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By *aveandkate35 OP Couple
over a year ago

telford

Hi all,

So another thing from the other night.... There we are in the round room at Chams, Kate is on her back, I'm going for it on top while kissing a lovely lady who's on all 4's getting taken from behind while facing me. Kate has a cock in either hand and is taking it in turns to give them oral.

Just another evening you may think?....I wish

Anyway all great and as Kate put it, she was in the "zone". Kate and I offered both guys the opporunity to errrrm, finish off, but both declined. Gave them several chances, but no....

I know we're all different and some will freak if you just come over their face without at least giving a heads up, but when your asked if you'd like to and you can't/won't it's a bit of a let down.

Now, before anyone says anything about they are there to have fun too and do what they chose, I'd say, absolutely! - but when it gets to a point we'd really like it, if you're not up for it, move away there were plenty of others who seemed intrested. Hence why we moved away it was obvious neither guy was going to cum, or move out the way even after plenty of hinting. Again, we hint because if it gets to the point we have to tell someone, then it's over for us anyway.

I can understand guys not wanting to peak too early but, this was less than an hour before closing time.

It actually knocks your confidence a bit.

D&K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I.'ve had this a lot at clubs. For me it's all about the cum. It's why I never play at chams.

I think it's because once they have finished that's it.

Cali

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

Hi D&K

An interesting post, and I'm glad you put the bit in that it was in the final hour before the club closed.

I've been at clubs where a lady or couple are shall we say early starters in that they make themselves available to single guys well before any other couple/lady does. Now obviously this is popular amongst the single guys and if the guy involved is lucky to be a repeater who only has to look at a womans ankle to get hard, then I'm sure the early starter couple/lady will get her fair share of cum off this type of guy. Most guys at that stage of the evening though are pacing themselves to see what happens later on in the evening either through their own endeavours of chatting to someone or taking part in later group play.

Now in the scene you portray, I'd have thought that more single guys are prepared to cum on your lady, assuming that they haven't already spent their load somewhere else. It's surprising they didn't take the hint but i suppose the easiest supple hint from you and especially your lady would be for her to stop touching the guys cocks who weren't giving her what she wants and touch someone else or point out someone and say something as simple as come here you, believe me, the single guys will sort themselves out to allow in the one you want.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Sometimes it is because they have been popping the blue pill. They get hard easy enough but the ball sack was drained ages ago and they couldn't cum if their life depended on it.

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By *ingerjo_leeCouple
over a year ago

swinton

hiya

most guys dont wanna cum untill there ready and to see if they get a better offer lol

the amount of times ive asked a guy ro cum on me or fuck me and they have said soz no im saving it untill later. it so makes you angry like you said you spend time on the guy and they wanna wait till later when another guy near would give you there spunk

if a guy isnt willing to give it to me i tell him to go away now

even had a guy said to me soz im saving my spunk as i seen a slim girl who i fancy like mad, me being a big girl was so pissed off

and yeah it knocks my confidence loads

jo x

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By *urious.coupleCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

How rude!!!

So basically they're saying, 'you'll do to get my Dick wet but I'll wait for someone better to finish off with!'

Don't start what you cant finish!

If I saw or heard a guy say that at a club he would instantly get himself a place on the, Not With a Barge Pole list!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How rude!!!

So basically they're saying, 'you'll do to get my Dick wet but I'll wait for someone better to finish off with!'

Don't start what you cant finish!

If I saw or heard a guy say that at a club he would instantly get himself a place on the, Not With a Barge Pole list!!"

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By *aveandkate35 OP Couple
over a year ago

telford

"How rude!!!

So basically they're saying, 'you'll do to get my Dick wet but I'll wait for someone better to finish off with!'

Don't start what you cant finish!

If I saw or heard a guy say that at a club he would instantly get himself a place on the, Not With a Barge Pole list!!

I agree too - but even those who don't say it, like our scenario, that's how you can feel - like tgey are saving it for someone else.... Nothing like being made to feel sexy Or inadequate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang on let me get this straight. You and your mrs 'asked' the guys next to her to cum and they didn't?

