FabSwingers.com forum: what a prick

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i had a meet yesterday ,with a very sexy woman ,she looked stunning when she turned up at my home, i was abit nervous ,but we had a couple of beers and soon relaxed ,she was funny ,witty and looked so sexy ,i couldnt wait take her bed, now big headed as it might seem ,im very good in bed, and never had any problems before ever, i wanted give ....... one of the best fucks of her life, she asked me treat her like a slut and do what ever i wanted, and i couldnt get a hard on ,whos ever had this happen ,so embarresd by it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats unfortunate but as a male i think that can sometime happen we have a male friend who sometimes plays with us and although he doesnt go soft he never cums, i have gone soft on a meet before for me personally it might because i bareback with my partner and hate condoms so when i use on i lose so much feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it happens

I think its worse for the woman to be honest because you think its because your not turning them on

It dont bother me if a guy cant get a hard on, i understand sometimes nerves can kick in, but what i really hate are guys who wont accept its not getting hard and keep trying when you know its not happening, id sooner them just say....look sorry and ask me to leave than keep getting me to give them a blow job with no result

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

it just wouldnt go hard , i normally can keep an hard on for few hours atleast ,never had this happen before ,i could of died ,so embarresing, and wow she was fit which made it worse, she thought i didnt fancy her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it happens

I think its worse for the woman to be honest because you think its because your not turning them on

Agreed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not un-common and for most swingers they will understand and it just goes to show that if you put an open invitation in front of a man its not his fault if colonel keepitup dont wanna recipricate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it just wouldnt go hard , i normally can keep an hard on for few hours atleast ,never had this happen before ,i could of died ,so embarresing, and wow she was fit which made it worse, she thought i didnt fancy her"

i think that would be any womans reaction, she was probably thinking, ive never had this before he must not like me

no point either party blaming themselves, it happens and cant be helped, we're only human after all, maybe if you met again and both felt a bit more relaxed after already meeting things would be different, i know i always feel better and more relaxed round people i have met before, you may not have felt nervous but that dont mean your body wasnt feeling it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

so i dont need go see my doctor for viagra then, actually serious as anyone taken viagra, dose it work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you spoken to the lady in question since? Embarassing yes, but it happens! Chin up an try again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always many other ways to show your appreciation of a sexy lady and give her pleasure even if the little man doesn't want to play.

Had it happen to me and after some time just pleasuring the lady normal service can be resumed...

Just accept it happens. We aren't machines.

Although I have no doubt all the Alpha Males and fantasists will now come in here and say it never happens...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so i dont need go see my doctor for viagra then, actually serious as anyone taken viagra, dose it work"

yeah thats it now your sex life is over

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

should i change my name to softy, no womans going ever meet me again,what have i done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"should i change my name to softy, no womans going ever meet me again,what have i done"

ok stop being a drama queen lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So long as you get your tongue n fingers in gear there should never be any reason for a woman to feel let down, for me personally the shag is the last thing on my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so i dont need go see my doctor for viagra then, actually serious as anyone taken viagra, dose it work"

Yes and no, depends, nerves can take over, its all in the mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you spoken to the lady in question since? Embarassing yes, but it happens! Chin up an try again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had this occur 2-3 times.

Once because of drink due to a night out and twice where it was just nerves.

It was hard then it went.

However I knew about this and understand it as my comfort zone being different to what it usually is.

All I needed was a bit more time and during that time I got her engine revving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't forget it's the burst of adrenalin after you cum that makes you go soft, so nervousness = adrenalin = soft cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't forget it's the burst of adrenalin after you cum that makes you go soft, so nervousness = adrenalin = soft cock."

um, he didn't cum in the first place..

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

it does happen... also alcohol isn't known for helping peoples sexual proformance....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its probably happened to most of us blokes at least once. Nerves play a huge part in it. My best advice is to try not to over think the situation and just go with the flow. If you're feeling nervous then explain that to the person you're with and make the evening more of a social, chances are the next time you meet up things will be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens..... and yes for a while she may have wondered if you were interested in her, but as long as you pleased her, with your fingers, mouth, tongue and other various parts of your body

I am sure you will have won her around.....(please say you pleased her)

S xx

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

Whatever you do dont let it play on your mind. Its just one of those things. If you letit affect you it will plague you at further meets.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"Don't forget it's the burst of adrenalin after you cum that makes you go soft, so nervousness = adrenalin = soft cock.

um, he didn't cum in the first place..

