FabSwingers.com forum: This site is pointless

By *adInLiverpool OP Man
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL

Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bye then.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

"Bye then. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn't an airport - you don't need to announce your departure.

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By *ischer400777Man
over a year ago

stanley county durham

I have no trouble finding lady’s or couples I am very popular

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

There are some great genuine people on here.

But if it doesn't work for you, just leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't forget your toothbrush

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

If I wanted to see Slipknot in concert I know I'd have to get a ticket, they ain't gonna set up in my front room just coz I want it to happen and sent them a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Yeah as a guy the odds aren't in your favour. Best just think of this as a bit of a laugh rather than your sole means to meet someone.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I never respond to hidden profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn it ! I’ve been wasting my life. Why didn’t anyone post this advice years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And to add, we meet single guys. There are plenty of genuine reliable guys on here. They put in the effort, and it pays off for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

You’re probably one of those guys that messages 7 times in a row and not getting the hint people aren’t interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Go and pay for a hooker then if you are so desperate to get your leg over. FFS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spitting ones dummy out is never a good look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This isn't an airport - you don't need to announce your departure. "

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Stop moaning and just leave if you think it is that bad.

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By *oungD23Man
over a year ago

hull

79-21 now

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Be careful you will be labelled paranoid with issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't even look at a profile with no pic, and messages from them are instantly deleted. Is that really the best you can do to advertise yourself? Did you think you'd be knee deep in clunge just by turning up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Incel in not getting laid shocker.

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Sheffield, Brighton

It's never going to be successful for everyone. There are no doubt some genuine men, women and couples, but there are far more men, and unless you have something that makes you stand out from the crowd, it's an uphill struggle. Go to clubs and social events rather than just rely on this.

Even if you're the most genuine, reliable, straight-forward guy around, and put in all the legwork, you're still just one of many. There are ones out there with tales of success, but I long ago realised it's pointless trying to get a meet through here.

I've been on and off the site for years and never had a conversation with a woman that's led to a meet. Not one. I've been to clubs and socials, and have met plenty of people from here at those. And I try and be active on the forums now and again, because it all adds up to a bigger picture.

Being recognised as a regular event-goer will help. People remembering your username when you meet because they've seen you in the forums will help. It adds credibility. But even then, as a single guy, you're just one of thousands. Go into it with no expectations, and anything is a bonus. Expect a lot and you'll be disappointed every time.

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Single guys are all I am here for.

A profile is a shop window...

Would you meet you if you were a woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single guys are all I am here for.

A profile is a shop window...

Would you meet you if you were a woman? "

I probably would

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Single guys are all I am here for.

A profile is a shop window...

Would you meet you if you were a woman?

I probably would

I'd meet you if I were a woman

Oh. Hang on. Oops

Totally outed myself as a fake there

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Absolutely agree

And that’s why I go to clubs, plenty of action

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By *ave1963MexboroughMan
over a year ago

Mexborough

"And to add, we meet single guys. There are plenty of genuine reliable guys on here. They put in the effort, and it pays off for them. "

I can vouch for that. Effort and patience pays off. That and being a nice guy

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

If I wanted to see Slipknot in concert I know I'd have to get a ticket, they ain't gonna set up in my front room just coz I want it to happen and sent them a message. "

If you ever get Slipknot in your front room... Can we come!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ll be missed OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single guys are all I am here for.

A profile is a shop window...

Would you meet you if you were a woman?

I probably would

I'd meet you if I were a woman

Oh. Hang on. Oops

Totally outed myself as a fake there

Rumbled!!!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

If I wanted to see Slipknot in concert I know I'd have to get a ticket, they ain't gonna set up in my front room just coz I want it to happen and sent them a message.

If you ever get Slipknot in your front room... Can we come!?"

Damn right! Will be a squeeze though, I've only got a hobbit size house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont know whats wrong with the place, women should be queing up to shag you, it is insashag afterall, if its that bad leave it to the guys who put some effort in

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

FAB is a community and resource site first and foremost above anything else.

There is a meeting a section but it is not primary to FAB.

