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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ive been on here for over a month and tried my best to make friends but with little or no response i have been photo verfied since joining i finding it very frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Yep most dont even message bk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 month is nothing. When I first started using fab around 8 years ago, it used to take single men, on average, around six months to get a first meet. In thevtime since then it's grown to aroun 9 months to a year.

At a time when we weren't in a global pandemic.

Things may be opening up, measures being relaxed, but thus thing is still with us abd some are still hesitant about meeting again just yet.

I think you need to think about what your expectations were on joing fab, and then drop them.

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

You could read through a few threads in the forums on similar subjects to this and maybe review your expectations?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow a month. Some men have been on here over a year and not been verified. You have no photos that will instantly put people off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

is looking for friends to much to ask for surely thats what we are all here for

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Not having any public pictures isn't doing you any favours. People don't want to be friends with a siloette!

We think having at least a profile picture should be mandatory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive been on here for over a month and tried my best to make friends but with little or no response i have been photo verfied since joining i finding it very frustrating "

Make your profile open and friendly.

Meaning pictures and a nice humoured write up profile.

If you think you've covered all angles with your profile. Then that's fair enough....

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

nr Stamford


"is looking for friends to much to ask for surely thats what we are all here for "

Actually that's not what we're all here for. We have friends already. We don't want endless single guys chatting to, because it ALWAYS ends up as nothing but a daily "you been naughty?" question. We're here looking for meets and that means we're selective in who we reply to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have a face pic privately if people a willing to chat and ask theres plenty of pic collectors on here im sure i might be cabbage looking but im not green

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"is looking for friends to much to ask for surely thats what we are all here for "

To get anywhere on here you need to stand out from the rest of the thousands of men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

im looking for regular friends not lots who just want ons

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for the tip i will sort it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks this online stuff is not my strong point i will see if i could make it more appealing

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By *appyharryhMan
over a year ago

Burntwood

Boys, I’m in the same single male boat as you. What you have to realise is we aren’t swingers. We are males who are looking for couples who are willing to let us sleep with the Mrs. And there are a lot of us.

All we can do is be ourselves, respectful and polite and if someone gives us the the ultimate compliment of letting us join them then that’s perfect. But it’s not going to happen over night. Be active in the forums, let your personality shine through, maybe cut back on the dick pics and fill your profile with interesting things, not just I’m here to fuck.

If you want instant gratification then get yourself on adult work and book an escort. You want to find friends and have fun here then be respectful and just keep with it.

Atleast that’s my outlook

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well said im always a gent and respectful just not very good putting it into text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No profile pic = i don’t even look

And I used to have a single male account.. and it sucks.. there’s some irony that I am now doing the same but the simple fact is I do t have time to repulse to the ones I do want to, let alone the ones I don’t.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

nr Stamford


"i have a face pic privately if people a willing to chat and ask theres plenty of pic collectors on here im sure i might be cabbage looking but im not green "

For a start, pic collectors generally don't want pics of single guys. Secondly, we wouldn't get to the stage of even asking for more pics as there are hundreds of other guys that will at least show something when trying to introduce themselves. With nothing at all on your profile, your basically advertising yourself like "car for sale: not saying what it is or what colour it is, just ask".

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Boys, I’m in the same single male boat as you. What you have to realise is we aren’t swingers. We are males who are looking for couples who are willing to let us sleep with the Mrs. And there are a lot of us.

All we can do is be ourselves, respectful and polite and if someone gives us the the ultimate compliment of letting us join them then that’s perfect. But it’s not going to happen over night. Be active in the forums, let your personality shine through, maybe cut back on the dick pics and fill your profile with interesting things, not just I’m here to fuck.

If you want instant gratification then get yourself on adult work and book an escort. You want to find friends and have fun here then be respectful and just keep with it.

Atleast that’s my outlook "

This sums up how decent guys on here actually get success… it’s not instashag, you have to put effort in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks the old saying never judge someone until you have walked a mile in there shoes comes to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks the old saying never judge someone until you have walked a mile in there shoes comes to mind "

???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree. The forums are fun and I’m having some great chats since returning. I would never want to sleep with someone who I couldn’t have a laugh with anyway. As soon as they see me they’d be in hysterics.

Just take it slow and natter that’s my advice.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"thanks the old saying never judge someone until you have walked a mile in there shoes comes to mind "

No offence, but it’s a site based on making judgements on someone’s profile lol.

If I didn’t decide who to reply to based on profiles I’d spend for ever answering messages to guys I’m not into and not meeting the ones I am into.