He was nervous, his body produced adrenaline, he couldn't get hard - That's what they were getting at not that he had cum!

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By *ekyllandHydeCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I've had a few guys now that's got stage fright disappointing for me as wanted a good fuck but hey it happens. Like one of the guys said as well some guys don't like condoms as perhaps a little to do with that too or maybe just feel a bit intimidated who knows x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i had a meet yesterday ,with a very sexy woman ,she looked stunning when she turned up at my home, i was abit nervous ,but we had a couple of beers and soon relaxed ,she was funny ,witty and looked so sexy ,i couldnt wait take her bed, now big headed as it might seem ,im very good in bed, and never had any problems before ever, i wanted give ....... one of the best fucks of her life, she asked me treat her like a slut and do what ever i wanted, and i couldnt get a hard on ,whos ever had this happen ,so embarresd by it"

Two things in what you have said stand out to me: First this woman was drop dead gorgeous, so I am assuming you were possibly more excited than usual about gettin jiggy with her? Secondly, you had a 'couple of beers'. How many in reality?

Combine nervousness, excitement and maybe a bit more alcohol than you really should have had, and that 'could' be your answer. Personally, I never touch a drop on a meet (never have) cos I would have Brewers Droop like nobodys business!

As for Viagra - only use it if your GP says you need it. I have it as I was on anti-depressants for sometime, and Erectile Dysfunction is a well-known side-effect of Prozac-based Anti-D's. BUT..... word of warning over Viagra:- You WILL get a stonking hard on, but the draw back is that it is MUCH more difficult to cum. On our last three meets, I have failed to cum due to this (and yes, the women were horny as fuck!!) and so I am going back to Kamagra Jellies which I used some time back and produced a much better result.

Swings and roundabouts when you start using E.D./enhancement drugs.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"it just wouldnt go hard , i normally can keep an hard on for few hours at least ,never had this happen before ,i could of died ,so embarresing, and wow she was fit which made it worse, she thought i didnt fancy her"

Its easy to say...but dont worry about it fella, really..or it will play on your mind next time.

It happens..even out here in vanilla land!!...its not always nerves either, its the desire for everything to go right..you may not even realise it, back its there, lurking in the depths of your mind.

Before we swung for the first time my main worry was would it be so exciting and mind blowing I would have an heart attack!!...when it actually happened it was fine, nice and relaxed etc..but there was so much going on, trying to take the situation in, etc etc...that I couldnt get an 'angry one'..then that snowballs and starts playing on your mind...and then your fucked...goodnight Vienna

It wasnt nerves, im not a nervy type..it was just everything else going on and trying to take it in and enjoy (which we did)

Next time will be fine for you im sure..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to everyone at some time or another but where guaranteed results are required "allegedly" kamagra will give much needed boost again I stress " allegedly" and apparently easily found on search engines

Other than that don't drink too much, take your time and don't put to much pressure on yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went for a wax and the lady was very hot, I thought I would become hard. when she grabbed my cock to wax it shrivelled up so small she could not hardly grab it! I was so embarrassed, and still now feel she will see me as this guy with the tiniest cock ever :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a threesome with a guy a couple of years ago who had previously only been with single women but said a threesome was something he'd always wanted to try. He was well up for it until we started to play and then couldn't rise to the occasion. He was so embarrased and said he just couldn't do it as he felt bad with Andy being there!!!

We now always ask if guys have played in a threesome before, we don't get out often and had to spend the evening nursing his bruised ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swings and roundabouts when you start using E.D./enhancement drugs.

Far better to try and deal with what caused the problem in the first place than have to rely on a medicinal crutch that in time you'd feel unable to perform without.

If it's relaxation engage in extended foreplay. If its nerves try and meet people who don't make you feel nervous. If it's the booze consider a dry meet. If it's medicines see your GP (which most won't) as it is those that have the best appreciations of benefits vs risks of any medications you may care to try for ED rather than pushers who just want your money.

