FabSwingers.com forum: The older woman thing

By *issit OP Couple
over a year ago

Banbury

So I am 43 and we often get approached by guys in their 20’s pursuing me. This is something my husband assures me is a “thing” but I struggle as to understand the attraction of someone 15-20 years older. Any musings on the topic? I know the age is only a perception idea but 15-20 years of older body definitely counts - I’m not as pert as a 20 something!

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By *oubletroubleCouple
over a year ago

South West

Infairnes to you, there would be lots of women in their 20s who would love to look like you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I've got 20 years on you and young guys approach us. Mr N says it's about body shape a lot of the younger guys say "you know what you want and how to get it" which to me is code for "I won't have to make the same effort as I would for a younger woman"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a thing, sexy comes in all ages, shapes and sizes.

And obviously most 43 year old aren't as pert as most 23 year olds, but from your pics you look pretty pert to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do love older women but not many on here older than me now

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By *issit OP Couple
over a year ago

Banbury

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By *issit OP Couple
over a year ago

Banbury

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By *issit OP Couple
over a year ago

Banbury

"I've got 20 years on you and young guys approach us. Mr N says it's about body shape a lot of the younger guys say "you know what you want and how to get it" which to me is code for "I won't have to make the same effort as I would for a younger woman"

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By *issit OP Couple
over a year ago

Banbury

"It is a thing, sexy comes in all ages, shapes and sizes.

And obviously most 43 year old aren't as pert as most 23 year olds, but from your pics you look pretty pert to me

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I don’t think it’s anything to do with body shapes or sizes.

Some guys do genuinely just have a thing for the “older women” vibe. It’s definitely a thing haha.

I’m very much, age isn’t relevant in any way if I find them attractive so it’s a big turn off to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think it’s anything to do with body shapes or sizes.

Some guys do genuinely just have a thing for the “older women” vibe. It’s definitely a thing haha.

I’m very much, age isn’t relevant in any way if I find them attractive so it’s a big turn off to me! "

This nails it I think! I couldn't say why but I find much older women far more attractive. Everybody has things they like and for some it just genuinely is older women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do love older women but not many on here older than me now"

I beg to differ. Lol

I have absolutely no trouble attracting young guys BUT I want maturity and sometimes that doesn't happen so delete move on

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I’m with you, I don’t get why they’d want to either! I have friends who are happy to go with much younger guys, but I definitely have issues with it (which the younger guys often seem to think they can talk you out of!)

I agree that you look amazing though so can definitely see why you get the attention! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I am 43 and we often get approached by guys in their 20’s pursuing me. This is something my husband assures me is a “thing” but I struggle as to understand the attraction of someone 15-20 years older. Any musings on the topic? I know the age is only a perception idea but 15-20 years of older body definitely counts - I’m not as pert as a 20 something! "

One word ...

Experience

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By *euve4usCouple
over a year ago

Teddington

We are older than you OP and get approaches from all ages including 20 something guys and couples - we have set a minimum age of 35 which still means a 17 to 25 year age gap in relation to our ages. However it is about the maturity of the individual and connection for us rather than seeing it as an age difference - it is all but a number in our minds if we like a person (on a personal level and not just physical). Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m really bored of it to be honest.

I’m almost 43 and have zero interest in twenty year olds. Bit fed up of the whole milf fetish thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actively go for older couple, they're more mature, confident and more reliable. The dealings I've had with younger couples are less reliable x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubby is 13 years my Jr. Our personalities clicked very well so age never really came up.

As for others I've heard

it's bc the ladies near their own age are immature & want more of a sugar daddy

Just a thing to check off the bucket list

Older know how to do things right

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

"I actively go for older couple, they're more mature, confident and more reliable. The dealings I've had with younger couples are less reliable x"

We alway think the same, that it's a reliability thing rather than attraction

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By *arty84Man
over a year ago

Orpington

Well there is a lot of depiction of middle aged or older women being with younger guys in a lot of films and media over the decades. That could be a factor, especially where they are quite often detailed as a taboo romance.