So they had a chance to cum over your wifes face as she was getting fucked and they didn't? (even though she wanted it)

That's absolutely criminal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a surprisingly common occurrence in clubs and to be honest it's why single guys often get a bad rep .

If a girl loses the moment there will be no fun for anyone and the one thing guaranteed to help her lose it is the ' going through the motions ' technique often employed by single guys in clubs .so they wanna save it for later ?

How selfish is that ?

If the girl is willing to suck , fuck , wank etc.... Him and he is just thinking he will save it then it's a shame one doesn't know beforehand that this is his goal !

Of course it knocks the confidence - but they don't seem bothered

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By *unsurreycouple1Couple
over a year ago

Surrey

We also find this anoying and it does seem to have got worse with the invention of the little blue pill.

We both love guys to come so less ego's and more cum pleeeease!

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By *hemanwhocanMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire north

Bad form - if a chap is invited to join in he should finish the job, where has the pride in being British gone!

My housemaster would have had me flogged if I would not finish the job when cordially invited - bad form!

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By *ornihorniMan
over a year ago

colchester

hell no if someone asks for it i find it so horny when a ladie demands my spunk i just wanna give then

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

The irony of it is that the guys who are saving it in case something/one better comes along often don't get another opportunity!

I'm one of the ones who will play early if I like the look of someone. I have been gobsmacked to be told "I'm saving it" at 9pm when the club doesn't close till 3!

Surely many men can manage twice in six hours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never heard of this before, or experienced it!

I would say, if you showed interest and it was not reciprocated, definitely tell them to move on and look for other guys.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"This is a surprisingly common occurrence in clubs and to be honest it's why single guys often get a bad rep .

How selfish is that ?

If the girl is willing to suck , fuck , wank etc.... Him and he is just thinking he will save it then it's a shame one doesn't know beforehand that this is his goal !

Of course it knocks the confidence - but they don't seem bothered

Wowwwwwwwwwwww there just a moment with the single guys bit.

Whilst I have never been in the situation of any guy saying they are saving it, I have heard it said on a number of occassions........ in the COUPLES room.

I have no doubt single guys may also be using this tactic, but I am sure beyond doubt the male half of couples do it... because they want to be able to fuck their missus at the end of the night. So please lets not make this about the 'single guy'.

In all honesty, if I knew I could only cum once or twice per visit and after that I'd not be in any condtion to play..... I'd be fucking saving it too!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Just as an after thought....... has anyone ever turned to a woman and said "yeah I am ready for you to cum on my face now, if you can't manage it can you shift your arse out of the way and make room for someone who can"

Or is it not right to treat women like performing seals?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair points polo - not really meaning to only tar the single guys !

Of course it may happen with couples too , but that's just as bad !

When the whole thing is governed by the thought of holding back , saving it etc..... Surely the whole spontaneity and fun are lost ?

We only swing and play in clubs for good fun and hope those we play with do so for the same reason . To be honest this scenario hasn't happened to us very often , but when it does it totally sucks !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of guys arnt waiting for a better offer they are waiting for the end of the night, not all guys can repeat that easy and dont want to be cumming to early incase little jimmy dont want to play again, ive had it a few times where ive took guys into a room and they have left before they have cum so they can perform again if they find someone else, its just pot luck who gets them at the end of the night to finish them off or indeed if they get lucky again as they could end up wanking lol

I bet if the situation the OP is talking about was at 12.50 they would have happily shot their load

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By *ustyBrunette35Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

"Sometimes it is because they have been popping the blue pill. They get hard easy enough but the ball sack was drained ages ago and they couldn't cum if their life depended on it."

This sounds far more a likely reason as to why the guy(s) won't cum over a lady.

It's not because they don't want to or are saving it for someone thinner/fatter/sexier etc, it's because it's not possible too.

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By *orny Biker 69Man
over a year ago

Greenford

Probably cant manage a second or third load, pmsl!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Op was describing a group sex / gangbang situation and graphically illustrated why I never get into those scenarios. No criticism intended of oanyone just why I don't go there. I prefer to focus my attention on someone who wants that individual attention and appreciates it as I will explain later.

And just for once I agree with Polo. Its OK to 'tell' a man to cum on command and slag him off when he declines but a woman should never be treated like that?

