FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters

By *ewkesbury cowboy OP Man
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

Why do they do it. After years on this site it still baffles me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Yep still baffles me too..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep still baffles me too.. "

I don’t get it at all…

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Had about 6 social meets cancelled at short notice this year. Puts me off arranging anything. Think I will just stick to clubs and parties.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ewkesbury cowboy OP Man
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

Wish I had that option.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Had about 6 social meets cancelled at short notice this year. Puts me off arranging anything. Think I will just stick to clubs and parties."

Think meeting in clubs would possibly cut down on 99.9% of these types of post.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

"Had about 6 social meets cancelled at short notice this year. Puts me off arranging anything. Think I will just stick to clubs and parties."

Love to meet you because I know that you wouldn't cancel x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

You will allway get them on a site like this just dont let it spoil it for genuine people as there are lots on here too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lina75Couple
over a year ago

dublin

We had a guy who kept texting us for months and was very pushy. I did answer his messages time to time and tried to tell him nicely we are not interested to meet him. One day I was really annoyed and asked him to live us alone. He called us a time wasters. Are we?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ewkesbury cowboy OP Man
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

"You will allway get them on a site like this just dont let it spoil it for genuine people as there are lots on here too"

Oh I know there are plenty of genuine people here,time wasters just really annoy me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ewkesbury cowboy OP Man
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

"We had a guy who kept texting us for months and was very pushy. I did answer his messages time to time and tried to tell him nicely we are not interested to meet him. One day I was really annoyed and asked him to live us alone. He called us a time wasters. Are we? "

No he clearly doesn't hear the word no often enough. I actually agreed to meet this couple tonight and they no showed completly

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

It’s why we mainly stick to clubs.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We think the Male of a couple messages or winks or, then shows his partner who says "No thanks"!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Fantasists that just want sexy chat and to see your photos. They'll very happily give you the false impression that they want to meet then dissappear or give repeated excuses when you try to fix a date. We've had a bucket full of them since starting this profile.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

had 2 this morning all ready as soon as we put yep lets meet today we got block

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oItForYorkshireCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Had about 6 social meets cancelled at short notice this year. Puts me off arranging anything. Think I will just stick to clubs and parties."

Same xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep pretty much anything you arrange at the minute you have have to half expect a no show!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People with too much time on their hands. Someone said above, fantasists who are too scared to follow through.

I just don't understand what people get out of doing it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aveing funCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Because it’s a free site if members had to pay a proper subscription then be very little timewasters

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

I had one who strung me along with a series of messages that started contradicting each other, starting with claiming that he and his wife were on their way to meet me, then it was he was picking her up from work, then he was going to tell her when she got in the car.... In the end, I told him to fuck off and blocked him.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

"Had about 6 social meets cancelled at short notice this year. Puts me off arranging anything. Think I will just stick to clubs and parties."

Someone had the chance to meet you and they cancelled? Sounds like a right moron. I wouldn't have passed up the chance.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aveing funCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

But we all know nothing is guaranteed in life when meets go well it’s the best experience

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Not at all, you told him you weren't interested and he spat his dummy out

Miss

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

I had one today no show and not logon today

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never experienced it! Touch wood

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Ultimately they do it because they can. They most likely get a kick out of it knowing that they have found some gullible person into believing they are genuine and want to meet them. It the thrill of the chase.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Never had it but I grill potentials down to the bare bones lol but 99% users on here are fantasist or fakes so they have no intention on meeting anyone when they join they just want users to rate their 100 crappo pics to build their confidence and become depressed keyboardist trolls.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Guess it’s the thrill of the chase

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

No idea but wish they would get lost.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eWillMakeYouSquirtCouple
over a year ago

leicester

Some very stupid people in this world lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah most time wasters just enjoy the thrill and the chat. That's why I think it's best to arrange a social first with no real expectations for sex. If they can't meet for a social they ain't gonna meet for sex so best to block and move on.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm happy to chat even if it doesn't go anywhere, and I don't consider that wasting my time. I don't do sex chat though (you'd find it incredibly hard to wank to a conversation with me!), so if that's what someone is looking for they soon get bored and wander off.

To me someone wastes my time when we actually agree a day and time to meet and then they either cancel at an hour's notice or stand me up. Bloody annoying and results in a block (although I do quite like to see if I'm going to be given a cheesy excuse or just ghosted!).

It happens a lot and it pisses me off every time.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is anyone really surprised by any of this? maybe Sydney University will finally crunch their numbers and discover that probably less than 10% are genuine and many of them understandably fickle at times...as you were until the next thread on the topic..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *heHungStudentMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Had about 4 accounts with no pics message over the last 2 years asking for kim etc then suddenly dissapearing as soon as lives are asked for, no idea what the appeal is

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

We had 4 different nights arranged from middle of June to middle of July and all 4 were postponed for one reason or another! We only arrange things after we have chatted a while so couldn’t believe our bad luck on each occasion. Obviously vanilla life comes first but it does leave you feeling deflated after so much preparation has gone in up to that point

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keyboard swingers. It's easy to be the big Dom, kink lovin, sex god on line ... Less easy in real life. Plus, they probably have had post cum clarity by then and are back to being straight laced and vanilla ...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt the hard way.