Unfortunately to many individuals treat the site as an Instashag which is certainly is not.

If you want to learn about swinging, the lifestyle, network through forums, chat windows and find out about socials, events, clubs FAB is the right place.

If an individual wants a quick shag. There are plenty of other sites that provide that service.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

If I wanted to see Slipknot in concert I know I'd have to get a ticket, they ain't gonna set up in my front room just coz I want it to happen and sent them a message.

If you ever get Slipknot in your front room... Can we come!?

Damn right! Will be a squeeze though, I've only got a hobbit size house "

We'll be there .. love to see them live one day!

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By *im4play4uMan
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ur pointless

Bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

If I wanted to see Slipknot in concert I know I'd have to get a ticket, they ain't gonna set up in my front room just coz I want it to happen and sent them a message.

If you ever get Slipknot in your front room... Can we come!?

Damn right! Will be a squeeze though, I've only got a hobbit size house

We'll be there .. love to see them live one day!

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. Sad about old Joey, rip JJ

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By *im4play4uMan
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

"Damn it ! I’ve been wasting my life. Why didn’t anyone post this advice years ago

Well said! lol

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

Eat some omelette...you'll feel better

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

If I wanted to see Slipknot in concert I know I'd have to get a ticket, they ain't gonna set up in my front room just coz I want it to happen and sent them a message.

If you ever get Slipknot in your front room... Can we come!?

Damn right! Will be a squeeze though, I've only got a hobbit size house

We'll be there .. love to see them live one day!

. Sad about old Joey, rip JJ"

Big time

couldn't believe my eyes when I saw it

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By *im4play4uMan
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

yet another guy with no pics or anything that would turn someones head who can't take the rejection. If you think woman should be dropping at your feet, I'm sure when you leave fab, you will only have to stand on a street corner and get lucky!

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"I have no trouble finding lady’s or couples I am very popular "
Lmao!!!!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed. "

I have to say, I found the club scene to be “sorely disappointing’, and would never recommend it to a mate, or any other single male. Using Fab to find genuine people for actual fun has worked really well for me over the years. Clubs are for couples

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Ur pointless

Bye "
I read this in Anne Robinson's voice ' You're the weakest link goodbye!

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

If I wanted to see Slipknot in concert I know I'd have to get a ticket, they ain't gonna set up in my front room just coz I want it to happen and sent them a message.

If you ever get Slipknot in your front room... Can we come!?

Damn right! Will be a squeeze though, I've only got a hobbit size house

We'll be there .. love to see them live one day!

. Sad about old Joey, rip JJ

Big time

couldn't believe my eyes when I saw it "

Definitely. Elite level drummer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eat a snickers lad. You’re not yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ur pointless

Bye I read this in Anne Robinson's voice ' You're the weakest link goodbye!

Brilliant

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

To be fair, I never had any luck in Liverpool either, seemed to just be full of gay/bi men

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Sheffield, Brighton

"I have to say, I found the club scene to be “sorely disappointing’, and would never recommend it to a mate, or any other single male. Using Fab to find genuine people for actual fun has worked really well for me over the years. Clubs are for couples

I'd suggest that the fact that our experiences are at completely the opposite end of the scale kinda proves that what works for one won't work for another, and that you just have to keep an open mind, keep trying various approaches and see what works and what doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These threads never go well. Makes it worse if they do not delete as they say they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

You’re probably one of those guys that messages 7 times in a row and not getting the hint people aren’t interested. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt like this until I discovered the forums.... much better place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

Ha!! Tell this to the single guy who had me and my two friends sucking his cock in front of a room full at Cupids last night!!

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

To be honest I only go on Bi nights but I’ve seen plenty of single guys enjoying themselves with ladies and couples.

But that’s my experience, obviously yours was different

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Others have told me I was just unlucky with the clubs I visited, but I always kept an open mind, and never expected anything

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

Ha!! Tell this to the single guy who had me and my two friends sucking his cock in front of a room full at Cupids last night!!

Lucky man! Perhaps if I’d been as lucky I would feel more positive about the club scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ur pointless

Bye I read this in Anne Robinson's voice ' You're the weakest link goodbye!

