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Do you enjoy being fetishised?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just musing due to another thread…

I know fab and swinging and liberal sex are the area of fantasy and exploration but I wonder does anyone like being fetishised? Fetishised due to a specific physical attribute that you can’t change or hide.

Like you know full well you're sought out because you have a bigger body or a large penis or tiny feet or a certain skin colour. Bollox to you as a person or who you are, etc, you can put all that aside because your happy to be picked out for this one specific thing.

People who fetishise are you happy as long as you experience this specific attribute or do you care about the rest of the person?

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By *ave1963MexboroughMan
over a year ago

Mexborough


"Just musing due to another thread…

I know fab and swinging and liberal sex are the area of fantasy and exploration but I wonder does anyone like being fetishised? Fetishised due to a specific physical attribute that you can’t change or hide.

Like you know full well you're sought out because you have a bigger body or a large penis or tiny feet or a certain skin colour. Bollox to you as a person or who you are, etc, you can put all that aside because your happy to be picked out for this one specific thing.

People who fetishise are you happy as long as you experience this specific attribute or do you care about the rest of the person?

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This is a really good question. But I'd ask where does attraction end and fetishism start? Isn't a fetish just another way of saying that one is attracted to a particular attribute of the person they're attracted tO.

If that is the case, could it not be argued that simply being attracted to a person because they're good looking or have a beautiful body is also a fetish?

I'm not making any judgements here. I just think it's an interesting question that is hard to answer. I suppose it depends on one's perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here we go again. This topic has been slaughtered to death in the past. Its all to do with Preference in my opinion and that of others. Its not what skin colour you have. Fat or thin. Big or small. We are all adults and people have no right to judge us in anything we do. If we prefer a black man or Chinese woman it's nothing to do with racial likings etc as some people try to make out. It's all to do with what you like and what you prefer. Hence the word Preference. Now please let's put this stupid topic to bed once and for all. Rant over. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here we go again. This topic has been slaughtered to death in the past. Its all to do with Preference in my opinion and that of others. Its not what skin colour you have. Fat or thin. Big or small. We are all adults and people have no right to judge us in anything we do. If we prefer a black man or Chinese woman it's nothing to do with racial likings etc as some people try to make out. It's all to do with what you like and what you prefer. Hence the word Preference. Now please let's put this stupid topic to bed once and for all. Rant over. X"

That didnt answer the OP at all. Thanks for commenting anyway

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

Obviously a continuation of the thread i posted, I wouldn't say straight white males get fetishized but obviously people do have a white only preference.

I wouldn't say I fetishize anybody I like certain imagery like as said in my thread looking down and seeing a black girl taking my cock but I'm not going to meet somebody for their skin colour they also need to have a personality that I click with

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax


"Here we go again. This topic has been slaughtered to death in the past. Its all to do with Preference in my opinion and that of others. Its not what skin colour you have. Fat or thin. Big or small. We are all adults and people have no right to judge us in anything we do. If we prefer a black man or Chinese woman it's nothing to do with racial likings etc as some people try to make out. It's all to do with what you like and what you prefer. Hence the word Preference. Now please let's put this stupid topic to bed once and for all. Rant over. X"

But surely a preference is very different to a fetish?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Here we go again. This topic has been slaughtered to death in the past. Its all to do with Preference in my opinion and that of others. Its not what skin colour you have. Fat or thin. Big or small. We are all adults and people have no right to judge us in anything we do. If we prefer a black man or Chinese woman it's nothing to do with racial likings etc as some people try to make out. It's all to do with what you like and what you prefer. Hence the word Preference. Now please let's put this stupid topic to bed once and for all. Rant over. X"

Jeepers, and you called me cuckoo yesterday for loving my own hair. You might wanna re-read the OP and try again

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley


"Here we go again. This topic has been slaughtered to death in the past. Its all to do with Preference in my opinion and that of others. Its not what skin colour you have. Fat or thin. Big or small. We are all adults and people have no right to judge us in anything we do. If we prefer a black man or Chinese woman it's nothing to do with racial likings etc as some people try to make out. It's all to do with what you like and what you prefer. Hence the word Preference. Now please let's put this stupid topic to bed once and for all. Rant over. X

Jeepers, and you called me cuckoo yesterday for loving my own hair. You might wanna re-read the OP and try again "

I love your hair too

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I like being fetishised for the things that turn me on, so if someone adores my submissive side.

