that. We're getting an opportunity to "play" with the most important person in that blokes life.

Without a doubt I'm sure some single guys out there who are as arrogant as that but I would think that the majority of us don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a single male who's met a few couples and I feel "lucky" to be invited in to a relationship like that. We're getting an opportunity to "play" with the most important person in that blokes life.

Without a doubt I'm sure some single guys out there who are as arrogant as that but I would think that the majority of us don't."

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?

This.

But that said plenty of singlemen do think that couples are on here because the female is in someway dissatisfied with the male."

This is news to me.

Obviously the guy in (the original) question is some kinda tool.

I'd put it down to him trying to massage his own ego. What a dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never bragged about my personal life to anyone and never would. Why should one arsehole ( excuse my language ) who could even have been making the whole thing up ruin your thoughts about the obviously genuine and polite guys you have met. In my opinion those who talk about stuff loudly like that on closer inspection tend to be full of hot air. To be invited to play with a couple or single lady should be treated with the utmost respect and discretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never bragged about my personal life to anyone and never would. Why should one arsehole ( excuse my language ) who could even have been making the whole thing up ruin your thoughts about the obviously genuine and polite guys you have met. In my opinion those who talk about stuff loudly like that on closer inspection tend to be full of hot air. To be invited to play with a couple or single lady should be treated with the utmost respect and discretion."

My thaughts exactly most likely makeing it up, dont let that one muppet taint your views.

There are men on here that have the same views as above in reg to discretion etc its just a case of making the right choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?"

let him get on with it babes not worth it

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?

This.

But that said plenty of singlemen do think that couples are on here because the female is in someway dissatisfied with the male.

Absolute tosh we dont NEED swinging just enjoy it thats quite a conceipted opinion"

Well to be honest I don't know how he arrived at that little "fact" because I haven't heard or read anyone making a comment like that or has there been an opinion poll I'm not aware of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Of course there is'nt going to be a single man that will post in this thread who is going to agree that they're disrespectful to the couples they meet up with,that stands to reason

To the OP if they guys you meet have all been great,respectful of you both as a couple and you've all had a great time then carry on with what you're doing as you're obviously doing something right and choosing to play with some of the very lovely men on here that know what a 3sum is supposed to be like

I agree with 2wheels comment as its a very valid point and its very true as well,as a couple that have been around a few years its my experience that there are many men that share the same view about the male half of couples

From speaking to literally 100s of guys over the years before deciding whether or not to meet up with them there are an awful lot that assume the women are'nt getting what they need form their OHs and they're the ones that will give them whats missing snd show very little respect for the male halves of couples,there have been untold threads about that sort of attitude on here and im surprised that people seem to be shocked about it

Luckily that sort of attitude and way of thinking towards mmf shows itself very early on in conversation therefore its easy to avoid getting further involved with guys like that

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"Of course there is'nt going to be a single man that will post in this thread who is going to agree that they're disrespectful to the couples they meet up with,that stands to reason

Luckily that sort of attitude and way of thinking towards mmf shows itself very early on in conversation therefore its easy to avoid getting further involved with guys like that"

Are you not a moderator - I would have thought that you would stick to facts rather than anecdotal evidence that paints a large proportion of the membership in a bad light

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't let the indiscretions and attitudes of one person affect your judgement. People aren't all the same, which is a relief

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Privilaged?? So it has nothing to do with the fact 'maxi' wants to experience multiple guys loads then??

You as a couple are just being nice to us single guys and opening your lives to us?? PISH!!!

All you hear from certain couples is how privilaged us single guys should be when we are invited to join you for some fun! Does my head in!!"

When I first read the above quote (edinguy404) I thought 'What an arrogant so-and-so' (making sure I don't get a forum ban - again!!), but then re-reading the OP and giving it a bit more thought, I have to say I think this is right.

