FabSwingers.com forum: Totally confused....

By *erenity20 OP Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

So a question for you gentlemen out there...

Why meet a lady, get on so well with her, two meets hours long...then "ghost" her and refuse to answer messages BUT keep visiting her profile EVERY day??

Confused

What's that all about??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly it happens, best thing to do is block them and move on

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

Married maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly it happens, best thing to do is block them and move on"

I agree

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By *rednwilma1Couple
over a year ago

york

not sure Petals.... ask him ?

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Most likely you will never find out the answer. Block to stop him looking at you and move on, worrying or wondering will not help you.

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

I've no idea.. I can only presume he was married or a fake profile... It makes it difficult for the genuine people on here to meet anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hasn't got the balls to be straight with you about what he was after - a quick shag and bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sure Petals.... ask him ?"

Difficult to ask him if he's ghosting her!

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem..

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By *rown_cock_edinMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Confidence issues perhaps

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

I'd agree with the posts above but can only add that it's their loss if you blocked them and think I'd agree with that advice...

dignity, manners, decorum and respect cost nothing and if you'd both got on well and the gent had been lucky enough to meet you... then he should also have the above.

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By *erenity20 OP Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Thanks all, nope unmarried, I feel ghosting is rude and unnecessary anyone can give a reason not to peruse something a d this has been going on for weeks now...weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arranged to take a lady to a club, we met up outside then went in then after about 30 mins later said I'm stopping you having fun go and find it. She really was after another guy who also asked her to the club, then shows his verification but no mine how odd.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Yes sadly it happens… block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block them

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By *uddly GoblinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

No idea, maybe he just bottled it, changed his mind or moved on to someone else etc either way it's rude to just ghost you but his loss is the best way to look at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem.."

So why is he haunting her profile if he got what he wanted?

Like others, I'd block and forget it.

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem..

So why is he haunting her profile if he got what he wanted?

Like others, I'd block and forget it. "

Traits of a stalker I would say, but only he can answer that one….

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By *erenity20 OP Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem..

So why is he haunting her profile if he got what he wanted?

Like others, I'd block and forget it. "

That's what I dont understand...why keep viewing the profile.

Thanks for the advice, he was a lovely guy and I detest blocking people but I may have to do that as its upsetting

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Because he doesn’t fancy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem..

So why is he haunting her profile if he got what he wanted?

Like others, I'd block and forget it.

That's what I dont understand...why keep viewing the profile.

Thanks for the advice, he was a lovely guy and I detest blocking people but I may have to do that as its upsetting"

If its bothering you which it clearly is, block him. He may have seemed lovely but a decent person wouldn't do that... Would they? X

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

"He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem..

So why is he haunting her profile if he got what he wanted?

Like others, I'd block and forget it.

That's what I dont understand...why keep viewing the profile.

Thanks for the advice, he was a lovely guy and I detest blocking people but I may have to do that as its upsetting"
well done you

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I had similar with a guy

In the end I blocked him just to stop him viewing my profile

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem..

So why is he haunting her profile if he got what he wanted?

Like others, I'd block and forget it.

That's what I dont understand...why keep viewing the profile.

Thanks for the advice, he was a lovely guy and I detest blocking people but I may have to do that as its upsetting"

Yes, it's horrible isn't it? But he's obviously not a nice one, deep down. If he can't be bothered to stay in touch - for whatever reason - he doesn't deserve to look at your profile pics.

Move on & you'll find nicer guys.

Hugs xx

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By *adyLuck1Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Sadly. If he was single and fancied you he’d be all over you like a rash.

Just because you got on really well doesn’t mean anything will come of it.

I went on a 5 hour social once with a lovely lady. We got on great. But I didn’t fancy her. I did tell her though.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

It's abit weird. Maybe he's came saw and conquered now looking for his next objective.. Block would be best in this case

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

He wants to keep meeting you, but he can't for some reason?

Married?

Crisis of confidence?

Found someone else? (But then why keep looking at your profile?)

I think the only person who can answer this is the guy in question.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married maybe?"

This would be my thinking too sadly.

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK

"So a question for you gentlemen out there...

Why meet a lady, get on so well with her, two meets hours long...then "ghost" her and refuse to answer messages BUT keep visiting her profile EVERY day??

Confused

What's that all about??"

Could be married??

The older I get the less I try to understand people - its best to just focus on their ACTIONs - what is going on in their heads is unknowable...