I'm so glad I wasn't the only one

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

Can tell the people that are deep into the club scene... they all use the same words and phrasing.

I don't message them as they generally but not always come across as elitists and if you don't have 500 Veris from clubs you aren't worth their time.

I work 10-14hours a day 6 days a week and have my son on my day off I'm not in a position to go to a club just in a hope I'll get my dick wet....

So conversations and a bit of personality is the only way this site works for me

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

To be honest I only go on Bi nights but I’ve seen plenty of single guys enjoying themselves with ladies and couples.

But that’s my experience, obviously yours was different

From what I’ve noted, bi guys and black guys appear to enjoy the most success in clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

Go and pay for a hooker then if you are so desperate to get your leg over. FFS "

Exactly!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

Incel in not getting laid shocker."

Lmao love this

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

To be honest I only go on Bi nights but I’ve seen plenty of single guys enjoying themselves with ladies and couples.

But that’s my experience, obviously yours was different

From what I’ve noted, bi guys and black guys appear to enjoy the most success in clubs?"

To be honest I don’t recall from my last visit, due to lockdown not been to a club for quite some time now.

However on Bi nights I don’t see that many zombies just walking around wanking it just seems that the rooms are always busy.

Not been to a straight night in a long time, so I’m not disregarding your experience. Admittedly it also can be down to the club and the night as well.

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By *ensibleBlokeMan
over a year ago

cambridge

Don't expect the site to owe you anything just like life.

Be yourself and maybe just maybe someone will stumble across your profile and everything will seem worth it. With a little faith and a little luck everything will fall into place

Remember you only fail when you stop trying.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

No profile picture and wonders why they aren't getting say intrest.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

FAB is a community and resource site first and foremost above anything else.

There is a meeting a section but it is not primary to FAB.

Unfortunately to many individuals treat the site as an Instashag which is certainly is not.

If you want to learn about swinging, the lifestyle, network through forums, chat windows and find out about socials, events, clubs FAB is the right place.

If an individual wants a quick shag. There are plenty of other sites that provide that service.

Absolutely agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought that in the first couple of months before realising the ratio on here

but giving a little time, patience and knowing the do’s and don’ts it becomes apparent that you have to stand out, and show that you’ll be worth their time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "
I found this site to be wonderful and at times frustrating. It gave us access to clubs, parties, orgies and socials.

It doesn't guarantee you will find anything. It just gives you access to the people who can help you fulfil your dreams.

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By *ripodius WillyusMan
over a year ago

nelson/colne border

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By *ripodius WillyusMan
over a year ago

nelson/colne border

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Grow the hell up its hard for single bloke without you whinging and feeling sorry for you.

Can you close door on way out theres a draught in here.

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By *B..Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Please let us know what you expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fascinating

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

You didn't need to be that blunt about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you still here..

Oh you are a tease

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

He's right though. I'm fake and so's my wife.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Fuck, we're all going to die anyway.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Hidden profile, no pic...byeeeee!!!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Nobody is forcing you to be here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet another thinking that just by joining Fab they’ll be neck deep in as much fanny as they can handle.

Effort in, reward out. Applies to us all.

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

Why is it that women who change their minds about meeting, and those who are discerning, are called 'fake'?

I’ve been on Fab almost a decade, on and off. I’ve never come across a 'fake'. Male or female.

I get called this a lot. Pisses me off.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

I love bumping into you in these threads, because we're kind of the proof that there's no one magic formula for Fab success. We've had such polar opposite experiences – I wouldn't recommend Fab, and would always suggest clubs – but we've both found what kind-of works for us. I just wish I understood *why*. Hah.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Yet another thinking that just by joining Fab they’ll be neck deep in as much fanny as they can handle.

Effort in, reward out. Applies to us all."

Sadly, this is a sterling example of the "just world fallacy".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And to add, we meet single guys. There are plenty of genuine reliable guys on here. They put in the effort, and it pays off for them. "
lots of single guys do very well on here unless they are rude or idiots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this old timer does well here , met some great people , I'm staying lol

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By *uck NakedMan
over a year ago

Newcastle under Lyme

The ratio of single men on here means you have to work at being successful. I find manners, compliments and not spitting my dummy out if someone says no thanks helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly, this is a sterling example of the "just world fallacy".

