FabSwingers.com forum: Is Fab becoming useless ?

By *ang Bang Whore OP Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed? "

We are new ourselfs.

This is to be found out.

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By *ang Bang Whore OP Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

I wish you the best of luck

It’s been ridiculous lately x

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

They have all moved across from Tinder during Covid thinking they are on to a sure thing.

The only sure thing is they don't understand swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish you the best of luck

It’s been ridiculous lately x"

Mind if we add you?

Check us out if your happy will send a request

I will warn you we all to new to this like virgin new.

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By *reddy96Man
over a year ago

scunthorpe

"I wish you the best of luck

It’s been ridiculous lately x"
it has been crazy. I've struggled for ages to get meets

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think lockdown has just brought in a lot of the dreamers and maybe optimistic fantasists.

Don’t like to call people fake, but maybe with the shield of restrictions providing an excuse not to meet, this became a safe place to live out their fantasy’s without any consequences, and without much else going on a bit of a distraction that they now struggle to let go of.

Result of which is a lot more people on the site and a larger demographic of that populace being people who haven’t actually and probably won’t ever actually meet.

For sure it’s frustrating but outside of clubs, parties and friends which is where we have most of our fun, we enjoy the site for what it is and accept its limits.

Sorry that you’ve been messed around though, regardless of the why’s of the site at the moment there’s no excuse for treating other people like that.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed? "

Sorry you’re not having much luck op!

I know it’s no help to you - but I’ve found the opposite since we got to ‘live’ again. Everyone I’ve arranged to meet has turned up and been exactly who and what they said they were - and I now have 3 lovely new friends who I’ll hopefully see regularly.

Really hope your luck changes soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think lockdown has just brought in a lot of the dreamers and maybe optimistic fantasists.

Result of which is a lot more people on the site and a larger demographic of that populace being people who haven’t actually and probably won’t ever actually meet.

For sure it’s frustrating but outside of clubs, parties and friends which is where we have most of our fun, we enjoy the site for what it is and accept its limits.

Sorry that you’ve been messed around though, regardless of the why’s of the site at the moment there’s no excuse for treating other people like that. "

Very much agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was always attracted to the idea that swinging was Bohemian and hedonistic.

More recently, sadly, (in my opinion) it has become more hardened, an extension of online porn and the expectations that go with that.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We're the same honestly starting to think im a minger or something.

249 views today 3 messages all hi meet now types. Soul destroying

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"I wish you the best of luck

It’s been ridiculous lately x"

Can’t agree more …. Full of keyboard warriors, morel and thought police … I could go on, but think u get my drift …

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By *neeyedpirateMan
over a year ago

ask!

"We're the same honestly starting to think im a minger or something.

249 views today 3 messages all hi meet now types. Soul destroying "

Oh I know that feeling message over and over and over again send face pics constructive messages have a recent verification and still can’t get a meet

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By *odieCI5Man
over a year ago

Solihull

I’m a single guy and genuine long time clubber and dose meets, the amount of men on here is just ridiculous, I message people and due to peoples inbox being flooded with these keyboard wannabes, the message never gets read, plus lady’s it would seem have such a choice, it’s impossible to stand out, it’s actually a turn off trying over snd over to meet people, maybe it will change now clubs are opening,

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"We're the same honestly starting to think im a minger or something.

249 views today 3 messages all hi meet now types. Soul destroying

Oh I know that feeling message over and over and over again send face pics constructive messages have a recent verification and still can’t get a meet "

See we dont even get decent messages we get one liners with profiles that info says??? Or fill in later. Or cheating guys, a no from us

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By *neeyedpirateMan
over a year ago

ask!

"We're the same honestly starting to think im a minger or something.

249 views today 3 messages all hi meet now types. Soul destroying

Oh I know that feeling message over and over and over again send face pics constructive messages have a recent verification and still can’t get a meet

See we dont even get decent messages we get one liners with profiles that info says??? Or fill in later. Or cheating guys, a no from us"

Yes there are a lot of lazy guys on here! Who just come for a wank who won’t ever meet. But also I don’t have a 6 pack or a 9 inch cock so always going to be a struggle. Or I could just be ugly lol

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"We're the same honestly starting to think im a minger or something.

249 views today 3 messages all hi meet now types. Soul destroying

Oh I know that feeling message over and over and over again send face pics constructive messages have a recent verification and still can’t get a meet

See we dont even get decent messages we get one liners with profiles that info says??? Or fill in later. Or cheating guys, a no from us

Tbf we look for intelligence over looks and cock size. Might be our downfall haha

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Guys need to change their attitudes and realise that we are not here to service them. We do have a right to say no without receiving abuse and we do know what we want to make us happy.

First messages that are describing what a guy wants to do to me usually get blocked in my book.

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed? "

It's been a funny old time. Maybe there are more timewasters than before, but I suspect it'll settle back eventually.

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

" maybe it will change now clubs are opening, "

Yes, clubs and organised socials. People can get to know each other. I think it will change.

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By *ave1963MexboroughMan
over a year ago

Mexborough

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed? "

I play with a lady who often gets let down by men. She gives them two chances then blocks them. But she also has her A list of those she knows she can rely on of whom I count myself very fortunate to be one.

We're not all wankers and I for one have never failed to turn up for a meet x

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We’ve had some absolutely great meets on Fab over the last couple of years.

However we’ve had a string of cancelled social and play meets since restrictions have lifted.

It always seems to be the guys Lily has picked too, she’s starting to get a complex!

Now we don’t think Fab is past it’s best, but we do think there are a larger than usual number of guys that like the thought of a meet more than the reality of attending one.

Perhaps it’s just Post-Covid nerves, maybe they’ve forgotten how to socialise or have sex. Perhaps there are just more horny men on here that haven’t worked out how to tell their wives.

Who knows, but suddenly we find ourselves free tomorrow evening again!

- John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

block block block its the best tool on fab then you'll find slowly but surely youve gotten rid of most of those you dont want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed? "

So the way fab is used has changed. I use it as a social media for people I meet at clubs and I know a lot of other people that do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I read threads like this - and there have been quite a few recently - I'm glad I'm older than most and looking for a specific combination of interests, as well as having been meeting the same couple for the last three years (except in lockdown of course). I've had my share of no replies, fakes and approaches that don't meet my requirements, but I've also had some very nice messages through the forums and I'm quite happy with the site in general. Really sorry to read all the bad things, though.

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By *illybigballs 555Man
over a year ago

london

I honestly think it’s becoming a waste of time tbh. Not worth the effort put in tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my 3rd time on here in 7 years took breaks whilst in a relationship and I've found this time around there are a lot more fakes and time wasters , I'm just hope they get bored and move on lol , gives us genuine guys a bad name .

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By *neeyedpirateMan
over a year ago

ask!

"Guys need to change their attitudes and realise that we are not here to service them. We do have a right to say no without receiving abuse and we do know what we want to make us happy.

First messages that are describing what a guy wants to do to me usually get blocked in my book. "

My first messages are always polite usually with a picture or a quote which has been asked for to show I have read the description. Then I outline what I am about and set out how I like to meet ect.

Only exception is when I reply to a forum note

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasn’t there a post by a single guy saying pretty much the same , and my word he got some grief saying just so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to many fish spoil the pond

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Go to clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed? "

Never let anyone down myself, always turned up ( or majority hosted ) when I said I would.

Clearly not everyone has the same morals or commitment but the way I look at it is why pursue a meet and then be a no show? Its difficult enough for a single male as it is without these clowns thrown into the mix. Total lack of respect for the other party involved.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

There are a lot of new members lot of them are time wasters i agree but there are some of us that are genuine and do meet

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Clubs and organized socials ...you will find the vast majority of blokes..pleasant and normal...its the keyboard nutcases ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a lot of new members lot of them are time wasters i agree but there are some of us that are genuine and do meet "

I always make it a rule not to meet guys who are not verified but he had amazing pics. Lol. Silly me

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

One of the biggest attractions of FAB in the first instance was free cams. Why many people joined fab and had no intentions of meeting anyone and that still holds true. Fab hasn't changed much people have and their expectations. There are soo many fake profiles and time wasters? Or is it just a perception because these people were never here to meet in the first place.

There is the other side the attention seekers and ego trippers. Many join fab because the want to feel desired and wanted but have no intention of meeting

Women want guys to fight over them, and guys want to know if they can still pull. But don't want to go any further.

Then you have the ones who believe they are genuine swingers and some actually meet.

So isn't it simply a case that people see FAB differently based on their own perception and there own perspective?

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By *ang Bang Whore OP Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

"They have all moved across from Tinder during Covid thinking they are on to a sure thing.

The only sure thing is they don't understand swinging."

I suspect you are right sadly

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I'm not exactly new, as I have been here before, but I haven't had any problems getting meets, and I turn up when I say I am going to

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"There are a lot of new members lot of them are time wasters i agree but there are some of us that are genuine and do meet "

Just curious. There have been similar statements through this thread.

On what do you base this? I'd be interested in seeing some real stats on this, purely because I'm a nerd!

Personally local joining announcements seem to have remained steady the last few years. Difficult to know about active accounts and deleted accounts.

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By *neeyedpirateMan
over a year ago

ask!

That’s a dick move from him

Didnt have a choice he blocked me hahaha "

Oh well his loss my love x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s a dick move from him

Didnt have a choice he blocked me hahaha

Oh well his loss my love x "

Thank you. Very kind

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

We’ve recently opened up our profile to allowing men to message after persuading hubby to allow it ... and I feel like he’s just proving me right. So far no luck at all... sometimes I get a couple of promising messages but then it tails off .... I think I’ll probably have more luck at a club ... like you OP I think there are just a lot of fantasists and they don’t want to actually do anything .... shame x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed? "

Maybe you have matured like a fine Chilean merlot wine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forum topics give a clue as to the banality of this site. Grown adults commenting on the profile above. A site where the majority of its members are of a specific demographic............

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed? "

I’m with you on this OP. There does appear to have been a mass influx of guys who are just here to look at pics and fantasise… and they make it that much more difficult for the shrinking percentage of genuine people

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed?

I was talking to what I thought was a really nice guy. Rang me . Text me everyday. Arranged to meet. We decided he would pay for dinner and drinks and as I need a stay id book the hotel. I didnt but suddenly he couldn't make it. Stopped calling. Never text again. I was showing my concern. As he was soooooooo nice. Then he blocks me and not heard from him since. Lucky escape id say. You just never know ."

Did you tell him you was having fois gras starter and the lobster for main course ?

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"The forum topics give a clue as to the banality of this site. Grown adults commenting on the profile above. A site where the majority of its members are of a specific demographic............"

Don’t forget snog, fuck avoid or whatever it’s called they play on here !

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"The forum topics give a clue as to the banality of this site. Grown adults commenting on the profile above. A site where the majority of its members are of a specific demographic............"

What would that demographic be?

Curious forum user here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wasn’t there a post by a single guy saying pretty much the same , and my word he got some grief saying just so "

Classic ain't it

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

"We’ve recently opened up our profile to allowing men to message after persuading hubby to allow it ... and I feel like he’s just proving me right. So far no luck at all... sometimes I get a couple of promising messages but then it tails off .... I think I’ll probably have more luck at a club ... like you OP I think there are just a lot of fantasists and they don’t want to actually do anything .... shame x "

well I think you taking a shower now might will give you a different perspective on things

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

"Wasn’t there a post by a single guy saying pretty much the same , and my word he got some grief saying just so "

Some folks just think it's cute to be critical and disrespectful I certainly don't think so, it just shows who they really are

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By *abble-onMan
over a year ago

Minehead

Getting any kind of response has been proving difficult recently... plenty of messages sent out (not copy and paste) with few replies. A little disheartening some days haha.

I guess that's the biggest trouble with the online world people can pick things up and drop them with no repercussions. It's almost an extension of the modern throwaway lifestyle...

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

"Guys need to change their attitudes and realise that we are not here to service them. We do have a right to say no without receiving abuse and we do know what we want to make us happy.

First messages that are describing what a guy wants to do to me usually get blocked in my book. "

Abusive people are the worst

I assure you I never will be abusive

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

"We're the same honestly starting to think im a minger or something.

249 views today 3 messages all hi meet now types. Soul destroying

Oh I know that feeling message over and over and over again send face pics constructive messages have a recent verification and still can’t get a meet

See we dont even get decent messages we get one liners with profiles that info says??? Or fill in later. Or cheating guys, a no from us

Tbf we look for intelligence over looks and cock size. Might be our downfall haha"

No actually that's very intelligent of you

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

"We're the same honestly starting to think im a minger or something.

249 views today 3 messages all hi meet now types. Soul destroying

Oh I know that feeling message over and over and over again send face pics constructive messages have a recent verification and still can’t get a meet

See we dont even get decent messages we get one liners with profiles that info says??? Or fill in later. Or cheating guys, a no from us

Tbf we look for intelligence over looks and cock size. Might be our downfall haha"

No actually that's very intelligent of you

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed?

No they really dont. No one is spoiling it for you. Guys really need to stop blaming other guys for not getting meets.