We are meeting a guy next month who is coming all the way down from 'oop North'. We have been chatting for some time and he has already become a good friend - certainly to Perky. It will be as much a privilege for us to meet and share a sexual experience with HIM, as it will be for him for US to 'open up' our relationship to him. The OP does come over as somewhat one-sided to me - with the few MMF's I had on my previous site before meeting Perky, I was ACUTELY aware of the dynamic going on both within the couples relationship, AND when I joined them. As a result, I had a number of very enjoyable, very 'even' and very 'privileged' meets - for all three of us.

The feeling I am getting is that the term 'privileged' in the OP is bordering on a term of possession - both from the guy and the girl about each other, and that the single guys joining them are expected to show respect for being allowed to play with their 'property'.

I may be completely wrong about this, but the more I sit and think about it, I'm moving more toward that view...

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?

This.

But that said plenty of singlemen do think that couples are on here because the female is in someway dissatisfied with the male.

Absolute tosh we dont NEED swinging just enjoy it thats quite a conceipted opinion

Well to be honest I don't know how he arrived at that little "fact" because I haven't heard or read anyone making a comment like that or has there been an opinion poll I'm not aware of"

We have been around swinging sites for a few years now and there are single men who have this view, whether you want to admit it or not!

Luckily they are usually easy to spot as they often sent messages with something like 'I can fuck you like your husband can't'

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Of course there is'nt going to be a single man that will post in this thread who is going to agree that they're disrespectful to the couples they meet up with,that stands to reason

Luckily that sort of attitude and way of thinking towards mmf shows itself very early on in conversation therefore its easy to avoid getting further involved with guys like that

Are you not a moderator - I would have thought that you would stick to facts rather than anecdotal evidence that paints a large proportion of the membership in a bad light"

Unless im actually having to close a thread or moderate it as admin have asked me to as a mod ALL my posts are from my own experience

What an absurd assumption you make to suggest what you have just suggested,in fact its laughably ridiculous

Im on here for the same reasons as everyone else it just so happens im a forum mod on a swinging site as well and my opinion of my experiences are just as valid as anyone elses

As for facts? I have no clue what you mean? have you been party to my inbox,My conversations to prosepective meets over the years? no I did'nt think so

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"Of course there is'nt going to be a single man that will post in this thread who is going to agree that they're disrespectful to the couples they meet up with,that stands to reason

Luckily that sort of attitude and way of thinking towards mmf shows itself very early on in conversation therefore its easy to avoid getting further involved with guys like that

Are you not a moderator - I would have thought that you would stick to facts rather than anecdotal evidence that paints a large proportion of the membership in a bad light

Unless im actually having to close a thread or moderate it as admin have asked me to as a mod ALL my posts are from my own experience

What an absurd assumption you make to suggest what you have just suggested,in fact its laughably ridiculous

Im on here for the same reasons as everyone else it just so happens im a forum mod on a swinging site as well and my opinion of my experiences are just as valid as anyone elses

As for facts? I have no clue what you mean? have you been party to my inbox,My conversations to prosepective meets over the years? no I did'nt think so "

No wish to get into an arguement with you I made my views known and stand by them

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Agrees

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Of course there is'nt going to be a single man that will post in this thread who is going to agree that they're disrespectful to the couples they meet up with,that stands to reason

Luckily that sort of attitude and way of thinking towards mmf shows itself very early on in conversation therefore its easy to avoid getting further involved with guys like that

Are you not a moderator - I would have thought that you would stick to facts rather than anecdotal evidence that paints a large proportion of the membership in a bad light

Unless im actually having to close a thread or moderate it as admin have asked me to as a mod ALL my posts are from my own experience

What an absurd assumption you make to suggest what you have just suggested,in fact its laughably ridiculous

Im on here for the same reasons as everyone else it just so happens im a forum mod on a swinging site as well and my opinion of my experiences are just as valid as anyone elses

As for facts? I have no clue what you mean? have you been party to my inbox,My conversations to prosepective meets over the years? no I did'nt think so

No wish to get into an arguement with you I made my views known and stand by them"

There used to be a time when you atempted to thinly veil having a pop at people for no reason or spurt of your facts. Now you dont even bother to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

No wish to get into an arguement with you I made my views known and stand by them"

And I shall continue to post my thoughts,my opinions and my experiences the same as every other site user on here as long as im within the rules that the owners make

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't see how having a pop at a mod has anything to do with the forum topic to be Frank!! Dont mods have the same rights as us normal everyday posters!!!

And how do you know there are not facts??

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"Can't see how having a pop at a mod has anything to do with the forum topic to be Frank!! Dont mods have the same rights as us normal everyday posters!!!

And how do you know there are not facts??

Well last time I looked the forum rules say don't badmouth other members - which these numerous threads about single men always seem to do - so when a meod makes a comment about single men which is aimed to put them in a bad light then that's against the site rules - the poster did not quote any facts just an opinion

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Can't see how having a pop at a mod has anything to do with the forum topic to be Frank!! Dont mods have the same rights as us normal everyday posters!!!

And how do you know there are not facts??

You can never just leave anything can you, always have to have the final say

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Can't see how having a pop at a mod has anything to do with the forum topic to be Frank!! Dont mods have the same rights as us normal everyday posters!!!

And how do you know there are not facts??

Just hit the report button on my post then but make sure you trawl through these forums and do the same for every single person that has posted an opinion of their experiences where its not all been perfection,you'll be at it for weeks

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Can't see how having a pop at a mod has anything to do with the forum topic to be Frank!! Dont mods have the same rights as us normal everyday posters!!!

And how do you know there are not facts??

You can never just leave anything can you, always have to have the final say"

Unusual as that's normally women

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Can't see how having a pop at a mod has anything to do with the forum topic to be Frank!! Dont mods have the same rights as us normal everyday posters!!!

And how do you know there are not facts??

You can never just leave anything can you, always have to have the final say

Unusual as that's normally women

I will pretend i didnt see that remark

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"Can't see how having a pop at a mod has anything to do with the forum topic to be Frank!! Dont mods have the same rights as us normal everyday posters!!!

And how do you know there are not facts??

It's not my job to trawl through all the threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always found the single men that have joined us for fun very respectable, but then we always choose them carefully, we also make sure they are comfortable with the situation too!! After all it's got to be fun for all involved!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well every guy ive met from this site has been, punctual, respectful and lovely, who wants to meet a horrid person when there are so many nice ones about

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Can't see how having a pop at a mod has anything to do with the forum topic to be Frank!! Dont mods have the same rights as us normal everyday posters!!!

And how do you know there are not facts??

It's not my job to trawl through all the threads"

You have the option to report so use it instead of taking this thread off track like you have

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"Can't see how having a pop at a mod has anything to do with the forum topic to be Frank!! Dont mods have the same rights as us normal everyday posters!!!

And how do you know there are not facts??

It's not my job to trawl through all the threads

You have the option to report so use it instead of taking this thread off track like you have"

Sorry but I can say whatever I wish to say and it needed someone to take it off track - it should have been closed ages ages ago but has been allowed to run for some reason - maybe you should close it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

AS a single on here, my rule book says always respect the wishes of the cpl as youre getting into their most intimate times, maybe just be but no matter what you think later, feel honoured you,ve been allowed into their private life

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Can't see how having a pop at a mod has anything to do with the forum topic to be Frank!! Dont mods have the same rights as us normal everyday posters!!!

And how do you know there are not facts??

It's not my job to trawl through all the threads

You have the option to report so use it instead of taking this thread off track like you have

Who died and made you king of the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And why should it be closed???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?

This.

But that said plenty of singlemen do think that couples are on here because the female is in someway dissatisfied with the male.

Absolute tosh we dont NEED swinging just enjoy it thats quite a conceipted opinion

Well to be honest I don't know how he arrived at that little "fact" because I haven't heard or read anyone making a comment like that or has there been an opinion poll I'm not aware of"

Firstly I said plenty not all. Maybe you have taken exception as I have touched a nerve?

Secondly quite a few couples of long standing have agreed with me, and Fabio has summarised it fairly as well. So it appears that my post has more than a little validity?