Personally I was the same, I managed to secretly catch a few of those films when I was a lot younger and not just the taboo aspect of things was a turn on, but I found older women to be a lot more attractive.

Also, it wasn't about just their appearance, there was the aspect of being with someone that knew a lot more about sex than you, someone you could learn from, rather than jumping into awkward teen sex with someone just as clueless as you.

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

We've found that both younger women and younger guys find the older 'mumsy' figure very alluring.

We liked older when we were young, now the roles have been reversed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am naturally attracted to older women. Always have been, as my previous relationships have reflected. I find their maturity in life, life experiences, and confidence in what they want, exudes through themselves and their bodies. I find I have more in common with women older than me, really.

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By *acksparrow99Man
over a year ago

London

You're hot and make them horny. Sorry for the inconvenience

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By *etshavesomefun7Man
over a year ago

durham

I’m into older women, not sure why I just likes what I likes.

But OP your body is incredible I think it’s already been said but a lot of women in their 20’s would love a body like yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of guys "claim" to be into the more mature or even BBW on here and are happy to meet behind closed doors. I've spoke to a few who couldn't accommodate because of "flatmates" but I doubt that would be an issue if I was a young, leggy blonde. Obviously this is not everyone and when I read some of the profiles of young females I understand why guys go for older.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this a lot too, had to tighten up my age filters!

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By *aptainhornpipeMan
over a year ago

manchester

I had a number of Affairs with older ladies when I was in my 20’s I can assure you it was some the best times in my life. Older ladies are sexually confident and know what they like. Also they often are looking for no strings fun and appreciate the energy and stamina a younger lover can bring.

It works all round everyone is happy

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"I do love older women but not many on here older than me now

I beg to differ. Lol

I have absolutely no trouble attracting young guys BUT I want maturity and sometimes that doesn't happen so delete move on"
I sometimes see a 30 year old guy off here he is actually more mature than guys my age...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a man. You are damned which ever way you go.

All I see is people mostly women unhappy with a man's profile, pics of that profile or any choices he makes in the women he seeks to meet.

There will always be suspicion that he is only interested because I'm older, or interested because I'm BBW and possibly an easy lay in his eyes.

So is it any wonder guys just get Fed up with hearing and seeing this all the time.

Why should they make an effort when you are all ready battling against people with closed minds and a genuine hate of men.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"As a man. You are damned which ever way you go.

All I see is people mostly women unhappy with a man's profile, pics of that profile or any choices he makes in the women he seeks to meet.

There will always be suspicion that he is only interested because I'm older, or interested because I'm BBW and possibly an easy lay in his eyes.

So is it any wonder guys just get Fed up with hearing and seeing this all the time.

Why should they make an effort when you are all ready battling against people with closed minds and a genuine hate of men."

Experience tells me that the vast majority of younger men who approach us do so because they believe I will act a certain way sexually and socially. I don't like being stereotyped. I don't hate men.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Count yourself lucky. We are in the opposite position to you and we are looking for guys 20 years younger, and can we find one?

Don't try to overthink it, or you will be driven mad. People like what they like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a man. You are damned which ever way you go.

All I see is people mostly women unhappy with a man's profile, pics of that profile or any choices he makes in the women he seeks to meet.

There will always be suspicion that he is only interested because I'm older, or interested because I'm BBW and possibly an easy lay in his eyes.

So is it any wonder guys just get Fed up with hearing and seeing this all the time.

Why should they make an effort when you are all ready battling against people with closed minds and a genuine hate of men.

Experience tells me that the vast majority of younger men who approach us do so because they believe I will act a certain way sexually and socially. I don't like being stereotyped. I don't hate men."

I know you don't but what I'm seeing is a view that a lot of women and some couples are looking for any small reason to justify their reasons for putting men down.

Its like a bull carrying its own China shop

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"As a man. You are damned which ever way you go.

All I see is people mostly women unhappy with a man's profile, pics of that profile or any choices he makes in the women he seeks to meet.

There will always be suspicion that he is only interested because I'm older, or interested because I'm BBW and possibly an easy lay in his eyes.

So is it any wonder guys just get Fed up with hearing and seeing this all the time.

Why should they make an effort when you are all ready battling against people with closed minds and a genuine hate of men.

Experience tells me that the vast majority of younger men who approach us do so because they believe I will act a certain way sexually and socially. I don't like being stereotyped. I don't hate men.

I know you don't but what I'm seeing is a view that a lot of women and some couples are looking for any small reason to justify their reasons for putting men down.

Its like a bull carrying its own China shop"

I think to a certain extent you're right but you do have to take into account people's experiences which undoubtedly influence their opinion. I think you probably need to assume that if you aren't the type bof man they're talking about ... they're not talking about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a thing for slightly older women, only sexually though. I couldn't see myself in a relationship with one.

I think it may be partly because it's something that I've never had before, that makes me want it more?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have a thing for slightly older women, only sexually though. I couldn't see myself in a relationship with one.

I think it may be partly because it's something that I've never had before, that makes me want it more?"

Yep. I think that's true for quite a few younger men. It's not wrong, I couldn't see myself in a relationship with the younger men we've met.

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By *BR_91Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I think there's probably also an element where because there's a reasonable amount of older women on here who are actively seeking younger men and state so in their profiles, some men see those and get fixated on their attraction to that idea, and take it forward when messaging women who aren't really looking for a younger man.

Basically, as ever it's men being too horny that's the issue

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

It’s not a fab thing, when I was younger and innocent I genuinely found women older attractive, either it was from an experience point of view or what but I didn’t see it as a fetish , growing up in rural Ireland in the 90s we weren’t exposed to these things so it was a natural thing for me without outside interference, so for me it’s a complement ladies and because you are attractive and striking.

Yes I know some are asses but you should flip the the idea and enjoy.. just my thoughts.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

To be fair, you're a bad example of the genre! Your body is gorgeous and appears unaffected by the passage of time!

My hubby (now and old bugger) always preferred older swing partners when he was younger. He felt he could enjoy a more sensual connection with an older woman, they had more about them in terms of life experience. Ironically as an older woman myself now I prefer younger men for the opposite reasons!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive always chased women around mid 40s ever since i was early 20s.

For me i find women of that age are full of confidence and experience,know what they want and arnt afraid to chase that. Women in their 40s tend to make more effort in the bedroom and generally have less holdups about their body and ooze a sexual ora. My opinion is that women look their best in their 40s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a 20 year old, I don't exclusively fancy older women. But there is definitely something taboo and naughty about the thought of being with a more mature woman (as I'm sure there is for a woman being with a younger man). There's also the fact that a more mature woman will have a fully developed body and a lot more sexual experience than someone our own age. Just my two pence

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By *elpful and caringMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

I remember seeing my Aunt getting changed after a family swim and I have always been attracted to a certain type of woman ever since.

That type is older than me and voluptuous.

Of course at my age the age attraction is rather problematic.

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By *ockey64Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

I’ve been seeing a mature lady who is now 73. Been seeing her 25 years. Originally a customer. Still do work for her. Very sexy lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m with you, I don’t get why they’d want to either! I have friends who are happy to go with much younger guys, but I definitely have issues with it (which the younger guys often seem to think they can talk you out of!)

I agree that you look amazing though so can definitely see why you get the attention! xx"

If that is for me then thank you very much xx

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I joined fab at age 51 and was not expecting any interest due to my age. It still amazes me how younger men are attracted to older women but quite glad they are.

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By *orny in HornchurchMan
over a year ago

hornchurch

Its easy , we cant help what turns us on , ive found older ladies sexy all my life and been lucky enough to sleep with quite a few and still do, one 50 years old than me and it was great ,dosent mean i dont like younger or same age as me , think it may help having quite a big cock though lol ,look at it this way some men like short ladies ,some like big ladies , some like tall ladies , some like big bossoms , big bums , skinny ladies , black ladies ,etc etc ,some men even like other men explain that lol me i like older as i said we cant help what turns us on xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally prefer older. When I was in my 20s, I'd date woman between the ages of 30-50+. My idea range these days is between 40 to 50.

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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago

East Lancashire

For a start you have an amazing body for a 20 year old let alone a 43 year old

Personally I think younger guys like an older woman because its not something they get everyday plus women often worry more than guys about their bodies. I really appreciate an older woman curves, lines and everything else that comes with age.

When I was 30 I had some fun with a hot woman in a couple who was in her 60s, very sexy, experience and hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a man. You are damned which ever way you go.

All I see is people mostly women unhappy with a man's profile, pics of that profile or any choices he makes in the women he seeks to meet.

There will always be suspicion that he is only interested because I'm older, or interested because I'm BBW and possibly an easy lay in his eyes.

So is it any wonder guys just get Fed up with hearing and seeing this all the time.

Why should they make an effort when you are all ready battling against people with closed minds and a genuine hate of men."

Ooooh harsh. Bad experience maybe.

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By *hitemidlandsmaleMan
over a year ago

Bedworth

There is an older woman thing, there always has been but with porn it's exploded.

Plus you are insanely hot

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By *issit OP Couple
over a year ago

Banbury

Yes, you’ve nailed it well I think

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

You are 43 .. and wondering why people who are 20 are messaging you.

Are you in bed by 8.30 with a cup o' horlicks growing your leg hair?

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

You look very nice to me.

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By *issit OP Couple
over a year ago

Banbury

I agree that you look amazing though so can definitely see why you get the attention! xx"

Thanks, looking good yourself x

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

U got an older woman’s mind with a body of a 20 year old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a lot of messages for younger guys too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get a lot of messages for younger guys too. "

I'll stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get a lot of messages for younger guys too.

I'll stop

lies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get a lot of messages for younger guys too.

I'll stop

lies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a man that likes an older woman and it’s more than just looks. Although I do find older woman attractive, it’s their demeanour (generally) that I like. My experience has found that older woman (again generally) know what they want. This often makes for better sex. C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like older women as they can cook better.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Being seduced by an older woman was a massive fantasy when I was in my teens and twenties.

Maybe it’s not a surprise then that, now I am a middle aged man, I would still rather play with someone my age than much younger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Incredibly at our age we get similar requests. We have age preferences in our profile but sometimes we get "'Yes I know I am much younger but I really like older women!" I have on occasion replied and explained to him that his response is exactly why we don't go for youngsters. ??

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By *risky businessMan
over a year ago

APharaohWay

I love an older woman

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By *95888Man
over a year ago

carlisle

I deffo have a thing for older women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like older women as they can cook better."

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

Back in the 1980's when I was in my 20's I often played with women in their 40's. I always felt they knew what they wanted and besides, just because they were older than me they were still desireable.

Ironically, I currently play quite regularly with a 23 year old lady who likes older men (I'm 57). It just proves that age isn't relevant for some of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally have always gone for older women. Even way before it was a thing. Women are stunningly beautiful. I think girls in there 20s are ok. But it’s never something i ever pursued best thing about liking older women is I get to watch my wife just get better and better. We now 40s and been together since school.

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By *issit OP Couple
over a year ago

Banbury

"I like older women as they can cook better.

Genius!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I like older women as they can cook better."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get told they are looking for experience…. Jog on lads, as a late bloomer I’d say many younger girls have more experience than I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m 34, and I’ve always had a thing for women older than me. I’ve had ex’s who are younger, ex’s who are the same age / year, and I’ve had ex’s who have been older than me. Personally in my experience I find having a older woman in the bedroom and in general a lot more sexy, I can’t explain it I just do.

Also, and this could well be just the women I’ve been out with, I have more in common and get along better with older women, it’s easier to speak to them, plus the younger generation now are very much into their social media etc where as I’m not, and the women I have met who are older than me are the same as me that way, so it’s so much easier to connect with them. They seem to know where they are in life, they know what they want, and I just think it’s great.

I just find them hot, sexy and since day one… I’ve always had a thing for women older. They are the ones who catch my eye haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are of a similar age to our mid twenties kids it's not happening..just the thought of it makes me cringe. Really don't understand the appeal of having sex with someone old enough to be your mum or dad.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

In the clubs I'm happy to fuck guys of any age as long as there's a mutual attraction. What I'm not keen on is a young guy wanting to fuck me because I'm old. Wanting me because they find me sexy or attractive is fine but not because they have a fetish for "mature women".

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By *ikerjohn123Man
over a year ago

Malton

When I was late 30s early 40s it worked the other way round too, girls in mid 20s wanting older. I just assumed they were sick of dissappointing sex with unconfident inexperienced jerks. But I never actually stopped to ask!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

The major explanation i have had when younger guys come after me is that older women are more confident, know what they want and know what they are doing. Which is all true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed, it also works in principle for older men x

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

It's difficult enough for me to meet someone here. Older? Nearly impossible

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I like older women as they can cook better."
facts.

younger women can cook nandos using their smartphone somehow

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"It's difficult enough for me to meet someone here. Older? Nearly impossible

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if one thing I've learnt on here self pity doesn't get you sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or, as directly stated by a young man we know, a lot of younger women are head-wreckers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a man. You are damned which ever way you go.

All I see is people mostly women unhappy with a man's profile, pics of that profile or any choices he makes in the women he seeks to meet.

There will always be suspicion that he is only interested because I'm older, or interested because I'm BBW and possibly an easy lay in his eyes.

So is it any wonder guys just get Fed up with hearing and seeing this all the time.

Why should they make an effort when you are all ready battling against people with closed minds and a genuine hate of men.

Ooooh harsh. Bad experience maybe. "

He's 100% spot on. Men, either way, are attacked for personal preferences. Like milfs? Weird mum fetish. Like Asian? Yellow fever creep. Like BBW? Has a fat fetish. You're made out to feel as if your preferences are tied to weird fetishes - When it's really just a preference.

I think this is why men aren't entirely truthful in what they want in a woman. Of fear of being judged and rejected for it. We live in a strange world.

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By *AURA6969TV/TS
over a year ago

RUGBY

I met my gf 15yrs ago and there is 24 yrs between us doesn't bother us, I've been asked if I'm her dad we end up laughing when we state the facts.

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

"It's difficult enough for me to meet someone here. Older? Nearly impossible

if one thing I've learnt on here self pity doesn't get you sex

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I was stating a fact, being honest doesn't equate to self pity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mybe they think a older woman is an easier catch than someone their own age?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a man. You are damned which ever way you go.

All I see is people mostly women unhappy with a man's profile, pics of that profile or any choices he makes in the women he seeks to meet.

There will always be suspicion that he is only interested because I'm older, or interested because I'm BBW and possibly an easy lay in his eyes.

So is it any wonder guys just get Fed up with hearing and seeing this all the time.

Why should they make an effort when you are all ready battling against people with closed minds and a genuine hate of men.

Ooooh harsh. Bad experience maybe.

I think this is why men aren't entirely truthful in what they want in a woman. Of fear of being judged and rejected for it. We live in a strange world."

Why would a woman purely want to be the subject of a mans fetish though?

You only want me because I’m 42? No thanks.

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I think sometimes its easy to overthink and there's probably no one answer.

From a personal perspective, I'd have probably found you just as attractive when I was 20 as I do now. Not because of your age, but because you're an incredibly attractive woman. (Have you viewed your own gallery recently? You look amazing!) As someone else said, most 20-somethings would like to look as good as you or some of the other stunning 'mature' women who have posted in the thread.

I'm not sold on the whole experience argument, as there are some very experienced younger women out there, and plenty of inexperienced older ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would a woman purely want to be the subject of a mans fetish though?

You only want me because I’m 42? No thanks.

The same reason why someone goes for another because they are black, or have a big cock, or have big tits?

Everyone is the subject of another's fetish.

I feel like people are overthinking this. We're all on fab for a selfish reason.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

That is sad to hear you say that. Mature women are so much more interesting as individuals and their experience does make them much better at sex.

I am not convinced that young guys think they do not need to try. Probably the opposite as mature ladies have the experience to judge their performance far better than some pretty but inexperienced young woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a man. You are damned which ever way you go.