As for the men saying they are 'saving it up'. Well thay are just rude and ignorant. Decline an invitation by all means but put a lady down at the same time?...and of course 'all single blokes' are like that aren't they?

What hasn't been aired on this Thread is the fact that there are some men (and I am one) who take ages (and I mean hours) to orgasm and when I do it is very intense. (Yes I do get hard again after a cuppa before the smartarses take a poke!). So its not always the little Blue Pill at work it is just how some of us are. Some guys cum a lot and often some don't. Some can't 'repeat' some can. Why do people have to rush off to assume the worst of people?

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By *aveandkate35 OP Couple
over a year ago

telford

"Just as an after thought....... has anyone ever turned to a woman and said "yeah I am ready for you to cum on my face now, if you can't manage it can you shift your arse out of the way and make room for someone who can"

Or is it not right to treat women like performing seals?"

If anything men usually ask Kate to stop cumming as the floors getting too slippy

It's a fair point and I have a lot of sympathy for single guys which reminds me to start another thread.

My point really is, when playing you get to a point where your goals are no longer aligned - nothing the matter with that, everyone's had fun, it's just as a single guy, maybe I'm realy missing the point but would expect given the opporunity to cum over a woman in the throws of n'th orgasm with only half hour or so of club time left, they'd jump at the chance. It's not about expecting them to perform its just the feeling you get that they are not enjoying themselves as much as you are - which is a turn off.

There have been a lot of good comments on here that probably explain it and I'm sure she won't take it to heart

As for Kate being a performing seal, she's had her fair share of brightly colourd balls on her nose, but has neither the whiskers or the stink of fish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..... it's just as a single guy, maybe I'm realy missing the point but would expect given the opporunity to cum over a woman in the throws of n'th orgasm with only half hour or so of club time left, they'd jump at the chance. It's not about expecting them to perform its just the feeling you get that they are not enjoying themselves as much as you are - which is a turn off.

Ever considered that some of us get our total 'buzz' (or whatever) from feeling the woman orgasm over and over and knowing her partner is getting an equal 'buzz' from it and so we don't actually need to cum ourselves? And should not be 'put down' however unintentioned because we don't?

If a guy only feels fully satisfied by his own orgasm and can not be satisfied by the lady's then I feel he is missing a whole world of pleasure. But their choice I guess. Although of course I fully appreciate the pleasure a lady gets from seeing a man cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its very common at chams and clubs for the men not to cum alot but shag woman all night and viagra helps and some men there love to see if thay can shag alot woman on a night next week will see if more young man i chat to was on his 6th friday so cant cum everytime .. its a sport to some there . You see them saying you ready for me now to some woman who dont know thay maybe are Just one of a number alot dont care as there for sex .

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By *oonytoonMan
over a year ago

derby

"The Op was describing a group sex / gangbang situation and graphically illustrated why I never get into those scenarios. No criticism intended of oanyone just why I don't go there. I prefer to focus my attention on someone who wants that individual attention and appreciates it as I will explain later.

And just for once I agree with Polo. Its OK to 'tell' a man to cum on command and slag him off when he declines but a woman should never be treated like that?

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By *aveandkate35 OP Couple
over a year ago

telford

Absolutely - have you ever considered that's exactly what this whole thread is about? - as you say, about only being fully satisfied when others have enjoyed themselves too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do some guys feel compelled to have multiple partners in any given club meet ?

If you like someone and get along, then get it on with them and finish it off with them.

Sometimes, you might just want to get showered and leave feeling happy, smiley, content and with fond memories of the experience.

Other times you might want to shower, get a drink, have a chat at the bar, chill out in another area or whatever til someone else comes in that might like to play.

Both have their place.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Why do some guys feel compelled to have multiple partners in any given club meet ?

Probably for the same reasons some of us ladies like to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some guys feel compelled to have multiple partners in any given club meet ?

Probably for the same reasons some of us ladies like to

Ur too quick at times.