Good Luck

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

would like to say thank you to every one ,carnt beleive how constructive every ones been, i honestly thought id have the piss taken out of me somthing rotten yet everyones been so surportive ,thank you so much and i mean that loads,its acctualy good to know people care ,think i owe you all a pint, and its so true what they say ,if you have a problem talk about it, promise you all it works xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a threesome with a guy a couple of years ago who had previously only been with single women but said a threesome was something he'd always wanted to try. He was well up for it until we started to play and then couldn't rise to the occasion. He was so embarrased and said he just couldn't do it as he felt bad with Andy being there!!!

We now always ask if guys have played in a threesome before, we don't get out often and had to spend the evening nursing his bruised ego

We've had a few meets like that lately so now we always check a guy is experienced in a group situation before we agree xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had that happen to me twice and the lady was soo damn sexy so i know it wasn't because I wasn't turned on. I felt like my body was willing but my cock was thinking on its own. It was frustrating because no matter what I tried it just wouldn't happen.

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"Don't forget it's the burst of adrenalin after you cum that makes you go soft, so nervousness = adrenalin = soft cock.

um, he didn't cum in the first place..

Yes we know that but the point is if you feel nervous your body produces adrenaline then the difficulties start. Do you understand now ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it happens to us all with me it was lack of confidence due to a bad experience during a meet I got out of practise over time which made it worse drop me a pm ill tell you how I got over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As sex in often a mental thing then it's not a surprise it happens. If it happened to me I'd just spend as long as possible playing with the other person and hope that at least they left with a smile on their face as opposed to a massive load of cum. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We now always ask if guys have played in a threesome before, we don't get out often and had to spend the evening nursing his bruised ego

I had many a man fail to get hard main thung is having a play and not letting it get to you my ex was lije that for months till we were comfortable with each other and he ended up the best lover I ever had after lots of teaching lol Prob the most memorable time was a 3some with one of my fb and he's had countless numbers Of them before parties he's tried everything and sex is always good between us he never fails to perform he was looking forward to giving me my first dp however on this ocassion the minute fella number two came near me my fb lost it struggled to get hard ended up leaving me in the room with the younger lad when he came back and it was just two Of us not a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't forget it's the burst of adrenalin after you cum that makes you go soft, so nervousness = adrenalin = soft cock.

um, he didn't cum in the first place..

He was nervous, his body produced adrenaline, he couldn't get hard - That's what they were getting at not that he had cum!

The above is quite correct. Adrenalin is produced by the body in response to the 'Fight or Flight' reflex - in other words the blood needed to create and maintain a solid erection is diverted to other organs (mostly the heart so it can pump to the leg muscles). Male porn actors have the same problem, and many learn a form of meditation/self-hypnosis to 'tune-out' from the situation and suppressing the adrenalin rush. Not an easy one to overcome, but with practice most guys can do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So long as you get your tongue n fingers in gear there should never be any reason for a woman to feel let down, for me personally the shag is the last thing on my mind

So with you on this comment! My little man can be quite stubborn at times however my other atributes never let me down!

I am an Englishman who knows what his tongue is for!

My little man does rise to the challenge when he's ready, then its a case of normal service resumed

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

It has probably happened to most men at one time or another!

It's just one of those things, easier said than done but the more you worry about it, the worse you will feel.

Sex isn't just about using your cock...you have hands and a tongue!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"would like to say thank you to every one ,carnt beleive how constructive every ones been, i honestly thought id have the piss taken out of me somthing rotten yet everyones been so surportive ,thank you so much and i mean that loads,its acctualy good to know people care ,think i owe you all a pint, and its so true what they say ,if you have a problem talk about it, promise you all it works xxxx"

Glad to hear you have taken all the advice on board.

It probably has happened to most guys, but as has been said, don't let it bother you next time, just relax, and have fun.

If it does happen again, do what I did when junior refused to play... I just played with the lady with fingers, toys and tongue for a while... and pretty soon I was back in the game!!! It seems seeing and hearing a lady enjoying what I was doing put the lead back in my pencil as it were lol!

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

" ,think i owe you all a pint, "

Cheers mines a long sniff one please...oh shit sorry..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't rule out those little blue pills. Just means you need a handstand to go for a piss.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

What of flying all the way from sheffield to vienna and get get a hard one from friday night till saturday evening???

Then the naugthy cock decided to fonction from saturday night

Just invite her around again and don't drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its happened to me with Helen and on meets. Doesnt happen often thank god and so far everyone has understood.

Went to chams once and tommas wouldnt work all night, got home and it wouldnt go down

Its life, dont worry about it

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