Thirdly - have you ever been on here as a couple? I am and have been on a number and believe me plenty of men do think like that. And it is an opinion that is occassionally voiced in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a privilege that any one shares themselves sexually with others, unfortunately in the OPs case, they have overheard someone whos really just happy to get his hole.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Privilaged?? So it has nothing to do with the fact 'maxi' wants to experience multiple guys loads then??

You as a couple are just being nice to us single guys and opening your lives to us?? PISH!!!

All you hear from certain couples is how privilaged us single guys should be when we are invited to join you for some fun! Does my head in!!"

So speaks a guy who's probably fending off couples and single females as we speak.... sigh, would that we were so popular!

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By *af90Man
over a year ago

Anywhere in the South West

It's already been said a number of time already in this thread, but just to concur, the guy in question is obviously an asshole who has some kind of inferiority complex no doubt.

One should always treat people how they would wish to be treated themselves and exhibit utmost discretion and courtesy to whom they should be lucky enough to get to play with, whether you're a single guy or not.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?

This.

But that said plenty of singlemen do think that couples are on here because the female is in someway dissatisfied with the male.

Absolute tosh we dont NEED swinging just enjoy it thats quite a conceipted opinion

Well to be honest I don't know how he arrived at that little "fact" because I haven't heard or read anyone making a comment like that or has there been an opinion poll I'm not aware of"

My word, yet another guy who is beating them off with a smelly stick, nice to know some guys are so popular that they dont need to court friendship on here!

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over a year ago

Can i just mention something here?

When i first read the ops headline, "guys thoughts on couples" i thought to myself it was going to be about "couples"!!!

But no, right from the start it was rant at single guys because the op heard ONE guy mention his exploits in public!

Why not just call it "yet another tedious rant at single guys" and be done with it!

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over a year ago

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?

This.

But that said plenty of singlemen do think that couples are on here because the female is in someway dissatisfied with the male. When you have been married over 25 years its just nice to spice things up at times and when you love sex why not .

if we all go home with smile after no person would ruin nothing ,"

i agree. if its been a good meet and all have enjoy themselves what is there to worry about.

we all after fun.

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over a year ago

I did'nt see the OP ranting,I thought it was a thoughtful post asking for opinions in a respectful manner

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Can i just mention something here?

When i first read the ops headline, "guys thoughts on couples" i thought to myself it was going to be about "couples"!!!

But no, right from the start it was rant at single guys because the op heard ONE guy mention his exploits in public!

Why not just call it "yet another tedious rant at single guys" and be done with it!

Because the OP wanted to know whether other single guys sneered at couples behind their backs too. Obviously no-one is going to admit that!

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"Why let the overheard conversation of a prick ruin your swinging fun?

This.

But that said plenty of singlemen do think that couples are on here because the female is in someway dissatisfied with the male.

Absolute tosh we dont NEED swinging just enjoy it thats quite a conceipted opinion

Well to be honest I don't know how he arrived at that little "fact" because I haven't heard or read anyone making a comment like that or has there been an opinion poll I'm not aware of

Firstly I said plenty not all. Maybe you have taken exception as I have touched a nerve?

Secondly quite a few couples of long standing have agreed with me, and Fabio has summarised it fairly as well. So it appears that my post has more than a little validity?

Thirdly - have you ever been on here as a couple? I am and have been on a number and believe me plenty of men do think like that. And it is an opinion that is occassionally voiced in the forums.

Did I say that you said ALL no I didnt and I have nothing to be concerned about.

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over a year ago

"Can i just mention something here?

When i first read the ops headline, "guys thoughts on couples" i thought to myself it was going to be about "couples"!!!

But no, right from the start it was rant at single guys because the op heard ONE guy mention his exploits in public!

Why not just call it "yet another tedious rant at single guys" and be done with it!

Because the OP wanted to know whether other single guys sneered at couples behind their backs too. Obviously no-one is going to admit that!"

well, why not call it "thoughts on single guys who brag"?? Lol

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over a year ago

"A couple of days ago I was listening to a conversation in the office where a single guy was boasting about his sex life etc.