I always chat for a couple of weeks at least prior to meeting, it's doesn't guarantee a no show but certainly helps.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

It's so easy to join and contribute to FAB.

You can promise, lie and say about everything in between.

Do agree with other comments regarding using clubs and parties to find genuine folks.

We've had a few idiots, not many as we arrange to meet initially for a social drink in a pub, if they don't show, we've had a nice evening in the pub.

Usually, we don't bother with newbies, people who have been on over 6 months with no meets and those who want to talk dirty.

The over 6 months with no meets is a problem at present but it will sort itself out.

Swingers holidays in Gran Canaria and Cap D'Agde are the ultimate place to meet real swingers.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the use of ''timewater'' on fab is way over used... most use it even when politely told no thanks..

cant remember the last timewaster i had i suspect its because we dont fall for the idiots and block

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Had about 6 social meets cancelled at short notice this year. Puts me off arranging anything. Think I will just stick to clubs and parties.

Love to meet you because I know that you wouldn't cancel x"

I never cancel something that is planned.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think the words to look out for and avoid are "genuine" and "reliable"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha it happened last night to me, what a complete waste of time

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a hotel meet planned with a guy and had two back ups on standby

Guy never showed messaged first back up no show second back up no show

When your in a hotel room in just your lingerie and 3 separate guys don’t turn up in one night for basically free sex it really smashes your confidence we nearly packed it all in there and then

Fortunately we were introduced to the clubs after that and that’s mainly where we meet now

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a hotel meet planned with a guy and had two back ups on standby

Guy never showed messaged first back up no show second back up no show

When your in a hotel room in just your lingerie and 3 separate guys don’t turn up in one night for basically free sex it really smashes your confidence we nearly packed it all in there and then

Fortunately we were introduced to the clubs after that and that’s mainly where we meet now "
totally get the confidence knock part! It’s couples for me that always end up letting me down ( guessing it’s guys blagging).... just gotta hope eventually a few genuine ones turn up that you can get something regular with that u trust. That would make my blood boil tbh booking a hotel and being let down x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do they do it. After years on this site it still baffles me"

Then you've had years of practice to see the signs....

Did you miss them and are there new signs for us to know about?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a hotel meet planned with a guy and had two back ups on standby

Guy never showed messaged first back up no show second back up no show

When your in a hotel room in just your lingerie and 3 separate guys don’t turn up in one night for basically free sex it really smashes your confidence we nearly packed it all in there and then

Fortunately we were introduced to the clubs after that and that’s mainly where we meet now totally get the confidence knock part! It’s couples for me that always end up letting me down ( guessing it’s guys blagging).... just gotta hope eventually a few genuine ones turn up that you can get something regular with that u trust. That would make my blood boil tbh booking a hotel and being let down x"

This was early on of being on here our radar is much better now lol

Funnily two of the guys then messaged few months later trying to get a meet obviously forgetting who they messaged and let down you can imagine their answer

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do they do it. After years on this site it still baffles me

Then you've had years of practice to see the signs....

Did you miss them and are there new signs for us to know about?

"
about 85% are wolves in sheep clothing

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do they do it. After years on this site it still baffles me

Then you've had years of practice to see the signs....

Did you miss them and are there new signs for us to know about?

about 85% are wolves in sheep clothing "

Oo strange one. I've already sussed them after three messages...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *etsgetjiggingMan
over a year ago

norwich

Well if there is anyone within 40miles of me. Am looking to meet tonight. Hopefully here I can cull the fakes abit.message me if interested.

Let's have fun.x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why has this site got so many fake profiles doesn't the money they get for the site enough to clean it up it disgusting

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why has this site got so many fake profiles doesn't the money they get for the site enough to clean it up it disgusting

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ewkesbury cowboy OP Man
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

"Why do they do it. After years on this site it still baffles me

Then you've had years of practice to see the signs....

Did you miss them and are there new signs for us to know about? I added a meet to my profile for that night and so did they I answered there's we got chatting, they said they were leaving and would see me soon, that's the last I heard

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a couples perspective we often receive messages like "Can meet now"!

We often receive messages, "How are you" or "Great Profile".

Essentially, no effort whatsoever.

Men here need to know that many couples are fussy, they are not going to shag anything based upon a couple of effortless comments.

So from our experience, there is a complete lack of effort from 99% of men.

If someone really wants to meet us for something meaningful, then they have to make effort!!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had two social meets a four hour round trip. Nothing happened in the bedroom but I made a fab friend which is nice. If I arrange I always show unless I have a very good reason

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had lots of time wasters and messers in the thirteen or so years I've had on here.

Males always seem the poor relation when it comes to naming and shaming though.

I've had couples and females let me down as much as males.

You share photos with a couple or female and get flirty and promises are made and they no show for whatever reason that seems to be okay.

I've had one or two occasions were I've had to duck out, been massively apologetic and given plenty of notice etc and been called a time waster.

Fabs is great but clubs are better.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Not if u made it clear from the beginning that u wasn’t interested

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

So far this year we have had seven home meets planned with new contacts Three have actually turned up Non have been followed up.

Meeting inside a club takes a lot of the chance out of the equation.

S/S

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Well he did waste his time on you.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

The contacts I get on her I'd say at least 60% are time wasters.

I now just assume they are and if I actually get a meet it's a huge bonus

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread