FabSwingers.com forum: Advice needed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am seeking a female that is willing to let me watch her with my man and be open to letting me join in. I honestly didn't think this would be hard to find but it’s proving elusive. Any advice to make my fantasy into reality would be greatly appreciated right now. Maybe my profile is letting me down, please take a look and tell me where I am going wrong. I understand having pics would help my situation but discretion is paramount and public pics are not possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say not having any pics whatsoever is not helping you stand out from the many couples profiles looking for the same thing. As a single woman, why would they consider your profile from the rest? You can have pics without giving away your identity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different camera angles maybe?

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I’m not your target audience but if you messaged me from your profile you’d not get a reply. Nothing to go on.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The no pictures thing is a stickler. Also you're both listed as straight so would it be a threesome where the chap gets all the attention or a threesome with the ladies interacting?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

This might be totally unfair, but you just sound like all the other single guys hiding behind a "couples" profile.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

The Sydney University thing is nonsence so delete it

Apart from that your profile is instantly forgettable without even one picture

You might even be a single bloke for all anyone knows

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What would pique your interest? Where am I going wrong?

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"Different camera angles maybe?"

Can't see any camera angles..

Maybe take the lens cap off?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou I will change to show I am bi-curious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So please tell me what I need to change so people don’t jump to that conclusion.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"So please tell me what I need to change so people don’t jump to that conclusion."

Pictures of you both

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes that’s what my man keeps telling me but Public pics terrify me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That you want someone to put a specific word in the subject line would put me off initially. Your status says you want to do this tonight but the profile text says social first is a must so contradictory - another red flag for me. The first line of text also implies you are looking for couples. The way the status update is written also reads like it's been written by a man. Add the lack of photos and I would put this to be a fake profile if I were contacted despite the photo veri.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The Sydney thing is confusing as I have had different views about this.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"So please tell me what I need to change so people don’t jump to that conclusion."

I'm guessing you may be replying to us (there's a reply and quote option which makes it easier to tell), but there's a common "con" where a guy will pretend to be a woman who wants "her" guy to go and fuck another woman and come home and tell her about it. Invariably it's a single guy.

You talk about your profile as "my profile" and "I" which makes us think it's only one person operating it. There's also no photos....if you're a couple then you need a few pics of the pair of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes that’s what my man keeps telling me but Public pics terrify me. "

You can take pics and edit them so your faces do not show. How is a lady supposed to know if she fancies either of you physically? Maybe you will have to hunt through the profiles you like and reach out to ladies who take your fancy. They will still ask for pics though but you can send them privately.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

You can add pics without giving away your identity op

Put some of you both up together clothed without your heads

There's nothing to entice anyone on your profile at the minute and like many have said, there's so many fake couple profiles on here that people will be wary and avoid you.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou very much I will rectify this.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"The Sydney thing is confusing as I have had different views about this."

It’s not confusing. It’s pointless and meaningless

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Get rid of the Sydney University warning ad it makes you look gullible. I also persomally hate the add this word in your reply. It's very obvious if someone has read your profile or not.

But otherwise i think your bio is fine. I just wouldn't think from reading it that you wanted to meet just women as you only talk about couples.

Best of luck.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Would anyone recognise you from body shots only?

I wouldn't worry too much, you can blurr the edges and bits out.

Have a blank background, so there's nothing that could identify your home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The Sydney thing is confusing as I have had different views about this."

Even the site owners don't want people putting it on their profiles.

Here's an extract from site FAQ's

We've noticed a legal disclaimer paragraph that some people have on their profiles. Should we have one too? What are they about? Do they do any good?

The "legal disclaimer" is pointless nonsense and all does is take up extra space on our servers. Please remove it if you have it on your profile. If you're worried about privacy please set your account to be hidden from non-registered users on your privacy page (this also hides it from search engines but may take a week or two to drop out of search) and remove the notice (and encourage others to do likewise).

