FabSwingers.com forum: Time Wasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Morning everyone we are a new couple on the site and I’m sure everyone has experienced this but nothing annoys us faster than time wasters.

Was supposed to meet with someone, we left contact details and they were going to send address details but never did. Good job we never got ready as we had a gut feeling it wasn’t going to happen.

Big shout out though to all the nice, respectful people who we have spoken to on here. Thank you for making us welcome. We have been overwhelmed by the amount of views and likes we have got on our profile.

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

You cant take fab too seriously,weve been let down three times,had people chat then disappear or block us for no apparent reason.Genuine will ALWAYS see you through, good luck with your future naughtiness Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our approach is if someone lets us down/wastes our time we block them and also put on our status they are timewasters. Might be harsh but has to be done

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I find chatting on the phone before a meet reduces the chance of meeting time wasters dramatically. I ask for a phone chat just before the agreed meet. Often it is nerves that causes a no show. So if you have chatted to the person it breaks down the nerves a little before meeting x

Mrs N

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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Sorry OP but it's just something we have to put up with on here.. don't let it put you off you can meet some really nice people on here you just have to wait for the good guys to come along

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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago

wirral

We chatted to a guy and agreed to meet him last week. He never got in touch to arrange a definite time and has just sent us a message using a different name, location and different phone number! Have messaged him back to point this out and politely decline

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Our approach is if someone lets us down/wastes our time we block them and also put on our status they are timewasters. Might be harsh but has to be done"

We get your point. I suppose it warns others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens a lot unfortunately, the best thing to do is try to reduce the chance of that happening. Chat for a while before even considering meeting, check the veris see if they are reliable and if they show red flags early on don't waste your time. There are plenty of good people on here just takes a little finding

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I think you instinctively know when you are going to be let down when arranging meets . You can sense it from the way responsiveness changes.That's the time to turn down your own expectations and prepare yourself for potentially being let down and disappointed. Sometimes it is genuine as other life matters impact and new arrangements can be made. Sincere people give you the earliest indications of potential changes and all is well.

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By *eparrain1Man
over a year ago

Stone

"I find chatting on the phone before a meet reduces the chance of meeting time wasters dramatically. I ask for a phone chat just before the agreed meet. Often it is nerves that causes a no show. So if you have chatted to the person it breaks down the nerves a little before meeting x

Mrs N"

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By *irthy RobMan
over a year ago

Mobile

If every let down had been a meet, I'd actually enjoy using the site. As it is though Ive met no-one, that means no verification, and that means no meets. Talk about catch22

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Our current ratio is 10 let downs to 3 actual meets.

We also feel your frustrations, just move on, plenty of fish in the sea and all that!

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"I think you instinctively know when you are going to be let down when arranging meets . You can sense it from the way responsiveness changes.That's the time to turn down your own expectations and prepare yourself for potentially being let down and disappointed. Sometimes it is genuine as other life matters impact and new arrangements can be made. Sincere people give you the earliest indications of potential changes and all is well. "

Also this is remarkably sound advise and we second it completely, we're definitely noticing everything brought up here ourselves and consciously look for it.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

"Our approach is if someone lets us down/wastes our time we block them and also put on our status they are timewasters. Might be harsh but has to be done"
it’s against the rules to publicly name another profile in a status update you may get a ban from admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get them I'm afraid but just move on to the next people, there is some gems on here

Miss S x

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

"If every let down had been a meet, I'd actually enjoy using the site. As it is though Ive met no-one, that means no verification, and that means no meets. Talk about catch22"

I get the feeling.. No veri's, and a lot of people won't even take a 2nd look.. On the other hand I have managed to meet (all socials) at clubs (well only one) and am still waiting for a social veri.

For veri's even though I'm not having much luck, give clubs a go. I'm a member at xtasia and have met a few people. If your lucky some might give you a veri, or just as good a bit of fun.

OP, this could benefit yourself as well. Arrange meets to start at clubs to begin with. This may help calm nerves as its a public within a like minded community.

Good luck

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Sadly that is why some of us resort to putting in place a few hurdles to help out fakes and timewasters/dreamers.

No face pics = no further discussion

No mobile phone number = no further discussion

Unable to commit to a future date = no etc

Go quiet in the lead up = no etc

There are some great, genuine people on here but sadly there are also a lot of wankers (literally) spoiling it for the rest.

When in doubt, only go for those already verified (where you can read what people have said).

Good luck!

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

It is hugely annoying. I message the night before to ask for confirmation and if they don't reply I let them know that I am making other plans. I've been very lucky and most of my meets have been reliable. Some people here have been lead on badly and it's really upsetting.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

"Morning everyone we are a new couple on the site and I’m sure everyone has experienced this but nothing annoys us faster than time wasters.

Was supposed to meet with someone, we left contact details and they were going to send address details but never did. Good job we never got ready as we had a gut feeling it wasn’t going to happen.