All I see is people mostly women unhappy with a man's profile, pics of that profile or any choices he makes in the women he seeks to meet.

There will always be suspicion that he is only interested because I'm older, or interested because I'm BBW and possibly an easy lay in his eyes.

So is it any wonder guys just get Fed up with hearing and seeing this all the time.

Why should they make an effort when you are all ready battling against people with closed minds and a genuine hate of men.

Ooooh harsh. Bad experience maybe.

I think this is why men aren't entirely truthful in what they want in a woman. Of fear of being judged and rejected for it. We live in a strange world.

Why would a woman purely want to be the subject of a mans fetish though?

You only want me because I’m 42? No thanks.

I get what you're saying. But you've missed my point. Just because someone has a preference for older women doesn't automatically mean they have a fetish.

There's also a massive double standard, especially on fab. I see A LOT of profiles by women with the following: 'BBC only', 'No Asians', '6 ft Plus only'. Are those preferences or fetishes? And if they are fetishes, why is it seemingly ok for women to have them - but not men?

The gentlemen who wrote the original comment merely pointed out that if men have standards or preferences. We get shamed for it.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I’m really bored of it to be honest.

I’m almost 43 and have zero interest in twenty year olds. Bit fed up of the whole milf fetish thing."

This.

And I frequently tell them.

They claim to be mature, but don't like hearing my opinions.

And even though I'm older I wouldn't say I'm particularly experienced.

I'd rather they didn't mention it and just approached me like anyone else.

If they met me in real life they probably wouldn't have a clue about my age!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"As a man. You are damned which ever way you go.

All I see is people mostly women unhappy with a man's profile, pics of that profile or any choices he makes in the women he seeks to meet.

There will always be suspicion that he is only interested because I'm older, or interested because I'm BBW and possibly an easy lay in his eyes.

So is it any wonder guys just get Fed up with hearing and seeing this all the time.

Why should they make an effort when you are all ready battling against people with closed minds and a genuine hate of men.

Ooooh harsh. Bad experience maybe.

I think this is why men aren't entirely truthful in what they want in a woman. Of fear of being judged and rejected for it. We live in a strange world.

Why would a woman purely want to be the subject of a mans fetish though?

You only want me because I’m 42? No thanks.

I get what you're saying. But you've missed my point. Just because someone has a preference for older women doesn't automatically mean they have a fetish.

The gentlemen who wrote the original comment merely pointed out that if men have standards or preferences. We get shamed for it. "

I have alot of preferences, I just don't mention them.

There's a fetish for something, or a fetish for someone, I'd rather not be treated like a "thing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would a woman purely want to be the subject of a mans fetish though?

You only want me because I’m 42? No thanks.

The same reason why someone goes for another because they are black, or have a big cock, or have big tits?

Everyone is the subject of another's fetish.

I feel like people are overthinking this. We're all on fab for a selfish reason."

I like a fat arse not because I've got a fetish. But because that's my preferences.

Likewise, a woman who wants a big dick doesn't necessarily have a fetish, but just has a preference for hung dick.

I think it becomes a fetish when the person is obsessed and will say, ONLY date older woman or ONLY have sex with big dicks.

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I adore older women.

They are confident and know what they want.

So sexy in there underwear,know how to dress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a fetish myself as i like mid 20's as much as mid 40's/ 50's

For me it's more about confidence and personality, then if the lady is pretty then i don't discriminate due to age..

Although there are alot of stunning older ladies on this site i must say.. some of which have bodies 20 year olds would be jealous of!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hes right it is a thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I love women of all ages , the older woman kink is certainly a thing though

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By *etal MickeyMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Based on my pre Fab days it's because younger women are too hung up on body image, as well as lack sex drive.

older women even if not happy with their body have realised that fuck it he wants me he's going to accept it, also seem to have a higher sex drive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do believe the older women does tend to know exactly what they want ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Based on my pre Fab days it's because younger women are too hung up on body image, as well as lack sex drive.

older women even if not happy with their body have realised that fuck it he wants me he's going to accept it, also seem to have a higher sex drive."