I don't mean this to sound one sided as we also feel privileged when we do meet with a guy that we both click and get along with.

I has left me feeling a little jaded about us meeting any further single guys in the future and has left a sour taste (pardon the pun).

What are the guys thoughts on the above? Be gentle please

it should really make you think badly about that one single guy and not all of them. A lot of single guys do paint a bad picture of guys in general, a lot of which id love to give a good right hook to (met a few of them when going to clubs with my ex) I can assure you I certainly dont think nor behave like that and im sure many others are also respectful and feel like they are entering a special moment when joining couples. Enjoying the meet like they should when meeting a nice couple.

Same can go for couples with one ruining it for the reputation of the others. ive met some who treated me like just their play thing and then soon as they were satisfied asked me leave. I wouldn't say all couples are like that as ive met many who arn't.

Can't tarnish with the same brush basically. I'm sorry another one of 'ours' has ruined your thoughts on single guys in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The op wasn't having a dig at all single guys, they were just asking for opinions, where in the opening post does it rant about single guys???

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over a year ago

"A couple of days ago I was listening to a conversation in the office where a single guy was boasting about his sex life etc.

I don't mean this to sound one sided as we also feel privileged when we do meet with a guy that we both click and get along with.

I has left me feeling a little jaded about us meeting any further single guys in the future and has left a sour taste (pardon the pun).

What are the guys thoughts on the above? Be gentle please

Can't tarnish with the same brush basically. I'm sorry another one of 'ours' has ruined your thoughts on single guys in general"

doesnt matter what anyone says.

this is another 'lets have another pop at single guys'

you couples get what you deserve.

half of you only the male is available to speak to or go on cam with.

and then you want to slap down single guys because you didnt get it all your way.

swinging is about sharing an experience.

doesnt matter how many are involved.

but to keep on tarnishing all guys the same means your only going to get what you deserve because the good ones will stay away from you.

when you understand that, let me know.

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over a year ago

"Can i just mention something here?

When i first read the ops headline, "guys thoughts on couples" i thought to myself it was going to be about "couples"!!!

But no, right from the start it was rant at single guys because the op heard ONE guy mention his exploits in public!

Why not just call it "yet another tedious rant at single guys" and be done with it!

This is the point I'm making it's getting tedious that people can come on here all the time and generally run single guys down which is against the forum rules but the mods do little about it and it seems they even encourage - if being popular means that a single guy just has to put up with it and doth his cap - then that's not for me I'll continue to meet people who respect me as a sinle man and meet on equel terms "

I am just about sick of you picking ME out and badmouthing me in this thread,ive asked you to report and I hope you have,but continuing to carry ion about is is badmouthing me which is against site rules

If you had taken the time to read all of my original post or any post ive written about single guys you will see that I also said that there were some lovely single guys on here too,but you are on some sort of mission and im putting an end to it now

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over a year ago

"The op wasn't having a dig at all single guys, they were just asking for opinions, where in the opening post does it rant about single guys??? "

Erm, have you actually read the opening post??

Maybe if you read it first, and not just peruse it you will find the op IS ranting at single guys!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi folks,

Thanks for all the replies. I appreciate it.

Never meant for anybody to be offended by the initial post, least of all the single guys on here. Single guys are whom we want to meet with the most.

I was just looking for opinions. It definately wasn't meant as a rant or to run guys down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The op wasn't having a dig at all single guys, they were just asking for opinions, where in the opening post does it rant about single guys???

Erm, have you actually read the opening post??

Maybe if you read it first, and not just peruse it you will find the op IS ranting at single guys!!

I have read it a number of times! And still fail to see where the op is ranting about single guys!!!

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over a year ago

"Can i just mention something here?

When i first read the ops headline, "guys thoughts on couples" i thought to myself it was going to be about "couples"!!!

But no, right from the start it was rant at single guys because the op heard ONE guy mention his exploits in public!

Why not just call it "yet another tedious rant at single guys" and be done with it!