Absolutely!

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By *irty Fun GuyMan
over a year ago

Kidderminster

Bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This isn't an airport - you don't need to announce your departure. "

What about boarding times? Can I announce them?

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere Only We Know

OP is completely wrong. Alexander Armstrong and Richard Osman are Pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no trouble finding lady’s or couples I am very popular "
I wonder why that is !

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

People tell me I’ve just been unlucky with the nights I went to the clubs. They were a combination of quiet nights, with nobody in (or mostly just guys), mixed with busy party nights full of groups of friends not interested in mixing with a solo guy. Your club experiences have been better, because you’ve either gone to more inclusive clubs, or you’ve been a regular to just one club, and got yourself known? Can I ask whether a club host showed any interest in you after you’d paid your entry fee?

With regards to my success using Fab to find likeminded people through messages, I genuinely believe my location helps. And by that, I mean the lack of a club in my area! Because it’s an effort for people locally to visit a club (the closest is 65 miles away), people put more effort in to using Fab ‘properly’. I think, when there’s a club on your doorstep, people view that as the easier option, and certainly single females feel safer meeting strangers in them, not to mention cheap entry…….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *r99mr99Man
over a year ago

Ealing

"OP is completely wrong. Alexander Armstrong and Richard Osman are Pointless.

Ed"

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Guys who moan about the site and the fakes either:-

Don’t get far due to lack of pics (or think several dick pics are the norm), a decent profile and/or send terrible messages.

Thought they’d just have to turn up and they’d be knee deep in women

Makes an effort, try and stand out, get involved and you’ll have a much better experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read your profile bluebell and you’ve got this life absolutely worked out and living it the way it should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen Slipknot 3 times over the years...absolutely fantastic live. Actually met all the original members back in 2000 and shook hands with them all at a signing event at the old virgin records in Manchester.

And yeah I was sad to hear about Joey

he inspired me to start playing drums...but I'm still rubbish at It lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like pointless I usually get a couple of pointless answers ,that Richard is a clever fella

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Amazing the difference in answers on this thread and ones where women and couples say virtually the exact same thing.

Op I can't see your profile so I don't know if you have made an effort or not with it. But like someone farther up said that's your shop window make it enticing for someone to want yo know more about you .You said you had conversations already so you must be getting replies to your messages. It's definitely tougher for men on here than anyone else to get chatting and to find meets. If it's affecting you personally then take a break for a bit.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I've not met a single fake on here

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

Disclaimer first: I’ve been to half a dozen different things up and down the country. I can’t really comment on places I’ve only been once. Now, that said…

With my first regular club, I went with a friend who’d been before. I then attended a particular event regularly enough to become part of the furniture. This club is seventy miles from me, by the way.

With my second regular club, I went in cold, entirely by myself. I arrived early, and got talking to the owners – who are both fantastic people I’ve genuinely missed during the pandemic. They made me feel very welcome, introduced me to other guests, and were just generally fabulous. I was just finding my feet and building friendships of my own when COVID struck. This club is two miles from me.

With any event, in any club, there are good times and bad times. I’ve been in clubs when it’s been wall-to-wall rammed, and taken part in big organised gangbangs. I’ve been in clubs when the only guests who’ve turned up have been other men, and it’s been just like a slightly awkward night in a quiet bar.

Yes, it’s tough for single guys. It *hurts*. But you can either take the hits, keep trying, and maybe get something; or you can quit, throw up your hands, and definitely get nothing. Hence why I’m still plugging away on here, when so far it’s been all effort for not much reward.

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By *hestyDrawWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

You’re probably one of those guys that messages 7 times in a row and not getting the hint people aren’t interested. "

Gosh, wouldn’t it be lovely if it stopped at seven?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

Disclaimer first: I’ve been to half a dozen different things up and down the country. I can’t really comment on places I’ve only been once. Now, that said…

Have you not kept in touch with the friends you made in the clubs, through Fab, or various messenger services, during covid?