If you don’t want to be judged on a profile, maybe online isn’t for you. Try the clubs now they are starting to open up again meeting my socially and face to face might be better and the club will normally always verify you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

my not so rude friends think im very funny as i always want to please everyone and make people laugh ive always been better in person than behind a keyboard

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

many thanks thats my next move towards clubs i guess i joined here at the worst time hey ho things can only get better as the song goes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

great advice thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have a face pic privately if people a willing to chat and ask theres plenty of pic collectors on here im sure i might be cabbage looking but im not green "

Who mentioned face ?

You're in my age group, definitely have to work a little harder to be noticed. When there are all these other accounts with photos and a profile write up that describes what they want, desire and their experiences. Why would they chat to yours that says very little....

It's something worth thinking about...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have a face pic privately if people a willing to chat and ask theres plenty of pic collectors on here im sure i might be cabbage looking but im not green "

But people won't.

Single men outnumber women and couples at a ratio upwards of 100 to 1.

What makes you think anyone is going to look at your profile and then message you to ask for a pic when so many others provide that already.

Without a profile pic, hardly anyone is going to evrn look at your profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

as ive replied to someone else that this is not my strong point and ive have taken it on board and i need to work on my profile but thanks for seconding it

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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield


"is looking for friends to much to ask for surely thats what we are all here for "

Sorry thought this was a swinging/sex site not tinder, I too in same predicament as you, sit back wait and enjoy

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven

As you see I only have a pic of my eyes been on here about a month and have met quite a few people. I do make it a strict rule ( noted in my profile) that I do not have sex on the first meet. Which send out a message that meeting me would be safe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

great idea thanks for the tip

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

nr Stamford


"great idea thanks for the tip "

There is a "reply and quote" option that makes it easier to see what you're agreeing with and what you're not.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

nr Stamford


"As you see I only have a pic of my eyes been on here about a month and have met quite a few people. I do make it a strict rule ( noted in my profile) that I do not have sex on the first meet. Which send out a message that meeting me would be safe."

Wouldn't work for us. Char has fatigue issues so we wouldn't want to spend our one opportunity of the week making small talk, knowing it'd go no-where. Essentially, no-one can please everyone.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"i have a face pic privately if people a willing to chat and ask theres plenty of pic collectors on here im sure i might be cabbage looking but im not green "

Most people won't want to ask though op, have a profile pic if you can as many of us won't reply to blank shadows.

It doesn't have to be your face.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

loving the advice never thought it would generate so much interest there are nice people on here many thanks to all that helped and to those that havent you are a good person really you just dont know it ( sorry my sense of humour )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"is looking for friends to much to ask for surely thats what we are all here for "

Lol nope! I have enough friends I’m here to get fucked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive been on here for over a month and tried my best to make friends but with little or no response i have been photo verfied since joining i finding it very frustrating "

We have another!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

as you are a woman you will not have a problem im sure its a bit harder for guys hope you have fun

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By *ffshoreguy4funMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Same and been on longer. Bit of a Misson. I end up giving up and coming back to try

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

good luck us single guys are going to need it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

as i always say to myself must try harder

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven


"As you see I only have a pic of my eyes been on here about a month and have met quite a few people. I do make it a strict rule ( noted in my profile) that I do not have sex on the first meet. Which send out a message that meeting me would be safe.

Wouldn't work for us. Char has fatigue issues so we wouldn't want to spend our one opportunity of the week making small talk, knowing it'd go no-where. Essentially, no-one can please everyone."

Meant to add of course I would make exceptions as I also say I’m adaptable with the people with fatigue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Boys, I’m in the same single male boat as you. What you have to realise is we aren’t swingers. We are males who are looking for couples who are willing to let us sleep with the Mrs. And there are a lot of us.

All we can do is be ourselves, respectful and polite and if someone gives us the the ultimate compliment of letting us join them then that’s perfect. But it’s not going to happen over night. Be active in the forums, let your personality shine through, maybe cut back on the dick pics and fill your profile with interesting things, not just I’m here to fuck.

If you want instant gratification then get yourself on adult work and book an escort. You want to find friends and have fun here then be respectful and just keep with it.

Atleast that’s my outlook "

This guy gets it….

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"good luck us single guys are going to need it "

You are

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven


"good luck us single guys are going to need it

You are "

Ms blue once you come out of hiding I need to ask you a serious question

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

totally agree this has to be fun in every way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also need to use capitals and punctuation, not be a shadow and converse like you're not a bot.

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