As I pressed the button, I thought I have made an error here and made it 'one sexed'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot of the times at clubs its fast moving and maybe you will never see them again .. so some dont care its there needs only. Theres never alot of oral and kissing at clubs .. You just have to keep close eye on rooms to see this alot strat to it ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and I'm just glad u's had a nice time.

if u want some pornstars go ahead and find them..they can cum on request.

perhaps u(mr) were too much in their faces or cocks(nothing worse than having a male half directing u, or being so close u think he's getting off on urself more than he is getting off on his wifes pleasure.Even worse...the female half isnt looking like shes enjoying the experience more than the male half is(this is mainly aimed at the male halves who watch/direct)rather than those who are active in the play.

To me, what really matters is that these single guys behaved well enough to be played with in the club..that should be ur highlight.

now its been suggested that they must have had viagra or were waiting for a better offer...

maybe they had also played before and were spent from that.

nobody said because we(all groups) are swingers would suggest we are gonna be superpeople(all groups) in the sack, compared to any other people.

Ive found situations myself of course where I havent came..my partners have enjoyed other times when i have(ones Ive met with again)-maybe I just dont find the shallow types, ones who can enjoy ur compnay and sex..but with nothing written in stone about how ur 'supposed' to perform.

lastly, anyone suffering from 'it must be me, I'm not attractive enough because he/she/they didnt cum' should seriously consider the fact that perhaps they need some self-esteem building, rather than finding it from sexual gratification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some guys feel compelled to have multiple partners in any given club meet ?

If you like someone and get along, then get it on with them and finish it off with them.

Sometimes, you might just want to get showered and leave feeling happy, smiley, content and with fond memories of the experience.

Other times you might want to shower, get a drink, have a chat at the bar, chill out in another area or whatever til someone else comes in that might like to play.

Both have their place."

true but if i was going to a club or a party it normall be to play with a few people, if i just wanted to play with one id probs meet in private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some guys feel compelled to have multiple partners in any given club meet ?

If you like someone and get along, then get it on with them and finish it off with them.

Sometimes, you might just want to get showered and leave feeling happy, smiley, content and with fond memories of the experience.

Other times you might want to shower, get a drink, have a chat at the bar, chill out in another area or whatever til someone else comes in that might like to play.

Both have their place.

true but if i was going to a club or a party it normall be to play with a few people, if i just wanted to play with one id probs meet in private"

i go to clubs because i find it easier to meet someone there than online

it saves the too-ing and fro-ing of messages and emails with unknown outcomes if searching for a 'there and then' or 'that day' meet

so quite often, the one playmate does me, but other times i like to stay round and see if anyone else comes in that i'd like to play with

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I'm more than happy for men in clubs not to cum with me. Actually, I'd prefer it and I don't get any sense of 'I'm not good enough'. Enjoy the moment and have no expectations of others - you can't control their responses or their intentions.

A partner holding back on me... that's a different matter.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Steady on Padster... no one has said they 'must' have had viagra.

'Sometimes' is not the same as 'must have'.

Another sometimes is they are just not ready to, rather than can't.

Yet another sometimes is, being asked to, especially with lots of people watching.... planting the wrong thought at the wrong time.

I am sure there are plenty more 'sometimes'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm more than happy for men in clubs not to cum with me. Actually, I'd prefer it and I don't get any sense of 'I'm not good enough'. Enjoy the moment and have no expectations of others - you can't control their responses or their intentions.

A partner holding back on me... that's a different matter."

I've just came, cos I agree with u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that when I'm with someone for the first time I can't always cum. I try and hold back to make the experience as pleasurable for everyone and then I've gone numb etc.

For someone to say they "don't want to" or they are "saving it" does seem a little insensitive though if i'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am more than happy to bust in and offer my services as a 'stunt cock' for any guy that cannot or will not cum

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I find that when I'm with someone for the first time I can't always cum. I try and hold back to make the experience as pleasurable for everyone and then I've gone numb etc.

For someone to say they "don't want to" or they are "saving it" does seem a little insensitive though if i'm honest."

But's not any better for the OP if they answer 'I can't'.

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By *aveandkate35 OP Couple
over a year ago

telford

"and I'm just glad u's had a nice time.

if u want some pornstars go ahead and find them..they can cum on request.