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By *adyLuck1Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk

Unfortunately that can happen on here. If men are unable to be honest and say they are no linger interested just block and move on it is their lose at the end of the day. Men sometimes mess women about on here sadly seen and heard about it so often

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By *nked rascalMan
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Sounds weird after meets especially, it’s not why I’d do…just be open, honest, and sometimes brutal, and let them know what’s going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message him asking the same, why ghost but keep visiting your profile etc.

But add that you will block.

He may reply, you may get your answer.

Failing that, block him.

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By *nked rascalMan
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

"Most likely you will never find out the answer. Block to stop him looking at you and move on, worrying or wondering will not help you."

Best thing to do….unless you’re remaining hopeful. But agreed, best to block and move on

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma

"So a question for you gentlemen out there...

Why meet a lady, get on so well with her, two meets hours long...then "ghost" her and refuse to answer messages BUT keep visiting her profile EVERY day??

Confused

What's that all about??"

Obviously anything I say or think about your situation is pure conjecture, however this does resinate with me, for all the wrong reasons.

I was really immature emotionally and I didn't grow my emotional awareness and behaviour until my mid 40's. I knew how to have a good time, I knew how to impress, I knew how to talk the talk but I didn't know how to handle any type of commitment or conversation that I felt would lead to conflict. Back then it was easier for me to just walk away and let time do its thing!

Now I have learnt be a much more rounded and emotionally aware person and I am much happier for it!

I do realise my immaturity must have had an impact on people similar to what you are feeling now, which sucks! Life is not linear and I wish you all the best. Try and put this behind you and go find yourself a partner who has the emotional intelligence you deserve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ghosting is so cruel. Wouldn't it be easier to explain. Even if it was.. It's not you it's me.

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By *erenity20 OP Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

thanks guys n gals, as always really helpful advice to this newbie...

I've posed the question, "why?", one last time to him before, with regret I block

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By *isstonguetasticjoWoman
over a year ago

widnes

Sounds like a lots of fellas on here tbh all shits

They all give the talk , wanting to meet you

You look forward to meeting them

The day arrives , you meet them, do the bussiness, then he just walks off as tho he got his cake n ate it , got wat he wanted, then just fucks u off for no reason , till months mayb a year later u get a msg off them under a new profile wanting to meet up as tho we are just complete strangers, until u tell them u had met them b4 but they fucked us off but wen u ask were have they been

Turns out they were either ALREADY SEEIN SOMEONE, or they started seein someone else after shaggin you, but said they wernt lookin fore any relationship with urself, but hey ho

They split up, then he has a fookin cheek to msg u askin to shag them again

Alot of cheeky fuckers on here i find

I wud just fuck him off n block him

Or go n meet someone who u fancy a nice sexy hunk on here TAKE SOME GOOD SAUCY PICCYS WITH HIM PUT ON HERE Show him wat he is missing out on, when he carrys on viewing ur profile, get him jelous , then wen he carries on viewing u he will k ow his liss ur gain (THATS IF THERE ARE ANY QUALITY B4 QUANTITY I SAY PERSONALITY GOES A LONG WAY, IGNORANCE CAN JUST FOOK OFF

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"So a question for you gentlemen out there...

Why meet a lady, get on so well with her, two meets hours long...then "ghost" her and refuse to answer messages BUT keep visiting her profile EVERY day??

Confused

What's that all about??"

Maybe he was he was getting too close to you, starting to fall for you (it's understandable; you seem to have a lot to offer) but he only wants NSA so he,s pulling away from you?

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By *andy and DannyCouple
over a year ago

Barnstaple

"So a question for you gentlemen out there...

Why meet a lady, get on so well with her, two meets hours long...then "ghost" her and refuse to answer messages BUT keep visiting her profile EVERY day??

Confused

What's that all about??"

Look into the single mans mind ! They can become very jealous and start to resent the lady seeing other men, thats where the profile visits spring from ? Looking for new verifications. Dan x

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By *edtimefunMan
over a year ago

Northampton

And you've never done that exact same thing to anybody ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea, makes no sense to me.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Did you get any reply op?

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seen this a few times some women and men are offering more than what some want ...

swinging to some is one meet and move on plenty of women and couples like this too not just men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the mystery of fab people a very strange breed most don't even turn up let alone twice

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By *tickler2000Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

I couldn't do it.

Takes very little time to say "Thanks, but no thanks."

Can't think why he would though.

You look amazing

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By *erenity20 OP Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"Did you get any reply op?

Miss"

No reply...so I regretfully blocked him...

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Strange and you have a right to be upset and confused. I would send a message asking for an explanation and tell him he is getting blocked at midnight if you don't get one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

feels unsettling for you and passive aggressive from him...well done for blocking

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Maybe playing hard to get. Weird either way.

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