I’ve been on those nights where there were only two or three couples in, and a handful of guys. My first visit to TH the place was absolutely rammed with people having fun, a total eye-opener, but difficult to break in to established groups of friends. The last club I visited, I was one of only four single guys in, but they were holding a fancy dress event, so it was mostly couples in, taking part, and because I was a solo guy, not dressed up, again, very difficult to get any conversation going.

I have friends who want to visit clubs with me, and I’m happy to go as a ‘couple’, so maybe I’ll make some friends inside that way

I have been with females before, and the difference to going in as a solo male is remarkable…….

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Sheffield, Brighton

"lots of single guys do very well on here unless they are rude or idiots."

Just to clarify, am I rude, an idiot, or both?

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

Don’t let where door slap you on the ass on the way out OP

Is he still here?

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Sheffield, Brighton

Disclaimer first: I’ve been to half a dozen different things up and down the country. I can’t really comment on places I’ve only been once. Now, that said…

One of my first visits to a club it was dead, about half a dozen people chatting with the owner in the bar, no sexual chemisty happening. But I was made welcome, invited to join the conversation, and even though it was a write-off in terms of anything happening, it gave me confidence to go back and try again because I'd been made welcome.

There's definitely a big gap in what people experience, even in the same club on different nights. Some nights are off-putting and I think I could have saved myself the money. Others are great, I've mentioned on here before the night at La Chambre where a stunning woman, her partner and a couple of reasonably attractive guys were heading into a private room, and as she passed me asked as if it were the most obvious thing in the world "aren't you coming?" We'd chatted briefly earlier in the night but I hadn't expected anything more. If you don't go, or dismiss it after one or two unsuccessful tries, you'll never know.

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people"

This is the bit that leaves me perplexed. Isn't that a good thing? Isn't that worthwhile in its own right?

If you come here with a laser focus on finding one thing and one thing only, there's a good chance you're going to be disappointed.

Or you could arrive in a new place, look around, and see what it has to offer. Interesting conversation with lovely people? That's not what I was expecting when I first joined a swingers site. But it's what I found, and I was very pleased to, because that's one of the things that I enjoy.

Over time some of those people became friends. And you know what swingers do with their friends.

It wasn't the plan - there was no plan.

I had no destination in mind; I was simply enjoying the journey and found some very nice places along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

To be fair, I never had any luck in Liverpool either, seemed to just be full of gay/bi men

And that accent. It does my head in. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another moaner putting in no effort

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Disclaimer first: I’ve been to half a dozen different things up and down the country. I can’t really comment on places I’ve only been once. Now, that said…

I only went to LC once, and that was one of the nights I spoke about; only three couples in, one of which went home soon after I arrived as the female was so d*unk she had to be carried out to a taxi. A handful of guys in otherwise, I never even got dressed down to go upstairs as there was literally nobody playing! I chatted with a black guy at the bar who was a local, and a first timer called Rob from Bury, who was trying it out because his wife had suggested it to him as she wanted a poly relationship! I left at midnight.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This isn't an airport - you don't need to announce your departure. "
clever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

It's a nightmare for most men on here.

When I reply to men they often say , you're the first person who has bothered to reply to me on here.

The casual rudeness, the up themselves attitude. I have heard/hear how hard it is for men on here constantly.

No joke.most men are treated like dirt on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

To be fair, I never had any luck in Liverpool either, seemed to just be full of gay/bi men

Haha that’s so not true.

I’ve never met a bi guy on a night out yet! Are you drinking in the gay quarter?

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By *ibi_curiousCouple
over a year ago

Shepperton

If your going to hide your profile, then how can you expect to get past the first stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

It's a nightmare for most men on here.

When I reply to men they often say , you're the first person who has bothered to reply to me on here.

The casual rudeness, the up themselves attitude. I have heard/hear how hard it is for men on here constantly.

No joke.most men are treated like dirt on here."