It happens quite a lot but there are plenty ofgenuine people around too. Often the fakes are either males posing as couples or guys who simply get off on dirty talk/camming and have no intention of ever meeting for whatever reason. Once they've had a wank, they disappear.

We've found it best not to engage in dirty talk/camming and that seems to quite quickly drive the time wasters and fakes away. We're not looking for couples but, if we were, we'd want to see them both on cam briefly (or at least chat by phone) first to make sure they are a real couple. We'd expect any guy we arranged to meet to want us to do that too. For those worried about privacy, there's no need to show faces, just appear on camera as what you're claiming to be.

Having said all that, we always approach any first meetings as social only and stick to pubs quite local to us so in the event of a no-show, even that doesn't spoil our evening. It's also not a bad idea to send a message and expect a reply before setting off.

The biggest problem here is unrealistic expectations of how long it takes to find a genuine, good match. We've found it best to take time to assess those we're chatting to and not act hastily or raise our hopes too soon before any meeting has taken place.

Good luck with your search.

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By *ave1963MexboroughMan
over a year ago

Mexborough

It goes with the territory I'm afraid. I think some people love the fantasy of swinging but as the time of the meet gets closer reality kicks in and they lose their courage.

For the record, I've never failed to turn up for a meeting.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Timewasters abound on most sites. Verifications unfortunately don't guarantee that the person isn't a timewasters. Some without a verification turn out to be genuine

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By *oung GunnerMan
over a year ago

Cleckheaton

Welcome to Fab .

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

So if they had sent their contact details, you guys wouldn’t have been ready

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I’d block anyone slating others on their status cos it’s sooo bitchy haha!

There’s always sooo many time wasters on here, but if they hadn’t given address and stuff I’d say it wasn’t actually arranged just talked about maybe?

Don’t worry yourself and move onto the next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think this could have something to do with post nut clarity .

Not speaking for myself, as if I say I am going to do something I commit.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"Morning everyone we are a new couple on the site and I’m sure everyone has experienced this but nothing annoys us faster than time wasters.

Was supposed to meet with someone, we left contact details and they were going to send address details but never did. Good job we never got ready as we had a gut feeling it wasn’t going to happen.

I remember the days when I spent ages getting dressed up to spend the evening alone, so frustrating!

I always insist on a social first. I don’t mind drinking coffee alone and I can browse a few shops.

If you want the more guaranteed play option I suggest that a club is your best bet.

The longer that you are on here the easier it gets to work out the more genuine people.

Try to avoid sex chat because that’s just feeding the fantasists.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So if they had sent their contact details, you guys wouldn’t have been ready

We were ready but didn’t want to get dressed until confirmation. We asked for details 24 hours previously and offered a mobile number to text details in case they didn’t want to put them in the message.

I think we were being very considerate and fair.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Oh I thought this was about Italian footballers...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our current ratio is 10 let downs to 3 actual meets.

We also feel your frustrations, just move on, plenty of fish in the sea and all that! "

That’s pretty much the same ratio as us , no matter what you always get caught out by time wasters at some point , such as Fab

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By *oung GunnerMan
over a year ago

Cleckheaton

I get the same thing in general , they always say oh I’ll meet up with you , but you know they won’t and they think you must be thick, so the moral of the story is if you aren’t going to meet dont bull shit and be honest from the start, this isn’t aimed at anyone from Fab I promise , I’ve learnt from past experience . I truly love to meet new people from Fab and socialise together .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly it is only to common to be let down or have a no show, it's so frustrating when you spend time getting ready etc

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By *oung GunnerMan
over a year ago

Cleckheaton

It’s not nice thou

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock

I think you have to remember the pandemic has put people on the back foot, at the moment we are waiting until we feel safe and comfortable to meet irregardless of restrictions being lifted, we have a friend that was double-jabbed but now in hospital with Covid19. But it’s nice to chat on here and build a rapport as well, you soon find out who the time wasters are !

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By *lexMegasMan
over a year ago

WREXHAM

Been let down a few times on here but still firmly believe there are enough of us genuine times! Just a shame we have to the waster out!

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Me? I always turn up, right on time, punctual, fresh smart and crisp, with a great big smile and ready for a lovely time!

Polite, respectful, friendly, and fun..... a nice guy who is naughty and sexy!

So genuine, reliable, dependable, and very real!!

Gentleman Jack xxx

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By *oliday slutCouple
over a year ago

tenerife

They are so easy to spot. If they keep asking for photos..or ask to friend you before you have met they are usually timewasters and the main ones are if they keep telling you what they are going to do to you is a guaranteed timewaster .but the most crucial bit of advice is as soon as a guy says YEAH . not yes just save time and hassle and block him

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By *oliday slutCouple
over a year ago

tenerife

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