You probably need to revisit either the site rules or your interpretation of them. Because no one else seems to read them in that way...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The op wasn't having a dig at all single guys, they were just asking for opinions, where in the opening post does it rant about single guys???

Erm, have you actually read the opening post??

Maybe if you read it first, and not just peruse it you will find the op IS ranting at single guys!!

I have read it a number of times! And still fail to see where the op is ranting about single guys!!! "

lol, yeah, right!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As it shows, differnrt people, different opinions, People look at 3 somes in different ways depending what they get out of it, whether it be fantasy, ego, hobby even so like most forums, many people think they're right but surely only an idiot spouts off about a 3some, showin no respect for the others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps it is you that isn't reading the op correctly?? Just a thought !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive seen some threads where ive posted what appears like anti-cpls views...cant really see much in this thread to get in a tiz over.I'm a big believer in a consensus of sharing attitudes no matter whos status is up for debate.Its nice to show backbone...but I'd pick better threads to show that on , rather than this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before this post is closed which it could be .. I should like to say theres some lovely single men out there and i have been lucky to meet some .. and i chat to 100s over the years and have to say its rear thay are nasty and bad mouth us and me.. Couples can be as bad slagging off couples .. i have come across some doing this to us to others having a go at putting there friends and others off to look big .You cant let one bad egg spoil all your fun as the nice people out number the nasty ones thats in life and on fab too.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Can i just mention something here?

When i first read the ops headline, "guys thoughts on couples" i thought to myself it was going to be about "couples"!!!

But no, right from the start it was rant at single guys because the op heard ONE guy mention his exploits in public!

Why not just call it "yet another tedious rant at single guys" and be done with it!

You probably need to revisit either the site rules or your interpretation of them. Because no one else seems to read them in that way..."

The rules say we can't badmouth 'other members' so I read that as specific people. I can badmouth groups like single men, couples, or other women as much as I like.

It's odd that some people take it all so seriously. It is obvious the OP wasn't dissing any men on here, so why do they think they are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We as a couple respect single guys, as we know it must take guts to meet a couple! That's why we always make sure they are just as comfortable with the situation as us!

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over a year ago

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

well one good thing about this thread im sure its sorted out who some dont want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps it is you that isn't reading the op correctly?? Just a thought !

Because when an op starts spouting crap that us single guys 'should feel privilaged' that we are invited to join a couple, or when they are 'jaded by single guys', that is a rant at single guys!!

Just because he heard ONE twat mouth off, there is no need to tar the rest of us with the same brush!

Esp since said tarring brush must have lost its bristles LONG ago!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

when an op starts spouting pish about us single guys having to feel 'privilaged' to join them, or they are 'jaded by single guys, or 2 thirds of single guys ruin it for others, that is a rant at single guys in my book!

P.s. I'm curious if the op has taken a poll to get to that 2 thirds figure btw!!"

I also said that we also feel privileged to meet and have met the guys we have met!

Not sure which two thirds figure you are referring to though.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"well one good thing about this thread im sure its sorted out who some dont want to meet"

Definitely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt matter what anyone says.

this is another 'lets have another pop at single guys'

you couples get what you deserve."
nice cheers for that

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over a year ago

"We as a couple respect single guys, as we know it must take guts to meet a couple! That's why we always make sure they are just as comfortable with the situation as us! "
And so do we .. I know how some get so nerves. Theres one of them and two of us if we meet as couple. Some do get nerves and we do what we can to make them feel welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal opinion if anyone wants to play with my wife then it is a privaledge that we are allowing that in the first place and single guys should feel privaledged that a couple would allow it. Not slating single guys but some do have the attitude of 'well its a hole and ill fuck it and prove im better than her OH' well bollox to that i say! That is an opinion of a couple and we are entitled to it. Its a shame but sometimes thats how it is.