Common sense advice would be NOT to put any information on your profile (here, or on any such site) that could identify you or that you don't want to become public! So for your own benefit, don't post phone numbers, real names or email / instant message addresses on your profile that people might see or "Google".

Some people may put non-identifying pics on their public profile but keep face pics private or for friends, for example.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Reading "discretion is paramount " and having no pics and I pass straight by. Would you contact a profile with a view to meet without seeing any pics? I wouldn't. So why woukd anyone want to reply to a profile with no pics. Also It really annoys me when people say " put blah blah in the messsge" why should I? And like has been mentioned your profile is very contradictory.

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By *inkyfilthymindMan
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

The way the OP interacts in this thread makes it sound like they are a Sydney Uni researcher. It’s difficult to get verified as a single, but shouldn’t be for a couple via cam/social

If you are ‘Genuine’, good luck. But putting up a couple of body pics will be a good start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having no pics would guarantee not getting a reply from us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou, and noted. Because I’m the one that’s writing (me the female), I haven’t taken that into consideration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ultimately, you're not going to get anywhere without photos of you both. They don't have to be identifiable photos, but having no photos will make people think you're just a single man.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Get yourselves along to a club and there'll be loads of like-minded couples and fems there. It's very discreet and no need to put pics on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou, after reading everyone’s advice I will add a clothed couples pic.

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By *elpful and caringMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

I would advise pics of you both.

It does look like a single, or married, man’s profile.

In response to people’s advice you have said ‘I’ which is a give away.

Nice try fella!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou for replying. Couples is my ultimate goal but a female to start my/our initial experience on fab is what I’m looking for. I will rectify this right now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Where have I put “blah, blah”? I didn’t realise I have and it’s not a term I would use so please clarify so u can rectify this immediately.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Where have I put “blah, blah”? I didn’t realise I have and it’s not a term I would use so please clarify so u can rectify this immediately."

I think it's in reference to you saying please put genuine in the message title

Miss

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

There’s WAY too much “I” in this thread.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Again my mistake. We are in the same room together and discussing everything but I still keep saying “me/I”. I need to get out of this habit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where have I put “blah, blah”? I didn’t realise I have and it’s not a term I would use so please clarify so u can rectify this immediately."

If you 'reply+quote' those you're responding to, it makes things a lot easier to follow.

What she was referring to was your insistance on your profile that anyone messaging you should use certain words in the subject or in their message and not quoting you verbatim.

To be perfectly honest, a lot of people insist on this usually because they've seen other people doing it - and usually it's done as some form of assurance that their profile has been read when actually, all it proves is that someone can read the last line or two of a profile to look for that 'key word' that someone's looking for.

There are other ways to tell if someone has read your profile of not.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

As a single female, who often prefers to meet couples, I have to say I'd be very unlikely to respond to your profile as with no pictures & the wording of it I would just assume it is a male hiding behind a couples profile.

You are competing for attention with so many other couples so you really need to make your profile stand out & be as appealing as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s WAY too much “I” in this thread.

V x "

Current status is also a dead giveaway

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Sorry to be blunt but you have only been on here 4 weeks and have no photos.

I would be extremely surprised, if anyone would agree to meet you with no photos at all.

My job is frontline and getting recognised could put it at risk. I have photos, because I realise it's necessary. However, I do hide my face and tattoos.

Aside from that, a club is your best chance of finding what you're looking for.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"There’s WAY too much “I” in this thread.

V x

Current status is also a dead giveaway"

Jeezus. Are we stupid?

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

Think their names are probably Jack and Norah

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Where have I put “blah, blah”? I didn’t realise I have and it’s not a term I would use so please clarify so u can rectify this immediately.

I think it's in reference to you saying please put genuine in the message title

Miss"

It was yes

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Where have I put “blah, blah”? I didn’t realise I have and it’s not a term I would use so please clarify so u can rectify this immediately."

Other people have explained for me. Sorry for any confusion.

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