Ok, it would be easy for me to rise to this... excuse the pun, but if you read my original post, I think I did say, if cumming really isn't you're thing, then fine - I fully support everyones right to do whatever makes them happy.

" perhaps u(mr) were too much in their faces or cocks(nothing worse than having a male half directing u, or being so close u think he's getting off on urself more than he is getting off on his wifes pleasure.Even worse...the female half isnt looking like shes enjoying the experience more than the male half is(this is mainly aimed at the male halves who watch/direct)rather than those who are active in the play."

Ok, so I get onto a bed in a public room and start having sex, within seconds there are guys either side grabbing their cocks - I'd suggest they were ok with it..

There was no directing, but I did tell them we coudlnt' stand it in there much longer because it was so hot and would they like us all to finish together?

"To me, what really matters is that these single guys behaved well enough to be played with in the club..that should be ur highlight."

I seriously hope you're takign the michael or your current mailing address is located under a bridge and your favourite past time is stalking goats?

"now its been suggested that they must have had viagra or were waiting for a better offer...maybe they had also played before and were spent from that."

Quite possibly, thats why I started the thread to see if this was common practice, and as some have suggested, some perfectly logical explainations.

"nobody said because we(all groups) are swingers would suggest we are gonna be superpeople(all groups) in the sack, compared to any other people. Ive found situations myself of course where I havent came..my partners have enjoyed other times when i have(ones Ive met with again)-maybe I just dont find the shallow types, ones who can enjoy ur compnay and sex..but with nothing written in stone about how ur 'supposed' to perform.

I've got the universal translator still running on that last paragraph, but early indications suggest you're saying that nobody expects swingers to be any better in bed than non-swingers and maybe you're lucky as you dont' find shallow people who have an ideology on how peopel are supposed to perform?

We have nothing written in stone, by far our best experiences over the last year have been the ones we didn't see coming! (ok I intended that one!

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I never realised that cumming for a male in a swingers club fell into the "superpeople in the sack" category, it's something I've had no trouble with since an early age - Woooo! I must be a sex a god!

"lastly, anyone suffering from 'it must be me, I'm not attractive enough because he/she/they didnt cum' should seriously consider the fact that perhaps they need some self-esteem building, rather than finding it from sexual gratification."

There is not building of self esteem required. We want the experience to be good for everyone, and like some have said, not-cumming is "their thing". Thats fine, and I make no apology for actually having a concern over whether other people are enjoying things as much as us, or for us querying ourselves. I don't presume us to be Sex Gods, and believe there is always room for improvement.

All in all, I'm not slating anyone for not cumming, and thank everyone for their contribution (excuse the pun... again) to this thread.

Its good to see it from the other side....

On the plus side, we're trying to arrange a hotel meet with 2 other guys, I now know what one of my criteria questions will be

I'd always taken it as a given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and I'm just glad u's had a nice time.

if u want some pornstars go ahead and find them..they can cum on request.

Ok, so I get onto a bed in a public room and start having sex, within seconds there are guys either side grabbing their cocks - I'd suggest they were ok with it..

There was no directing, but I did tell them we coudlnt' stand it in there much longer because it was so hot and would they like us all to finish together?

To me, what really matters is that these single guys behaved well enough to be played with in the club..that should be ur highlight.

I seriously hope you're takign the michael or your current mailing address is located under a bridge and your favourite past time is stalking goats?

now its been suggested that they must have had viagra or were waiting for a better offer...maybe they had also played before and were spent from that.

Quite possibly, thats why I started the thread to see if this was common practice, and as some have suggested, some perfectly logical explainations.

nobody said because we(all groups) are swingers would suggest we are gonna be superpeople(all groups) in the sack, compared to any other people. Ive found situations myself of course where I havent came..my partners have enjoyed other times when i have(ones Ive met with again)-maybe I just dont find the shallow types, ones who can enjoy ur compnay and sex..but with nothing written in stone about how ur 'supposed' to perform.

We have nothing written in stone, by far our best experiences over the last year have been the ones we didn't see coming! (ok I intended that one!

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All in all, I'm not slating anyone for not cumming, and thank everyone for their contribution (excuse the pun... again) to this thread.

Its good to see it from the other side....