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over a year ago

"Personal opinion if anyone wants to play with my wife then it is a privaledge that we are allowing that in the first place and single guys should feel privaledged that a couple would allow it. Not slating single guys but some do have the attitude of 'well its a hole and ill fuck it and prove im better than her OH' well bollox to that i say! That is an opinion of a couple and we are entitled to it. Its a shame but sometimes thats how it is. "

and u should also feel privileged that the guy behaves well around urself and partner.Doesnt try to get one on one meets with her etc etc...

Its the wording on the way that some express the views of what it means to share, I've said several times...we should ALL be appreciating sharing eachother in some way.I wouldnt say I was giving the privilege to someone if I was bringing a partner/friend/wife to a cpl..I'd just enjoy the time spent having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you paddy, as it is sharing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, it would have nothing to do with the fact that either yourself or your oh might fancy a mmf?? Maybe another couple would be up for the female side to just sit and watch while you have said mmf??

Us single guys are quite handy for that tho eh!! (just a personal opinion btw)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I trust my partner immensly and if anyone tried to get a one on one meet with her i know for a fact she would tell them to piss off and tell me about it straight away, there are many many many more single men than couples on swinging sites so they should feel privaledged to be invited, we personally have never had an issue all our meets have been with genuine nice respectful people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally - I don't understand why anyone should feel 'privelleged' to meet anyone - be they single, male, female a couple - or just a group of people enjoying mutual fun!

Respect and understanding of eachothers needs, wants and desires is what is required to make a successful liason - not a sense that any one party is superior in any way to another or more deserving of gratitude.

The couples and singles (and groups!) that i've been fortunate (not 'privileged') to enjoy fun times with have luckily all shared this attitude.

And should I ever come across anyone that thinks I should feel otherwise - i'll be making a swift exit!

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over a year ago

I don't see it as the guy being privileged,its a 3way thing and we believe that we're all equally privileged if we have a great time together,its as much about the guy feeling comfortable with an established couple as it is about the couple feeling comfortable around the guy

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over a year ago

We play together and only together so noone would sit out in a meet with us, i may be being a bit thick but i dont get your point i didn say we didnt respect single guys cause we do but a small minority think they are holyier than thou. There are some real posers on swinging site and personally for us that is a huge put off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are coming to our place then it should be treated as a privaledge sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We play together and only together so noone would sit out in a meet with us, i may be being a bit thick but i dont get your point i didn say we didnt respect single guys cause we do but a small minority think they are holyier than thou. There are some real posers on swinging site and personally for us that is a huge put off"

Its when the word 'privilaged' is used that sounds pompous and holier than thou!!

EVERYONE is privilaged at a meet, not just the single guys! Each brings their own special thing to a meet!

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over a year ago

"I don't see it as the guy being privileged,its a 3way thing and we believe that we're all equally privileged if we have a great time together,its as much about the guy feeling comfortable with an established couple as it is about the couple feeling comfortable around the guy

If they are coming to our place then it should be treated as a privaledge sorry "

So just out of interest then - if I invited you to mine - would I be in the right to expect you to feel privileged?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont get the privilege thing, sorry!! That makes it sound like your doing the guy a favour!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If they are coming to our place then it should be treated as a privaledge sorry

So just out of interest then - if I invited you to mine - would I be in the right to expect you to feel privileged?

I would be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea we would feel very privaledged

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By *A5-1975Man
over a year ago

warrington

This guy sounds an absolute jerk. No wonder single guys het a bad rep on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok - exiting this thread now - one more sight of the word privileged and i'm going to type something i'll regret - enjoy the debate folks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont get the privilege thing, sorry!! That makes it sound like your doing the guy a favour!!

it actually makes me think(sorry for how this sounds), but it actually makes me think the male half is using his partner as a trophy when I hear 'privilege' comments.I'd say sometimes I was lucky to have got the chance to meet...but I dont think anything above that.

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over a year ago

"Personally - I don't understand why anyone should feel 'privelleged' to meet anyone - be they single, male, female a couple - or just a group of people enjoying mutual fun!

The couples and singles (and groups!) that i've been fortunate (not 'privileged') to enjoy fun times with have luckily all shared this attitude.