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I'm genuine, looking for meets and being wound up by fake profiles

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

"They have all moved across from Tinder during Covid thinking they are on to a sure thing.

The only sure thing is they don't understand swinging.

I suspect you are right sadly "

This is a good point. I'm going to a social on Saturday. I'm looking forward to seeing my mates from the swinging world and having a laugh, having not seen them for so long. It's not just about sex.

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By *icola2202Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

For us it’s kinda same as every other dating/hookup apps or sites

People like what they see or vice versa, you chat, it fizzles out and that’s it

We was aimed toward fab by a friend telling us it was our best option but been on here for long time but nothing.

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By *ames blonde007Man
over a year ago

Enfield

Well ok I hear you but I have 9nly been on here recently and have found a lot of resistance from you lovelies to my polite and genuine messages.....I'm loosing the faith in mankind.....I couldn't dream what othe guys are saying to make me get a blanket response or lack of from 99% of woman here...baffled from enfeild

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been a pile of shite for years

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed?

No they really dont. No one is spoiling it for you. Guys really need to stop blaming other guys for not getting meets. "

This is one one of the big issues throughout the site, it is a pissing contest. Blokes blaming other blokes for not getting meets - is simply blokes trying set themselves above others because they think it will get them further.

This has been going on since sites began and will go on for a long time to come..

Every bloke is blaming every other bloke and clearly makes no difference to whether you get meets or not, just makes blokes look desperate. It is the one of the oldest cliche defences "I'm innocent, it's not me it is everyone else!" It is easier to blame others for your own failings, then improve your own game.

It is nothing to do with covid/lockdown or any other excuses it is simply down to the individuals and how they you present themselves.

One-Upmanship rarely works. Presenting yourself in the right way does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being male and genuine if you get a reply your lucky maybe chat think you have made a connection next its ghost time. So I wish I was closer to OP

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
over a year ago

Salford

I'm hearing a lot of moaning from the women. Why don't to take the initiative and message th men toy want like how we guys message the girls we like

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"After years of Fab Fun…I’ve struggled to meet any genuine guys who actually turn up… been let down so often recently…

Are they all Laptop Wankers?

Standby for every single bloke saying they are genuine…Yeah yeah heard it all before.

What’s changed?

No they really dont. No one is spoiling it for you. Guys really need to stop blaming other guys for not getting meets.

This has been going on since sites began and will go on for a long time to come..

It is nothing to do with covid/lockdown or any other excuses it is simply down to the individuals and how they you present themselves.

One-Upmanship rarely works. Presenting yourself in the right way does

Shhhh, don’t let anyone know if you put in positive energy and the fun factor shows, it is a lot more enticing than miserable poor me.

So hush please.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"For us it’s kinda same as every other dating/hookup apps or sites

People like what they see or vice versa, you chat, it fizzles out and that’s it

We was aimed toward fab by a friend telling us it was our best option but been on here for long time but nothing.

Just had a quick nosey at your profile. A single lady to play with is literally the hardest thing to find on fab. It takes a long time to find. Weve been fortunate enough to find one who we can meet when our schedules allow.

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was always attracted to the idea that swinging was Bohemian and hedonistic.

More recently, sadly, (in my opinion) it has become more hardened, an extension of online porn and the expectations that go with that."

Totally agree

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By *M55Couple
over a year ago

To many fakes To many single guys and dreamers, We are here to meet nice genuine lovely couples not aggresive annoying males etc its pathetic!!!

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I think fab is great

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By *ang Bang Whore OP Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

"I'm hearing a lot of moaning from the women. Why don't to take the initiative and message th men toy want like how we guys message the girls we like"

That’s actually a very good point. Xx

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

Far too many fakes and I believe it is down to people having a lot more time on their hands over the past year. But as someone else has already pointed out, this has been happening since day one. Just block and move on, there are a lot of genuine people on this site as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see this more of a Photo ,chat ,and cam site more than a meeting one .Shame

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"To many fakes To many single guys and dreamers, We are here to meet nice genuine lovely couples not aggresive annoying males etc its pathetic!!!"

Word is in common use in FAB. Writing a FAB dictionary with meanings of words and expressions - like the Estate Agents Dictionary.

What does the word "Fake" actually mean?

Said previously

majority join FAB to view CAMs and Pictures and have no intention of meeting.

Many join FAB to see if they still have it, can pull or desirable again have no intention of meeting - just like the process (the game, the chase).