I try to reply to as many as I can but almost always regret it. It leads to either abuse or another 15 messages asking why not or trying to change my mind. This could be avoided had they read my profile, lots don’t. Or worse, they do but say they’re “trying their luck anyway”!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never seen much issue here, sure I dont get many meets but I've been to CJs which was a great night out.

Sure its hard being a single guy on here but honestly the forums and social aspect are great.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

This is not like a restaurant with all you can eat buffet

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley

"This isn't an airport - you don't need to announce your departure. "

Made me lol

Surely the sites what you make of it

OP it’s hard for men but this site is no guarantee yiur gonna get your willy wet

Now clubs are open try that but Aton no guarantee

Chill and enjoy the ride patience etc

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By *ugarboobs2009Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Lets break this down

Hidden profile - what’s the point been on here,

Your Expectations - got no idea as hidden profile

Like many as said before if you don’ like it leave, we will not stop you,

Why the message - seeking attention ??

You have had that now so do us a favour leave and let us get on with it, happy Fabbing

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By *dventurous fellaMan
over a year ago

where

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

You’re probably one of those guys that messages 7 times in a row and not getting the hint people aren’t interested. "

Agreed we all know that it’s a 12 message minimum and direct messaging of dick pictures that hold the key pfffttt ! Lol didn’t anyone tell you that OP

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Diddums...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pointless??? This site is more like the chase

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Ledbury

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

If I wanted to see Slipknot in concert I know I'd have to get a ticket, they ain't gonna set up in my front room just coz I want it to happen and sent them a message. "

I dunno, its worked OK for me doing that.

Butt hen, I'm not the kind of person who makes a whole thread about intending to leave the site, so there's that.

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By *eat and discreetCouple
over a year ago

somewhere

"This isn't an airport - you don't need to announce your departure. "

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Ledbury

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

It's a nightmare for most men on here.

When I reply to men they often say , you're the first person who has bothered to reply to me on here.

The casual rudeness, the up themselves attitude. I have heard/hear how hard it is for men on here constantly.

No joke.most men are treated like dirt on here.

Christ - somebody I'm too young for!

That doesn't happen every day.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Ever thought it might be your approach. like you say you chatted with few, the messages have to be interesting to catch the attention and if their isn't any chemistry it's straight to the checkout

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By *egvisir71Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I wouldn't even look at a profile with no pic, and messages from them are instantly deleted. Is that really the best you can do to advertise yourself? Did you think you'd be knee deep in clunge just by turning up? "

Clunge

made me laugh.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

To be fair, I never had any luck in Liverpool either, seemed to just be full of gay/bi men

Haha that’s so not true.

I’ve never met a bi guy on a night out yet! Are you drinking in the gay quarter? "

I visit Aintree several times a year, and have attended conferences where I've stayed at the city centre Hilton, altered my location to L1, posted up hotel meets, and included regular status updates to appear in local updates. I was there again only 4 weeks ago, and although I did receive a couple of messages, nothing became of them. I would love to pop my Merseyside cherry lol!

Next time I'm down there, I'll open my filters to allow messages from guys, post up a status something like "Need my cock sucked" and screenshot you how many messages I get lol.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have loads fun from here xx

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By *0rn1Man
over a year ago

soutport

"Pointless??? This site is more like the chase

Hahahahaha

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By *0rn1Man
over a year ago

soutport

"This isn't an airport - you don't need to announce your departure.

The comments…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

To be fair, I never had any luck in Liverpool either, seemed to just be full of gay/bi men

Haha that’s so not true.

I’ve never met a bi guy on a night out yet! Are you drinking in the gay quarter?

Next time I'm down there, I'll open my filters to allow messages from guys, post up a status something like "Need my cock sucked" and screenshot you how many messages I get lol.....

I think that status would bring men flooding in any city, don’t think that’s specific to Liverpool but hey, what would I know, I’ve only lived here 42 years

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

pinewood

See ya takes effort to get notice try try try.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

To be fair, I never had any luck in Liverpool either, seemed to just be full of gay/bi men

Haha that’s so not true.

I’ve never met a bi guy on a night out yet! Are you drinking in the gay quarter?

Next time I'm down there, I'll open my filters to allow messages from guys, post up a status something like "Need my cock sucked" and screenshot you how many messages I get lol.....

