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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi just wondering what people want hear or write in a message when first contacting someone I can imagine theres alot of the same stuff being writing eg long message short message I dont know whats best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I write something about myself and then comment on the profile (what I liked or a joke or commet on the targets status) to prove I have read it.

However I get very few replies so dont take my word as a good path to take.....

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

There is no "one size fits all" formula you can apply to sending a message. Otherwise we'd all be using it already

Just be yourself and do what seems right to you.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"

Just be yourself and do what seems right to you. "
Best advice I have heard on the matter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get replies to all of mine more often than not. Just introdue yourself, mention their profile, make sure yours is up to date and be chilled not full on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks think on here it's just send as many as you can and writing as u say and hope for the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think its best to comment on something in the pr0file as it shows you read it.

one of my reg playmates said "anyone who can put the word shite in her profile gets my vote" and it worked. made me laugh like hell and i love him to bits now.....pooor deranged fella xx

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Thanks think on here it's just send as many as you can and writing as u say and hope for the best"

Dunno if I'd put it quite like that... try not to spam the entire userbase in one weekend

You're not gonna be everyone's cup of tea - nothing personal, nobody on here is - so expect plenty of mails to be left unanswered.

All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just ask them if they`d shag you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im going to be totally honest with you whats written in the message matters not its the pic you send that will get a reply, if i open a message i will look at the pic and if i dont fancy them i dont even read what they have written as im not going to meet them so what does it matter what they say?

If i do like their pics they could simply write 'hi' and i will reply

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Just steer clear of the one liners "wot u lukin 4" type of message with text speak - huge turn off!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Im going to be totally honest with you whats written in the message matters not its the pic you send that will get a reply, if i open a message i will look at the pic and if i dont fancy them i dont even read what they have written as im not going to meet them so what does it matter what they say?

If i do like their pics they could simply write 'hi' and i will reply"

Ditto this, but make sure its a face pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They indicate they have read my profile, perhaps a bit of humour, no filthy chat and definitely no cock pic attached

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im going to be totally honest with you whats written in the message matters not its the pic you send that will get a reply, if i open a message i will look at the pic and if i dont fancy them i dont even read what they have written as im not going to meet them so what does it matter what they say?

If i do like their pics they could simply write 'hi' and i will reply

Ditto this, but make sure its a face pic. "

if they only haved body pics but they are very nice body pics i will message back asking fro a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you women have got it so bloody easy onhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think to be honest

be yourself and read a profile make sure you meet criterias and you will be fine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use my name?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely no one liners as said, or text talk, or "u ok babes, can I fuck u"

I would read a profile through, and again as has been mentioned refer to that, to show that you have read it.

And try to make sure you put the subject if requested as per the profile.

A nice polite, hello, how are you? Saw your profile and liked it, see you are interested in "x" or I like your pics...

Would be interested in chatting further and hope to hear from you soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you women have got it so bloody easy onhere "

about time we had it easy somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate messages consisting of...

hi can i wank over your pics?

hi wanna hear me wank on the phone?

hi dya wanna fuck?

hi you must me desperate so can i fuck you?

hi can i cum over your face?

hi do you take it up the ass?

the list goes on!!

Think single girls get the most shit messages possible!

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By *ont Ask Dont GetWoman
over a year ago

amersham

I know chaps have to send out tons of messages to get a reply so I tend not to get too hung up on it and take more notice of their profile and pics.

I do take more notice of messages that make me chuckle or the odd one that is so erotic as to send my pulse rate up! ... and I don't mean 'Wanna fuck?'...that's not a bit erotic... It's a risky strategy tho coz, if I dont fancy you, the erotic story will fall on deaf ears...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it simple and to the point. View the person's profile and fit yourself into it and tell them what you will bring to them and take from the experience. Give dates in the near future when you might be able to meet.

Make sure you keep it true to yourself, as if you distill everyone elses pointers down and make a maid of all work message you just rubberstamp out to everyone, you'll find people will pick one side of the multiple personalities they find embedded in such a thing, and not be able to match it up to the person they see in the flesh - that's definitely the wrong way to do it.

Good luck

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks think on here it's just send as many as you can and writing as u say and hope for the best"

Actually no l wouldn't. Writing as many as you can infers you are not too fussy who you meet and just want any old shag going. If that is true get scribbling!

However l would suggest you take your time, do local searches and see who really interests you (it helps to know what you actually do want!) and write a nicely worded message relating yourself to them with a bit of humour thrown in.

And NEVER ask why they said no thanks or didn't reply. It's a waste of time.

Oh and remember you are one small fish in a very big pond but there are people who will like you and want to meet. But never expect or assume anything will happen.

Good luck and enjoy Fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is gonna be of no help at all but what works for one lady will ensure a block from another. Some like direct some like men to show their sensitive side. I not saying what I look for as that defects the object entirely messages show me a window into how the sender thinks and telling people what I want in a message masks this.

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By *helmercpleCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Try to use good grammar not text speak.

Try not to masturbate whist typing it causes disjointed sentences.

Read the profile and if you fit what the couple/fem/guy are looking for then contact them.

Don't spam.

Don't come across as desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i cant really understand the question tbh

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By *helmercpleCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"i cant really understand the question tbh "

My point about good grammar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had one single guy message us and his first words were Can i cum all over your tits please lol single guys what you all about

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"Im going to be totally honest with you whats written in the message matters not its the pic you send that will get a reply, if i open a message i will look at the pic and if i dont fancy them i dont even read what they have written as im not going to meet them so what does it matter what they say?

If i do like their pics they could simply write 'hi' and i will reply

Ditto this, but make sure its a face pic. "

Hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had one single guy message us and his first words were Can i cum all over your tits please lol single guys what you all about "

...and there lies the real problem IMHO.

ONE guy writes like a f**kwit and so ALL single guys are tarred, feathered and treated like we all come out of the same mould.

Its just as wrong to say ALL single guys are .... as it is to say ALL couples are .... or ALL single fems are....

We really need to move on.

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"We had one single guy message us and his first words were Can i cum all over your tits please lol single guys what you all about

...and there lies the real problem IMHO.

ONE guy writes like a f**kwit and so ALL single guys are tarred, feathered and treated like we all come out of the same mould.

Its just as wrong to say ALL single guys are .... as it is to say ALL couples are .... or ALL single fems are....

We really need to move on. "

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"I hate messages consisting of...

hi can i wank over your pics?

hi wanna hear me wank on the phone?

hi dya wanna fuck?

hi you must me desperate so can i fuck you?

hi can i cum over your face?

hi do you take it up the ass?

the list goes on!!

Think single girls get the most shit messages possible!"

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"We had one single guy message us and his first words were Can i cum all over your tits please lol single guys what you all about

...and there lies the real problem IMHO.

ONE guy writes like a f**kwit and so ALL single guys are tarred, feathered and treated like we all come out of the same mould.

Its just as wrong to say ALL single guys are .... as it is to say ALL couples are .... or ALL single fems are....

We really need to move on. "

Well said, fella.

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