The word cheating crops up soo many times and soo many attached people being here. Viewing CAMs and wanking, or viewing pics and wanking - is that actually cheating? Are these "Fake"

I have been called "Fake" more times than I can remember.

Is "Fake" just anther meaningless FAB cliche just used to deride others?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I'm hearing a lot of moaning from the women. Why don't to take the initiative and message th men toy want like how we guys message the girls we like"

I often do, whenever I see a profile that tickles my fancy.

I still get ghosted, that's the nature of these sort of sites. I also still get stood up for socials, and that does irritate me when I've spent time and effort getting ready and going to wherever we arranged to meet. It just feels like a huge waste of my energy.

Even when I'm the one making the first move there's no getting away from that, which is why I assume I'm going to get stood up every single time and arrange to meet in places where I'm happy to spend time on my own. On the occasions the guy turns up it's then a happy bonus.

OP I've not noticed it getting worse recently. I signed up in 2019 and my first four meets all stood me up. It's not a new thing.

I think it's a great site if you meet in clubs and want to keep in touch between visits, but it's difficult if you're trying to use the site itself to meet people.

I sympathise with your frustration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're the same honestly starting to think im a minger or something.

249 views today 3 messages all hi meet now types. Soul destroying "

Definitely not a minger.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Wasn’t there a post by a single guy saying pretty much the same , and my word he got some grief saying just so "

Ye there was and he got a ridiculous amount of grief on his thread. It just shows the difference in how men and women are treated on her.

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By *jkuk72Man
over a year ago

London & Herts

"I’m a single guy and genuine long time clubber and dose meets, the amount of men on here is just ridiculous, I message people and due to peoples inbox being flooded with these keyboard wannabes, the message never gets read, plus lady’s it would seem have such a choice, it’s impossible to stand out, it’s actually a turn off trying over snd over to meet people, maybe it will change now clubs are opening, "

I concur. I hope you are right!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"I'm hearing a lot of moaning from the women. Why don't to take the initiative and message th men toy want like how we guys message the girls we like"

I have no issue messaging men first if I see a profile I like or something interesting in the forum's I will send a message .I also have my filters tight because I don't want a load of messages that I don't have time to read or answer.It can be easier to send a first message I mean the worst that happens it gets ignored .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see this more of a Photo ,chat ,and cam site more than a meeting one .Shame "

I dnt think thats true. Depends on your message or reply. If I like someone I will meet. Im going out with 3 guys for dinner on Friday as friends because they are going to BMFC. I have my own room. They have therez. Whatever happens will remain to be seen. But some do want to meet

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

"I was always attracted to the idea that swinging was Bohemian and hedonistic.

More recently, sadly, (in my opinion) it has become more hardened, an extension of online porn and the expectations that go with that."

This

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By *heekyflickWoman
over a year ago

LINCOLN

Still plenty of good guys out there...I feel your pain though...had 2 no shows in aatter of weeks...frustrating

Flick x

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"I was always attracted to the idea that swinging was Bohemian and hedonistic.

More recently, sadly, (in my opinion) it has become more hardened, an extension of online porn and the expectations that go with that.

This

I don't think swinging has ever been quite as bohemian and hedonistic as people imagined.

You just have to read a few profiles and forum posts, to recognise that it's always been populated by bored, middle aged, and surprisingly small minded people.

Not the majority by any means, but a significantly large cohort.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"I'm hearing a lot of moaning from the women. Why don't to take the initiative and message th men toy want like how we guys message the girls we like

That’s actually a very good point. Xx"

The women are always moaning about the guys but couples are just as bad!.

Yes why don't you ladies take the initiative and message us?! Or go to clubs and socials there you meet the genuine people...

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"I was always attracted to the idea that swinging was Bohemian and hedonistic.

More recently, sadly, (in my opinion) it has become more hardened, an extension of online porn and the expectations that go with that.

This

I don't think swinging has ever been quite as bohemian and hedonistic as people imagined.

You just have to read a few profiles and forum posts, to recognise that it's always been populated by bored, middle aged, and surprisingly small minded people.

Not the majority by any means, but a significantly large cohort.

...and let's face it. I tick a couple of those boxes!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

So many people breaking rules on this thread. Airing dirty washing, disputing mods decisions, attacking other people will all get you bans

https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

Here are the rules for people to read. If people don't read them or read them and ignore them, you can't blame or attack mods for getting a ban. It will be what YOU type that gets the ban

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