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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab?

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

In reverse. Much more popular in real life than on fab. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "

I'm a hero in the real world

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd say more in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get no looks.

but thats not important, what is important to me is finding out who you are.

im sure a lot of you ladies get looks just dont see it

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'd say more in the real world "

Think men like it when I show more flesh lol I usually totally cover up but on a beach day, men pay attention more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say more in the real world

Think men like it when I show more flesh lol I usually totally cover up but on a beach day, men pay attention more "

there you go then.

you have attraction

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "

Quite surprised at that OP, thought you would get a lot of attention in the real world based on your pics.

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By *rowser79Man
over a year ago

Cork


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "

With so many men on here and the confidence that ‘hiding’ behind a keyboard gives it stands to reason you get hit on more here. Guys who wouldn’t be confident enough to approach you in person would be more likely to chance their arm messaging you here!

As for your original question…….as a single guy on here there’s too much competition from better looking guys on here

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

What is fab popularity though?

In the real world I take people as I find them and never concern myself with popularity contests.

I take the same approach on here but others have said that they didn't think I would chat to them because I'm so popular in the forums.

Just because I post on a semi regular basis doesn't make me popular. In fact because I take a no bs approach I'd argue it makes me less popular.

Perceived popularity is a thing on here.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab?

Quite surprised at that OP, thought you would get a lot of attention in the real world based on your pics."

no men never approach me apart from the cray cray ones lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I gets lots of messages n ppl wanting to meet on fab off fab I’m alone most of the time

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"What is fab popularity though?

In the real world I take people as I find them and never concern myself with popularity contests.

I take the same approach on here but others have said that they didn't think I would chat to them because I'm so popular in the forums.

Just because I post on a semi regular basis doesn't make me popular. In fact because I take a no bs approach I'd argue it makes me less popular.

Perceived popularity is a thing on here. "

popularity is good as you're more likely to find someone you're compactible with. Unless you're super lucky to find the right person from afew looking at your profile and messaging you. In reality, we know that's unlikely?

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "
a

It's the total opposite for me OP, I'm pretty much ignored on Fab but I get a lot of female attention in person; which is why I enjoy clubs so much.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? a

It's the total opposite for me OP, I'm pretty much ignored on Fab but I get a lot of female attention in person; which is why I enjoy clubs so much.

"

I can't wait to go to some clubs and see if i get as much attention there as on fab be interested to find out if its my face putting people off or not

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By *rowser79Man
over a year ago

Cork


"I can't wait to go to some clubs and see if i get as much attention there as on fab be interested to find out if its my face putting people off or not "

You’ll get loads of attentions in clubs because there’ll be likeminded people who’ll be more comfortable around you and feel more confident approaching you there

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Physically it's dame on fab and in real life for me. Just in real life they tend to look rather than approach.

Personality wise it's the same too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can tell how popular you are when your replies to a thread are constantly overlooked by the op but they reply to others.

thankfully im not that rude

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"you can tell how popular you are when your replies to a thread are constantly overlooked by the op but they reply to others.

thankfully im not that rude"

I'm Billy no mates on that score

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not popular here OR in real life!

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

On here yes, but then I don't walk around in just my underwear in the real world

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm not popular here OR in real life! "

Nor us but it's fine. We're happy

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

On fab yes , on the forums no

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "

Hi hun.

It used to be that way for me when I was slimmer and had a much higher profile on here. Embarrassingly I was often introduced to people as ‘fab famous’ or ‘fab royalty’. Fortunately I didn’t take the hype seriously - and on the upside I got to meet, chat to and occasionally shag some marvellous people.

In the real world I’m a working middle aged mum and often pretty invisible - which is how I like it a lot of the time. The last thing my teenagers want or need is for their mum to look ‘hot’ or be ogled when we’re out.

For that reason I always had two very different personas.

Now I’ve put weight on and gained a few more wrinkles with the menopause I get to be invisible everywhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "

Think it's cause I'm fab people get to see what is hiding under your clothes. Start wearing bikinis and you'll get guys coming from all sides in the real world haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I want to approach a lass out and about but either don't know what to say or feel like I'm going to be bothering her.

I never get approached and don't think I've ever caught anyone looking at me unless you count my ex haha

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Personally I want to approach a lass out and about but either don't know what to say or feel like I'm going to be bothering her.