And should I ever come across anyone that thinks I should feel otherwise - i'll be making a swift exit! "
That's how we feel .. I would never think just because we are a couple people are privileged singles or couples as its all coming together for fun and we get just as much from our meets .If we all come away with smiles on our faces i feel privileged to have been part of it all .

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Can't see how having a pop at a mod has anything to do with the forum topic to be Frank!! Dont mods have the same rights as us normal everyday posters!!!

And how do you know there are not facts??

The mod didn't bad mouth single men. The mod gave an account of her experience.

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over a year ago

I was nce 'privilaged' to join a couple!

After an hour or so of getting to know each other, we went upstairs to the bedroom. After a while, (about 10mins) the guy had cum and i was still enjoying myself!

I was duly informed the meet was over and told to leave!

What a 'privilage' it was to go home with blueballs!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a trophy but a special part of MY life the final decision is hers whther we play or not!

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over a year ago

"I was nce 'privilaged' to join a couple!

After an hour or so of getting to know each other, we went upstairs to the bedroom. After a while, (about 10mins) the guy had cum and i was still enjoying myself!

I was duly informed the meet was over and told to leave!

What a 'privilage' it was to go home with blueballs!! "

yeah see now that is just wrong and not something we would do to anyone

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over a year ago

"I was nce 'privilaged' to join a couple!

After an hour or so of getting to know each other, we went upstairs to the bedroom. After a while, (about 10mins) the guy had cum and i was still enjoying myself!

I was duly informed the meet was over and told to leave!

What a 'privilage' it was to go home with blueballs!!

yeah see now that is just wrong and not something we would do to anyone"

My point was tho, i didn't come onto the forum and downcry ALL couples!

I just went home and blocked said couple!!

I hnestly don't see the point of all these single guy rants! Why can't anybody thats offended just bkjock the offending party and get on with what we are ALL here for!

Having fun!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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O o O oo

In OUR experience and ours alone.....we have found SOME single men and women that assume that if a couple want a MFM that it is because the husband can't satisfy the wife.

In fact we had a couple who do FMF on another site who blasted us one day on a forum because it was obvious to her that my husband couldn't satisfy me and why we need another man....she didn't see the irony of her comments until I pointed out it that if that was the case then it means you can't satisfy your husband to want another woman.

It does happen, some people do think it, we just do what HPC does and out the people ( single men in our case ) who want to play with a couple for the fun to be had by all, rather than meet the ones who think they are doing us a favour. There are lots of lovely men with the right attitude for us to choose from.

For anyone who is getting confused....this is our opinion.

Now to other things.....mods on this site are members first and foremost. They were members before getting asked to mod the forums and are allowed to join in the forums.

If you have a problem with that then you need to ask Admin to change how they view things and this can be done from the CONTACT page.

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over a year ago

"Personally - I don't understand why anyone should feel 'privelleged' to meet anyone - be they single, male, female a couple - or just a group of people enjoying mutual fun!

The couples and singles (and groups!) that i've been fortunate (not 'privileged') to enjoy fun times with have luckily all shared this attitude.

And should I ever come across anyone that thinks I should feel otherwise - i'll be making a swift exit! "

Well said- our thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would take comments like this guy's with a pinch of salt, those who talk about sex rarely get it!

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

"I would take comments like this guy's with a pinch of salt, those who talk about sex rarely get it!"

yes thats what they say. maybe the ones that dont get it very often talk about it more because its a special event.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

I wonder if the single guys who are so angry at this thread have ever spent any time in the chat rooms

The way some single guys treat couples is unreal.

while we were in new northern room we often had guys asking my oh for a meet,

I joined in the chat only to be told to butt out as it was the fem he wanted a shag from, and what did I have to do with it ?

this became such a regular thing we did stop going in to chat as much.

needless we did a lot of blocking after that.

So to the outraged single guy the answer is yes lots of single guys have the attitude that they are doing the female of the couple a favour by letting them have the pleasure of there fantastic cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some great ones, some hideously rude and horrible ones. Swings and roundabaouts

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