On the plus side, we're trying to arrange a hotel meet with 2 other guys, I now know what one of my criteria questions will be

I'd always taken it as a given.

Thanks

the highlight comment part of my post was about those at the time of play that uve posted about, not ur whole night in general.Hope that makes it clearer.

most of my post was meant in general to ur sympathizers of the OP post.Especially from those who have basically indicated by their style "imagine doing that to a woman...how must she feel!!!"

dunno how my post would go down too well if I said, I'd met this woman..her handjobs were awful, her bj's terrible, she just didnt do it for me (despite being good looking and a great body) or she didnt squirt/gush.Then again..I wouldnt have posted about it anyway.

there always two sides, or more to a story is my main point of my post.

I suppose its only tueday, worth a moan at least.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

there always two sides, or more to a story is my main point of my post.

I suppose its only tueday, worth a moan at least.

Quite! I know I don't always have the skills/technique or the right touch for every man I meet. It would be daft to assume that I could be right for everyone just as I don't assume every man will be able to find my hot spots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread for me is precisely the reason why I'm a one on one kinda girl I'd rather just have fun with one guy where we both know exactly what we want at the minute I'm not single and seeing a guy and he's one of those guys who stays hard for hours and is a repeater he's so used to not being able to cum he's into giving lots of pleasure instead me I'm onto giving just as much and it's frustrating for me that it takes so long now were getting more familiar it's happening quicker and he's loving it lol he's turning into a bit of a screamer yay lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm just grateful to get someone to play with me!

Seriously though, I would say the proportion of cummers to non-cummers I meet in clubs is 2 to 5 ish. Even late at night it is not always guaranteed that they are going to cum so I am quite happy to let them help ME cum.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

Here we go AGAIN

Blokes that wont cum, blokes that cum without being told to, the bstrd came in my face not over my tits. he can on my tits/shoulder/back/arm not im my mouth...

often in a group (one woman few guys) it can get just a little confusing (we for me anyways) as to what each person wants/needs. If im being wanked or sucked i dont often know hows its gonna end. Will i be shagging her next ? will she suc me dry? will she just stop ? will she wont she..?

Often the first you know of what "she's" expecting from you, is a short scream of cum in my... (which is fine its her ungency) but we are are expected to deliver in short order.

Now if as a guy you are going to shag her we need to keep a lid on the pressure buildup otherwise is insertion 10-30 seconds later withdrawal and then will see " oh another thread on here of why do single guys not last long".

Ladies like you we take time to build up as well and just cos your URGENCY aint being fullfiled, often without any prior discussion, only a I WANT IT and I WANNIT NOW.

Oh yes i nearly forgot:

EVERY BLOKE IS A MIND READER with 99% accuracy.

why can people show each other respect and care and just FECKING TALK to each other. And stop using bandwidth bleating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cum easily enough the first time, which is why I like to start off with a bj

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know, I have seen this for myself too. I was playing with a really sexy playmate, and we were all masturbating to each other. She came, I came but the other guy just stopped, went soft and wandered off! WTF? I showed my respect to the lady and was dissappointed the other guy wouldn't oblige. This has happened on two or three different occasions. OK, I am lucky in the fact that I can cum 2 or 3 times in a session, so if I am asked to cum all over a lady, then the least I can do is oblige her.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"Do you know, I have seen this for myself too. I was playing with a really sexy playmate, and we were all masturbating to each other. She came, I came but the other guy just stopped, went soft and wandered off! WTF? I showed my respect to the lady and was dissappointed the other guy wouldn't oblige. This has happened on two or three different occasions. OK, I am lucky in the fact that I can cum 2 or 3 times in a session, so if I am asked to cum all over a lady, then the least I can do is oblige her."

yes your lucky.

Going from a hero hardon that i was very proud of (thank you loverly lady) to zero in but a few seconds without good reason does happen, as it was my turn and I was so looking forward to giving her a good rogering too and i bet she got the wrong signal.