I think that status would bring men flooding in any city, don’t think that’s specific to Liverpool but hey, what would I know, I’ve only lived here 42 years

I'm sure Liverpool will prove me wrong sometime lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Still here though aint ya

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

It’s a great site love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bye then pal as I’ve made some great friends on here and had some great times

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By *leanor1717Woman
over a year ago

Gillingham

"You’re probably one of those guys that messages 7 times in a row and not getting the hint people aren’t interested.

Agreed we all know that it’s a 12 message minimum and direct messaging of dick pictures that hold the key pfffttt ! Lol didn’t anyone tell you that OP"

I block after getting 4 non-descript messages, sometimes fewer if the msgs are literally copy and paste identical.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Everywhere has its ups and downs, no wheres really perfect. Sorry your journey here hasn't been a fruitful one. Good luck with your adventures elsewhere.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

I took a little peek at your previous posts. One of the best things about the forums is that you can see the users last few posts by clicking on the little green arrow.

In the find a fwb north west you posted “

”.

You put more effort into complaining in the sum up your week in 3 words (shit shit shit) then you did about actually finding a fwb!!!

In fact, all your posts are showing your character. If you’re being positive (tingle in my underwear thread for example) then you’re using 3 words or less. Anything with a moan (my last weekend on fab thread for example) has 3 or more words. And there’s no deviating from the pattern.

Are you surprised that you’re not having any luck on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is Fab the real life?

Is this just fantasy?

Op are you Caught in a landside,

To escape from reality

Open your eyes,

Look up to the skies and see,

You’re just a lone boy who needs sympathy

Remember Fab is easy come, easy go,

Little high, little low,

Any way the wind blows doesn't really matter to you.........

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"Is Fab the real life?

Is this just fantasy?

Op are you Caught in a landside,

To escape from reality

Open your eyes,

Look up to the skies and see,

You’re just a lone boy who needs sympathy

Remember Fab is easy come, easy go,

Little high, little low,

Any way the wind blows doesn't really matter to you.........

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

If I wanted to see Slipknot in concert I know I'd have to get a ticket, they ain't gonna set up in my front room just coz I want it to happen and sent them a message. "
lmfao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's the way people approach people dont want cock pic straight away or let's meet tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

I took a little peek at your previous posts. One of the best things about the forums is that you can see the users last few posts by clicking on the little green arrow.

In the find a fwb north west you posted “

”.

You put more effort into complaining in the sum up your week in 3 words (shit shit shit) then you did about actually finding a fwb!!!

Are you surprised that you’re not having any luck on here?"

Ah now that is very interesting. That solves the mystery. 0 effort from OP. He couldn't even be bothered to reply in his own thread.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The club scene isn't really an option over here as there are only a couple of clubs on the entire island.

Both are only open a couple of nights a month and it's by invitation only.

Therefore only verified men can attend.

Meet and greets are privately run events which are also for verified people only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

So Meeting lovely people is pointless ?

Posting threads moaning ain’t gonna help anyway mate

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

When I was single I'd go on vanilla dating sites...untold number of meets with Ladies who after the same thing....much easier than here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was single I'd go on vanilla dating sites...untold number of meets with Ladies who after the same thing....much easier than here..."

What other sites is there besides tinder ? Which I’ve no interest in joining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was single I'd go on vanilla dating sites...untold number of meets with Ladies who after the same thing....much easier than here...

What other sites is there besides tinder ? Which I’ve no interest in joining "

Gosh, dozens. You can’t mention them by name bc of forum rules but there are so many. Even the quickest google will bring up loads. I’m on 2 vanilla dating sites, and one for alternative relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this site is by far the best way to meet people of the same wanting but only if you use it right ie its a swinging site and the best one at that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Just as pointless as hidden profiles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was single I'd go on vanilla dating sites...untold number of meets with Ladies who after the same thing....much easier than here...

What other sites is there besides tinder ? Which I’ve no interest in joining

Ah to be honest can’t be bothered this place is good fun and I’m more on here for the threads !

