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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, does everyone else on here need to find people that they are intending to play with, attractive, or is it just purely a sexual/lust thing? As first timers we don’t know if we are being too picky. Thanks in advance Matt and Louise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very picky with meets. There needs to be both attraction and connection. I probably meet 1 in 200 that message me.

At a clubs or gangbang it's clearly still preferable, but I'm more in the moment and more willing to let random guys "stick it in". Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your reply.

That’s how we feel. X

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Definitely has to be an attraction but then we also want a connection which is why we always want and expect a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a mix of both attractiveness and interests. Once you have an idea of what you want you should just search for that.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Maybe I'm missing something, but is this thread suggesting that people feel sexual desire towards people they don't find attractive? Surely their attractiveness is what causes you to desire them in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it’s about attraction which I’m really struggling to find someone who I’m attracted to & the ones I am attracted to are always miles away so I dunno if I sometimes should be less picky or it’s never going to happen tough call

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I'd need to be attracted to them and 'click' with them when chatting.

If that makes me fussy, then I'm happy to be fussy and wait for the right people

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Maybe I'm missing something, but is this thread suggesting that people feel sexual desire towards people they don't find attractive? Surely their attractiveness is what causes you to desire them in the first place? "

Agree

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

I’ll stick to being fussy too, attraction is what causes the sexual desire but I need to be able to have a conversation with them and be comfortable in their company if I’m going to invite anyone to my bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be some sort of physical attraction for us but one thing we have definitely learned is that getting on great with people can maybe change our views to how attractive we find them.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Well yes there has to be attraction otherwise you might as well shag a pumpkin with a hole in it (mind the seeds)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe I'm missing something, but is this thread suggesting that people feel sexual desire towards people they don't find attractive? Surely their attractiveness is what causes you to desire them in the first place? "

Hi, we weren’t suggesting that at all. I think you may have misunderstood our post. We were purely asking everyone’s opinion. For us there needs to be attraction and click also.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ll stick to being fussy too, attraction is what causes the sexual desire but I need to be able to have a conversation with them and be comfortable in their company if I’m going to invite anyone to my bed "

We totally agree.

X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There has to be some sort of physical attraction for us but one thing we have definitely learned is that getting on great with people can maybe change our views to how attractive we find them. "

Thanks for your comment.

That makes total sense x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very fussy. Got to be a connection first

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think attraction is a hard thing... I might see people I think ooo they are nice but then there’s just no rapport with us. Whereas some people might not be to what we like in terms of initial attraction but then their personality makes them attractive so it’s a hard one. Either way we would only go further with a mutual attraction ... Of some description!

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Yes as we don’t meet a lot so we want to meet people we fancy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m very fussy. Got to be a connection first"

100%.

This is what we were trying to judge opinion on. We

Weren’t suggesting for one minute anything else x Thankyou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely need to be attracted to them physically and mentally.

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By *rzuuMan
over a year ago

Norwich

For me, there definitely needs to be some level of connection / attraction for both parties.

Otherwise everything is just "going through the motions" and the real passion and joy is missing, as there will be some barriers. Thus leading to a very flat, disappointing meet.

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

In the past I have had females couples say no thank you through the site.

then met them at clubs with no questions asked.

Clubs are a better way of getting a feel for people.

No pun intended

Never judge a book by the cover.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

Definitely has to be a connection, but it doesn't have to be physical attraction. If I chat to someone on here and we have a decent conversation, intelligent conversation that can mean more than finding someone physically attractive. On a previous thread, I have said that I have met people without knowing what they look like and that's true. Ok, that was a long time ago through contact magazines, a letter and phone conversation, but I still hold that today.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So, does everyone else on here need to find people that they are intending to play with, attractive, or is it just purely a sexual/lust thing? As first timers we don’t know if we are being too picky. Thanks in

advance Matt and Louise "

There's no such thing as too picky. If you need to find someone sexually and physically attractive to have sex with them it's fine. I'm the same

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I would feel physically ill having sex with someone I didn't find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Many thanks to all for your feedback and opinions

Matt and Louise xx

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By *isstonguetasticjoWoman
over a year ago

widnes

Deffo got to b a bit off attraction b4 meeting anyone

N conversation To

Nowt worse wen u see some people with tons of different veris over a span of days

But wen u see the kip of them

Deffo puts u off meetin some people

But then u can always spot the ones who dont give a shit wat they look like

N will just fuck anyone

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

When I initially make contact, it’s because there’s an attraction. But then I speak to them, and if there’s no connection then it goes no further.

My best friend laughs at me cause I’ll go to clubs and not play cause there’s been no connection. And she’s the one that thinks I use the forums as my little black book cause I’ll talk with anyone.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Attraction physically is important but I would balance that with how interesting the person is, how many things do you want in common, do they take time to chat and can they turn you on with chatting. I tend to find most people attractive either in their body, the way they hold themselves or facially, everyone has something. Saying that I struggle to have face pics public and only send on request if someone compliments my other pics and is interested, it's then 50/50 if I hear back, I have a face battered by wind and water from working outdoors for years and body and face don't match which is why I have only body shots public.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I think, for me, there absolutely needs to be an attraction, but what makes them attractive is definitely not purely about physical looks.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction is important but I think more important is that you can get on with them. Nothing worse than being stuck in a room with someone/people who you might find very attractive but can’t muster up any kind of conversation.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We both need to find the couple attractive, it's usually me who is too picky to be fair. So if I don't like the look of the man in a couple, neither of us play.

I wouldn't play with someone for the sake of it.

Miss

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall


"I'm very picky with meets. There needs to be both attraction and connection. I probably meet 1 in 200 that message me.

At a clubs or gangbang it's clearly still preferable, but I'm more in the moment and more willing to let random guys "stick it in". Xx"

I love a lucky 'stick it in' session, like hitting the jackpot

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

Warrington


"So, does everyone else on here need to find people that they are intending to play with, attractive, or is it just purely a sexual/lust thing? As first timers we don’t know if we are being too picky. Thanks in advance Matt and Louise "

Its all situational.. if it's a regular partner then yes there has to be attraction.. if it's a last minute arrangements I'm a bit less picky.

I tend to search for a partner and be contacted by couples short notice so yeah meeting a couple isn't as important for looks as she already has a fella lol

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"There has to be some sort of physical attraction for us but one thing we have definitely learned is that getting on great with people can maybe change our views to how attractive we find them. "

I find this too. If the connection is there then chances are I will find something attractive in the person.

If the connection isn't there it doesn't matter how physically attractive they are.

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