I’m definitely the other way round!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger, late teens/early twenties, I was attracted to older women think it was the experience thing and they knew what they wanted.

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Two words… Stiffler’s mum!

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

"Based on my pre Fab days it's because younger women are too hung up on body image, as well as lack sex drive.

older women even if not happy with their body have realised that fuck it he wants me he's going to accept it, also seem to have a higher sex drive.

I’m definitely the other way round! "

She’s says rocking the body of a 20 year old

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I do believe the older women does tend to know exactly what they want ..."

Oddly Mr N and I were talking about our profile and swinging in general the other day and I said that my problem was I just don't know what I do want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a sexual preference, someone age is irrelevant as long as they are attractive, and what makes a person attractive is subjective to that individual.

I prefer the banter, the more relaxed nature, the experience, the way the body shape is, and how everything sits on an older lady.

At 21 I had a regular 49 year old I would meet.

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By *ussylick84Woman
over a year ago

great barr

I think its a milf thing and for something to brag about, but for me i dont care .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m really bored of it to be honest.

I’m almost 43 and have zero interest in twenty year olds. Bit fed up of the whole milf fetish thing."

Jeeeez never looked at your age before. I thought you were way younger than me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m really bored of it to be honest.

I’m almost 43 and have zero interest in twenty year olds. Bit fed up of the whole milf fetish thing.

Jeeeez never looked at your age before. I thought you were way younger than me! "

Botox, surgery and an obsession with spinning have served me well

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Infairnes to you, there would be lots of women in their 20s who would love to look like you.

And sadly today its a rare thing to find.

Mr M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been attracted to an older mature woman, a nice body is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was in my 20s, I found older women attractive because they just seemed to have their shit together.

Still have a thing for those women. Only thing is they're a few years younger than me now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean, who here would meet someone only based on their fantastic personality?

We're all fetishised in some way or another on fab.

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By *eil777Man
over a year ago

leicester

Certainly a thing !

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

The older woman appeal was neatly summed up in the old song "Summer - The first time" by Bobby Goldsboro. A 17 year old boy being seduced by a beautiful 31 year old on a hot June day.

However I suspect most guys had their first experience with a girl their own age fumbling away in the dark saying "If you love me you will let me". Such is life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to love older women when I was younger, now at 56 I am running out of options

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By *vasexperimentWoman
over a year ago

huddersfield

"I do believe the older women does tend to know exactly what they want ..."

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

"I used to love older women when I was younger, now at 56 I am running out of options

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you and me both

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I find it strange as well I'm 64 and get more messages from 20 somethings than any other age x

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

I’ve known three guys who have had a MAJOR thing for mother figures. If they didn’t have any joy with ladies happy to roleplay loving maternal scenarios, an older lady was the next best thing, for that motherly vibe. Affection with boundaries, sort of thing. With a bit of inappropriateness thrown in for shits and giggles.

Interestingly, all three were sent away to male boarding schools, as children, so had lacked a mother figure, growing up.

Well I found it interesting. Totally understand if nobody else does!

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"Mybe they think a older woman is an easier catch than someone their own age?"

wouldn’t have thought so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it strange as well I'm 64 and get more messages from 20 somethings than any other age x"

yeah but thats because your clear on what you want and you have a fun profile. so you come across as a good women to meet

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"I’ve known three guys who have had a MAJOR thing for mother figures. If they didn’t have any joy with ladies happy to roleplay loving maternal scenarios, an older lady was the next best thing, for that motherly vibe. Affection with boundaries, sort of thing. With a bit of inappropriateness thrown in for shits and giggles.

Interestingly, all three were sent away to male boarding schools, as children, so had lacked a mother figure, growing up.

Well I found it interesting. Totally understand if nobody else does!"

I can understand this dynamic

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I find it strange as well I'm 64 and get more messages from 20 somethings than any other age x

yeah but thats because your clear on what you want and you have a fun profile. so you come across as a good women to meet"

Dont think it's that as same on pof and just normal pics on there x

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