I wouldn't like being fetishised for my size, age, skin colour or accent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here we go again. This topic has been slaughtered to death in the past. Its all to do with Preference in my opinion and that of others. Its not what skin colour you have. Fat or thin. Big or small. We are all adults and people have no right to judge us in anything we do. If we prefer a black man or Chinese woman it's nothing to do with racial likings etc as some people try to make out. It's all to do with what you like and what you prefer. Hence the word Preference. Now please let's put this stupid topic to bed once and for all. Rant over. X

That didnt answer the OP at all. Thanks for commenting anyway "

Oh but I think it does. If a black man or woman wanted to see me because I have size 11 feet and they were into big feet. It's their oregetence to see me. Just an example. And I am preferred to them.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

If you like long legs, big boobs isn't that a fetish. People like what they like, the problem is justifying or explaining what you like to others. Some like BDSM, Cuckolding, bondage, role-play while others can't understand it but it is not for those people who don't understand it.

It is just a sexual desire like any other as long as you are not hurting anyone and you both consent, then don't see a problem. Enjoy the moment and stop caring what others think.

Fetish and Kink is just a matter of what society and authority classify as acceptable, as some kink and sexual desire are still taboo around the world.

Everyone is fetishize to some extend, think of the stereotype answer guys will say and the same goes for women. Pretty sure boobs will come up from guys and women will say tall isn't that so sort of fetish or we can say preference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here we go again. This topic has been slaughtered to death in the past. Its all to do with Preference in my opinion and that of others. Its not what skin colour you have. Fat or thin. Big or small. We are all adults and people have no right to judge us in anything we do. If we prefer a black man or Chinese woman it's nothing to do with racial likings etc as some people try to make out. It's all to do with what you like and what you prefer. Hence the word Preference. Now please let's put this stupid topic to bed once and for all. Rant over. X

That didnt answer the OP at all. Thanks for commenting anyway

Oh but I think it does. If a black man or woman wanted to see me because I have size 11 feet and they were into big feet. It's their oregetence to see me. Just an example. And I am preferred to them.

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There is a distinct difference between preference and fetish. If someone prefers someone with big feet then if the person doesnt have big feet its not a deal breaker as they’ll still like other things about then person to interact with them. When its a fetish, the key aspect the big feet is all that is cared about doesnt matter about anything else just the big feet. My OP asked how people felt about being reduced to this one aspect, being fetishised for a physical attribute, not a knock against preferences. Hope that makes it clearer.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I am exceptionally tall. I have had partners who wouldn't have been interested in me if I was average height.

I have long hair. I have had partners who would have bailed if I cut it.

I'm 39 years old. I've had partners in their early twenties who were specifically turned on by the double-figure age gap.

Hell, I even had one partner who fucked me because she was properly into *my coat*, and who got sulky with me the first time I met her in weather too hot to wear it.

And you know what? I liked it. Feeling desired is a rare enough experience for me that I don't mind too much *why* someone feels that way about me. In fact, I like being able to give someone something they can't find elsewhere, be it a eighteen-inch height difference or the fulfillment of a particular kink.

Privilege check: I don't get fetishised over a characteristic that is the subject of widespread discrimination, and I can understand why someone who is might not like it.

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By *eductiveEyesKillerThighsWoman
over a year ago

Nowhere & Everywhere

As a super fat chick, I fall very much into a fetish bracket!

I personally don't see an issue with how people see me, as long as I'm getting what I want out of it!

I have made friends on here who have met me purely because of all my rolls, lumps and bumps. As long as I leave a rendezvous with a smile on my face, what's the problem?

Guess it comes down to self confidence. If they don't like themselves, then to be fetishsised (is that a words?!?) is not going to help!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a super fat chick, I fall very much into a fetish bracket!

I personally don't see an issue with how people see me, as long as I'm getting what I want out of it!

I have made friends on here who have met me purely because of all my rolls, lumps and bumps. As long as I leave a rendezvous with a smile on my face, what's the problem?

Guess it comes down to self confidence. If they don't like themselves, then to be fetishsised (is that a words?!?) is not going to help!"

I admire your perspective. Xx

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