I never get approached and don't think I've ever caught anyone looking at me unless you count my ex haha"

Hundreds of years ago when I was young men would just start talking. Most of them would back off if I made it clear I wasn't interested. I think all these dating apps have made it more difficult for people in real life

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "

Cherry I’m at a loss with you tbh. From what I remember if you’re profile before you blocked me your a pretty hot looking woman and definitely popular on fab. As long as I can remember you have been looking for that one fwb and as your still looking I assume you haven’t found one. I also assume you’re photos are real so you’re obviously hot in the real world too so why you’re not getting approached by suitable guys out there I really am at a loss? Have you any ideas yourself? I do know a few women who unless they find absolute perfection they won’t dive in and they are all living sexless and lonely lives. Could it be your setting an unattainable bar ?

Malcolm x

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Ha ha ! I’ve just realised you have unblocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "

Not really it’s about the same. Still I’ve been told, “god loves a trier!”. Just shame I’m not religious lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ha ha ! I’ve just realised you have unblocked me "

Awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I want to approach a lass out and about but either don't know what to say or feel like I'm going to be bothering her.

I never get approached and don't think I've ever caught anyone looking at me unless you count my ex haha

Hundreds of years ago when I was young men would just start talking. Most of them would back off if I made it clear I wasn't interested. I think all these dating apps have made it more difficult for people in real life"

Yes I 100% agree with that. But they aren't helpful at all as even some of my female mates have said that they're pointless.

The only time I've actually had a proper chat with a lass is when I've been at a party or a nightclub. But even then it has not really lead to anywhere as I'm not the greatest as progressing from going from the chatting to the let's go stage. Been on nights out and my mates have called me an idiot for not taking her home and I was like... She was into me? haha

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "

Yes, offline no one looks at me twice.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"you can tell how popular you are when your replies to a thread are constantly overlooked by the op but they reply to others.

thankfully im not that rude"

Us with the transparent posts! ()

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Flik gets attention in real life and on here but for me (paul) it's all in real life, which is fine by me.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

You have to make a bit of an effort in the real world to string a sentence together.

Fancy a shag, as a chat up line in a bar doesn't tend to work for me in the real world.

Apart from Cap D'Agde, where I actively encourage it and generally say yes, there and then....

This isn't just for the men, some of the ladies out there are even worse in the conversation stakes...

Have fun.

Liz. X

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I tend to keep a pretty low profile both on here and in real life. Have never really aspired to be in the popular crowd and I'm usually quite happy hanging out on the perifery with the geeks and misfits.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Used to get a fair bit of attention when I went out to pubs and that, but I’ve been fairly reclusive since 2012 so on here suits my lazy pulling style better.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Personally I want to approach a lass out and about but either don't know what to say or feel like I'm going to be bothering her.

I never get approached and don't think I've ever caught anyone looking at me unless you count my ex haha

Hundreds of years ago when I was young men would just start talking. Most of them would back off if I made it clear I wasn't interested. I think all these dating apps have made it more difficult for people in real life

Yes I 100% agree with that. But they aren't helpful at all as even some of my female mates have said that they're pointless.

The only time I've actually had a proper chat with a lass is when I've been at a party or a nightclub. But even then it has not really lead to anywhere as I'm not the greatest as progressing from going from the chatting to the let's go stage. Been on nights out and my mates have called me an idiot for not taking her home and I was like... She was into me? haha"

I know a bit of how it is for the younger dating generation nowadays from our kids. One's married but they met through mutual friends the other is very friendly and will literally strike up a conversation anywhere with anybody and never seems short of a date. However it does seem far less acceptable to approach people cold now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I want to approach a lass out and about but either don't know what to say or feel like I'm going to be bothering her.

I never get approached and don't think I've ever caught anyone looking at me unless you count my ex haha

Hundreds of years ago when I was young men would just start talking. Most of them would back off if I made it clear I wasn't interested. I think all these dating apps have made it more difficult for people in real life

Yes I 100% agree with that. But they aren't helpful at all as even some of my female mates have said that they're pointless.