Maybe that guy was just too embarrassed to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cum easily enough the first time, which is why I like to start off with a bj

after that I will last for ages and if it's just a hand job then it may get uncomfortable after a while. Even hard and fast sex can take ages to make me cum, even if I really want to. If its at the end of the night then it may be the 3rd, 4th or 5th time so your really have no chance lol"
I was chating to two young men friday there thing in clubs is to see who shag the most .. when i asked if thay cum said first and last time so thay must have some sort of control and viagra i bet ... one was on 6 and his friend 7 was funny him saying to lady in hallway your next . lol Maybe thay find its better then a work out in the gym , lol and why i find it rear good sex at a club .. never last hours only if you take them back to hotel after .

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over a year ago

"I cum easily enough the first time, which is why I like to start off with a bj

after that I will last for ages and if it's just a hand job then it may get uncomfortable after a while. Even hard and fast sex can take ages to make me cum, even if I really want to. If its at the end of the night then it may be the 3rd, 4th or 5th time so your really have no chance lol I was chating to two young men friday there thing in clubs is to see who shag the most .. when i asked if thay cum said first and last time so thay must have some sort of control and viagra i bet ... one was on 6 and his friend 7 was funny him saying to lady in hallway your next . lol Maybe thay find its better then a work out in the gym , lol and why i find it rear good sex at a club .. never last hours only if you take them back to hotel after .

So...did you let them fuck you?

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over a year ago

"I cum easily enough the first time, which is why I like to start off with a bj

after that I will last for ages and if it's just a hand job then it may get uncomfortable after a while. Even hard and fast sex can take ages to make me cum, even if I really want to. If its at the end of the night then it may be the 3rd, 4th or 5th time so your really have no chance lol I was chating to two young men friday there thing in clubs is to see who shag the most .. when i asked if thay cum said first and last time so thay must have some sort of control and viagra i bet ... one was on 6 and his friend 7 was funny him saying to lady in hallway your next . lol Maybe thay find its better then a work out in the gym , lol and why i find it rear good sex at a club .. never last hours only if you take them back to hotel after .

So...did you let them fuck you?

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no , xxx i need more then 10/20 mins thats only kissing time .. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The irony of it is that the guys who are saving it in case something/one better comes along often don't get another opportunity!

I'm one of the ones who will play early if I like the look of someone. I have been gobsmacked to be told "I'm saving it" at 9pm when the club doesn't close till 3!

Surely many men can manage twice in six hours!

How randomly rude! I wouldn't turn you down if you ever asked me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy doesn't cum don't automatically assume they are saving it either. I'm assuming it's the same for most guys.

Cumming the first time is easy. The second time onwards? Sometimes i've been banging away in different positions to no avail after the first time. Sure with enough effort and patience I cum again but i'm happy enough not to as long as both parties are having fun with it.

It's almost like role reversal for those guys that get hung up just because a woman doesn't climax for them on demand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit this is exactly how I behaved about 20 years ago when I first started swinging, especially if I had been invited into a group session. Naively I wanted to hold on to my biggest spurt for 'the end of the night'. Thing is, more often than not, the action tended to fizzle out after the group sex!! I learned my lesson quickly. If I cum early on, then I'm happy - there's always a second (though less copious spurt) if required 1/2 hour later.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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I often view some of these people as grazers, as they're like animals wandering the pastures nibbling here and there. The other lot I perceieve as aggressive cruisers, they push in and out where they fancy, largely only concerned with their own taking, and not really bothered about other's pleasure etc.

I don't relish being grazed upon and I find these 2 types easier to spot and avoid now. As an omnivore, I find nothing better than a really decent, hearty meal, that leaves nothing unsatisfied - grazing/grazers aren't really for me. Maybe over time, more of this sort will realise that they're doing themselves and others no real favours and they're falling out of vogue, it will be a good time, imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd have cum in a shot, let me know next time you are going

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

the guy I went to chams with satisfied me( and another couple of ladies too) over and over and enjoyed himself immensely but only came once we got back to the hotel...I do not see him to have been selfish or waiting for something better to come along...some guys just do not cum that easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or is it not right to treat women like performing seals?"

Omg I think I've just peed a little

Bang on there !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or is it not right to treat women like performing seals?

Omg I think I've just peed a little

Bang on there !!

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That's new seals , lol never seen woman called that before,

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