Oh yeah ?Didn’t know you couldn’t mention other sites

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"this site is by far the best way to meet people of the same wanting but only if you use it right ie its a swinging site and the best one at that"

I completely agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am amazed how or even why folks take recreational sex so seriously!

It’s just a bit of a giggle with some pleasurable assignations thrown into the mix. I accept that some Fabsters social interactions depend entirely on parties, meets, clubs and social get togethers but recreational sex should be a small part of the whole gambit.

For a single chap to bemoan the site because he is not getting a regular legover shows a degree of naive intent. It’s a bit of a giggle not to b taken as life remember OP there are tens of thousands of single fabchaps on the site. Take a deep breath and chill. You know it makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This still going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone ever wondered where all the other ladies are though? It's a 50/50 population it actually does intrigue me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect.

Totally agree"

Stick up a thread mate !

Seems to be the way forward for men that feel hard done by not getting the attention they think they deserve on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever wondered where all the other ladies are though? It's a 50/50 population it actually does intrigue me.

In my bunk bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now that sounds like a decent sleepover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever wondered where all the other ladies are though? It's a 50/50 population it actually does intrigue me.

50/50 ? Really ? Besides the ones in that lads bunk bed that can’t be right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinks its 52/48.. The single ladies are hiding somewhere. Come on single ladies, reveal yourselves.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

south west

Go on tinder its stacked with nice ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Still here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever wondered where all the other ladies are though? It's a 50/50 population it actually does intrigue me.

In my bunk bed

They all going to peg you one after the other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever wondered where all the other ladies are though? It's a 50/50 population it actually does intrigue me.

In my bunk bed

They all going to peg you one after the other "

Depends how many Bacardi Breezers i've had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"This isn't an airport - you don't need to announce your departure. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(I wonder how he thought this thread was gonna turn out.)

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By *ripodius WillyusMan
over a year ago

nelson/colne border

So I see poster not left yet more of drama queen than Ru Paul.

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By *ourneforfunMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

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By *ourneforfunMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"Full of fakes and time wasters.

If you’re a single guy, and you’re not having any luck, stop wasting your time.

You might get some nice conversation from some lovely people, but other than that, pointless.

80 20 in full effect. "

Yes there are more women than men on here, and men are generally less fussy, so spam every woman they see.

Can you imagine how many messages they have to wade thru to see one decent guy.

Ive been lucky enough to meet some good people on here, but also have met people on the beach and at a club, and exchanged profiles in person.

Dont expect this to be a free hooker service, and youll be ok.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

Since you have hidden your profile, we aren't in a position to see it and where you might be going wrong, or how long / how little time you've been on this site?

But one great tip; look through the Forum Pages Index for Threads seeking advice on meeting, or "what am I doing wrong?" or similar.

There's lots of tips and answers there. This site works for me!

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Why not try a conventional non vanilla dating site.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"How many clubs or swinging events have you been to (including socials)?

Many people simply use the site to keep an eye on those and in contact with people they meet at said places

Works bloody well at that

If you're relying on the site and messaging alone to make contacts and get meets you'll be sorely disappointed.

Disclaimer first: I’ve been to half a dozen different things up and down the country. I can’t really comment on places I’ve only been once. Now, that said…

Have you not kept in touch with the friends you made in the clubs, through Fab, or various messenger services, during covid?

I have friends who want to visit clubs with me, and I’m happy to go as a ‘couple’, so maybe I’ll make some friends inside that way

I have been with females before, and the difference to going in as a solo male is remarkable……."

I feel that meeting people in the flesh and then using Fab for communication is fundamentally different to successfully using Fab to meet people. I’m really not sure how a single male would achieve that, although apparently they do!

It’s difficult to break into established groups whether you’re in a sex club or an old man pub. You just have to stick at it. I’m not sure I would have gone to a fancy dress event myself, as I don’t enjoy dressing up.

Yes, I can imagine going to a club in the company of an attractive woman would be rather different. Hah. I’ve seen people on here use the phrase “golden ticket”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(I wonder how he thought this thread was gonna turn out.)"

Knee deep in clunge

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