The only time I've actually had a proper chat with a lass is when I've been at a party or a nightclub. But even then it has not really lead to anywhere as I'm not the greatest as progressing from going from the chatting to the let's go stage. Been on nights out and my mates have called me an idiot for not taking her home and I was like... She was into me? haha

I know a bit of how it is for the younger dating generation nowadays from our kids. One's married but they met through mutual friends the other is very friendly and will literally strike up a conversation anywhere with anybody and never seems short of a date. However it does seem far less acceptable to approach people cold now. "

It's not a matter of being cold. It's a matter of women finding it creepy or annoying these days. I would have thought it would have been flattering for a guy to come up and complement you. But then I've seem a mate at uni do that and the girl has said "well I didn't get dressed for your approval". I just thought what even are people these days. Wasn't even a fact he was a bad looking guy. It was the fact that people don't know what a complement is these day so approaching a person is near impossible because you don't know if they're gonna see it as a predatory attack or an insult.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"On fab yes , on the forums no "

yeah me too, I get inundated with messages but nothing in real life or on forums. like to see if i meet people in clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On fab yes , on the forums no

yeah me too, I get inundated with messages but nothing in real life or on forums. like to see if i meet people in clubs "

I'll be honest. Looking at your body can't comment on your face as you don't show it on your profile. You are definitely up there on the attractive scale so in the real world guys are probably shy to come up to you or because of your age maybe assume you already have someone in your life so don't want to bother you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i get no looks.

but thats not important, what is important to me is finding out who you are.

im sure a lot of you ladies get looks just dont see it "

I'm shocked by this. You're gorgeous.

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

people are a lot braver behind a keyboard, ridiculous

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

In the real world I get to show my personality more so far more interesting in real life,

On fab I’m invisible

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? a

It's the total opposite for me OP, I'm pretty much ignored on Fab but I get a lot of female attention in person; which is why I enjoy clubs so much.

I can't wait to go to some clubs and see if i get as much attention there as on fab be interested to find out if its my face putting people off or not "

I rarely get approached in real life... Definitely my face that's the problem... It says everything so I don't need to

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I definitely get more attention here than irl. I might need to try going out to the pubs topless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say I get the same amount of attention. Live it’s my eyes that attract, on here my arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "

I'm aloof in both worlds, so nobody approaches

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood


"I definitely get more attention here than irl. I might need to try going out to the pubs topless "

If you do I will need the details of when and where

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the opposite.

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By *uddly GoblinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Personally I get more attention in the real world than on here but still not complaining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably get a similar amount of attention, on here and irl.

I get more messages on here though

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood


"I probably get a similar amount of attention, on here and irl.

I get more messages on here though "

One of the best bodies on fab

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Well here is a different ball game to me! Yes I get approached more than normal life through fab but I attract better looks and personalities in real world or while in clubs

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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "

It's the opposite for me, I have much more success in the 'real' world, than on fab.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I would probably have a better chances in the real world. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab?

Quite surprised at that OP, thought you would get a lot of attention in the real world based on your pics.

no men never approach me apart from the cray

cray ones lol "

Driven round 5 times now and still can’t find you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab? "

It's obvious really. In a real world people are not looking at you for sex. Lust etc but as a human being. On Fab you are a potential sex partner. Not rocket science.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I probably get a similar amount of attention, on here and irl.

I get more messages on here though

One of the best bodies on fab "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is a captive audience...people are looking for people....in real world we have other things on our mind....

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

I try my best to elusive and aloof in order to swirve attention. Its a bit more difficult to do that in real life.

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By *lexMegasMan
over a year ago

WREXHAM

Used to never have much trouble finding someone bars or clubs. My cheeky smile and wit saw to that. Though I've been married (now separated) for most of the last eight years so no idea how to approach someone in this post covid world!

On here I'm just another bloke in a sea of cocks I guess.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

More I don't seek popularity either outside or on fab. But by comparison I have more friendships outside of fab than on - ironically probably only guy on fab who's not looking to get laid

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"In person, I rarely get looked at, asked out etc but in the fab world, it a completely different story like I live a double life. Do you feel the same way when you go on fab?

It's obvious really. In a real world people are not looking at you for sex. Lust etc but as a human being. On Fab you are a potential sex partner. Not rocket science. "

I disagree as how comes some members say they're more popular with opposite sex outside of fab?

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By *enuinecpl101Couple
over a year ago

Co armagh

Its extremely easy to hide behind a phone, alot people be more braver x

Fab and the real world certainly two different tales

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Nothing going on here OR in the ‘real’ world. I’m not particularly bothered though, I’m happy in my own company mostly.

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